Home of the very brave TTC after MC-ers. Advice, understanding and a variety or food based euphemisms. Pull up a pew, ladies!

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Welcome Treacle, sorry for your loss. It's the shittiest and most heartbreaking experience, but there are plenty of ladies here getting bfps, so it gives you hope. Fx you won't have to stay here for long, but you'll find lots of support and understanding while you do, as well as some laughs

Thank you :) I don't know when ill be ready to try again but it's so reassuring talking to others in the same boat :)

I've been in tears today, the children at the school I work at have made me a get well soon card. Completely set me off. That and a pregnant cat walking past the window haha.

Welcome newbies, and sorry for your loss.

I just had a whole bottle of wine whilst watching X-Men with DH - got to make the most of not being pregnant!

Sounds good metalhead! I'm looking forward to being off tablets and the pain calming down and ill be having a drink.

Sorry to see you hear treacle!

English fx for your next scan glad they are looking after you!

Thanks littlemiss x

Can I ask a stupid question?

The month I got pregnant was the first month I used preseed. I've been looking it up and it seems a lot of people suddenly get pregnant but quite a few seem to mc. Probably a coincidence but it has put the thought in my head.
Also my short luteal phase. Ugh :/

Right, that's it. After months of lurking on here and posting and then wondering off again I'm here to stay (although hopefully not too long!) Dtd last night but not yet in 'fertile zone'. Feeling freaked out, angry, sad, excited and annoyed with myself all at the same time. As this feeling hasn't changed any in the last few months I think we just need to get on with ttc again and see what happens.

So good to see good news on here with bfps.

Like treacle, would also like to ask about vitamins etc. Just after mmc I was given (by a welll meaning person!) an article about a link between vitamins and mc. I haven't seen anything else about it but don't know now whether to take pregnacare or not when we get to that stage. Any thoughts?

I read that study too GandT, and have decided to stick with just folic acid this time. (Probably over cautious, but the study seemed fairly well designed, although I'm not an expert on these things.)

I am conflicted about vitamins. I seem to be in need of B12 though. So maybe just B complex which includes folic acid. But ....the reason I need B is because I do not absorb well. What else might I miss out on / a potential fetus if I rely on my body? A frank chat with my Dr wpuld help ... But they've made it clear with on m/c at 9 weeks they just want me to keep trying.

Same sighing, i started mc at 8+3. I'm waiting at least until I've had a period after this bleeding though so will be July at the earliest. If I can face trying then

Aw. Treacle it is horrid when your head keeps turning it all round and around. I thought the obsessimg meant I ought to stay off work. Then I thougjt i should have gone back. But. Now I am genuinely feeling more in "control" of my emotions and reactions I probably was right.
I have NEVER in my life been so plagued with self doubt and lacking in trust of my mind and body.
It has scared my DH. He had always known me as a 'force of nature'. ... So i probably spent days where i could have let myself heal trying to pretend I didn't feel so weak.

Yeah, I know what you mean. Today is the first day that so frustrating ive not had intense physical pain so really couldn't go to work last week. I'm hoping the pain stays away now.
My emotions are finally coming out now though :/

Treacle give yourself time and lots of TLC.

Thank you I will. Also I meant "so far", don't know where frustrating came from.

Treacle that's strange as I used preseed for the first time when I got preg before having my MC haven't used it this cycle yet but don't think I'm going to now! Give yourself time mine was March and I've felt more 'ready' this cycle.

Hmm I wonder whether I should use it when we start ttc again.

I know what you mean treacle about not being able to face TTC. Saying that I am suffering from head in the sand too. I can't face contraception as it wasn't just 'oh look a bfp'. But ... Nor can I face the constant feeling I want to fast forward through 2ww and inevitable disapointment. Oh for a crystal ball.

Treacle, I'm glad you've found this lovely bunch . Glad the pain seems to be easing off, the emotional side definitely lingers far longer, but just take one day at a time. Don't blame yourself or anything you may or may not have done either. Unfortunately more often than not it is due to abnormalities with the baby. Don't beat yourself up. I promise you it will get easier, look after yourself. Hugs

This is my first post, after lurking for weeks now.

You Ladies are all so amazing. I have found immense comfort in reading your posts and am ready to participate, if that's alright.

About me:
This was my first PG, but I MMC'd at 10wks. My baby/embryo had only developed to 7wks+3d. I had a D&C on April 29.
I'm now feeling calmer and less emotional about this experience. I'm trying to remain positive and hopeful now, especially after reading so many of your stories/questions/answers/posts. DH and I have begun TTC now, though we're trying to enjoy ourselves rather than DTD just to get PG. I still haven't had AF, but I think I did ovulate a week ago. AF should arrive in 2 days. It'll be good to get my body back on a regular cycle.

Raising my glass to you all and hoping you all get BFPs soon! :)

MrsAmelia Welcome, I am very sorry to hear about your loss. I am very new here, but the support I have had from these ladies this week has been amazing.

Ladies, Google seems to be suggesting to be that the first couple of months after a miscarriage can be slightly more fertile than normal. Is there any science to this, or is it just said to try and make us feel a bit better?

I hope that everyone is having a nice start to the long weekend x

Thank you English, it's really lovely to be able to talk to people who understand.
Just spent the evening with SIL and BIL.
I know they are ttc as well, found it quite difficult.

Hi mrsamelia, sorry for your loss. Glad to hear you are feeling better and I hope all goes well for you in the future x

Hello to the newbies, sorry you've found yourself here but it is a great place for reassurance, support and hope.
Anyone else feeling like crap tonight? AF got me 3 days early- what a cheek, and I'm well and truly over the opk, TTC, 2ww already. Thought I'd vent on here as I'm trying not to dissolve into tears in front of the hub again. He's been amazing but even I'm fed up of myself so am sure he must be too. ( leaving him to the footy so I can look for online hugs in peace) I hate the way the joy of innocently trying to conceive has disappeared and that my life exists around ovulation cycles and disappointment. Also, feel awful for DS who is a joy but doesn't get an on form mummy at these times. Hoping that tomorrow will bring sunshine and balanced hormones! Apologies for the rant x
PS I'd also read that we may have a more fertile window after mc but not sure how proven this is

Florence. ... Bloody AF. and virtual hugs. I AM in a crappy mood this evening. I've told one friend re M/c she appears to be now avoiding me (haven't heard for over a week) ... Then Ithink that is stupid. So I'm veering between misery/ worry.
Husband is away working. DC are at their Dads. I used to relish this time. Now it is alarmingly quiet.

Oh Florence sorry to hear that :( virtual hugs!

sighing I know what you mean. I think people don't know what to say. Sending you hugs also.

I've had 2 glasses of wine tonight. It just felt wrong. Then I worried in case i need to take more painkillers. Ugh.