TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting Eachother & Staying Positive :)

[mama31]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive for a lengthy period of time who may be considering/attending further tests/scans or is about to begin fertility treatment. I hope this thread can provide information and support, alleviate fears and can help one another to remain positive during this difficult journey that can only be understood by those experiencing it.

Please join and share your story, knowledge, support, laughter and tears.

No one told me that the scan for PCOS was TRANS VAGINAL! TRANS VAGINAL!! EWWWW

Guess I need to get used to people looking up my foof! Lol!

victoria lol- yes i'd quite happily let someone look up my foof too if it meant a tiny person at the end good luck with that!

Well im a complete numpty, forgot to do my opk this morning. Raging at myself. It's a clear blue one, which tells you to use fmu, do you think i'd be ok later in the day ladies? It was an empty circle yesterday so im not expecting a lot today but still want to do test to be sure.

Martie I would do the opk just in case I'm sure it will show if there's a surge fmu or not.

No problem shelly this ttc gets so expensive, amazon has saved me from bankruptcy on preggo tests/opks alone! I'm refusing to buy preg tests this month though...in my mind the outcome of that will be that it will stop me testing early/obsessing/wasting money/squinting at evaps....however the reality is I'm probably going to be out a fortune in preggo tests from my local store because I didn't buy the cheapos off amazon....

Well last night I was at a friends house and felt strong ovulation pains on my left side, stronger than usual. I was supposed to stay for another hour but I know I was getting tired and needed to get home to dtd (bad friend). I dashed home to dtd as I was so excited to dtd bang on time with ovulation pains....am I crazy? Yes.

Victoria, I had my tv scan last week, don't worry it's not too scary! The thing they use is quite slim, and it wasn't too uncomfortable. It's quite fascinating as they had a screen facing me so I could see what she could see. And she did tell me the results straight away and gave me a letter to take to my docs. Afterwards had a slight kind of period pain but only for a few hours.

No, not crazy at all mama! It's comforting to know that you've done everything you can, with the knowledge you have (or think we have!)

martie victoria Wow- I wonder what the inside of a "foof" looks like! LOL! Agreed that it's a small price to pay if it works some thing out though :)

shelly I tend to agree that this is actually a GOOD sign and you are feeling a strong ovulation. With that and your "normal" results, I think you are just playing the waiting game now, so do what you can to enjoy life and clear your head of negative thoughts whenever possible xo

Me, I kind of feel like I usually do after ovulation. Nothing for a day or so and then small, localised twinges start, before the dull cramps and then AF. LP is usually only 7/8 days. Part of me is hoping the AC and Bvits have done something already but a) I know they say it can take a few months and b) I'm still sceptical they'll do anything at all!

Friday eve! Where has this week gone?!

Mama - last week I refused to even allow my husband to cook and eat dinner and made him dtd as soon as we were home from work. We are all los

Silly phone - that meant to say losing the plot!

Morning ladies, lots to catch up on!
With the SMEPing, I really don't think I could do it, even EOD is a struggle for me sometimes! We were going to dtd last night as a last ditch attempt, cd22, but couldn't be bothered! hums to self....
I also agree with going ahead and booking holidays, nice to have something to look forward to, and as one said it will still be nice with a bump! As long as you don't book a 18-30s holiday in Ibiza!!
jesse sorry about the friend situation, also think a text would have sufficed, hope you have a lovely weekend.
victoria sorry about your pet hope you are feeling a bit brighter today, despite the upcoming invasion of privacy!! It is definately something you will need to get used to though!
Can't believe how long some of you are waiting on getting SA tests, craziness! Hope your GPs pull their fingers out of their arses soon.
mama31 high fives to you for your early positive opk! That is brilliant news, and encouraging to see the AC working.
Sorry to anyone I've missed out....there are quite a few of us having tests and further treatments then, hopefully some answers will be made for us all soon. The nurse said I could ring up today to see if the blood test results are in, but I can't really be bothered to, as the test was done on the wrong day the results are going to be pointless! Guess I will just make another appointment with my Dr, it's so tempting to just bury your head in the sand isn't it....
I need some help with restraining from symptom spotting ladies, I feel like I've been more hungry recently !
Also, I may have slightly POAS this morning, very out of character for me, and completely ridiculous as I am only 7dpo so knew what the result would be, and of course it was bfn!

OMG ginger I am LOLing... How do you "slightly" pee on a stick? Hahaha! I'm imagining you kind of stopping mid-flow like "Dammit! I've done it again!"
Thanks for the giggle! xo

Love it ginger!

My best friend at work just told me she is pregnant with her third. There is an epidemic!
DH gets his SA results on Monday I hope. It is drivin me crazy knowing they are at the doctors. But trying not to pressurise him into going today/tomorrow. Trying to stay cool and failing miserably!

pink thanks for the info. I hope I get to see the screen too! Did you have to go at a certain time of the month? The letter says I need to book within a month of the date of referral. Obviously you can't go when you're "on". I'll have to explain that we are actively ttc tho in case I get appointment week before af and I might have got lucky. How did you book up?

ginger did you have day 21 tests? All I did was phone to get bloods taken on the day I knew was 'day 21' for my cycle. It just requires a nurse or phlebotomist 2 mins to take the blood. Did GP suggest day 2-5 bloods too? That's where they have found my issue, high LH.

Ladies in general.... Am I the only person not using opks? I said to myself last month that I would buy them this month but didn't get round to it. Too late to get on amazon now!

Glad I gave you a giggle!! I knew it was daft before I did it but yet I went ahead anyway...think I am getting POAS withdrawal symptoms...

victoria Yes I had day 21 bloods done, the gp told me to book them on day 21, so I did, but then I tried to re-book them for 7dpo, but they didn't have any appointments available, even though yes I was only in with the nurse for 2 mins! GP didn't suggest any other tests, I think she only did those to keep me 'happy'. Think I will have to make another appointment to see her....
What does high LH suggest then for you?
have you never used opks? I only started on the advice of mumsnet, and as a result have realised I have a short LP, but also, it's nice to get a positive on some kind of stick!!!

Jesse....i think we are alike...DH often doesn't get his dinner until the deed has been completed! Lol he works shifts and if he gets home and DS is out with friends or at a club then we need to take the opportunity soon as he gets home to dtd!!! Worse than that, if his shifts don't allow time for dtd, when he finishes night shift he stays awake until lunch time so I can nip home to dtd on my lunch hour! Not sure if he is dedicated to the cause...or just perhaps as crazy as I am!!!!!

Victoria...I use opks because I am a control freak and like to know everything! I think it's a good idea to use them anyway just to be sure of dtd at the right time....and as stated above it is exciting to get a 2nd line on a stick....just can't wait until it's on a preggo test rather than an opk!

Victoria - my GP referred me and they just sent me a letter with an appointment time, no mention of the best time of the month to attend. It actually was in the week before af and in my dreams I was hoping for her to turn around and tell me there was a baby in there lol!

mama and *onelife” no idea how long I will have to wait for my operation. I was told anything from 6 weeks or 4 months or longer so who knows.
Victoria I’m angry for you!! How frustrating! But good news that you’ve been referred for a scan. I didn’t realise it was a trans vag either – boy I was surprised when the nurse asked me to remove my underwear (!)
imaginery I too have never ever seen a line. Perhaps there is still hope? Wi
martie1 I get twinges like stitches on my left or right side around cd6 and cd13 and they last around an hour my doctor said it was a good sign that I ovulated.
welcome shelly55 and Pinkhevs (I might have to namechange our names are too similar!) Endo also runs in my family and I’ve had bloods, tv scan currently on waiting list for a laparoscopy..
mama yay to the positive opks!! This is a good sign and like others have said shows the AC is working – fantastic!

So what are everyone's plans for the weekend? Tomorrow I'm going out for my friends birthday meal and this Saturday I might treat Mr PinkHat to a picnic if the weather stays good!

Good point - you were here first so Pinkhevs has undergone a transformation and is now Heather31 :)

I can either call and make an appointment at a hospital the other side of the city "in the next four weeks" or wait for a letter from the hospital where I actually work for an appointment there, which could be a long wait. Thinking about what to do. I'd need to take a day off work to do option 1 or pop out for an hour for option 2.

No I've never done opks. I don't know if I'd have the time to be honest as I'm a work freak (see above!) I've just been relying on side pains and cm! Er maybe next month?!

Oh also about the scan.. at least I will know to tidy up down there! Lol!

I've been very crampy all day and feeling rather moody! Must be O Day. We are not dtd tonight as we often feel we may be overdoing it, so skipping tonight as have dtd last 2 nights in a row and supposed to be sticking to eod. Will dtd tomorrow night after our date night :) off for a nice meal, few drinks then home for a shagfest! Lol

I'm off for a spa break with the girls at the wkend so looking forward to that! (and hoping that rumours re Jacuzzis and saunas helping implantation are true)

Hello ladies, hope the sun has his hat on (be it pink or imaginary) where you are

STILL no letter!! Rang secretary, she didn't answer so I left a message asking her to ring me today but haven't heard anything and their hours say 9-4 so not going to speak to her today. I'm going to be straight on it tmrw, just want to know my appointment date Pinkhat, the waiting is tedious isn't it, I'd just rather know, even if it was a few months away, at least you can countdown to it, but the not knowing is the worst.

Other than that though all ok here!! No symptoms, but trying not to spot any so that makes it easier Ginger, I'll try and reign you in abit, I'm 7dpo too, repeat after me 'I must not symptom spot' And as a deterrent I have just come up with a master plan - every time we start thinking we have a symptom we have to do a press up or a sit up (both of which I hate!!) So this should work two ways (1) it will stop us from symptom spotting as both press ups and sit ups are evil (2) if we fail and have to do them then we will become toned lovelies with buff bods!!!! It's a win win. Sound like a plan?!

Mama, happy O day Glad the ac seems to be having the right effect. Spa weekend sounds lovely, so jel, enjoy! And yes fx for jacuzzi implantation please, you're under strict instructions, you MUST have a jacuzzi for the good of your potential little bean!!!

Thanks for the tip off re the likelihood of TV scan at hospital appointment, Victoria loving the need for a little 'maintenance', I'll be doing the same just in case, better to be prepared!!!

Jesse, you poor thing, you sound surrounded, have a hug xx

M33r, how are you doing lovely? Hope you're ok xx

Victoria - I don't use opks. My ovulation day does vary and I don't think they helped me personally. We usually do a modified Smep anyway. I did use them previously, and I always got the positive line although the day varied slightly. One month, I used them, then I Realised husband was away on the night it was positive and I was really upset.
I think dtd every other night is just as good.

Onelife - I also need to man up and realise that other people being pregnant does not affect our chances!

Stay strong ladies x x

Hey one! I'm hearing ya! I will most definately be in the jacuzzi (could I sneak wine in? Or is that wrong? lol)

I will be remembering those symptom spotting rules...fab abs here I come!!! haha!

Hi all, wow so much going on on this thread! Im also loving the symptom spotting punishment onelife , im going to have cameron diaz style abs by the end of this month if I go with that!

victoria i used opks last summer, and then stopped as I felt I was putting myself under pressure. Since new year Ive bought them again. They provide me with some comfort to know im actually ovulating especially when the solid smiley tallies with the huge stitch I tend to get around ovulation time.

Im not quite sure I follow the whole testing on cd21 by the GP. Can anyone explain?

ginger you are hysterical with your slightly poas- its good to try keep the whole bfn cheery! mama I had no idea jacuzzis/sauna's were good for implantation. I'd always heard they were bad for pregnant woman so just assumed they'd be bad when ttc. This is fantastic news!!!

My smep is under way. We started on cd10 (yesterday) since we'd dtd on cd7 which I hope makes up for the fact that we didn't dtd on cd8 as recommended. Decided to shake it up last night and jumped in the shower with dh got to keep the spontaneity going even if this ttc does its best to squeeze the fun out of dtd!

DH and i are off to a friends wedding this wkend and Im thoroughly looking forward to a little glass of wine or three (or four or five), ive been so good recently I thoroughly deserve it! and the big O prob won't be til middle of next week anyways!