Anyone got pregnant with no.1 very quickly bit struggling with no.2?

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Hello,

Was just wondering whether anybody has had a similar experience?

When trying for first child got pregnant the first month, however that ended in MC. Luckily I got pregnant again with DD after first month of trying again.

DD is now three, we would have started TTC sooner but I went back I Uni and I'm due to finish in November.

We have been trying for 5 months and no luck, worried that I've left it too late as I'm now 37.

Hope your appointment was okay Metal

Hopefully you will get sorted quickly so you can soon be TTC again.

Hope it went well Metal

for everyone today who's feeling down

Morning ladies, so the appointment went as expected really, it looks like I could get the adhesions removed on the NHS but it would entail a very long wait. I told the doctor about the diagnosis from the private consultant and that he wants to do a hysteroscopy, but she said they need to do a Hycosy first, then if they find anything on there they'll do a hysteroscopy. The Hycosy has to be booked on a certain cycle day, and they only do them one day a week! So realistically, I probably won't get an appointment for that for a couple of months or more. Then I'd have to be referred to another consultant who would do the op, which would be at least another 6 week wait...

Also she basically admitted that whoever booked me in for the erpc in February should have warned me about the risk of Asherman's, which they didn't, so my confidence in the doctors at this hospital is somewhat limited. I've discussed it with DH, and we've agreed that we will go with the private consultant, even if it means paying ourselves. I just want to be sure that I'm seeing someone who knows what they're doing this time! I'm hoping to back from Bupa today, if not I will chase them up.

Just had a call from the hospital and the earliest they could do the Hycosy is 5 February!

Yay for your DH metal how lovely that he is supporting you and that you know this will be fixed for you one way or another. I will keep my fx that Bupa have good news for you.

How are you feeling about it all? This seems to me like such a big step towards you getting that BFP :)

Metal- I agree with loves sounds like you have a good man there and I really hope things move along quickly for you and you get an amazing bfp. Lets hope 2015 is a good year. Xx

Metal - that's pretty bad. I know I did get warned about the risk of adhesions when I had my ERPC before ds, although was told it wasn't common. And I can't believe you'd have to wait so long for your hycosy. The HSG I had also had to be done on a certain cycle day, but they basically just asked me to call back on my next cd1 and booked me in for the next week. Grrrrrr for you. but great that you've at least got dh support to get the hell on with it, even if bupa won't pay. It's all progress sweetie - even if it must feel horrible at the moment. You're closer to getting 'fixed' and hopefully closer to that precious bfp.

As for me, I'm about 8dpo and totally obsessing over symptoms. Another disappointing weekend to come I'm sure when I test and realise it's all bollocks yet again..... Bah!

Lovemyboy - any news? Have you tested again or are you just waiting?

Little- Im just waiting. Shoukd been on today but no sign yet. I feel nuasious tonihht yjouhh. Prob bringing it on myself. Cyvle day 35 today. May get a test yomorrow.

Can you tell I was writing that really quickly....

Thanks ladies, I should probably be more positive but at the moment I'm just so stressed out about everything I had a bit of a meltdown last night! Bupa have said they need more info from the consultant so I had to chase them up again, still waiting for them to send me some cost codes, and then I might have to wait another two days for Bupa's decision. By then it'll be Friday, and I'm supposed to have the op next Tuesday! Though it might not go ahead anyway, and I won't know that either until Friday.... Raaah!

I really hope 2015 is a better year than 2014, which frankly can just fuck right off!

Good luck if you're poas today love and for the weekend for you little. The only good thing for me at the moment is that I don't have to torture myself during the 2ww as we're not trying until I've had the op.

Hope everyone else is ok.

So ladies I poas today and was bfn. Used first response and af was due yesterday as my opk digi test said I ov,d then I can only expect af is just late and thats why been having cramps. If still no af ill test again at 1 week late.
Little- hope you get a better result than me. Fingers crossed. Xxx

Metal It's no wonder you've had a meltdown you are going through so much at the moment I suppose at least things are moving forward now so you're that bit closer to your BFP. I hope things move quickly for you now and you have a very positive start to 2015 you certainly deserve it.

For me 2013 and 2014 have been completely shite spending month after month of TTC and getting nowhere!

Sorry about BFN lovemyboy but you never know it is early for testing.

Good luck LittlePoot

We must be due some more BFP's on here now.

As for me I think I've gone beyond 'struggling with number 2' more like time to accept that after 22 months of trying including 2 cycles with Soy it just isn't going to happen is it! I've told OH I want to give up but he just won't accept it and I can't quite bring myself to do it (I know I've been here before). If I do try again this month I'm going to change the Soy days so I've got until Saturday to decide what I'm doing because that's the day I will start taking them.

Metal Good luck with Bupa too.

Thanks Bobsy. I hope bupa come through for you metal. . X

metal it's easy enough for us to say it's positive news but we are not having to deal with the thought of more procedures or filling in bupa paperwork or handing over large amounts of money. I'm not surprised your finding it stressful. I really hope BUPA come through for you.

It's still early for testing lovemy

I had a major wibble this week I just felt so incredibly low on tuesday, overwhelming sadness - closest I can describe it was like grief, I haven't felt that way since my mum died many many years ago. It has passed and I'm feeling more upbeat now but shit this is hard isn't it. I have this horrible feeling like I was too happy before, something had to go wrong for me and this is it I won't get to have the children I wanted. Sorry to be so woe is me :(

Well day 2 of soy for me and IF I was to get pregnant this month it would be the same month I got pregnant with DS and that seems to be a bit of a theme on this thread too doesn't it? So maybe this is my month, a nice big christmas BFP that really would be lovely.

Loves- if no af I will test again in few days.I also concieved ds I december slthough didnt gind out till Jan. Xx

Hi everyone. Oh Metal it sounds like an emotional roller coaster. I really hope BUPA come up trumps!

Love - fx for you next poas! We definitely are due some more BFPs!

Loves - sorry to hear you've been so down. I think grief is a good way to describe the emotion of it sometimes. It's like mourning what might not be but in a way it's good to go through that stage to refocus our efforts and move on.

Well my body is playing up again. Cd 21 here. Got peak on the monitor on cd18 but no positive OPK on other sticks (first month of trying both together) but this morning they are looking a lot darker like I would expect a day or 2 before ovulation and had a lot of ewcm!? We're trying to smep but we're knackered as started on cd11!!

My scan date has come through so got that next Tues. It would be good to get a definitive answer on the whole ovulation issue as I now suspect I'm ovulating much later than the blooming CBFM says?!

Did anyone else get onto The Stork trial? I did so that will be new thing to try next cycle as clearly soy, preseed and acupuncture haven't done much good!!

Hi to everyone else .

Oh loves, please don't be sad! Although I'm sure I'll be with you by next week when this cycle ends in typically disappointing fashion. This month's symptoms are a bit interesting, but I have heard hsg can cause a rather spectacular af, so I'm sure it's that. But for the past couple of days I have been starving hungry and pretty crampy (af not due until about Monday). Normality, I'd test tomorrow, just to put myself out of my misery but we're off for a spa day and hotel night without ds for dh's birthday and I don't want to ruin my mood! But then I don't really want to spend the whole weekend psyching myself up with imaginary symptoms either so I'm not sure what would be better. Or rather worse. You'd think after this long, the excitement of symptom spotting would have died off. Ah well.

Wow trees-great news for you about the stork trial. it sounds like a major faff, but could be just the ticket. Let us know how you get on. Which scan is this? Normal ultrasound or something more complicated?

Sorry for your BFN lovemy, but if AF is still a no show you're not out yet.

That sounds quite promising little, though I have had similar symptoms before and not been pregnant. I would probably poas before going away just so I could enjoy the hot tub and some drinks without worrying, but can understand why you don't want to.

trees I read about that stork thing but didn't really fancy it as it seemed quite a faff. Will be interested to see how you get on!

bobsy I'm sorry you feel like giving up again, though totally understandable. I really think you need a break from it all, even if it's just for one month. One month isn't going to change anything in terms of your fertility, but it might just give you a bit of breathing space and a chance to reevaluate the whole thing without stressing about ov, 2ww etc.

loves fx the soy will bring you a Xmas BFP!

Well I've had some good news today, my hysteroscopy is going ahead on Tuesday and Bupa have agreed to pay most of it, I will just have to make up the shortfall between their fees and the consultants' fees, which will be between £750-1000. Still a lot of money, but obviously much better than £5k! I'm so relieved that it's all arranged now and that everything should be sorted before the end of the year.

Metal thats great news I hope this is the stary of domethong good for you.
Little- fx for you too, I felt nausea again this morn about 10 ish and mu gums keep bleeding, I had really bad gums during first pregnancy but im gonna wait still as I havespent a fortune on pg tests although I have some upstairs. Frer tests are in boots are buy 1 pack of 2 get 1 pack free at mo.. Im cd 37 today, 19dpo I think, no af. by the way frer tests I
Trees- hope uou get the answers you want on tues. Good luck.

Lovemyboy - are you seriously telling me you have pregnancy tests in the house and are late for af and yet you're not peeing on every stick you can find?! You're a stronger woman than me....

Metal - great news about the fees! I'm not sure Tuesday will be a whole lot of fun, but it should be a major step on your way. Really pleased for you. And yes, part of me is thinking these symptoms seem hopeful, but then I've had them all before, and every other variant, and not a sniff of a new baby yet. If I had any pregnancy tests I'd definitely do one but we're staying at my mum's and I haven't got any (and she lives in the middle of nowhere so can't easily get any). Think I might try and leave it, and then just see if I can curb the obsessive symptom spotting until we get home next Monday! Let's see how I get on....

Love - please go and pee on another stick. Blame me for this one. I need to know even if you don't! xxx

Woohoo metal so pleased things are working out for you well done BUPA!

lovemy POAS, POAS, POAS, POAS :)

bobsy I'm sorry you are back to feeling like giving up it's awful when the sadness comes round again. I really think you should go see a dr, if the previous one you saw made you feel old and silly then that is her problem. As a dr she is supposed to make her patients feel validated and put them at ease so she was not doing her job properly because YOU have every right to be there to voice your concerns and to get some constructive advice about the next step. I really feel like you have more options then you currently feel like you have. Ok that's the end of my tough love rant I hope you know it's coming from a place of concern about you and how your coping.

Hello everyone, sorry to hear that you feel like giving up Bobsy, I kinda feel like that to at the moment.

Metal glad you can start the process of hysteroscopy x

HI ALL- Went to doc this morning telling him i had stomach cramping and been feeling sick for couple of days, told him first pregnancy history. Felt my tummy said def cramping whether its af or pregnancy could be either. Sent me on my way saying itx still poss im pregnant so test again next week and if still neg go back. Fat lot of good thatwas thought ge might at leadt offer a urine or blood test there.
I have been feeling sick on off all day and only way it dissapears is if I eat something. Gonba get s digital one and test st weekend. Im annoyed at spending all this money on bloody tests. Veryvtempted to test again tom morn.