TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting Eachother & Staying Positive :)

[mama31]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive for a lengthy period of time who may be considering/attending further tests/scans or is about to begin fertility treatment. I hope this thread can provide information and support, alleviate fears and can help one another to remain positive during this difficult journey that can only be understood by those experiencing it.

Please join and share your story, knowledge, support, laughter and tears.

notta I agree your aren't late until Thursday. fx

Jesse congrats on anniversary, sorry AF is on her way

ginger just want to confirm you are measuring after ov to AF as lp. it should never change and less than 10 days is considered leutal phase defect (although from what I've read online a lot of GPS don't know lpd exists) and can cause problems as not enough time for implantation. easily fixable though I think. b vits is supposed to be a good start. sorry if you know all this.

Ooh Notta I so hope this is your month. I wouldn't tell DH though, (if it's not too late!) might make the disappointment all the worse for you if it comes to that. Obviously completely your choice! I know when I have tried to discuss being late, and dates and all the ins and outs with DH before he is not really interested, he thinks I am mad, and thinks it should be as simple as, ooh no period, take a test, its positive, I'm pregnant, hurrah!!!!
lil thanks for all your info! Unfortunately I discovered a while ago about LPD, and diagnosed myself and have been taking B6 for about 8 weeks now! Only 50mg a day, but it did increase my LP to 11 days last cycle, so hopefully it will be a bit more this month. Yes my LP has definitely been different month to month, very strange isn't it! No idea why it would happen, but I'm worried that it doesn't spell good things, especially after my blood tests revealed I might not be ov'ing at all, which I suppose would support the LP being all messed up, as maybe the opks were just showing a rise in LH rather than confirming ovulation...gosh sorry for the waffle, it's all such a minefield. Feel like I'm doing a bloody science PHD trying to work all this out!!!!

Ooh DH is just getting home. I won't tell him. I think you're right ginge in that it will be best for him if i just tell him when something happens!

I hope your LP sorts itself out. I was worried about mine being short due to short cycles but apparently they don't go hand in hand.

jesse that's the worst part of ttc for me. Seeing DH sad... Sometimes he's sad because I'm sad and that makes me feel awful. It's the worst. I know it means nothing now but there's always next month. Have some wine and enjoy your anniversary. X

Nothing to report.....

Well done for not poas! FX for tomorrow x

Urgh, spotting started for me this morning at 7 dpo. Not unexpected as have been having mild cramps since 4dpo which got stronger yesterday, its so crap.

Had day 21 blood test yesterday so will call the docs next week to see what that shows.

Glad still no af for you notta

Had another bad tummy experience just before leaving the house. Don't know what thats about. Have come to work though as don't feel too bad. Just tired.

ginger if you have short lp day21 test 7days before AF will be useless. you need to have it 7dpo, even if that's 3 days before AF. I wish gps knew more about this stuff. it seems we end up having to educate them. you could still be ovulating. if your lp is changing though that could mean no ov/its not an lp. fx the b vits start to help soon.

notta I'm on the edge of my seat for you here!

sorry forgot who 7dpo spotting was? could be ib. stay positive.... thread title demands it! lol

Hello ladies! I've been lying low again. Just popped on to say a huge good luck to Notta!!!!! Hope af stays away!!!

Imaginary...sorry about the dreaded spotting! it's such a pain :(

Lil...love that your reinforcing the positivity :)

Don't ask me where I am in my cycle as I've no idea!!! First time ever I haven't counted cycle days! Not using opks either.....just shagging and will see what happens. I could definately work out my cycle days if I wanted to...but right now...ignorance is bliss :)

Hope everyone else is ok and so hoping we get another BFP on our thread, we need it so much!!!!!

Was wondering about you mam enjoy your just shagging!! How is it going? Are you ferling relaxed about it?

lil I thought 21 day tests should be 7days before AF? Thats what i read on here....but you say 7dpo instead? hopefully won't need to know

Despite being at work today I can't stop checking in to see any updates from Notta!!

I have heard both, that it needs to be 7dpo and 7 days pre AF, I guess it would be in an ideal world of 14 day LP with a 28 day cycle. I couldn't figure out which way was more important so I have tried to strike a balance between the 2! I had bloods taken at 6dpo and again 10 dpo, had to fall on the bloody bank holiday weekend didn't it, so couldn't manage 7 8 or 9 dpo If I go off of last months cycle which was 28 days, AF is due on Friday, so my 6dpo bloods would be near enough 7 days before AF. Err my head hurts thinking about all this! lil I agree with you, does feel more like we are explaining the ins and outs of it all to our GPs! Thank you for the positive vibes reminder! I am at the annoying stage of thinking this could be my month one minute to thinking of course I'm not going to be pregnant the next. I am struggling to stay awake today, feeling hungry, and a bit sick could be the kitkat and strong coffee I just had but in my heart of hearts I know I won't be pregnant.

mama I am very impressed with your tactics this month! Maybe I will adopt a similar approach next month, still got a few months to wait for our referral app and DHs SA to come through, so maybe a bit of a break would be good, must be so refreshing not knowing what day you are on! Weirdly my cd this month coincides with the actual date, so today is cd27, so there is no chance of me not knowing where I am!!

Blue how are you??

Imaginary sorry for the blasted spotting starting. for you, hope your results next week will be good news though, I'll get mine next week too, so we will get through them together!

I'm at work too ginger being constantly harrassed by my friend to go poas. She even bought some for me!!

Cd 28 of a 25 day cycle..... Lol!

I will test in the morning if af doesn't arrive. I can't believe it could really happen. Everytime I go to the loo I keep expecting spotting at the very least if not full on SF but no, nothing.

My hopes are getting up....

Afternoon,

Ginger Thanks for thinking of me...im all good here no spotting in sight which I am so thankful just wish it hadnt messed up 4 days of dtd.
I had my day 21 tests on day 21 but my cycles tend to be 28 days and no more than 31 days.

Notta You have the patience of a saint hold of poas as long as you can.

Mama I wish I could do it the way you are im to obsessed now with everything.

Day 21 today nothing to report really except mega tired running a letting agent on my own is killing me no spotting today so at least I can jump on DP later have stopped taking everything but the vitamins incase it was something I was taking.

However im thinking I may not have ovulated OPKS got darker and then stayed the same, I tested twice a day to make sure I didnt miss anything so im not sure although ive read some people it just doesnt work for

Getting fed up of the buses at the moment because no one ever answers anything I ask so im going to sit back from them for a while and feel sorry for myself lol

Also at work obviously working

Notta POAS ALREADY!!!!!! Seriously! I'm in suspense!!!!!!

Blue I have done the obsessing believe me! I was a serious poas addict! It's so liberating not being like that anymore! I just feel the need to live life and what will be will be! it helps that I have a lot on at the minute so great distraction!

Noooo mam lol! I will. Tomorrow. :-)

I am hopeful but also convinced that theres another reason behind af being late.

Such as, I've had a stinking cold and have taken at least a weeks worth of cold & flu tablets. Maybe that has affected it?

blue I've not been on the bus much. I find they move too fast and I can't keep up, so I end up a bit of an outsider. Also, I have started to struggle seeing newbies getting their bfps immediately. Glad your spotting has gone.

I prefer it here.

DH wanted to dtd this morning. I wa sure AF would arrive mid dtd if we did so deflected. He just thinks AF is here now so will be surprised if I do get a bfp!

re day 21, the prog is highest at 7dpo and starts to trail off after than unless you are pg then the corpus leutum takes over generating it or something! and as it tails off you get AF. so with a 12day lp for eg 7days pre AF would be 5dpo and prog could be "not ov" on a day 21 test, but you may still have ov iyswim. I am by no means an expert, thus is just what I have learnt from 18 months ttc sat on Google and mn!

mam you would be well placed on the jsing board! I really wish I could give up the opks! but with such irregular cycles I know the not knowing would drive me insane!

notta fingers crossed for you - how you haven't poas yet I do not know! I so wish I had more time to be on here ATM but been busy and ill etc bleurgh! I am now convinced I have a screwed up cycle as physically I felt exactly the same but cb ov test put of at CD21 with flashing Emily from cd16 and AF I'm pretty sure has arrived today on cd25 (which is early - normally 26-28). Think it might be time to visit gp...

AAarrrggh damn autocorrect! Ov not of and smily not Emily!!!!

Lol @ flashing emily!!

I have gained the will power as I really don't want to be disappointed...

Lol our neice is called Emily, dh would not be impressed with her going round flashing.....

Fingers crossed you won't be dissapointed - instead tomorrow you'll be shouting bfp from the rooftops :-)

Hope so MB

I t will be Cd 29 tomorrow. Unheard of!

I'm so excited for you!