TTC after MC. The ups, the downs, the never ending Toad in the Hole and the relentless onslaught from the Facebook faceslaps!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Lou I really do hope it turns up for you soon. If we are supposed to be more fertile after mc- we should all get bfp's soon!

Usually I'm never this hesitant to test after 1 day of a missed period but I'm actually scared to see a bfn. Makes me realise how much of a traumatic experience a mc is and how it affects you both physically and mentally. I will seriously be so disheartened if I have not got a bfp this month. As soon as my sticks arrive I will test and pray AF doesn't come before that. Amazon are pretty good with delivery so shouldn't take long at all.

BFN for me this morning AF due Sunday so still a chance I guess but was hoping to have a BFP as an extra birthday present for DH. Ah well, see what this weekend brings.....

Bythesea I had many bfn's and I'm still hoping for a bfp so don't stress. Xxx

Definitely having anti-social shagging this evening, my ov is high! Think I may actually have to take a bowl to pee in for tomorrow morning - I was going to wee behind a bush but need to ov test! Might be awkward in the wind! This is a WHOLE new level for me! Definitely worth seeing DP's face as he wakes up and sees me doing that! Although may not be that conducive with dtd...

Thanks everyone. As requested Hope some details. My first AF after mmc was just over 4 weeks which was longer then my normal 26 dat cycle. During my most fertile time in May we were staying with friends so didn't get much opportunity to Dtd. Although I got a smiley face my 21 day test showed if I did ovulate it was earlier then the cb result. That AF arrived 2 days earlier which made sure AF was gone for our holiday. I should note prior to holiday I felt on the edge of a nervous breakdown as I wasn't coping well. I am 41 ttc baby #1. My holiday totally chilled me out and I came home after 7 days in the sun a new me, relaxed and not stressing about getting bfp!! We Dtd day 9, 11,14,15,17. We used preseed every time as it worked first cycle last time. Regarding symptom spotting during tww I'm not sure except maybe cramps around day 21 but I think I can imagine symptoms. What I did have in that tww was more sightings of pregnant ladies then normal, two characters in my book finding out they were pregnant and also it seemed every tv show I watched. I am so happy about my bfp but I don't feel I can relax and enjoy until i get to 12 weeks x

I am seriously nuts. Just ordered ANOTHER 2 x early preg tests. Clearly I am going to be POAS everyday up to next Sunday when AF Is due.
Anyone remember what it felt like to be normal and unconsumed with mc/ttc/fear/desperation!!! I may sound like a spoilt child but I just want to be pregnant and have a healthy baby more than anything. It's a bloody physical pain every time I think about it. CRAAAAZZZY lady!!!!

fergie thanks for sharing!! I have everything (apart) from legs crossed for you!

Fergie thank you so much for sharing this information. I really pray your scan goes well and you have a sticky bean. I do think the more we stress, the less relaxed we are during dtd. Please keep us updated on your pregnancy And I hope you have an uneventful one. What is preseed?

Also fergie how many dpo did you get bfp?

Lou I think we all are crazy ATM... And will be until we see bfp. I'm actually getting fed up of always being on my phone researching. Honestly I'm wasting so much of my life!

Hey Hope preseed is described as a fertility friendly lubricant. Didnt use lubricant before ttc but once I read about this I thought anything to help the little swimmers!

I think I was about 10/11 dpo when I tested. As I had a big bag of internet cheapies I was testing for about a week. My line took longer then the recommended time so I went and bought a digi and it showed pregnant 1-2 weeks x

Congratulations fergie crossing everything for you.

hope I am the same. I'm so fed up of the whole thing.

I'm a grumpy cow today!

Hi all, great news Fergie. Hope - i still have hope for you as your symptoms sound very similar to mine.

I must confess, I never felt I had the rush of fertility after my mcs. To be honest, this last month was the first time my cycle seemed clear and my head could face trying again. Up to then, and certainly shortly after the mcs I had no ewcm or other signs. It just seems to take me a long time to get my body back in sync.

Today's panic is two fold - a) a complete lack of symptoms and b) lead! My job means I deal with disused industrial sites and the impact of lead, let alone the other nasties is scary

congrats fergie! I've heard about preseed, will see what happens this month and then might investigate!

I'm with you ladies on the fear of getting a BFN. I think the only thing keeping me going is the idea i might be pregnant.

I actually find the 2ww the easiest, at least there is hope. its the week post AF that I find hardest.

daisy I'm so sorry you're worried. I think we all will be, it just goes with the territory. When is your next scan? That sounds very scary re. your job. Can you be tested? I thought employers had a legal requirement to find you alternative tasks if your normal job has pregnancy related risks?

Lou and Hope totally get where you are coming from!!! I'm desperate to test but AF not due until 14/15 so going to try and hang on!!

Fergie thanks so much for sharing that with us. My story is v similar to yours.

I'm 37, TTC#1 and fell pregnant on 2nd cycle after using preseed. Had miscarriage at 4+3

Bleeding lasted a week and i got a bfn on day 7 of bleeding. It took 28 days for AF to arrive for first time and then according to my clear blue ovulation sticks I ovulated on day 10 (I have really short cycles!!) so now I am just waiting.

But I am hating the agony of waiting. I guess for me the 2ww is worse - I don't worry so much about week post AF due to having such short cycles.

I'm dying to test earlier but too scared. I want a baby so much and the fear of getting a bfn is proving very stressful

daisy I would defo chat to HR.
Ladies how fuckety fuckely up is this....... The perfect pregnant one whose bump practically touches my arm who I can't even look at. Yeah that one. Well, friend just told me she had a mc. Guess who is really happy for her now....ME!!!! I feel so confused about my newfound judging ability. I used to be a calm peaceful caring person!!!

I'm due 16/17 - how many of us is that then? Must be loads of us!

Oh lou, dont feel bad. Isnt it sad though that you didn't know that? Why don't we talk about stuff like this more?

Can I just add, she didn't mc this one. The mc was from a previous pregnancy. That would be seriously effed up if I felt happy about that!!!

I'm due 12th. POAS this morning. Idiot.

Hi there, yes my hr are great. Will be getting a blood lead test next week. Luckily calcium supplements will reduce the risks of the lead passing from me to the blob.

next scan is the 15th. Feel sick at the though and it's not morning sickness!

We've all POAS too early lou don't worry. I know I POAS far too much!

I put pre seed into amazon eep! It's expensive and this came up alongside lube
Fertiliser For Lawns 6KG Pre-Seed N-P-K 6 - 9 - 6 by GrassSeedSuperstore [[http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B00BH2BFNQ/ref=cm_sw_r_udp_awd_pERTtb03Y091H pre seed but not as we know it!]]

Fertiliser For Lawns 6KG Pre-Seed N-P-K 6 - 9 - 6 by GrassSeedSuperstore [[http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B00BH2BFNQ/ref=cm_sw_r_udp_awd_pERTtb03Y091H it's pre seed but not as we know it]]

I give up!

TA dah!

Hope it all goes ok daisy