About to start / Just started / Trying for a while TTC no.2 (part 5)

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Here we are ladies, part 5, with a new spin to the title to include some of us long-timers!
May it bring many, many more BFPs and some happy, healthy babies

Hi everyone.

Hope you're ok re home situation swede.

How did you get on with work morerum?

I see to like the idea of a home birth mrs then I watched the series home birth diaries and it totally put me off! But I agree with whoever said each to their own! You have to do what you feel is best for you.

Not long until your consultant appt hungry, feels like you've been waiting ages for it. How's work been this week?

Sorry about AF loves TTC is just a bloody nightmare really! such an emotional time. You do well to be so upbeat, it's easy to get dragged down by it.

How's everyone doing?

Also, I'm finding myself much more hormonal this time round! Finding that things upset me easier (I'm not usually easily upset at all) and have a much shorter fuse with some things than I usually would. Joy.

woo hoo 20 hours of work left!

sorry af got you loves have some nice chilled wine to compensate xx

Yay, Donna. Glad they weren't arsey! :-)

Better, work is good. I have a feeling I'm faster than the previous person as I was short of work today. Got some commercial leases tomorrow, so something to get my teeth into!

And yes, I feel like I've been waiting forever too.

20 weeks today and DH finally felt Baby HH kick in bed this morning. It was ace!

I'm the same, Better. Not great, is it?

Loves, sorry AF got you. Was it expected today? Definitely have wine and cake!

Mrs, are you enjoying your annual leave? When does mat leave start?

Swede, hope you're OK. Who's causing the crap? Enjoy your trip! Have you found a nanny yet? And how's the new job going?

I'm hoping I'll recover faster from my ELCS than my EMCS. I was battered last time as it was urgent and it took so much effort to free DD from my pelvis. Baby shouldn't be wedged even if it's engaged this time, so I shouldn't be beaten in! Recovery still wasn't that bad though. :-)

Oh they weren't happy with me hungry but they didn't put up a fight!

Sorry got the af , loves. U sound very pragmatic and I think your def allowed a FFS moment. It's full on this Ttc business!
Hey Guinness (is that Lucy or am I not meant to say that?!) fair enough re a break. Can only be a good thing. Hope it happens fast now!
I'm watching one born...oh wow birth is full on!
My heart burn hasn't kicked in yet...when did other peoples start? I had it so bad last time. But can't remember when it started.
This may be too much info but does anyone else find the intimacy kind of disappears in pregnancy? I have found it more than ever this time. With work, ds, moving, being massively exhausted...it isn't really happensing...anyone else or is everyone else at it hammer and tongs?! Not those Ttc obviously!! I hope u guys are!!

No DTD here at all, Toothpaste. I don't do it while pregnant. But I've not been doing anything else for DH either, which I did last time. DD always interrupts before I start and DH tends to be asleep, catching up.

On and off heartburn here. Earlier than last time. Boo!

Loves I will definately join you on the and too, I have been having an abundance of it recently! I'm glad you are feeling a bit better now, I know exactly what you mean with being sad and scared and wanting it so much. My coping mechanism recently has been just to try and accept a life with just DD, as each month that goes by it feels less and less likely that it will happen. It's such an emotional rollercoaster, somedays I feel fine and quite positive, I have been in quite a good mood today, but then other times I just cannot believe that I am still waiting and not on here talking about birth plans and scans and appointments. Remind me again what cycle you are on loves? You will pick yourself up again, and you will feel positive again, and the rollercoaster continues....
I have started taking vitB this cycle, hopefully it will make some improvement on my measly 7day LP, expecting it to take a few months to work though. AF has just finished so its on to cycle 10 for me and a Christmas eve BFP if successful.
toothpaste I am Lucy!

rum glad you are able to finish work early, and hope it helps to ease your pain a bit. Just keep thinking of all those lovely pain relieving drugs!

Swede hope you have a lovely weekend on the farm, sounds bliss.

hungry sorry you are in pain, halfway there though! Loving your bump pics

better have you got a date for your consultant appointment? or already seen him? sorry I have a rubbish memory!

Loves

Still on 2ww here. I weakened this morning and poas but bfn. Af not due till Sunday, though was 2 days late last month. I'm so impatient!

Cycle #7 for me so not that bad really.

Glad you got work sorted morerum what a relief and 20 days is nothing bet that will fly by :)

Hungry I know a few people who have had ELCS and they always seem so well after, I think it must be quite calming to know when your going in and to have your bag packed and hair done all ready?

Vit B sounds interesting ginger heres to a couple of April BFP's :)

FX for you Engels you going to POAS again before Sunday?

I'm going to wait to see ifaf turns up (she says...)

Good morning all and happy Friday!
Toothpaste and Hungry - we are not DTD now at all. It does bother me a bit as I do miss it and I wish I was one of those people who could while pregnant but I can't because I'm prone to bleeds if I have sex while pregnant and because of my blood type, any bleeds and I have to go straight to hospital for anti D injection as if I bleed I could cause antibodies to form and attack the babies blood cells. Every time we DTD when I was pregnant with my DS I had the problem and it's so stressful and worrying and not worth hours in hospital for. We DTD at the beginning of this pregnancy and I had a bleed straight after which was like a period and scary and I rang the gp but I was only ok because I was under 12 weeks. Anything over 12 weeks and anti D needed for me. But we can still do other things (sorry if TMI) but again as you both say tiredness plays a huge part and as well as being tired from being pregnant I'm tired running after a toddler all day so usual I'm asleep not long after putting Ds to bed. We try where we can though but the way I see it, you're not pregnant forever and things will resume in time. On that note, I'm 28 weeks today! So 12 weeks left for me. Oh by the way, does everyone know that things have recently changed and you're now only allowed to go 7 days overdue before they want to induce?! It has always been 14 days but my midwife told me this on weds. I was 12 days overact time. Don't fancy being induced and I wouldn't be allowed my home birth if I had to be.
Hungry - so glad you are enjoying work. I can't believe how quickly you've got back into it. I also can't believe you're 20 weeks. When is your scan?
Loves - sounds like you have this right positive attitude toward trying to conceive and I think that definitely helps.
Morerum - fantastic news re work! Who cares if they were pleased or not?! When is your last day?
My mat leave starts on Saturday 29th march.
Hi Better - I've been a lot more hormonal this time, very emotional and a bit moody some days. Not nice but all part and parcel I guess. I really do fancy the home birth idea. I don't actually fancy giving birth at all, I think it's frightening and just really scary and unpleasant which ever way you look at it as you never know what's going to happen or how it will go bit these babies have to come out somehow. For me, I hate hospitals and won't be relaxed in that environment but we are all different. I can fully understand why people like Hungry would opt for c section but that scares me too. I'm going to be very nervous nearer the time about birth I think.
Love to Ginger and Loves and I hope you can both stay positive and I hope it happen really soon for you both x

Sorry I went AWOL again everyone! My last post was on the last thread right at the end, so didn't get a chance to post here again. I thought I was feeling better from getting over the flu, but I've been getting headaches all week, and still really bunged up, so think it may be my sinuses playing up. Paracetamol not helping! And I'm worried cause I've been taking it nearly everyday for 2 weeks now. DS is much better though thankfully thanks for everyone who asked.

Glad you can start your mat leave early more :) that must
be a relief for you, how many weeks are you again?

Sorry that AF got you both gingerbread and loves sending hugs and x

Hope everyone else is doing well, can't believe how fast these pregnacies are going!

mrs how's it going with your DS and the bedroom situation?

Morning!

That's lovely for your dh hungry I am definitely getting stronger kicks etc now! Still not as frequent as with dd but better than it's been. Is your dd still struggling with her teeth?

morerum brilliant news re work, how long will you have off in total then?

Hopefully the vitamins will help gingerbread, what did your gp say re LP when you saw her? I had my consultant appt last week, have another at 28 weeks & another at 34, hopefully that will be it. If there are issues there'll be more.

Ah engels you did well, only 2 days early. Fingers crossed you'll need to test again when AF is late!

Wow mrs that's good re induction only being 7 days, esp for us this time as we have a holiday booked a few weeks after the baby is due! How is your ds about the baby? Does he understand?

How far along are you now kt? I had the headaches from about 12 weeks, they only stopped last week, when I decided to make a big hydration effort. I think I'm usually pretty close to getting 2litres but apparently when pregnant you need 3 litres , so I've been pouring 3 out every morning and making sure I finish it during the day and within a day the headaches stopped. A good tip I read is to drink 8 gulps each time you've had a wee to replace the lost fluids. I was sure my headaches weren't caused by dehydration but they must have been.

Re birth, I'm not dreading it as long as I can get things worked out with my consultant presuming baby is ok. If I can have a low risk water birth I'm actually quite looking forward to it, I had a really positive birth experience last time which I think with the benefit of hindsight could be even better this time. If however, the consultant makes me get induced or have a section I'll definitely really struggle with that!

Thanks for the tip better! Will try to drink more than I am, it's a no win situation then having to go to the loo every 5 mins is it haha. I'm 15+1 now :) how far are you again? Water births are lovely, I started off in the water last time button temp shot up so got too dangerous to stay in, would love to stay in there all the way next time. Hope you get your way!

Morning,
Hi kt sorry you are feeling rotten, but maybe try the more water idea. Are you getting plenty of rest? Impossible I know with a job and a toddler, but you must try!
better the GP didn't say anything about my LP, or irregular cycles, she didn't say much at all other than 'I'm not worried' and 'You'll be fine' so a bit cross with her really. I'll go back after this month is over I think, I just want a break from thinking about it, and see if the vitamins can help, I don't hold much faith with the GPs to be honest, it just seems like a battle to get any help, and I don't have the money to pursue IVF/IUI or specialist clinics so I have to do what I can myself.....DH and I are going to go on a super healthy kick after this month is over.

engels I really hope AF pulls a no-show for you, you really deserve it after all you've been through, and all the waiting you have done. What would your EDD be though!?

mrs that does sound good about 7days, but it could be a bad thing too, DD was 9 days over; I went into labour naturally, the birth went really well and she weighed 7lb 4oz. I was so scared of being induced as I was sure it would basically lead to a long labour and eventual c-section, but after still not being recovered from a v-birth 2 years down the line I am wondering if c-sections are better!! I would have a pretty big decision to make if I ever have to make birth plans again.

I had a water birth with DD, I don't have anything to compare it to obviously, but I would recommend a water birth, if nothing else it worked as a distraction, I had a few mini milestones planned out for my birth which helped to deal with the pain, a few little things to work towards and 'look forward' to, so the first one was starting to use a tens machine for pain relief, then deciding to go into hospital, then deciding to start on the gas and air, and finally getting into the pool. I felt if I could hold off on each thing for as long as I could I was one step closer to the baby being out! I was lucky in that DD was born only 3 hours after getting to hospital. I suppose thrashing around in the water, and the warmth, did help with the pain, but it was hard getting out after she was born, and I was so cold and shaking for ages! We sat in the pool cuddling DD for maybe 15 minutes, keeping her under the water, and I thought it would be less of a shock for the baby to come out into warm water rather than bright lights and a cold atmosphere, obviously I realise now as long as they come out healthy that is all that matters, and by the time they are rambunctious 2 year olds it makes no difference how they were born!! Sorry, that's practically a birth story I've written there! Just wanted to share my water birth experience for those considering it.

Hi everyone! It's Friday night and I'm on the way home. Yay! :-)

Mrs, my scan / consultant's appt are on Weds next week when I'm 20+6.

I don't think I'd be allowed a home birth even if I wanted to. Which I don't! I think if you've had a recent c section they're really careful with you due to risk.

Better, yes, DD is taking an age to pop her top teeth out and is still suffering. Though at least she's sleeping well still. Unlike me!

What day do you finish work next week, morerum?

Kt, good to see you again! Sorry you're under the weather.

Ginger, good luck with the Vit B. :-)

Hi Loves, Fx for this cycle for you too.

Hi all!
I am goin to broach the subject of TTC with dh soon. He has agreed to TTC in summer for our 2nd, but I am hoping for April! I am just so broody and really want to have a good chance at not having a big age gap. Dd is one - so I would like 2 years around between my dc. The way i see it is the sooner we try the longer we have at ttc iyswim!? I i do fall pregnant quickly Ishall be happy too as I am insanely broody!

The other thing is I am in ADd since xmas. I wouldt be comin off these until the summer at earliest, but preferably I would like to stay on them a good year to ensure I do not have a relapse of depression in the future ( I am not prone to depression, but have heard that if you come off ads too quickly it can cause another episode)

Obviously I have researched that it is safe to take certain ADs in pregnancy. The ther option is i wait or another year or so until I am off ADs - but that is not the ideal gap we desired and who know, I could end up on ADs again and then I would be kicking myself!!

I am really happy and pnd has totally clears btw! I wouldn't say my pnd was severe - i def wouldnt ttc if I still felt depressed.
Anyone going through/ gone through similar?

So sorry for barely literate post! Stupid phone :/

Good evening all!
Hi Odaat and welcome. This thread has been going since September, started by me and so far we've had a good number of BFP's and there's a few still waiting and TTC but hopefully they will all get theirs soon too. You're welcome to join us. I haven't ever been on antidepressants so can't help too much with that but would ask a doctor how safe they are, I suspect many will be. If you really want another baby and feel ready you should go for it. Sorry to hear you had pnd, you hear do much about that and it must be really sad to go through but wonderful that you've come through it.
Hi Hungry - I bet you are glad it's the weekend! How's your week been? Can't believe you've got your scan next weds , that's come around quick that you're 20 weeks.
Hi Kt - I'm glad your DS is better but sorry you're still not 100 percent. Putting DS in his room isn't going too well, I decided to take a bark from it until April as he got really traumatised by it so going to try again. I know I'm a softie with him.
It's been really nice hearing about all the water births? They're obviously very popular. I haven't ever given that a thought, I spent a few hours of my labour in the bath and that really helped before going to the hospital so I think I'll do that again but plan to just do it on the bed and get it over with.
Ginger - good luck with the vitamin B. You will definitely get the choice to make re birth. It won't be long for you, I know it.

Thanks Mrs. Going to see my doc next week. Little nervous they will try to talk me out of ttc? My pnd was more a hormonal imbalance that made me low as opposed to lack of bond with dd or anything- what I mean is it wasn't as bad as some poor ladies have had it. My heart does go out to them. Anyway thanks fr the welcome! :) hopefully I will get a good response from dh and dr and will get an BFP come may / June! (It took a month last time... May not be so lucky next time though!) if you conceived quickly first time are you more likely to next time?

Well i came off the pill to try for my DS and it took me 7 months and I'd been on the pill for over ten years continuously. Then we decided to start trying again at the beginning of September last year, I took my last pill on the 4th sept and was pregnant in two weeks! I never had a period. Do you mind me asking if you are on the pill or if /what contraception you're using at the mo? Sometimes coming off the pill makes you fertile, which I didn't know. I would think it would probably happen pretty quickly again for you of your DD is only just 12 months as they say you're very fertile after having your baby and in that first year or just after. If you're both quite young and healthy too the chances are good. My DS will be just under two and a half when new baby comes and like you, I didn't want a too big gap. I am still very suprised to hand fallen pregnant this second time so quickly, it's amazing really. Hopefully you'll be the same.

Hi everyone! Welcome Odaat. Just wanted to tell you that I was on AD's when I got pregnant with DD. My doctor said I could continue taking them if I felt I needed it. However, I decided to try to face them out which I did and after that I have never needed them again (this is now over 3 years ago and I was on AD's for 6 years before DD). The pregnancy seemed to provide the strength that I needed to keep my head above water so to speak. Not sure if it was the hormones but it just worked naturally. I am sure everyone has different experiences but it somehow worked for me.

On the farm and its just lovely. Good to be away for a couple of days. Need to think about stuff in general and this is certainly the place for it.

Mrs- thankyou :) I was on the pill 10 years too and fell pregnant very quickly with dd. I have now been on pill again for around 5 months - i didnt know coming off the pill makes you fertile either? How? Interesting...
I guess we are fortunate that we have a lot in our favour - both young and healthy, dd just 1 , im on pill etc! So I can be hopefeful then !? Happy to hear you get pregnant so quick with dc2 - must have been a lovely suprise indeed!
Swede- ty for the welcome too :) your farm sounds delightful! Hope you get the respite you need. That is reassuring to know you were on ads too. Especially fab to hear you slowly came off them in pregnancy too, maybe I will feel that I could too. Will see , ideally I would like to stay on them a year or just over. I did take them once before and came off them too quickly which I think is partly why I got pnd too . Love this thread alreZdy ! Thanks ladies :) hope everyone has a good day.

Morning everyone, what's everyone up to this weekend?
Hi Odaat - I'm not really sure why coming off the pill makes you fertile at first, you'd hVe to Google it. I remember reading it and also my gp saying it. I think it's just when you first come off it that you have a fertile period. Some people come off the pill and have a period before getting pregnant like I did first time but this time you've not been back on it long. I'm trying to think about what happens after baby number two as I don't want to go back on the pill again or on anything with hormones. I know I'm still young, we are both 32 but I don't think putting hormones in your system is good as you get older and I don't think there's a lot of contraception to choose from. Doctors seem to push the coil but again not something I fancy. DH might consider the snip if we don't want to have anymore and I think two children is just right, for us anyway. Sorry not really related to anything ,I was just thinking about it.