TTC after MC. The ups, the downs, the never ending Toad in the Hole and the relentless onslaught from the Facebook faceslaps!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

That's super annoying Treacle it'd be fine if it was the other way but not that way! Happy Wednesday everyone!

Hi ladies, thanks for your advice, as ever you are all right. We have made up so all seems okay now.

smiling I'm sorry about your stressy house purchase. It really is awful. I'm with you on the 'its not fair' front - we're in France and the weather is crap - and I have found myself thinking, more than once, after all we've been through the fucking sun can't even be bothered to show its face!!

I wonder how the pregnant ladies are doing? virgo daisy and tanny if you're reading this would be great to know how you're getting on.

I keep waking up convinced af is starting but it never does. I've managed to convince myself I'm pregnant - I'm so worried what'll happen if I get af. I wish I had brought tests with me now!!

Happy Wednesday everyone

monten I am in France next week and I'll be screaming "whyyyyyy meee" if the weather is crap!
I have managed not to POAS again today. Will do on Friday. In addition, I have convinced myself I am not pregnant. Thinking this is a win win way of protecting myself from a complete meltdown post holiday!!

I'm desperate to POAS!

The last time I got pregnant I tested positive on day 22 of my cycle. Well today is day 22 and all I can think is that I want to POAS.

However the fear of seeing it come up as a bfn is keeping me in line.....

My pg tests arrived from ebay so I just did one. Still showing as pg. How long does it take to disappear? I am exactly two weeks since I found out I had MMC, naturally passed two days later so that is 12 days ago. Any idea how long it should take? Can see yours took two weeks english so maybe not long to go.

Can't help with the temping I am afraid boozle as never did it. Sounds like some others here know what they are talking about though!

lou it's due to get much better from weds of next week - the day we leave!!! So looking good for you. It's utterly pointless getting cross about the weather but I just can't help it!!

dulcet I think 2 weeks is quite normal. Fx it won't be too long for you, the waiting is the worst bit.

brummie I think I have been testing early as a way of getting used to the idea of bfn. Not that I am suggesting you will get bfn, just for me, seeing negative loads if times is better than waiting and seeing it.

That's a good idea Lou

If you tell yourself you are expecting a bfn when you get it, it shouldn't be a shock

Hmm will consider it

Who would like TMI....
Went too loo, creamy pink cm on pants. This is either implantation or period.
When I fell pregnant, I didn't even know as I got the same stuff and assumed it was AF, just really light as only just off the pill and I didn't test. I am defo POAS Sat, Fri - clearly keeping in spirit of things!!!

Cb37 still not AF maybe I didn't ovulate at all? Doctors appt tomorrow I will ask for a blood test

Will read back in a bit. Af came so I feel crap. It's just brought everything flooding back.

Anyway, back on after parents evening!

Oh treacle that sucks!!!!

Oh treacle that's really crap.

lou hard to know with cm like that. More waiting I guess? Why change the waiting habit?!

I'm most confused been having stabby pains up my erm bits?
And now some almost ewcm? What is going on!! I'm CD39 I'm irregular so could have 14 days to go. Boobs hurt a bit too.
I just give up :(

Mother in law just implied I miscarried because I had an early internal scan. Turns out she doesn't trust these internal scans.

So that was pretty shit.

Dulcet. MIL is a knob. Nothing you did caused the miscarriage.
With regard to pregnancy test, I was told to test in two weeks... Then she saw results of blood test and said make that 3 weeks. So at 9 weeks my hormone levels were high enough for her to think it might take 3 weeks to drop off. I just ordered some so might do one in a week or so just to see.

Thanks for the welcome ladies. I'm not going to lie, it sucks to be here but you ladies have made it slightly more bareable. I'm having a bit of a glum day today as just had a big work restructure meeting and had decided I was going to ask for private consultation to discuss how my pregnancy would effect things.
Instead I sat there trying to work out when I'd get another chance to run to the loo.

Mil is indeed a knob dulcet what an incredibly insensitive thing to say. You did nothing wrong at all.

Sorry you had a rubbish day mrsb :(

Thanks ladies. Generally we get on really well - quite good friends really. But in this occasion she has indeed been a knob. Good job I am pretty certain that can't have been the case otherwise I would be pretty fucking upset!

Don't worry Dulcet I just bobbed it up for Hope to see what temping is. I'm saving overanalysing it for at least another week! I just sporadically burst into tears in a meeting at work - very professional! No idea why - we were talking about planning for next year! I'm an emotional mess today!

Hi Monten, I read this thread every evening, to see how you lovely ladies are getting on and I haven't yet build up the courage to join the posifrickitivity yet. I have my fingers crossed for you all. I know what you are all going through.

For the newbies my last post was the day of my 6 week scan (due to spotting) where everything turned out to be ok, since then I had a week where the spotting almost stopped but then I passed I big clot and began bleeding a lot (sorry TMI).
Today I had a scan again and the baby is now 8 wks and had a heart beat. The last week has been so hard, I feel emotionally, mentally and physically exhausted. They have no idea why I am bleeding, if it's continues I have to go back otherwise just go to the 12 wk scan. I'm not sure I can wait that long so will probably go for a private scan at 10 wks if nothing changes. The next few months are going to be so difficult (if I make it that far) but the thing that keeps me going is the thought that if I have baby I my arms in 7 months time all this will be worth it.

Virgo, sorry you're still having spotting etc, but so pleased baby is doing well on scans. Fx it stays good news. I really feel for you; I had a similar situation with pg3. Getting to 8 weeks is good, hang in there. X

Oh Virgo I feel for you, it's great that your babies doing well on the scans - why the hell they don't do reassurance scans every week in cases like yours I don't know. Sending you all the crossed fingers in the world

Oh virgo that's such good news!! I'm so sorry it sounds like it has been a real roller coaster for you. But your baby is growing, at the rate it should, and has a heart beat. That is such good news. It's so hard to stay positive, I just can't believe everything will ever be okay. But the most likely outcome, especially now, is you will have your baby in your arms in seven months xxx

mrsbee I really recognise what you say about being upset in a planning meeting. When you miscarry you don't just lose a baby, you lose a future. Hope tomorrow is better

Thank you ladies, I've still got a long way to go, I'm just taking one day at a time.

Glad baby is doing well Virgo, although the bleeding must completely scare you. Hopefully all will continue as it should and you will indeed have a baby in your arms in 7 months. Good luck honey