TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting Eachother & Staying Positive :)

[mama31]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive for a lengthy period of time who may be considering/attending further tests/scans or is about to begin fertility treatment. I hope this thread can provide information and support, alleviate fears and can help one another to remain positive during this difficult journey that can only be understood by those experiencing it.

Please join and share your story, knowledge, support, laughter and tears.

Gasp! Just saw this thread fell off the first page! LOL :-)

Hope everyone is having a nice weekend. It's been fairly relaxing for me. Gym and then watching the six nations on Saturday. Then we went out to the one and only local pub (we live in a TINY village!) and drank far too much. Oops!

Good news is that I am on cd25 so if I can last through today then at least my cycle will be longer than the 23 and 24 days of the last couple of months. :-) Of course given that I likely O-ed on cd19/20 then I obviously hope for at least a 30day cycle.... Unheard of for me though! Time will tell I guess (of course, I am TRYING to live in the "now" LOL!)

Haha I noticed the same Lindsay so thought I'd see how everyone is.

Drinking too much sounds like a good weekend , DH and I went out last night too, didn't drink a vast amount but am feeling a bit fuzzy headed today as I am such a light weight!!
Well done you for getting to day 25! It does feel like such a triumph doesn't it, I was like that last cycle, not so much this cycle though
Well you know how we were saying it sucks to get AF then you start feeling better by cd3, I think I feel at my worse cd2 and 3 then start to feel better once AF has buggered off. I am just so annoyed my cycle was only 23 days this month, I really thought things were getting better. I feel so frustrated that it's unlikely to happen naturally now and the only way I am going to get a baby is if I pester and pester the Dr to explain to her that something is wrong. It's just so annoying that the way to make your dreams come true is through someone who doesn't pay any attention to what you are saying and thinks you are over exaggerating. Anyway..guess I'm just feeling a little delicate today!

How is everyone else enjoying their Sunday?

When do you think you will POAS Lindsay?

ginger I know EXACTLY how you feel. You know so deep inside that something is not quite right and the one group of people who can help you, give you the brush off. When my cycles went from 30 days to a continuous 26 and now to an erratic 23/24/25, I just knew something was odd. Especially now with the OPK+ showing a likely LP of around 7 days.

You are a bad influence on me with the POAS question! Haha! Honestly, I feel exactly like I do when AF is around the corner. I doubt anything would stick with these cramps. But if I was gonna POAS, I guess it would be daft to do it before Friday, given that I likely O-ed last Mon/ Tues... Don't they say 9 days is average for implantation and then a coupe of days for hCG Secretion?

ginger I know EXACTLY how you feel. You know so deep inside that something is not quite right and the one group of people who can help you, give you the brush off. When my cycles went from 30 days to a continuous 26 and now to an erratic 23/24/25, I just knew something was odd. Especially now with the OPK+ showing a likely LP of around 7 days.

You are a bad influence on me with the POAS question! Haha! Honestly, I feel exactly like I do when AF is around the corner. I doubt anything would stick with these cramps. But if I was gonna POAS, I guess it would be daft to do it before Friday, given that I likely O-ed last Mon/ Tues... Don't they say 9 days is average for implantation and then a coupe of days for hCG Secretion?

Yes! That's it exactly Lindsay - they give you the brush off. You just want to scream at them don't you. Just book me in for some bloody scans and the right blood tests, listen to what I am telling you and actually pay attention! I was chatting with DH last night and wondering whether to fork out for a fertility specialist, just so it feels like we would be getting somewhere.
Yes, I suppose if we/you are being sensible, Friday would be the day to do it. I think implantation can occur from 6 - 12 dpo, but most people seem to agree that it's rare to get a positive before 10dpo. I hope AF stays away for you this week, and the AC and B-vits start working for you. I took my first B-vit this morning, they are huge!!

Why do you think your cycles changed like that? Mine went from 28, to 26 to now irregular anything from 23 up to 33 days. I thought it might have been stress of ttc, but I didn't feel stressed at all about it last month and AF still came early!

I have no idea why my cycles changed like this ginger. It's so weird. We have a really similar pattern because over the last 6months, I've also had 2 x 32 cycles so I'm also ranging from 23 to 32 days. I'm the same as you in that I don't blame it on the stress of TTC because there are months where I have hardly thought about it and in general, I don't think I am THAT obsessed (lol).

I keep going to check for AF today because it feels so imminent. Get it over with already!!! (Totally not obsessed, see?) LOL!

My cycles have also changed. I have been an absolute 28 day regular, know to the hour, type of girl. But in the last 10 cycles there have been subtle variation, 25-29 days, and lots of pre AF spotting. I think the stress is not helping but for me, I also think my incessant pants watch means that I am more aware of these subtle changes and maybe would not have noticed.
I have also been under signif stress in past and trained for sport/marathons etc and my periods have always been bang on, which is why it is so stressful that they are variable now!
Argh wish I could be 28 with 14 LP. Wish we all were. Xx

Someone save me from myself! I've just bought the Thomas the tank engine box set "for my future son!". Hubby thinks I've lost the plot! I wasn't going to show him, was going to hide them in a cupboard!

Update on my tests... Been offered a pelvic (full bladder) ultrasound plus trans vag at the same appointment at a different hospital so I've cancelled the other one.

My cycles also seem to be changing. Maybe there is something in the water?!

OMG victoria I am dying laughing! You know when you do get pregnant, it will be with twin girls who will be completely disinterested in anything "train". LOL! ;-)

Good luck with the tests!

Victoria, love your Thomas story

Cycles wise, I was never 'to the day regular' before the pill, but from what I can remember I had 28-31 day cycles. Post pill, I've had 23-26 day cycles, mostly settled on 25-26 days recently. Very much hoping af stays out the way until after my clinic appt, but it's due that day so it'll prob be Sod's law. Lindsay, I'm on crotch watch too, fx for you!

Ginger, hope you're feeling bit better. I agree, cd 2-3 is usually a low point. Remind me (sorry if you've already said, hard to keep track where everyone is at) have you got a Drs appt lined up to discuss your cycles?

M33r, glad you're back in the game

See, one and victoria they say that the pill will not affect your body long term but I just think the studies haven't been done. I don't see how you can trick your body into thinking you're pregnant for decades (which is basically what the pill mimics with the hormone levels it has), and then expect your body just to go back to normal so easily. I don't think I'd ever go back on it. We'll just manage things they old fashioned way- we are catholic after all! Haha!

Anyway, cd27 today! Whoop! I am counting this as success, even if AF comes today giving me my usual LP, at least my cycle has lengthened back out. Small steps! :-)

Lindsay, I feel exactly the same, I have said to dh I am never going to take the pill again!

Yeay for your cd27 !! Hoping for more for you but if not, like you say, it's all moving in the right direction - towards BFPville!!

Also never touching the pill EVER again!

lindsay happy cd27; hope it's the elusive BFP but if not, still hurrah!

Hi all, well my dh and i are still recovering after a weekend of partying at a friends wedding so my smep plans are not going well at all. Way to much alcohol and not enough dtd! And low and behold I get a great big solid smiley face this morning! I just told dh to go back to bed and get well rested as we're going to have to get our jiggy on the next 3 nights. The big O seems a little early this month for me, about 4 days earlier than previous months. Not so sure if that's a good or bad thing. AF is technically not due until 7th April and that seems like such a way off. Maybe I will have a shorter cycle this month, something less than the 34 days it has been. A little concerned that despite all my grapefruit juice guzzling, I have had absolutely non EWCM this month. Im going onto crazy pedantic territory now, but do you think it makes any difference that I was drinking red grapefruit juice instead of golden grapefruit juice?

I am completely convinced that the pill has stuffed up my system. I was on it 9 years. As lindsey said, don't see how it can't have messed things up.

victoria i don't own any thomas the tank engines, but I have bought baby presents over the years, that I've never managed to get given in time and they are too small for baby, (and then had to buy more) and I am constantly telling myself that its ok because i'll just put them on my wee bub when I get one. So I have a stock pile of tiny person clothes!

m33r Im all stocked up now with maca, oil of evening primrose and angus cast after I spotted a sale in holland and barrett. I did say I was going to get them off amazon, but couldn't help myself, and was very proud of all my purchases walking out of the shop. How sad!!

Morning all! Hope everyone had a good weekend. After spotting the last two days AF arrived this morning. This makes my cycle 27 days (usually 24, far too short) so pleased it's longer this time and hoping it stays 27 days from now on (last month was 26). I'm in quite a lot of pain today so I'm currently in bed with hot water bottle and laptop responding to emails. Hope everyone is having a better day than me!

Hope it eases soon Pink! My cycle this month is 39 days and counting! POAS twice, even though I'm totally symptomless and knew that it was in vain. So frustrating isn't it! Wondering if mine is Pill related too, I was on it for 15+ years, so maybe I shouldn't be too surprised!

Sorry pink hat. But also, happy that you have a longer cycle.
I am currently day 25 with pre AF spotting and cramps. Suspect it may get me tomorrow.
Oh well on to cycle 11. Xx

Pinkhat, so sorry about af. Hope you're snuggled and comfy for your well deserved duvet day.

Jesse, sorry about pre af cramps. I'm feeling the same way, due on tmrw and feeling v much like it's heading that way Only thing I'm realistically hoping for is that af doesn't start til after our fertility clinic appointment tmrw. Has your dh had his results back yet? Fx hon.

Martie, sounds like you had a fun weekend! Good luck with dtd Nit sure bout optimum grapefruit juice colour, my guess is the colour doesn't matter! But willing to stand corrected if there is somebody who actually knows what they're talking about!!!!!

Heather - hope you get an answer soon, that sounds fairly mammoth!

Hi ladies. Have had a fabulous weekend away with he girls, far too much alcohol and feeling very tired on day 2 of the hangover!!! Getting too old for this!

Victoria love that you bought the box set, I do stuff like that too. I've been told to prepare for it happening so I have made a couple of purchases and we are decorating over Easter....and clearing out our spare bedroom (that would be the nursery).

Martie re the grapefruit juice, I drank this a few cycles ago and didn't notice a huge difference. I tried it again this cycle and there was a massive difference (DH nearly drowned lol) it was pink grapefruit juice from sainsbury.

Pink so sorry af has arrived, pamper yourself and get prepared for next cycle with all you can. Being proactive helps.

Onelife mwah! Good luck for your appointment and sending all my vibes for af to stay away (for 9 months ;))

Waves at everyone else, hope you are all ok??

Re the pill. DH is getting the snip after we get our little bundle because I refuse to go back on it!

I would love so much for a bfp to happen soon on this bus....it would give us all a boost and some hope for our own....come on ladies we can do this!

Sorry mama, it ain't going to be me, af just got me But at least I might sleep tonight and not spend the entire night wondering if it's started. Just hoping there are no plans for a TV scan at appt tmrw
Pink hat, might join in your duvet day

Oh onelife!!!!! No!!!! :( but you are right it's better that your not waiting and know. I'm sure they will understand that some ladies will have af and should be happy to rearrange any tests they are planning for a more suitable time. Gutted af arrived at all for you though.

Yes we can do this and it will happen for us all....it is just about when?! but we must always believe and know it's going to happen. Never give up!!!!!

Huge hugs one! X

I know, she's a real bugger!!!! But knew she was coming tbh, just was hoping for one extra day not one day early!! Oh well, cycle 11 it is, man alive, can't believe it. But, and I'm really trying here girls, with my mindful head on, this means I can have bubbles on my birthday without feeling guilty!! I will not wallow, i will not, I won't allow myself, we are going to this clinic tmrw and they are going to tell me what their super duper plan is to get me upduffed

Gutted one but what a great attitude! Stick with it and very best of luck tmrw. Tell us all about it. And get so excited about your birthday bubbles.

martie I saw a real diff in the grapefruit juice but only did it for one month - stopped in the spirit of not 'thinking' about ttc.

In other news I am crazy tired today. I am on cd 10-ish. So, in three weeks, mid tww when I announce tiredness as a symptom I expect to be shot down in flames by all of you.

Here's to my first month 'not ttc' in 15 months. I have a holiday booked. It would be December baby. I have fertility appt. I am not trying. I am not using opks. ... Can you see what I'm trying to do here ....!!!! ???

Onelife. This totally sucks. You are my menstrual cycle buddy. I suspect mine will arrive tonight.
I completely agree with you. It is utterly, utterly rubbish. And life is so unfair, but remember tomorrow will provide you with more information that you need to move forward.
Not that this is relevant, but my sister had ivf for male factor issues and has 2 amazing and perfect children. It is a slow, soul destroying process trying to get up the duff, but she got there.
I am sure that we all will, and half of people who do not conceive in year one, will do so in year 2.
She keeps reminding me to keep my eyes on the prize.
Xxxxx