TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting Eachother & Staying Positive :)

[mama31]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive for a lengthy period of time who may be considering/attending further tests/scans or is about to begin fertility treatment. I hope this thread can provide information and support, alleviate fears and can help one another to remain positive during this difficult journey that can only be understood by those experiencing it.

Please join and share your story, knowledge, support, laughter and tears.

Yes one I love your symptom spotting plan! Might look a bit strange if I suddenly start doing sit ups in the middle of the office floor, but I will go with it as a deterrent!! Hows this for a weird one - I had a dream last night I was having a nose bleed, and therefore knew I was definately pregnant, as they can be a symptom of early pregnancy, needless to say I was disappointed when I woke up...maybe that's what prompted the ridiculous POASing!!
mama your weekend sounds lovely, have a nice long soak in that jacuzzi for all of us, and some champagne please!
I think opks have a bit of a love/hate relationship about them. They are great to show you when and hopefully if you are ovulating, but they can become an obsession and put the pressure on to immediately have sex when you get a positive! I think if you can judge by cm or pain that's a pretty good indicator, but I get neither so they are quite useful for me.
one how bloody annoying about your letter. I hope you get some answers tomorrow. The waiting is the worst, I wish we all had a magic ball that would tell us when it would be our time, then you could just get on with your life until said time!

Well I have just heard a happy ending story of a couple trying for a baby so thought I would share it with you all, positivity and all that, they were trying for 2 years, had all the tests done and the results weren't good, so they give up trying and try to move on....lo and behold she is now pregnant ( I promise you it's a true story, not one I just plucked out of a fairytale storybook)

Ginger thanks I absolutely will have a fab wkend!! :) wow I just love your true story...makes me all warm and fuzzy inside :) how amazing and wonderful. That is a set of parents who will cherish this time so so much....like we all will....soon!

Happy nearly weekend all!

Can't believe how much is going on here this week!

Victoria and Jesse - I don't know how you don't use OPKs, and I'm so jealous. I don't want to but it's become an obsession! I used them for months before I finally got a positive and now I live for that extra line!
Ginger - I know that exact feeling of 'slightly' poas! I've been there on both kind of sticks knowing its the wrong time but liek I said...OBSESSED!!

OneLife - I'm loving the sympton spotting punishments. Fingers crossed it works one way or the other!!

It's definitely hard to keep positive and mindful when everywhere you look there are babies, or other pregnancies but all we can do is try and remember it will be us some time soon (whilst we sob obviously).

Sounds like some great weekend plans. I'm CD9 today (and so started opks!) so the weekend is the start of the dtd season for us! I always aim for eod but am lucky if we manage that. Excuse for OPK use is smep but with both me and dh in busy and stressful jobs we rarely manage to dtd anywhere near that often - just too tired, plus he works away most weeks. With CD16 being my usual likely opk+ and him away next week, it wil be another month lost though :-(

This thread is totally keeping me sane at the moment though and love the humour your all bring. We're either all totally normal or totally bonkers, but either way I don't mind anymore!

Aw that's a lovely success story ginger, deffo gives us all hope it will happen sooner or later (hopefully sooner obvs!)

I'm also obsessed with poa anything, couldn't do without my opks! It helps me feel like I have at least some level of control in this darn process!

Still feeling nauseated off and on so off to do some pre-snooze sit ups!

Roll on 4pm Friday! Sounds like some fab weekend plans going on.

Imaginary get those sit ups done!!! no symptom spotting! Haha! Please remind me of this next week!

Happy Friday ladies!!!! Hooray it's the wkend!!! And a long weekend for St Patrick Day! :)

Morning ladies, bad news here I'm afraid, AF got me this morning, 3 days early, giving me a cycle of 23 days and an LP of 7 days. That's not great is it? I don't understand what is going on with my cycles! They always used to be so regular
Well onto cycle 10 I go now so I can officially join this thread!
Looks like I'll be making another trip to the doctors and stressing to her that something isn't right....

Oh no Ginger!!!! That's so annoying! Yes get yourself to the GP. Also perhaps consider AC. I had a longer cycle, longer LP (earlier ovulation) last month when I started it and assuming this month will be the same as ovulation was again another day earlier. Hugs to you, get yourself a huge bottle of wine for tonight.

Sorry to hear Ginger :-( good luck with GP tho I went after month 9 and got sent away with a flea in my ear. Went back on month 14 and finally getting tests month 16!!

Got my tv scan thing date today, 25th and due af on 30th ish. Bit worried about the timing in case I did get lucky this month and the scan thing ruins it?! I'll have to explain that we been actively ttc and there might be a bean in there?!

I'm sure I'm ov today (opk might have come in handy huh?) coz I'm getting that twingy belly feeling though I'm only day 12. Does anyone get pains? I get pains for 2-4 days so goodness knows when actual egg release day is out of those days. But it also feels like there is some kind of huge bubble in there on the left so when I bend it compresses it making it hurt more... Plus is causes difficulty in doing a wee! Like my bladder is compressed by the imaginary bubble and I can only trickle... Doc didn't seem bothered by this, just saw it asa good sign I ov! Glad I'm going for a reluctantly given scan. Kinda hope they find something in a wierd way to "show the doctors what for", but of course I want to be normal too!

Hi ginger- Boooo to AF but I am with you here because your luteal phase and cycle length are identical to mine the last 3 months. I've had 24, 25 and 23 days all with luteal phases (I think) of 7/8 days. SO annoying. I'm giving the AC and B vitamins another 3 months because that's when DH says he will do the SA. I'll see if there's any improvement in LP and if not, take charts to my doctor. Interested to hear what you doc says if you go!

Victoria I had more pronounced ov pains this month. Got pos opk Wed lunch time. Wed evening I had quite short Sharpe stabbing pains, then Thurs all day felt bloated and had lots of twinges. Also lose my appetite around ovulation, feel moody/oversensitive/emotional.

That's great you got your scan date through.

Lindsay last month I had a 26 day cycle on AC and I'm finding it's helping me ov sooner each month so far (the last 2). So stick with it. I'm taking Nature's Aid AC, what one are you taking? I was taking 2 tablets a day on an empty stomach but have reduced to 1 a day as I feel that's enough. All the research I've done reccomend taking it on an empty stomach first thing in the morning, half an hour before eating if possible (I take mine 10 mins before I eat)

Right ladies have a good weekend! We are setting off to the in laws cottage in the sticks for the weekend and there will be no phone reception let alone broadband! Nooooooooo! Lol!

See ya all Monday! X

Ginger, so sorry to hear about af she's a mean old thing. Hope you're feeling ok, and if not hold on to the thought that you will do in a little bit but in the meantime hit the choccy and the wine and treat yourself to whatever you fancy

Victoria - have a fab weekend, sounds wonderful!! And i wouldn't worry about your scan - still check with them beforehand but they use TV scans to detect/monitor early pregnancies so should all be fine.

Imaginary, hope you managed your sit ups! 2 for me today so far....

And the BEST news is .......i've got my appointment!!!!!!!!! And it's on Wednesday!!!!!! Can't believe it!!! Thought we'd be waiting ages. No idea what they're going to do at the appointment - getting scared about TV scans myself now though - but i'm just so glad i know when it is. Not sure if dh will be able to make it, so hoping he can, but it's right in the middle of the day so will be hard for him with work and they said I can come on my own to the first one so maybe he needs to save his boss's goodwill for future times? hmm... But anyhoo i am ridiculously excited about it, never thought my life would come to this, my main excitement being a hospital appt!!! Rock n roll!!! lol

Happy Friday ladies, enjoy the sunshine

Sorry to hear that ginger so annoying! What was your cycle like last month 23 days too? I think a trip to the GP is worth booking too
Yay to you getting your appointment one life and that is really good news you didn’t have to wait too long for it. TV scan is not too bad so try not to worry – I was more interested in looking at the screen that showed my womb so interesting to see it on the monitor.
I’m counting down the hours until 5.30 – I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend!

Thanks for your words everyone, after getting AF this morning I don't know what I would do without MN to turn to! I have had a lovely morning with some friends, then lunch with family, so far today I have had some cake, a cappuccino, some chips, picked up some wine for tonight, and am now tucking into a brew with some chocolate! Going out with DH tomorrow night too, so am trying not to mope too much. Well I just plucked up the courage to ring the docs to get my test results, everything has come back normal, but as the tests were 3 days early would they still necessarily be normal if they'd been done 3 days later? The nurse didn't seem to think so, and she said if I was getting signs of ov-ing then maybe I should keep trying and waiting and hoping...
Think I will leave it a month or so before going back to the docs, was going to take a bit of a break next month anyway as a Dec baby wouldn't be ideal, we won't stop DTD though! pink my cycle last month was 26 days with a 9 day LP, so a bit more normal.
one hurray for you!! So glad you finally got your appointment through, and soon too! Will they do any scans/tests do you know or is it just an initial meet and greet type thing?
Lindsay it's so annoying isn't it! I'm glad someone else has daft cycles too, although it does suck. Is DH going to try and eat/live more healthy before his tests or is he just plucking up the courage in the next 3 months?
victoria probably too late now but hope you have a lovely weekend!

Ginger, so sorry to hear that. I can't stand the anticipation post ovulation. I feel so redundant at that stage of the month. I have been finding myself having little treats once AF arrives - maybe an extra delicious bottle of wine, or going out for a nice meal, or spending the day with friends or my sister.
I also think each month have a couple of days of feeling down, then dust yourself off and think, let's move on to next month. Be extra lovely to yourself!

Onelife - mega excited for you. Quite quick overall - what trust are you? Hubby changed his appointment to Tuesday for results. Might have a large bottle of red open by this time on Tuesday!

Happy weekend ladies xxx

Hi mama- it's really good that AC has worked for you like that. I feel like I have actually O-ed a day later with it this month (although can't be sure exactly about previous O days). Honestly, I feel like my period could start tomorrow and I'm only 3/4 dpo. Seriously twinges/ uterus contractions and even some dull AF pains. This is exactly what happens before AF. I hope I haven't royally screwed my cycles worse than they were! I take the tincture, 20 drops in AM (empty stomach) and 20 in PM. I think I'll ride it out for a couple more months to give it a chance.

ginger- I know, I hate it. I'd give anything for a 28 day, 14 day LP cycle!!! DH just needs some time to build-up to the thought of making a sexy explosion in a wee jar. Haha! He is quite macho, a guys guy, if you know what I mean. All this is alien to him. He's a good hubby though and agreed to do it right away, but asked if we could we wait til his birthday first and see if anything happens. Health and fitness wise, he is great so probably not much more he could do there.

one Whooop! Great news to kick off your weekend!

Ah Lindsay he sounds lovely, and what a sensible compromise he has come up with! It must be hard for them, I know we have to have all sorts pushed and poked up our private parts but they have to do something pretty intimate in a totally un-sexy sterile environment! I think my DH would be the same, he'd do it for me but would need time to get his head round it.
Hope the AC is just taking this month to sort itself out for you then it will start lengthening your cycles. I think the most annoying thing for me getting AF is that it has come early, rather than the fact it came at all, it just feels like its one step forward two steps back. What I wouldn't give for a 28 day cycle too, I used to have that before I started all this ttc malarkey!
I know you've said before but I have a memory like a sieve, are you taking vitb as well? CD1 for me now so I will go and fish mine out of the cupboard...is AM or PM better to take vitb?

Yep ginger this was also my first month on the b100 complex. In hindsight, I maybe should have done either/ or with AC and bvits just to see what they did alone. But I have never been one to do anything by halves! Haha! :-/ I take them in the morning with breakfast, I haven't read anything that says there is a "best" time. OMG they make my pee bright fluorescent yellow! I got such a fright the first time I saw it!

Haha! I have read it can do that lindsay! Makes life a bit more interesting!

Jesse they sound like lovely ideas, you are right we should be kind to ourselves for a few days. I have got a nice weekend planned luckily and its DHs birthday next week so there will be plenty of wine and cake about!

Hi everyone.

Sorry I've been away: no reason - work and evenings manic which is great as if got me through cd1-6 so I'm out of the tunnel and here to support!

I agree that even though we women get prodded, it's really hard for the men. My DH is a man's man too and it's sick an intimate thing there do where I can put what they do to me down to physiology...

So pleased your appt is in one. Let me know what they do - mine is 2nd April and be good to know what to expect!

lindsay if you can and without making a big deal of it to DH, it's REALLY worth getting him on conception vits for three months. It can make a big difference in men (anecdotal evidence from mn) and the results are very quantative so a few more here and there might boost his sense of manliness. It's sounds stupid but I wish I'd known. DH's results were fine but if I could've subtlety done more to make him feel better; I would've.

ginger thanks for the good news story. always appreciated!!

I'm feeling great again ladies! So upbeat. I'm an opk addict BUT this month since I have my appt in April AND it would be dec baby (which I would be over the moon with but still...) I'm not poas AT ALL this month. No poas for me Tim WELL into April.

Happy Friday ladies!!!

m33r you sound much more upbeat! :-)))) re the vitamins- I'm not sure if I want to give him an excuse to act any more manly/ testosterone-y!!! Haha! But in reality, I'm sure as time goes on, he probably does question things. And a multi vitamin can't do any harm. If AF comes the next few days I'll maybe say why doesn't he try it in the couple of months before the SA to see if it helps. Thanks!

I'm much better lindsay - thanks! Chances are, it's going to happen for us all and if not, well we'll work it out! Good luck with the vits! X