About to start / Just started / Trying for a while TTC no.2 (part 5)

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Here we are ladies, part 5, with a new spin to the title to include some of us long-timers!
May it bring many, many more BFPs and some happy, healthy babies

Hello mrs I can honestly say DS loves nursery he has been known to have a paddy when he doesn't want to come home!! He has a little girlfriend which is so cute, she feeds him his lunch, which is weird as usually he has to feed himself and she runs and herds him up at the end of the day with his coat! They spend hours outside here as well which suits him down to the ground, he is much happier outside!
Are you nervous about your DS going to nursery I found it very difficult at first.
Don't know when to test definitely going to wait till AF is late ......

Morning all!

Wow mrs & morerum third trimester! almost there. Will be time to start thinking about birth soon, what are you both hoping for?

Are you seeing your consultant straight after your scan hungry? Is it a week tomorrow? How rubbish you had such a hard weekend :( re movement, I'm similar to you. I'm getting a few squirms and the odd kick, mostly on an evening, not much at all through the day and nothing compared to what I felt with dd, I felt her all the time. I don't like anterior placentas, from what I can gather, there's no set time it moves & sometimes it doesn't. Apparently as long as it's now low as well then it won't cause a problem in birth (hopefully if you get your cs it wouldn't matter to you anyway). I'm just hoping that as baby grows, less will be hidden by the placenta.

Hi guinness we did the same when TTC, took a break, literally after 2 weeks as I found it all too much! Hope it's done you good :)

Ah loves not long left in limbo now! fingers crossed for you.

How's everyone else doing?

Hi Better - I'm seeing the midwife tomorrow after lunch and she said this time we would discuss birth. She knows I want a home birth and I don't think there's any reasons against that at the moment. I had a very long prolonged labour which resulted in episiotomy and forceps but anyone can have that and doesn't mean to say I would need forceps again. I think with already having my DS too, I won't want to be away from him in hospital so really hoping all goes to plan this time. I'd just love a nice quick and easy home birth this time. What about you?

I'm really hoping for the same as last time mrs, water birth in the birth centre. But according to my consultant it's unlikely they'll let me, which I'm really gutted about, just got everything crossed I can persuade them, all being well. Whatever birth I have, I'm going to try hypnobirthing this time, I've heard great things about it!

Better, anterior placentas suck. End of. DD was super active and I felt her constantly. This is just bizarre. It'd have been better to have this pregnancy first so I didn't have DD to compare it to.

And yes, the hope re growing baby is here too.

The midwives praised my good hypnobirthing breathing last time. I think it really helped. It's worth trying.

And yes, consultant straight after my scan. Thank god. Want to know the plan!

Hi Better - I've heard a lot about hypnobirthing and it's meant to be really good. They do sessions you can go on as well as books. I've bought that book by Ina May Gaskin to help try prepare me for a positive experience and also hopefully a pain relief free birth.
Hi Loves - your DS sounds so cute having a little girlfriend. My DS went through a stage of going up to little girls in the park and he'd give a little girl a kiss. He seems to have stopped it now but we thought that was sweet. I'll probably be nervous about DS starting nursery but I think he will like it. I was hoping to just try him doing a couple of mornings a week to see how he goes. I don't want him to do full days unless he wants to as I'll be at home anyway with another baby. Got the midwife at 1.20pm tomorrow so will update.

So . . . I've told my work id like to finish next week instead of easter as im exhausted ands in alot of pain with my pelvis just need to wait till Thursday to speak to the evil one. They cant refuse can they? I'm really not clued up on these things

Hi Morerum - No they can't refuse, they're not allowed. You're legally allowed to take your mat leave from a certain point (can't remember how many weeks it is) but know for definite that we are both passed that point now as if you remember, I took leave as soon as I was able to. I finished at end of feb and march is holiday until 29th march anyway and then my mat leave starts but I could take mat leave from then. It is completely your choice and it doesn't matter what they say. I'd have said that you have decided you'd like to leave next week instead of Easter because of your health reasons and they will understand because they have to. And I think it's the right thing for you to do. You have to be comfortable at work. I was getting terrible backache at work sat all day at my desk, not sure if it was the chair or just being sat for so long but it hadn't been half as bad since finishing. It feels like two mins ago that we were both just pregnant and I'm 28 weeks on Friday. Don't you think it's gone so fast for us both?

It's flown in mrs I cant believe we will soon be mummies again I cant wait to to get my epidural - ive been in pain for weeks it will be amazing to not have back hip pelvis pain!
This pregnancy has been so different from my 1st the only similarity being the heartburn! I reckon I'm having a boy this time but only time will tell! How has this pregnancy been for you?

You are meant to give 8 weeks' notice regarding the start of your mat leave, so they may be difficult. If they are, just get signed off sick.

Most employers would understand and be ok though.

I think it's the right thing for you to do. I hope not working helps.

Hi Morerum - How are you feeling today? When will you know from work about finishing next week? I would guess you're having a boy this time with you feeling so different and it will be nice if you have one of each. This pregnancy has been fine so far but no different to my first. I've felt exactly the same so not surprisingly I'm having another baby boy. What sort of birth are you hoping for/planning to have? I can't remember what you said your first was like. Seeing the midwife this afternoon for my 28 week appointment and think she is going to discuss birth. I really hope a home birth is ok this time . A bit nervous with having forceps first time but I was in labour for so long and was exhausted that I needed some assistance. I know I will be scared when the birth gets close. How about you?

Thanks hungry I reckon theyll be arsy about it but they do have my replacement waiting in the wings! Hopefully they will play ball x

mrs I live close to a new mat unit where to had dd they were lovely my labour was 28hrs long the epidural did slow things down but id go for the same again, my biggest fear was forceps and was having a water birth till the pain set in lol I was like gimmee drugs and even told my sister who was present to go to china and adopt a baby was off my face on gas n air talking absolute shite ! they say its faster the second time so im hoping for that.
did you go early late? I was 40+4 when I went into labour and had dd 4+5 gosh this is exciting thinking im just about to do it again!

This is why I don't want to go into labour. If I'd not had a section it'd have been 6 hours from waters breaking to baby. And only 3 hours of active labour! I just want a nice, calm ELCS please!

I doubt baby will come earlier though after being moved forward a week at the scan as that means the section will be at 38 weeks in reality. DD was 3 days late by scan, bang on 40 weeks by conception. :-)

Question for you: why do I feel like I've been kicked in the lady bits? It's not good and quite a constant feeling. :-(

hungry that sounds like pelvic pain is it worse when you climb stairs? if your bump is quite low (like mine) try a support belt or tubigrip to lift it up. it helped me before I got too big x

Hi Morerum - I was the same, about 28 hours in labour and had a failed epidural. I didn't like the epidural at all, it delayed things massively and only worked down one side. I'd not have one by choice again. I'm hoping for gas and air at home. I was 12 days over.
Hungry I hope I get your c section. The thought of one if those scared me though as I've heard they are restricting when you already have a baby or toddler and also aren't you more at risk of infection? You obviously know a lot more than me about it so I'm probably totally wrong. Anderson be right, vaginal birth is dreadful anyway.

A c section is actually safer than a vaginal birth, I think.

And after how traumatic DD's birth was, I'm not really prepared to try a vaginal birth. It was awful knowing she was distressed, then having her taken away from me to go to SCBU for a while. I found out later that her first Apgar was only 1. And I never heard her cry because she wasn't well. That was seriously scary.

I know nothing is definite, but I think my best option to avoid the same is an ELCS.

They might tell me I'm having an ELCS too as it'll only be 13 months after my last and there's risk of rupture with VBAC.

And yes, morerum. Hurts when walking and on the stairs. I can feel it sitting too, but not so much.

I'll mention it to the consultant next week.

Defo hungry everyone is different you can only do what you feel most comfortable with if, I was to need a c-section they'd need to knock me out I couldn't handle being awake for that!
My boss was off today so I dont know what she will say about me finishing, the office manager has said it wont be a problem and she will speak to her on my behalf, think she can tell im apprehensive about speaking to her myself after the last time!
Hope you're not in too much pain x

It was fine being awake, though I was frozen with panic as well as having the spinal! You can't see anything and I couldn't feel any tugging, which some people say they do.

I just want skin to skin and a chance to BF straight away this time...hopefully not much to ask for!

Good luck with the boss tomorrow. I hope it goes well. Xx

And thank you. It's more discomfort at the moment, I'm just hoping it doesn't get worse.

Hi Hungry - I think you're right about c sections. They say that's safer for the baby but not for you. It's all scary stuff but I'm sure you'll be able to have what you want, especially after last time. I saw the midwife today for my 28 week appointment and everything was good, heard baby's heartbeat etc. We discussed the home birth I want and the midwife is writing off to the home birth team at the hospital who will be coming to see me and DH to discuss it all. I really fancy the idea of a home birth and think I'd be so much more relaxed.
Hi Morerum - Good luck with work!

Hungry - I am all for C-section as well. My last one went fine and I was up and walking the very next day and went home then as well. Never had any problems. Definitely having it again this time. Luckily I get to chose as its private and my insurance pays for it.

Not been on here for a while, dealing with some cr@p at home at the moment. There is a public holiday here tomorrow so long weekend and we are going to see DD's god parents on the farm, cant wait!

Hope everyone is great today!!

AF got me..........ginger if your out there do you want to join me for a slice of we can rant about how unfair the world is like a pair of stroppy teenagers?

sending lots of to everyone else in the TWW

Exciting thinking about birth plans - its such an individual thing I hope you all get what you want. you may also have a slice of my because its lovely to hear you all talk about pg and birth and stuff it reminds me my time will come ............. (though universe can you make it sooner rather then later because the suspense is killing me)

Hi Loves - Sorry AF got you, I hope you're feeling ok. It certainly will happen for you very soon I am sure and also for Ginger! I will definitely have some cake with you. In fact, DS and me have just made a ginger cake as we have my MIL and FIL coming round this afternoon. How's everyone else doing?

I'm sad and i'm scared, I know in a few days I will feel better and be optimistic and tell myself that a January baby is actually much better blah blah blah but right now i'm finding it difficult to pick myself up.

Sorry that sounds very woe is me, but in RL i'm not talking about this even with DH it's just oh never mind next time it will happen.

But right now I have a fear it won't happen and I want this a lot, thanks for listening it helps

Sorry that you feel sad Loves, it's understandable when it's something you want so badly but I always think these things happen when we relax about them and put it out of the mind a bit. I know that might sound daft as it's hard to put out of the mind but I stopped taking the pill and knew we were trying but it just happened so quickly without me even realising. It will happen for you very soon I am positive x

I know it will, that was my gloomy moment this morning which I needed to have. I'm already feeling much better and looking forward to the weekend :)

In general I am relaxed about it. I'm honestly not one to dwell on things I have no control over. It took us a year the first time and i'm fine with that being the case this time around, for some of us that's just the way it goes.

My DH has arranged the and for this evening and anyway a January baby would be sooooo much better