TTC after MC. The ups, the downs, the never ending Toad in the Hole and the relentless onslaught from the Facebook faceslaps!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

boozle how are you now? Has the spotting and cramps stopped? Thinking of you xx

They don't seem anything to write home about today, I can still feel a kind of dull ache, no more bleeding. I've just done another test which is so faint though and the midwife DH spoke to said that if it didn't get darker it probably wasn't a viable pregnancy this time :(. Bollocks. Trying to stay a bit positive, DH didn't buy sensitive tests etc and maybe that's why it's faint, AF wasn't due until tomorrow and these ones say don't use them before etc, but bollocks :(

boozle :( crossing everything it's just because it wasn't a sensitive test.
Hang on in there. The bleeding has stopped, that can only be a good thing?

Had a terrible night, up since 4. I am so fed up of all if us being ill!
Had a good old cry last night, DH was really unkind, apparently I've been insufferable the last few weeks and there's comes a point when enough is enough.
I know I have been hard to live with since this happened, I put everything into faking it for everyone else.
We had it out but I'm still pretty hurt.
And then someone I know announced their pregnancy on Instagram!! No where is safe.

boozle keep calm, i bet it is just because they aren't sensitive.
I swear by frer.

marmalade, so sorry you've been arguing.
Don't feel guilty. Me and DH have had the same thing. I know I'm not a pleasure to live with and I'm trying my best, but he has to understand this has ruined me and it will take time for me to be back to anywhere near normal.

I think I'm managing to combat my uti with lots of water. Fingers crossed.

boozle im still getting a faint line on the internet cheapies but the digi ones are giving me a very strong pregnant and the lines when I take it out of the holder thing are very very dark, so dont give up hope yet, can you get a different test and see if its darker on there?

marmalade dp and I have had some horrible arguments since losing the baby, I just dont think he understands how its changed me, im certainly not the person I was before

Try not to worry Boozle, I know it's hard. But if the bleeding has stopped it probably fine and just a rubbish test. Get a Frer as Treacle said.
Sorry you're feeling rubbish Marmalade. Men can be so insensitive.

I had another dark OPK yesterday which I'm going to call my true positive. Have DTD since Thursday and will again tonight then an enforced break Monday and back to it Tuesday.

Baby boom in my world at the moment. One born Friday, one yesterday, one due today and one being delivered by cs tomorrow! Feeling rather 'Why the fuck am O the one who miscarried... Twice!!'

Treacle that must be horrid. It sounds stupid and I know nothing about the condition at all other than the articles you pointed me towards but would using one of the pelvic floor things help? Just as a kind of stretching practising devise? Bless you - it must be rubbish :( xx

Marmalade I don't think the other half can experience or understand loosing part of themselves like we do. I know the baby was part of them but to have them inside you is a whole different thing. It was a horrid thing for him to say - you will probably never be the person you were before all this happened, not because you don't want to be - we'd all love to turn the clock back - but because your baby died and how can you be the same after that?
tranquil and oneday thank you so much - your support is keeping me afloat at the mo!

Lady you have found the most supportive, kind and lovely bunch of individuals on the planet and you are welcome. We also love a good old fashioned swear and if you know any good insults give them a share!

English I would count that as your high - keeping everything crossed for you apart from your legs!

boozle try to stay positive! especially if you're testing before AF with not very sensitive tests. The bleeding has stopped too so that's a really good sign.

I'm sorry marmalade I think it's really difficult for anyone, even our partners, to understand. I think if it's an early mc and it's been a few weeks you're expected to be over it by now. Like it was a common cold and you should be feeling better. Because people think it wasn't a baby yet anyway, it was so early, at least you can get pregnant blah blah blah. Just know that he doesn't mean it and he's probably finding things really hard too. His experience of pregnancy was through you and it's horrible to see someone you love in turmoil, knowing there's nothing you can do about it.

smiling glad you've had some strong +ves! Are you going to the gap to have it confirmed? (Not that mine did anyway!)

Sounds like you've got the timing spot on this month english fx for you!

And welcome lady I missed your message on the last page! I'm sorry you've found yourself here but welcome. This is a wonderful group x

Boozle, fingers tightly crossed. Lady, welcome!

I need a slap- currently in a mood with DH because I think I'm about to ovulate (EWCM for last 2 days) and the poor boy doesn't want to dtd again...

Hi last, any mc whether you knew beforehand or last minute is a mc nonetheless. Hurts like anything. We are here for you so rant away!

Boozle get a first response test ASAP for your own sanity. Some women bleed during pregnancy and have healthy babies so don't panic yet and keep going to your gp if it continues.

Tranquility I went to the a&e yesterday because I keep getting pains on the right and left side with slight brown discharge. I really hope it's not ectopic. The doctor said my urine is giving a strong positive pregnancy and not to stress and relax but she did say she will give me an early scan. I will receive a call tomorrow for an appointment. Does that mean something is wrong!? I'm stressing.. Again! It's not like the usual pains I got in my previous pregnancy, these are sometimes on the right, sometimes on the left! Oh gosh.

The doctor said to me yesterday that I'd know if it was eptopic as I wouldn't even be able to touch the area. They also said another sign of eptopic is a pain in your shoulder tips. I'm sure they're only scanning you as a reassurance to see the babies hb etc. hope this helps xx

Thank you all for your lovely words, I would definitely be in a darker place without them. Thank you for putting up with me!
It's also nice to know we aren't the only ones arguing!

How you feeling treacle?
FX for a scan today hope I'm sure the lady wanted to give you a scan to reassure you?

Can't scroll very well on my phone, sorry for lack of reply!

boozle am so sorry you've had a scare. As others have said, it's perfectly common to bleed a bit in early pregancy and many people do and go on to have healthy pregancies. Just get yourself an frer and keep testing, fingers crossed.

marma sorry you had a row. It wasn't a nice thing for him to say but seeing the person you love in pain can be very hard and sometimes you lash out because you want them to be 'normal' again, because it means they aren't hurting anymore. Be kind to each other.

I had some wine last night and I am always very cheerful after a glass or two. Not anymore. I had this objective realisation that I'm really quite miserable at the moment. Not feeling well doesn't help, I don't think I've felt truly on form health wise since the mc.

hope I think she is right to refer you for a scan. Doesn't mean anything is wrong but pain and bleeding should be checked out. Fx.

last welcome x

english wow, that sounds like a right baby fest. I'm the same, all these babies being born and I just think - why do they get their baby? Why don't I get mine? When he/she comes tho they will be so perfect you won't be able yo imagine it any other way x

Boozle thanks that does help! she did say everything seems okay so I have to wait till tomorrow. After mc you start getting worried at any symptom. I hope all is well.

Marm I hope it's just a reassurance scan. The doc was lovely. My DH and I used to argue and it's normal. Sucks but you two will learn how to deal with it. Things will get better

You've been busy ladies!
I went back to sleep. Seems like the uti has calmed down. Got intense stomach pain again though and feeling sick. Been like this all week so think it's my ibs flaring up. Everything comes at once doesn't it.
I agree with you monten, ive not felt well since the mc either.

English you have every right to feel that way.

Hope, try not to worry. They just want to scan to reassure you. I had scans at 6 weeks and 8 weeks for reassurance. Obviously all wasn't well with me but the doctor said at 6 weeks they will scan you if you've had any bleeding or pain despite this being quite a common thing.

Welcome lady, good luck for Saturday.

I am sure they have offered an early scan to be supportive hope, not because they think there is a problem. They would have told you if they thought there was a problem. Hope you get a scan soon with a lovely heartbeat!

Hope you aren't in pain anymore boozle and the bleeding stopped. Like the others said, bleeding in early pregnancy is quite common, but doesn't stop it being worrying!

Sorry people are feeling down. It comes in waves though and I think we just have to accept that there will be good days and bad days. Harder when fighting with DH though - I think sometimes they just don't know what to do to make it better. Maybe he wrongly tried tough love marmalade think it would help when it really really won't. Hope you made up.

I am in USA! Here for work. As I got here I have started some very very light spotting. I mean barely there but defo there. On a normal cycle (taking MC as CD1) I think I would be due Thursday so this is early. I don't normally spot either - i'm an all or nothing girl! So, who knows what this is... Annoying as I had some DTD plans with the DH whilst we were here!

Bloody hell. Just had the worst argument wit DH for a long time. He rarely gets angry and this was a full shouting, slamming doors, reverting to a 2 year old argument.

Over nothing really but mainly because I've been a bitch all day.
So now I'm just sitting here thinking if I go in he won't talk to me and otherwise I just feel shit. I'm quick tempered and then regret it. I knew it was building up to this today.

Oh well. Hope everyone's having a good day.

Maybe implantation dulcet?

Thank you boozle and oneday, I can swear like a trooper when I want to lol

Sorry - I seemed to have missed your first post Lady - welcome to the nut house. I hope you're not here long.... in the nicest possible way

Sorry you're arguing with DH Treacle. Maybe you could go for a walk and clear your head. Hopefully you'll both have calmed down and can have some make-up sex when you back!! Its so hard to be happy, nice and positive all the time.

Dulcet - being on mc#2 I can safely say - don't expect your cycles to be the same, especially so soon after the mc. They can take a few months to settle down. BUT, I do hope it is implantation. Hope you have a good trip!!

Hi lady, sorry I didn't see your post either. Welcome :)

Thanks English, problem is I'm up and down constantly. I've come into the bedroom for peace and quiet and he's shut himself in the dining room.
Been listening to Charlie Simpson which calmed me down until I found out he is now married! Tut.

How rude of him . You'll both be fine. It's hard though, I know.

Come hang with me treacle I've been a bitch all day too. DH is not impressed. Serves him right he had a nap of nearly 3 hours today whilst I did basically wife work of washing and cleaning and then baking with DS. My kitchen is covered in flour!
Charlie Simpson as in busted fame?

Fingers crossed for implantaton

Implantation dulcet