Home of the very brave TTC after MC-ers. Advice, understanding and a variety or food based euphemisms. Pull up a pew, ladies!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Thanks MrsG. Got everything crossed that next scan will be more reassuring. How are you feeling? X

Yes, fingers crossed for the next scan. :)

Physically I'm not too bad today thank you. No pain today. I am worried about bloodloss though as I am already anaemic. Something to get checked out when this is all finished.

Emotionally I feel fragile and empty. Have taken 4 days off work which I think was definitely the right decision.

Curled up with my two cats doing a jigsaw (I never normally do them, but I have found it very calming and therapeutic!)

Ahhh I think the emotional side of things takes a bit longer than the physical. But allow yourself time to grieve. Cry if you need to. Scream if it helps! I definitely had some very angry moments!
The ladies here are lovely though and will offer you a world of knowledge, support and understanding. It does get easier with time, I promise.

ginger you absolutely have support here, we know that feeling you describe so well. It's been 12 weeks since my mc and it's only now I'm starting to feel a bit more like myself. I've had some complications (prolonged bleeding - as in for 11 chuffin weeks afterwards!) but I think I still wouldn't have felt better even if it'd have stopped earlier. As english quite rightly says, you have to give yourself time to grieve and only you will know when you're ready to start trying again, don't put pressure on yourself in thinking of a timescale, just go with your own flow xxx

Gail, wowzers that's a line! Really really pleased for you! x

English I just spotted the name change. Nice. And pleased you have a sac. The next few weeks will drag I'm sure, but you're doing well so far.

Ginger distraction is my preferred way of coping with mcs too. My high scores on Candy Crush are testament to this...

I'm oving as we speak, so have booked my appointment at the implantation clinic with Prof Q for next Friday. Trying (and failing) not to think obsess about it too much. Am also trying to write a business plan when all I want to do is get into the workshop and make something.

Just my phone app won't connect either. Grrr....

Thank you everyone.

At the moment people keep telling me how common it is to have a mc. I know they are trying to help, but actually it just makes me feel worse for feeling so sad about mine when some people have it so much worse.

Congratulations Gail!

English, fx for your next scan, and it's great that things seem to be on track.

Sorry to those being visited by the witch. The sooner she buggers off, the sooner you get another chance to ttc. And in the meantime there's .

CD7 here and planning my SMEP days. I've had a week of feeling total despair about ttc, my job and a few other things. I've been a sobbing, angry wreck and convinced that nothing will ever work out. I've had a real surge of grief about the mmc (now 10 weeks on). Sometimes the positivity is really hard to find - BUT you do just have to get up and carry on and keep trying.

So Ginger take all the time you need to feel sad. Your grief is real and it doesn't disappear after a few days. But there is also plenty of hope for the future, even if it's sometimes hard to hold on to. Everyone on this thread understands how you feel and will hold your hand when you need it. Even just knowing you're not alone helps

Just phoned up the doctors and the next appointment they have with a nurse is the 25th June!!! And that is just to fill in my form that they then send off to the midwife team, so I wont get a booking appointment with a midwife until I'm at least 9 weeks. So annoying! That's London for you grr

So does anyone know about early scans? Should I be offered one (I have had one MC at 12 weeks) or will they not bother? I think I will go sick with worry not knowing anything until 12-13 weeks for a scan

Congratulations Gail

gail re. early scans, I think it varies. In my area I hear you don't get scanned early unless there is cause for concern (bleeding/pain), you've had a previous ectopic or more than 3 mc's. I'm seeing my gp in just over a week so I plan to ask anyway - got to be worth a go! I have a very good gp luckily so I know if she can refer me she will but it might just not be her decision. If not I think I'm likely to go private at about 8 wks, it costs around £100 but I feel it would be worth it for me. Definitely chat to your gp though as policies are different.

Gail you can try the EPU at UCLH. They take self-referrals. You can call and leave a message for the nurse to call back to discuss it (020 3447 9411) and they will probably say wait until a certain number of weeks. My understanding is that they are quite receptive to this in cases where the woman has had a previous mc - clearly they don't advise early scans for everybody. If I ever get pg again, I may try this, assuming I have no need for an emergency referral. And there is always the option of a private reassurance scan, if you have the funds.

If you're worried about referral to mat services, some hospitals allow you to self-refer. I did this for UCLH when they lost my GP's referral. The hospital's website should give info on this - I guess not all will accept self-referrals.

Gail I think i depends on your area. My gp referred me as i'd had brown discharge for a a while. Although i'm not sure its really helped my sanity! If anything I'd definitely wait until at least 7 weeks, so you don't have the worry that I now have! I would definitely have paid for a private one though at 8 weeks if I hadn't had the discharge. FX you have no reason to be referred other than for peace of mind.

Congratulations Gail, hope it all works out for you this time.

I'm looking forward to a long weekend with lots of wine, and have 2 job interviews lined up next week - I'm determined to either get a BFP or a new job (preferrably both) before the summer's over!

And just when you thought the TWW was tortuous enough, hey, gail! Unfortunately, that's pretty standard (here anyway) that you won't see the mw for your booking appt until 8/10 weeks. Flippin ages away!!

I was thinking about this the other day and I'm not sure if I would go for an early scan if/when we get upduffed again...and of course if I'm offered one. I don't think it would do anything for my concerns and maybe even send me even more loopy!

Congrats Gail Friday's seem to be bringing great news at the moment and really lovely that it's your turn today

broody I feel the same! I had an early scan with my mc (5+6) and saw his little heart beating and everything. But eps till it didn't change the outcome. I also read a few things before having it that made me doubt if I was making the right decision. Speaking without the worry of being pregnant right now, I would not opt for an early scan, although I am sure I will prob change my mind if it ever happens again, as I was desperate for one when I was pregnant lol. Whatever you all decide ladies best of luck x

It's not pregnancy news. But my body does appear to be throwing a lot of OV symptoms at me. I am in two minds over this (still sad and angry my body mc and amazed it bounced back so fast). We have been dtd. But I just cannot 2ww yet. So instead do tell me distraction methods! (thinking a 6 ww).

Thanks for all your thoughts about scans. I think I will get a private one at 8 weeks.

Sighing I'm a big fan of positive distractions! Can you try and fill your weekends with as many nice plans as possible so the week flies by? Treat yourself to something like a manicure or a massage, and book it for a week or 10 days in advance so you have something to look ahead too?

Massive congrats Gail! I was told after my ERPC at uclh that it could show up at 7 weeks and get an early scan? Might be worth waiting one day in the EPU there or perhaps flagging this to your GP?thrilled for you!

I could show up, that should read...

Gail. Treatments sound a blissful idea. I have fully booked next week to 'tour' some friends (who have no knowledge of mc/ttc). I must plan further ahead!

Sorry. That lost part of my message:

Jetpack. Sorry you've had overwhelming feelings take care of yourself.

Thanks sighing. My bumper pack of CB opks arrived today - so many sticks to pee on!! I'm going to bankrupt myself on pissy sticks, but they worked for me before, so they will bloody well work again . I showed the box to DH, told him the price and he just gave a little resigned nod and walked away - he thinks I'm nuts . If only he knew what gets discussed on these threads...

In other news, I just ducked out of a party tonight as I knew there would be a friend there who is upduffed with a due date the same as mine was... I'm happy for her but not in the right frame of mind to see her just now. (It's bad enough seeing the receptionist at work every day who is also due around when I would have been.) Enjoying some g&ts at home instead with DH . TFI Friday!

Hi everyone,
Is it ok if I join? I'm not sure when the bleeding and pain will stop and not sure when we will be ttc again but I figure this is my first step.
to share :)

Sorry, forgot to say. I started to miscarry Saturday at 8+3. First pregnancy.
Had multiple scans so shouldve known really that it would happen. At 8 weeks sac measured 6 and only a sac and yolk sac.