TTC after MC; hand holding, hugs and lots of things that can JTFO!

[Treaclepie19]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

lauren it definitely sounds like hormonal changes and I'm sure I've read that somewhere too. Probably best to get your mind put at rest from a GP so you can relax. We're really fortunate here that GP appointments are always the same day/within the next few days. I think it helps living in a village = much fewer people?

Woohoo! Fantastic, fantastic news Oneday may you have an extremely boring and mundane 8 months ahead of you! Keep me posted as to how you get on xx

Hi all,

Also jumping back on this thread after a while.

Congratulations OneDay!! I totally understand how you must feel, hope that the shadow hanging over you disperses soon and you and your DH can start to feel happy about your BFP

SunbathingCat I feel the same and wanted to get my BFP before my due date in Nov and feel like it's inching ever closer. Only 2 cycles to go until then, makes me feel panicky thinking about both outcomes, as in what if I don't get pregnant and also, what if I do?

I suppose all we can do is just keep trying. I am on CD5 at the moment so impatient for this period to be over.

Hugs to you Treaclepie

Hi ladies,

Sorry so many of you are feeling down.
Sebs - I completely get you and understand. I myself have been thinking it's time i deactivated myself and took a step back. It's shit! I hope you get some luck and get your happy ending my lovely. Wishing you all the best.

I'm on day 8 of flashing smilies and have pretty much given up on ovulating this cycle. Thoroughly pissed off. This year has been a complete fucking shitter! Feel like I've had next to no chance of conceiving again as I don't seem to ovulate regularly. Think I'll give myself til October and then wail and scream at the dr for help.
Sending those who need it a big squashy hug.

Hi all, I have recently namechanged and then went quiet for a while, now jumping back on the thread (used to be JBrd).

Hi tranquility I remember you from another thread, was it the Harmony test one?! Are you going to test soon? At CD28, nothing could stop me

sebs Take all the time that you need and try to have a well-deserved break from ttc. I had 3 months off last year, and it did a world of good. Hope you can find some peace and enjoy life.

ember I'm also really early in my cycle, CD4, trying to muster the courage and motivation for this cycle's ttc efforts - CBFM has been reset, new test sticks arrived on Saturday and OPKs are ready and waiting... Bleurgh

Don't give up English! Just remember my 8 flashing smileys followed by a bfp!

Been to meet the baby, he is gorgeous.

Just makes me wish we were trying this month :(
I have my swab tomorrow with the nurse. Don't really know what to expect.

Treacle, sorry you're upset. It never really goes away, does it? You too will have your baby soon enough, I am sure. Right now for all of us, it seems like the whole world and its sister is pregnant or having babies but I'm sure soon enough, it'll be us.
I know what you mean about begrudging the birth date being on your anniversary though. Two of my friends (very close, one of them has a child same age as us and they are looked after together) gave birth a day before and one a day after our baby G was born. July will forever be a glorious month for them whereas the sunshine reminds me of waft a beautiful day it was when I came out of hospital, of when G was cremated on the following Friday. So I understand, as I'm sure many do. And I'm sending hugs xx

Love to everyone else who is having a tough time x

Mademoiselle, you have had such a hard time I have no idea how you're being so kind to my pathetic moan.
Sending big hugs your way.
I think it's hitting me at the moment because we aren't trying this month, if I was waiting for bfp I could enjoy meeting my friends baby and feel like i was doing something. Instead I'm just watching her live her perfect moment and wishing it was me.

Sorry if I've missed it but why aren't you ttc this month?

Don't worry, your perfect moment is just around the corner

Hi ladies, congrats to oneday and Lauren! Hope you both have sticky beans.

I've missed quite a bit. Trea do you think you will be ready to try next month? It must be so hard but you're brave for visiting immediately and seeing the newborn. You are a good friend.

Good luck to all those who are waiting for BFP's.

I'm not sure who mentioned they are on 8 days of flashing smileys.. Don't stress because when I first conceived I had 9 flashing smileys and no solids and I dtd every day during that window and stopped testing after 9 flashing smileys but still got a BFP. I dunno what happened but if you dtd you can have more of a chance. Hope it works for you

Hi ladies, I see a few friendly faces still are on here. I'll be back to join you. I've lost my little bean. Had severe pain and terrible bleeding, and got admitted to Birmingham Women's. scan showed I'd lost baby. I was 8+5 So I've had a surgical management this after under General Anaesthetic. Am home, feeling groggy, sore, devastated.

We will try again but I need to psych myself up. After 2 miscarriages in 3 months I can't bring myself to put myself through this again for the moment.

Feel so sad and empty.

Hope you are all doing ok xx

Hope I'm definitely ready to try, just need to sort out this thrush.
Thanks mademoiselle, we're not trying because I've had thrush for like, the past 4 weeks.
I have just had a big rant at DH though and we had a bit of a miscommunication. He's said we can try if I want to as he just didn't want to make me more ill. The only issue with trying this month is that if we're trying I'm not meant to have the tablet thrush treatment. I'm not good with using the pessary as I have vaginismus.

Now I'm even more confused, any words of wisdom anyone?

Brummie, I am so, so sorry to hear that. Sending you massive hugs. Look after yourself xxx

Brummie I'm so sorry for your loss. It's absolutely devastating.. I am seriously saddened by this news. We are here if you want to talk, look after your self and rest loads. I can't imagine how you must be feeling but you know there is light at the end of the tunnel. Lots of love xxxx

Trea I hope your thrush goes away quickly, then you can dtd !!! Keep us updated

Brummie I am so, so sorry to hear your news and can so empathise with your feelings. Loss, emptiness, sadness. We have all experienced it here and know what you mean.
Take time to heal. Sleep. Eat good food. Surround yourself with kind and gentle people. Rant here if you need it. Look after yourself. Big big hugs

Oh Brummie I am so so sorry :(

Thank you ladies. I admit to feeling so comforted when I saw all your familiar names which is bad of me, as if you are still here and not got your BFP's

I'm glad I had surgical under GA. I wasnt allowed to do natural at home due to bleeding. Was offered the medical management but refused as so terrified of the pain. When I got to A&E I was sobbing with the pain and needed morphine. There was no way I was doing it naturally and passing anything.

It's done, it's gone. I can try and heal now xx

This sounds like one hell of a journey Brummie. I remember feeling completely spaced out yet acutely aware of the emptiness as soon as I woke up. I had horrendous bruises everywhere on my arms where they tried (and mostly failed) to put the drips in. One of them failed spectacularly and leaked into my arm which was really badly swollen for days afterwards, but I kept thinking how quickly those physical wounds would heal in comparison to the psychological ones. I strangely got some comfort from having physical pain; it was a tribute to our baby, a proof s/he had existed.

I hope you have support and kind people around you in RL. Take it easy. Don't put pressure on yourself to do anything you don't want to do. Everything can wait a little longer. You matter right now. Look after yourself and let others do too x

Just take care of yourself Brummie, thinking of you xxx

Oh brummie I am so so sorry to hear that. My heart goes out to you. You poor thing. As madame said, rest, be quiet, be kind to yourself and surround yourself with people who love you. This is a terrible thing but you will get through it and there are better times ahead.

Oh my god you should see my arms!!!! Bruises everywhere from we're they couldn't get the blood from the veins. They had to take blood from my foot in the end. I was in floods of tears because fuck me that hurt!!!

Nurses, incredible - the consultant surgeon who performed, she was wonderful. The registrars I saw, hardly a single one could barely speak English and that made understanding what was going quite difficult.

Morphine is incredible stuff, I learnt that today

Sounds terrible brummie, i also had bruises everywhere. They do make a bad situation worse don't they.

Lots of hugs xxx

Seems like a not so good weekend for lots of us. Here's to a much better week.

Brummie, so sorry for your loss. Big hugs, and easy to say but try to stay positive.

I'm now day 46 of WTF cycle, I have PCOS so have long cycles of 40+ days. Been monitoring my body this month, but not using any OPK at all and kind of thought that I ovulated around 1st August. I POAS on Friday, BFN, cue being really upset, huge row with DH who couldn't understand my tears and said we could keep trying. He always looks for the positives. Anyway, had a horrid weekend, so disappointed that despite best efforts the test was -ve. Been feeling crappy all weekend, and I'm a bit obsessed with POAS so did the other test in the pack this morning with FMU ( cheaply test from boots). There was a line, a very faint line, and lots of squinting and holding up to the light, but a line is a line right? I've purchased a FRER which I will do in the morning, but there is a possibility that this is a BFP. Considering it took 18 months for the last BFP, I'm a little in shock it's happened so quickly.

So, I shall POAS tomorrow, the downside is that I'm staying with a friend 200 miles from home this week. DH is at home as he is back at work today. So what happens next? I told DH about this mornings test, but he had gone to work but won't see him until Friday. I'm scared but excited, nervous, anxious and paranoid. What if.....is all that is going through my mind. I'm Not convinced I can cope with the heartache again.

Oh brummie I'm so sorry for you darling, how heartbreaking. Hope you're not in too much pain, make sure rest and I hope you have good support when the emotions come out over the coming weeks.

cloudjumper - yes I did post on there a bit, pre planning a bit as I have health anxiety. Wasn't to be in April though sadly. Ectopic pregnancy :0(

Well I poas this morning with an eBay cheapy as no sign of AF - BFN. Then as I couldn't resust, stupidly tried with a CB digital - BFN on that too. What a waste. No sign of AF yet my last three cycles since my EP have been around 26-26 days so who knows what's going on. Can't be pregnant if A clearblue says no on CD28 can I, so that's that, guess AF must just be late.

sebs really don't want you to go, it's been a great comfort chatting with you over the past 5 months. Huge hugs to you xx