Home of the very brave TTC after MC-ers. Advice, understanding and a variety or food based euphemisms. Pull up a pew, ladies!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Well af arrived this morning bang on time. In one way im sad but I am always a bit pleased to think thank god I don't have any abnormal cells growing in my uterus!
Next month we are going for a nice chilled out approach. I return to the uk next month for summer, its already 40 degrees here and its only 9am!

Sebs, Ginger and Treacle, and everyone else who's going through this right now, I'm so sorry for what you're having to face.

I remember feeling all sorts of stupid for even thinking I could even have though I would be having a baby and for being upset and needing time. Everyone kept on saying 'it's really common' as if somehow that should make it better and as if I shouldn't be upset. But the truth is I was pregnant and that changes everything and so my miscarriage was devastating.

But the most important thing is to acknowledge how you're feeling to yourself - and your DP if you can. It's completely okay and normal to be upset and to take some time. Don't add to your difficulties by feeling bad that you're not getting over it quickly enough. And frankly, it's no one else's eff-ing business to tell you how to feel.

Great advice Effin, I felt the same way when people kept telling me how common it was and how many people go through it. They weren't me and it wasn't my baby that they lost.

In the zone for dtd now - sod's law that usually sound sleeper and general lazy bone DD has started waking in the night and needing settling down again. Knackered already!!

As a grad of this thread I lurk occasionally to see how people are getting on but rarely post any more. Just wanted to give you all some positive encouragement. I had a MMC in Nov 13 discovered at 13 week scan and conceived again in March. Had my 12 week scan last Thursday and all was well. Just to say, there is hope after MC. I couldn't have made it through the ttc after MC gauntlet (not to mention the early stages of pg after MC paranoia) without the support of this thread. Hope you all get your super-sticky beans soon.

Somerset that's lovely to hear :)

Thanks Effin, i think sometimes we all need to me one to tell us it's ok to feel that way.

I'm dreading work next week. Hey Ho.

Congratulations on your 12-week scan Penguin, that's lovely news!

Welcome back sebs, we missed you! and sorry you were having such a hard time. Also welcome to all the newbies.

I've been having quite a few down days this month myself, I think I was secretly hoping that I'd be one of those people who get pregnant really quickly after mc so I could just push all the negative emotions to the back of my mind and focus on the new pregnancy instead... clearly not happening.

Anyway, I'm now looking forward to my holiday next week where I intend to drink lots of wine and not pee on any sticks! I'm pretty sure I will ov the weekend after we come back or early the following week so will just dtd as often as we can during our hols and see what happens.

Congrats Penguin lovely to hear! X

Awwww penguin so lovely to hear from you! Congrats again hun, please come back with pix when bubba peng is here! Xx

Aww penguin so happy for you and always lovely when you pop in to see us :) must say that 12 weeks has flown by to me, sure it dragged for you :) x

Hi ladies. I'm on cd29 after D&C. Still waiting for AF. Eagarly waiting to ttc after first cycle. I hope AF comes soon. This wait really makes me feel more and more empty.

I heard its easier to conceive after mc.. how many ladies here conceived within a few months? It would be nice to hear your experiences and how long you waiting before you tried to conceive again.

All the best x

I'm the same hope although I'm on cd 12 (if you start the first day from the day I started to miscarry).
Just want to be pregnant again. Not coping today!

Glad everything is going well penguin :)

Hey ladies! Just checking in after weeks of on/off lurking!

Not much to report here I'm afraid. We have decided to get back to the GP though and try for FC referral. Watch this space!

I'm back to work tomorrow after my MC. Am dreading it as feel exhausted. Mentally and physically.

But telling myself only 2 days until weekend

Hope tomorrow goes well :) Don't push yourself too hard! I'm back Tuesday :/

Good luck at work Brummie. I am back on Monday. Treacle, the same for Tuesday.

Morning all
brummie hope work is ok today
Sighing and treacle same for next week
I feel quite lucky to work from home at the moment, although lonely at times, it makes it all a lot easier.

Hope those feeling down are doing ok, hopefully a sunny weekend to raise spirits?

hope I also heard about you being more fertile post mc. It took us 10 months to conceive to start with & then I was preg again after 2 cycles following mc 1. Sadly didn't go any better but was kind of reassuring it happened sooner, luck or something else, who knows?! We'll see what happens this time.....

Got a wedding tomorrow and it's my birthday, thought I would be 8 months preg (oh for those days of assuming it would all be fine) so I guess i'll enjoy the wine & try not to think about it too much

Just de lurking to say welcome back Sebs x

Hello!

Brummie I hope that work went okay for you. Thinking about you today.

Doctors have called, apparently my haemoglobin/iron levels are a little down and they have prescribed me some tablets to boost it up. I hope this doesn't delay us ttc again. :/

Hi all.

Thanks for kind thoughts, work was ok - although I was in tears at my desk by 8.45.

However I'd gone in as I had a client meeting and I didn't want to miss it, so did client meeting and work then sent me home. Told me to rest and not show my face until Monday. So they've been really understanding. Although I got home at about 1.30 and then promptly slept for 2 hours!!

I'm aware I'm lucky that work have been so compassionate.

My thoughts are now turning to DTD - like treacle, I just want to be pregnant. I know the docs said wait 1 cycle but I'm just thinking fuck it and will carry on as normal. And what will be, will be.

Am I mad or is the wait 1 cycle just for dating purposes?

I want this so much that the thought of waiting is just alien to me (very impatient for everything!!!!)

bythesea, don't dismiss how you feel. It's understandable that you're upset. Important dates give us something to count down to and you can't change that you thought you would be pregnant.
Enjoy your wine and just try to think to the future xxx
brummie sorry work didn't go as planned but so glad they've been understanding :)

I'm incredibly impatient too. I'm worried though that it's my short luteal phase that caused mc. Don't know what to think.
I think waiting is just for dating purposes. I can't try this cycle as DH wants me to recover.

Finding it so difficult though. I'm really upset today. Dreading work. I have 39 reports to write as well as catching up on all last terms assessments. Don't know how I'll cope.

Hi Ladies
Treacle im report writing too keeps me busy but can't believe it's Friday tomorrow!! Anyone POAS tomorrow?

How long do you need to be ttc before you seek dr advise or do tests??

I'm refusing go do any til I get back, I'm not in a good place still.
I've always heard a year but I'm not sure.

I think its a year but 6 months if you are over 35. Enjoy the rest of half term, ladies. I've been marking all day. It never ends, does it?!

Yep, generally a year, but they will start doing tests after 6 months if you're over 35 - but this varies a bit between primary health care trusts. You can ask advice at any time - and it can be useful to 'register' with the doc that you are trying in case you need to go back later, then it will be in your notes.

Consultant told me waiting for a true period (i.e. not the mc bleeding) was just for dating purposes, there's no medical reason to wait. For us, having a proper period was useful as I could know my body was recovering, and I had an idea when to test, rather than just not knowing whether I might be pregnant again or my body was still not back on track.

That's what I'm doing effin, seems a long wait though. I wonder when my next period will be.