TTC after MC. The ups, the downs, the never ending Toad in the Hole and the relentless onslaught from the Facebook faceslaps!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Haha that is cute!! Moment like these help you get through the day. Children are such blessings.

I think I will wait for my appointment in August and speak to the consultant and see if I can get referred for early scan.

This pregnancy I actually don't feel pregnant! Or maybe I don't want to get excited and then something terrible happens again. Not getting my hopes up. Even hubby is a lot more calm as when he first found out I was pg he went crazy with excitement. Does suck the fun out of pregnancy. But I hope it all goes well. Keep having thoughts of my 12 week scan, I am dreading it. If I do reach that stage - eyes closed ears closed I want to go in blindfolded and come out not seeing the scan or hearing the sonographher. Then hubby can tell me all about it when I get home? Am I being too dramatic!?

Hope you hear soon. I'm so glad it's not just me re holiday! I'm just hoping it distracts me enough to not POAS and think about it ALL the time

Thanks Boozle it's getting more frequent and heavier now so hope it's AF and doesn't continue for 2 weeks like this.

Reading some stories on here I'm glad we didn't ttc straight away as this would be torture, being late and then spotting. MC and the WTF cycle have a lot to answer for.

Hope - I really do hope everything is ok for you and you can get a scan soon xx

Thanks fox. Just have strong cramps at the moment.. I hope this is normal !

Just poas. A bffn. Going on my pre mc cycles, I'm due on today so I think I've got to just accept that I'm not pg right now and try not to dwell. The annoying thing is that I have all of these symptoms that are still lingering which just makes me think I'm pg. I need AFF to turn up now and prove it all. Feeling angry and down at the same time Wine tonight, eff it!

Fuck, just started bleeding a bit and cramping. Fuck.

Hang in in there Boozle, it's very common to breakthrough bleed around the time your period would be due.

Oh boozle hang in there. I'm crossing absolutely everything for you.

Seb is right I did with DS

If my stomach wasn't still churning, I would be joining you broody

Hold on in there boozle, as already said it could be breakthrough bleeding x

How much blood did you get with your breakthrough bleed? I've got enough to cover a tissue a bit when I wipe - more than spotting but not enough to use a pad or anything, that was about three hours ago, since then nothing on the outside so to speak. Slight cramping - it's almost like the day before your period starts with some cramps and very light blood and then nothing for a while. Sorry if tmi! I feel completely terrified, I burst into tears at the doctors when she said I've not miscarried yet! Xx

So sorry broody, I'm with you. Another bfn. Our village has had a music festival today. So DH and I have been there drinking beer and having a laugh in the sunshine. I'm expecting AF tomorrow if I'm back to normal...
In the meantime, g&t in the garden it is!

Oh boozle how frightening. You've been to the Drs? I'm afraid I can't give you any advice as I've only been pg once but hoping there's someone on here who can reassure you. Really really thinking if you and hoping all is well xx

That was what my breakthrough bleeding was like boozle.

It's Sunday again tomorrow, still such a hard time for me.
I'm poorly and teary to boot.

No better marmalade? Poor you.

Sorry for my ignorance/memory lapse but can I ask why Sundays are painful for you? Feeling so poorly on top of what you've been through is no doubt going to make you feel horrid. And you can't even eat and drink what you want to make yourself feel better.

Hope you're okay this evening boozle

Sorry so many of us are struggling :(
Hugs all round.
Hope all is ok boozle.

I think I have a uti :( why is it always a Saturday night :(

Thanks everyone. I went to the doctors who we're super lovely but basically said wait and see what happens. No more bleeding really but very light cramping still. Hoping it's my hormones having an argument but can't help but think it's something more. I've come to bed in the hope that if I lie still nothing bad will happen... Sorry for coming on and going on a me, me, me, I know how desperate everyone is to see the positive test I got so it's unfair of me to come on with post BFP issues, but this just seems like some form of punishment and you guys are my sanity keepers!

Don't feel bad boozle, we're here for you.
Rest and take it easy!
Get some sleep and hopefully all will be well tomorrow. X

boozle don't be silly, that's what this is for and we're all here to listen. I'm thinking of you and I'm sure this is a little blip in a long and healthy pregnancy for you.

Sorry you're poorly too treacle Do you have these a lot?

Thanks oneday, yeah I used to get them really often.
It's dwindled down now but still get them every now and then.
Just hoping it doesn't get worse and flushing it out with water.

My vaginismus has been really bad too so I'm in pain with that. Looking into more methods for curing it. Grr.

I've never had one so can't sympathise but know many people that have and how uncomfortable it is.

Are the two linked do you think? And are there any cures? I'm sorry, I know very little about the condition but I can only imagine how difficult it makes dtd when you're trying to do it the most!

Possibly, I'm not sure.
As far as cures go, people tell me they have had it and been cured so I hope so.
It's basically training the muscles to loosen.
I need to do something because it could make childbirth difficult. Going to go to the doctors with it again I think.

boozle how are you doing? Ive got cramps too, im telling myself its normal but its hard not to be worried at every little thing isnt it?

I popped over to the pregnancy after miscarriage thread to have a look but it just made me cry, I dont want to leave you all, youve given me strength and courage and big wet fishy slaps when ive needed them and I want to stay with you all on this journey.

I'm not sure if I count being on here. A few months ago I had bleeding (a little when I wiped) on the day af was due but pad was clean and it stopped and nothing for 2 days. Tests were negative but that's not unheard of for it to be a bfp. I was feeling lightheaded and I'd gone off my food.

An hour before I went to see the gp my period came heavily and I had cramps. Doctor said it was very early mc. Even though I know these are common it upset me and was on my mind for months. I know it's not as bad as having a bfp first and all the joy but I'm thinking of it as a positive experience now as perhaps it means that something is happening somewhere at least.

Good luck to everyone! I'm on cycle 12 now and waiting to poas on Saturday.

Thank you lovely ladies, everyone so friendly and kind in here. Xx

Hope if the one sided cramps and brown spotting continue of def get referred by your gp to your local EPU, don't leave it just in case Anything's amiss. Xx