Home of the very brave TTC after MC-ers. Advice, understanding and a variety or food based euphemisms. Pull up a pew, ladies!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

carly, we've all done it! Pregnancy tests are evil.

Well my bleeding is barely there now, 10 days after it started. Last night was the first night me and DH have been intimate at all (sorry tmi). Didn't dtd but I still worried and even worried about getting pregnant before I've had another period. Which is stupid as I know how much it took to actually get pregnancy before.
Think I'm just going crazy.

Good luck at work today Mrsgingerbread x

I hope work goes okay gingerbread. Nobody at my work knew I was pregnant so when I mc at 11 weeks it didn't seem appropriate to say what had happened. If anyone asked I just said gynae problems. It worked well as an excuse because it's not vastly far from the truth and personal enough to stop people asking questions. The hardest thing for me about going back to work was hearing pregnancy news from other colleagues. Brought up all kind of jealous/sad/angry feelings which had nothing to do with them and everything to do with me! Not sure you can prepare yourself for that though!
Treacle - relax! It doesn't even matter if you did get pregnant before you have a period - the doctors only tell you to wait so they can date you more easily. It's nothing to do with it being more risky or anything like that. Well done on getting back in the groove with your dh - it felt like a very big step to me after my mc.

broody hurrah for the bleeding stopping! Good news
carly stop peeing on those sticks - that way madness lies! Although if you find a way of stopping yourself, let me know, because I'm the worst offender!
brummiegirl I wanted to try again straight away too. I think if you feel ready then you are ready. There's no right or wrong time to ttc again.

Thanks office, it was worrying for me and felt wrong. I just thought we need to try or its going to become a really big thing.

Morning ladies

grrr Thought I would be all yay about first post AF arriving after MC so we can 'move' on but I'm feeling very rubbish about it. Just reminds me of what might have been. Trying to focus on positive. Failing. Epically.

I'm assuming it might take a few cycles to get back to 'normal' after a MC. I'm I likely to go back to my clockwork cycle and ovulation straight away? Trying to plan our ttc efforts for the month! ha!!

Gingerbread Only my boss and one colleague knew what had happened when I MC. I found it good to get back with something even though I felt like an empty zombie, but ill prepared for people's general conversation to affect me. Constant one seems to be... when are you having another atm because a close colleague has just popped and there is a running joke about us being a tag team. More grrr... I hope work goes ok for you. Please don't rush anything if you don't feel up to it or it doesn't go to plan.

Hello Ladies, I am sorry that you all find yourselves on this thread, but it is nice that we can share our experiences with other who understand our heartache!

I am still recovering from a MMC, I'm going back to the hospital tomorrow for urine and blood tests and hoping that all is now ok and they will discharge me from their care. This ordeal has dragged itself out for almost 6 weeks and I need some closure now, so I can move on!!

We plan to wait for AF to re-appear and then start TTC once again, I even made the bold move of ordering opks and hpts yesterday. For those who asked about being more fertile after a MC, I have first hand experience, I had a previous MC (almost 3 yrs ago) and my first cycle after this I got pregnant and went on to have my DD. I hope the same occurs this time around!

Hi all, so sorry that we all find ourselves here, and I'm so full of admiration for all the bravery here as we pick ourselves up and start trying again.

I had an early miscarriage in January this year. It was a suspected ectopic (slight pain and a little bleeding, slowly rising HCG but at a declining rate) at 6 weeks - had a laparoscopy to find and remove it, but they couldn't find it. Then I 'naturally' miscarried a day later - probably was never viable but they could never locate where the pregnancy was surgically or through scans.

I know a lot of people have had things much worse than I have. I had thought I recovered emotionally pretty well at the time - had such a flood of relief when I finally had a period after it was almost euphoric, but what I'm finding now is every period brings back the feeling that its another mc. Does anyone else have feelings like this? It's not just the disappointment of another cycle passing with getting pregnant, but actually feels like strong deja vu that I'm going through the mc again. And trying not to get obsessive about it all is basically impossible.

Hmmm, well hasn't gone to plan. My manager off for half term (back Thurs). So I walked in to an inbox piled high with stuff, all too important for me to be doing on my first day back and feeling as rubbish as I feel, and nobody to talk to.

I managed to get an appointment with gp and he has signed me off for a week. Another week! Everyone will wonder what on earth I am playing at. I just feel so overwhelmed.

Feeling like a failure. :'(

You are not a failure Mrsgingerbread.
I couldn't go back to work today. I don't know if I'll even be ready next week when I'm meant to.

You need to give yourself time xxx

Hi Girls, I am here! Sorry for my absence but I've been in a bad place and had to be spat out the other end before I could get my head back in the right place to update my situation.

First of all HUGE congratulations to all the recent graduates. Particularly my lovely Cakes :grin: All absolutely deserved and in many cases long overdue. Wishing everyone a very boring 9 months with lots of lovely pregnancy symptoms and no worries or niggles.

Well my situation has been long and boring in a totally different way. HCG levels continued to rise until recently, I suspect they peaked somewhere in the 200s however even though this was never a viable pregnancy, my body continued to build a lovely squidgy uterine lining . So 14 days ago I started bleeding medium/heavy flow and today, FINALLY, it seems to have stopped. So second miscarriage completed I am now in a good head place again.

My hpts are showing the faintest of lines, so I am hoping I might ovulate this cycle (if you can call it that). I am due my period in 13 days so I guess it depends on what comes first, ovulation or period. I'm setting the Clearblue monitor up and think it will start asking for sticks tomorrow, so we shall see if anything good happens.

So sorry for those who have recently joined the thread

Great to hear from you sebs I was worried for you and thinking of you lots. I'm really pleased you're feeling in a better place now and great news that you're having no more bleeding. I'm really keeping it all crossed for you x

ginger you poor love, you are not a failure! You need to take time and be kind to yourself, there is no quick fix or set time frame for getting through these things. I think it's good advice from office (full of wisdom as ever ) to say gynae problems, it stops the questions right there.

mrsdiddly I think cycles after mc can be varied but saying that I got my AF 28 days after having an erpc. We didn't dtd at all before my first AF after the procedure, I just couldn't face it and nor could dh. Then just started to bet back into dtd after that and what do you know I'm now preggers, so feeling very lucky and terrified in equal measure.

brummie get back in the saddle when you feel ready! There really is no normal.

I'm still lurking, only 6wks pg at mo and very much in the 'mmc is going to happen again any moment' phase. Fish slaps for me. Seeing someone this afternoon about some meditation/relaxation techniques, all sounds a bit woooo but got to be worth a go. I'll keep lurking as I want to see you ladies get your bfps xxxx

Aw Sebs, so sorry to read that. You story is what drew me into the thread, I really hope you get good news soon.

I'm on cd 20 counting first day of mc as cd1, is that how it goes? Haven't done any poas but we're back to dtd at least!

I just phoned the doctor to cancel my midwife appointment. That was difficult :(

cake all the best for your pregnancy :)

Effin my sister has a mc last July and feels very much like that. x

Sebs so sorry you've been through all of that. I hope that things go smoothly for you and ov happens soon.

Ginger You are right to give yourself time and not rush back to 'normal'. Take as much as you need and bugger work! Sometimes its easy to forget that you need to mourn and go through all the emotional stuff as well as the physical.

Ginger be kind to yourself, take as much time as you need!! I had two weeks off......I have a very supportive boss. None of my colleagues knew, so when I went back, they asked if I was better, and I just said yes thank you. I have since told one of my closest colleagues!

Welcome back sebs. You've been missed an awful lot so it's good to hear you're feeling a little better now and are ready to come back. Onwards and upwards lovely lady!

Sorry to see more newcomers. Much hand holding from me too x

ginger you're absolutely not a failure, I can promise you that. Life is pretty shitty sometimes but I like to think that by going through these rough patches is part of life's master plan - at some point, all of us on here will all be rewarded for our current heartache with gorgeous, healthy babies who we will cherish with all our night. Same for those with crap jobs, abusive and vile partners, back stabbing friends...every shittiness will all be worth while in the end. Patience is, however, not my strong point so I'm struggling to take my own advice right now!

Welcome back sebs what a Shity time you have had :( glad ur ready to come back, you have been missed.x

ginger please don't feel like a failure! you need time to recover. The emotional healing us much slower than the physical x

Afternoon all,
Just back from sunny Spain and it was really lovely to have a change of scene and a break from life!
Just catching up with everyone's posts but welcome to those who have joined.
Sending everyone hugs and as you can't have too much of either and we are hard on ourselves sometimes when it's ok to take some time

Back into dtd now and (obsessively) day counting and all the rest - so much for being relaxed about it all.

Just snapped at DH who has managed to arrange about 6 different things around the time I'll be testing this cycle and right after( including MIL visit). He hadn't realised (quite rightly and sanely) that I'd already be thinking of the possibility of how many weeks I'd be and whether this visit meant that he intended to tell his mum I was pregnant. How mental can I get when we haven't even dtd properly this month yet!????

Welcome newbies!

Bythesea I'm very jealous really could do with a holiday!

Sebs I'm glad things are starting to go in the right direction for you sorry it's been long must of been horrid

MrsDid my cycles have got shorter each month after MC and nearly back to my 'normal' 29 day cycle as prior MC.

Ginger don't feel bad you can only know how long you need know one will thank you for going back sooner so just think of yourself

G&T I do exactly the same planning well ahead with the thought I might this month! Including working out due dates and planning when I'd stop work! Oh dear never said it out loud before! Giant stingray fish slaps for me!

I'm getting really sharp pains in my lower stomach today 3dpo ... too early for implantation??

Ohhhhhh sunshine we are about the same dpo :) think I am somewhere between 3-5 dpo first peak opk was Wednesday last week. We can obsess together x

Ooo good always nice to have someone to hand hold and POAS with ... Although best not at the same time! When is your BFP due mine is 7th June ... That's so scary we will be June!!! Where has this year gone!

Mrs Ginger. Be easy on yourself x i've had over two weeks (with hospital admission and recovery and feeling i can't face it). I only had an email Friday to ask what might have been urgent (i am now off for half term). Work is not life.

Just catching up with posts as away just now and hours ahead of you (mostly). Sebs I'm sorry to hear what an awful time you've been having. Thinking of you and much hand holding.

I am currently feeding my ten day old son and saw the title of the thread and just wanted to say keep smiling and keep trying. I had 2 miscarriages (one late and one 7 weeks) before we got lucky with the little man.
Not sure if it had anything to do with it at all but for third pregnancy took baby aspirin daily after reading about it on MN.

Good luck to you all.