TTC after MC. The ups, the downs, the never ending Toad in the Hole and the relentless onslaught from the Facebook faceslaps!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Morning all,

Hey monten thanks for that story about random cycles, I'm another with no sign of AF or BFP, nowt but waiting to be done!
Don't beat yourself up about what you said, the stress of wanting a pregnancy gets to us all, I think you just have to try and explain that and remind DP that you have the constant reminder of cramps etc to keep it all in your mind and it just made you snap.....

hope you made a drs appointment?

monten AF is due on Sat/Sun but I am not convinced it is going to be on time and I will just keep getting BFN's. I wouldn't worry about DP, we all say things and the stress of this is just massive.

lou well done you! I have a similar problem with HPT and crisps- I have to have the lot.
I am weak and I POAS today, it was negative! Such a fool.
No symptoms other than randomly dark nipples and random right side pain.

Oh monten sometimes we do just snap, I know I did on Saturday night! Don't worry in sure your DP understands.
How you doing treacle?
bythesea my cycle is always random sorry I can't help!

monten ive said some horrible things to dp since the mc, I dont mean any of it, im sure your dh will forgive you.

on unbaby related news, I am never buying a house again the middle of our chain are having mortgage issues so it looks like we wont be moving friday. Im trying not to stress but just had a big melt down that involved the self - pitying phrase "what have I done wrong, why is everything going wrong"

Cd36 no sign of AF ??

hope CD 36!!! How many cycle's post AF are you again - sorry - can't remember!

Oh and smiling I am not surprised you had a meltdown, buying a house is incredibly stressful and on top of all this also - you are completely normal to be feeling down.

Lou - after mc I had my first AF at cd35 and I'm waiting for my second AF currently I'm CD36 no sign of AF and I have been trying this month but I know the witch will come any day now. Just want to move on from this my cycles were usually 31 days and now they are so much longer! Got a doc appt on Thursday lets see what doc says.

hope It is just so blumin cruel the changes in cycle after everything we have been through. To keep seeing bfn is so painful also. Let's hope that AF comes soon and things get back to normal. I have a feeling that I am going to be in the same boat as you next week.

I hope none of you ladies go through this cycle mess up. Either AF comes or you get BFP quickly. I doubt me getting pg before sept.. Cycles will take a few months getting back to normal

smiling I know the feeling hun, you're not alone! We are the middle of our chain - buyer has no chain, neither does the seller - so should have all been done and dusted by now but our solicitors for our purchase are ridic slow. We had to use them as a stipulation of our mortgage offer but we will never go with them again. It's such stress hun, give yourself a break and take things easy. It'll all be worth it in the end folk tell me xx

My cycles were crazy after first mc too. I was only ovulating every other month!! The cycle before I got my bfp was 45 days!!

Why can't our cycles get shorter after the mc?? Why longer!! Mother Nature is a bloody bitch!!

hope, do you temp?
So sorry you're going through this :(

I'm wondering if the same might happen to me. I had an af after the mc but on 11dpo and my luteal phase is never longer than 10dpo. Hoping it's because I'm pregnant. We will see.

I'm just starting my tww. Feel like I'm going to go mental already! Please can you all line the fish up for me?! I'm SO desperate for this to work!

Evening all - sorry been so quiet - been away with work for 2 days.

My AF is due is just under a week - reckon I'm going to POAS maybe Sunday / Monday. Stretch out as long as I can... But the tww is killing me....

Trea - I don't temp, how do you temp? Maybe I should start, I'm dependant on the clearblue ovulation sticks.. I'm so fed up already.

Brazil lost 7-1 .. What the hell happened lol shocking

The tww is the worst but for me it's like the 4ww hahahhaha I think I'm losing the plot

I've just sat with my arse in the air for an hour and a half. My legs have gone dead!

Hope you take your temp every morning before you get up and when you ov it dips and then goes up again for at least three days afterwards it might dip again for implantation too. It can't tell you that you're about to ov but it does tell you when you have which can be nice to know

I do temp hope, it shows whether you have ovulated at least. Although this month I am having a tricky time with my chart. Possibly only 9dpo not 12dpo. Grr.

How do you ladies record it? And what cycle day do you start temping ? So when you ovulate your temperature goes low?

Apps like Feetiltiy Friend are really useful,
It doesn't necessarily always dip before ovulation but there will be a clear shift in temp, lower temps before ov and higher after due to increased progesterone.

Negative hpt!! 2 weeks post erpc! Now hopefully I'll ovulate normally and DH and I can get shagging!

Good effort Boozle! 1 & a half hours is incredible!!

Alas I never seem to sleep long enough to temp effectively.
Was really crampy last night with back ache to match.
This morning nothing..minus a bfn! I never learn!
Also managed to pull something on my right side in my hip area. Ow! Hanging on my side walking to work. Great.

Nice one boozle!

I've attached my temp chart - it's a bit all over the place but I ov'd two days ago. I use fertility friend which is pretty simple - still sometimes really hard to interpret though!