TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting Eachother & Staying Positive :)

[mama31]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive for a lengthy period of time who may be considering/attending further tests/scans or is about to begin fertility treatment. I hope this thread can provide information and support, alleviate fears and can help one another to remain positive during this difficult journey that can only be understood by those experiencing it.

Please join and share your story, knowledge, support, laughter and tears.

Hope your phone call with gp goes well tomorrow Victoria, its ridiculous you have to kick up a fuss just to get someone to speak to you!

Mama you are so right, gps for fertility issues would be great, there'd be plenty of demand for them and it would be great to speak to one who's kind and caring, and who you have confidence in knowing what theyre talking about!

Onelife lol'd at your 'thrust of it' pun!

Well Ive been feeling a bit sick today so poas, which is stupid as I'm only 6-7 dpo. However, Ive now convinced myself I can see the worlds faintest line. I also poa opk, which is moderately dark. Tried taking a picture of the test but can't see anything. Besides I'm still mildly spotting and feeling af cramps so even if it is a line I dont think it will turn out well again. Wish I hadn't bloody done it now, I think theres probably nothing there and in deluding myself. Grr!

ooooh imaginery fingers x for u! onelife you are a scream! i was thinking that myself, that it would best to stick to the general gist of smep.

Ive got some weird twinges this evening in my lower abdomen, slightly painful. Im only on cd9 so ive no idea what they are. I spend most of my time worrying that these twinges are something serious and that this is the reason I haven't conceived yet. Any idea what they could be?

Hi ladies
I'm new to mums net on cycle 16 and obsessed by pokes and any tips on conceiving ! Have done bloods and scans all ok but not back to gynae til June, hoping to b pregnant by then!

Martie I also get tinges in one side at time of ov ( today in fact) but I never noticed these short sharp pains before TTC so I also worry now it's a problem down there rather than symptom of ov?.. Pain lasts 5 mins that's all anyone else?

Hi shelly, I'm cycle 16 too but waiting for results of tests :-( so you're ok? Is your OH?

I get ov pains, its like a stitch and I only get it on the left. I was actually talking about it last night with my reflexologist. I get ov pain for 2 or 3 days and last month it was 4! Its quite uncomfortable and I wonder if its a sign of anything wrong! I think pain for a few mins is normal, but not days surely? Doc didnt seem worried, saw it as a good sign that I ov. Get blood results today. If I have PCOS, surely cysts must hurt?

Good luck Victoria for your chat with GP today.

Thanks Onelife, I was happily snoozing by 10 pm with the deed in the bag ;) :)

Imaginary....oooooh...good luck!!! what test did you use?? Does it definately not show up on camera?

DH SA test kit still not arrived! Grrrr....hes ringing them today....seriously...this is not something that should be delayed! been waiting 3 weeks or more!

I also get a stich like pain but only on the left, but I only lasts a short while, not days. Good lick with your results today Victoria. And welcome Shelly! Early ovulation Marie?

Massive bfn for me today. Yesterday's imagined lined was an evap at best (weird cos Ive never had an evap in all my months using these tests).

www.canyouseealine.com/view_home_pregnancy_test.php?testID=46714

One step tests mama, just ic. They've been spot on for me in the past. I stuck it on the above last night. Don't know how to make it clicky on my phone. Was bfn this morning though.

awww imaginary, that sucks. I am virtually removing all sticks from your house so that they no longer make you sad! lol I have none in my house because I just know I'd be POAS from 1dpo LOL!

Shellly I get definite twinges the day before and of what I'm sure are my O-days (this month was the first month I ever got an OPK+). They can be strong enough to make me take a sharp breath, and last a day or so intermittently.

onelife and martie For real, I know we could NEVER do SMEP! It's just too much and all these smeppers and EODers make me feel like a frigid, old wife at times! LMAO! This month we have managed cd8, 11, 17 and 19 with ovulation on cd19/20 I think. The big gap between 11 and 17 was when hubby started his new job and was pretty washed out :-( But I'm still saying that 4 times in a 12 day period would be a totally "normal" sex life! And plenty of people seem to get pregnant just doing what they do.

Waiting game for me now, I guess. No CM now so with the OPK+ and EWCM (Monday) and watery (Tues), I think it's safe to say I O-ed on cd19, maybe 20. Now to see when AF comes and therefore if the AC and B vits have increased my luteal phase at all.

For fun, the OPK pic is attached. It's stupid, I know, but after all these months, so exciting to see! Top is AM, bottom is PM and that one was darker than the control line (kinda hard to see here).

imaginery fingers are still crossed for you. Ive never even had a sniff of a line, so I can only imagine your excitement and attempts to contain it. If I ever got one I'd be doing the cancan!

Any word victoria on your results? I hope its all ok x mama31 that is so annoying about the sa test.

Hi shelly welcome to our attempt to remain positive and mindful. I did a clear blue opk test this morning and got one of those empty circles. Im cd10 today so that's what I expected so my pain last night was definitely not ovulation pain. Ive had ovulation pain before and it's usually on my right side and yes, it feels like a stitch. This was a different pain last night. It was kind of sore and located in the middle lower abdomen. I hate this ttc business, it makes me paranoid about every single twinge.

Happy middle to of the week!

Mama we've been waiting three weeks for SA appointment too. It said there was a three week waiting list but obviously you need a week's notice or more as you have to abstain etc. I was hoping it wasn't going to be this wk anyway as its my ov week.

As for chat with doc, waste of bloody time! As it wasn't my usual GP she didn't know my history, or even bothered to read my notes by the sounds of it. She said there was a note that my GP wanted to speak to me but from the results she couldnt see why! I fussed over it and she said she'd as my GP and call back during the day. She also said to repeat the day21 and I said they weren't the day 21 they were the day 2! And she was like all "oh" and told us to keep trying and wait for hubbys SA. Made me so het up!

Victoria ARGH!!! So incompetent! It's really insensitive as well :-( Sorry you're going through this. Hopefully your own GP is going to be a bit more clued up and might even take some time to do some reading before s/he calls you (probably not though! LOL)

lindsey -frigid old wife!! lol! We have been doing eod for the last couple of month during fertile time and this month we've agreed to do smep. I have to say though it is exhausting and can get a bit dull. Takes the whole spontaneity out of things. I really resent this ttc for that. I totally wish I could go back to our normal dtd life so I am tad jealous of your 'normal' life! I just am so fed up that I want to try everything now but I totally get your rationale.

I found my GP form yesterday and registered with my new GP (who is DH's GP). I have to meet the practice nurse next week and then hopefully I can get the ball rolling with getting some tests done. Alternatively maybe this 'at it like rabbits' month will do the trick!

oh my gosh martie do NOT be envious of my dtd schedule! the grass is always greener and I spend my days being annoyed at myself for not having the energy for EOD. If I could do it, I totally would!

I think it's a good step to have the same GP as DH :-) But I agree that all this DTDing might just pay off!

Victoria that is so frustrating for you! I am sure you are spitting feathers!

These SA tests can not seriously take this length of time.

Imaginary step away from those tests!! This is the first month I haven't purchased them...I always get faint lines on them...always...but have had to tell myself every time that if it is questionable, then it is not a line. I will know when I get a real line as I won't even need to ask is it real. I'm refusing to buy those tests now and trying so so hard to keep up my willpower and not test this month. I have never succeeded in this previously but hoping this mindfulness might keep me sane and stop me from obsessing. Who knows, ill probably be crazy as ever by next week!

We are dtd every other day, but not scheduling like usual it has been spontaneous but kind of planned as well to cover th eod. So far it's been enjoyable this cycle and I don't feel burnt out yet which is good as have a few more deeds to be done.

Everyone is different though and you have to do what works for you. Don't compare yourselves, or worry is it enough, is it too much....the thing is dtd around ovulation can result in a bfp, and this could be from one single session dtd. Leave it to fate, it will happen when the time is perfect for us all :)

Hi all, another newbie here :)

Chronic over-thinker and symptom spotter! Hope you don't mind me joining, am not actually a mum yet as only trying for my 1st (so I feel a bit of an intruder on mumsnet!) but I could use some support.

I'm 31, been trying for 9/10 months now, sister has endo so my doc referred me for bloods and tv scan. Scan was all fine and just waiting for bloods back. Although I went on day 21 and my period is 7 days late so from reading the comments above I think I will have to go back from a retest! Erratic periods, some months 28 day cycle and then random months where it's longer (like this one).

Trying to stay positive, not stress too much and not bore my husband to tears by talking about it all the time! Have only told a couple of people that I'm not close to that I'm trying, don't want the pity faces or the request for updates as mentioned in many of the previous posts.

Anyway, enough for now, looking forward to joining you all, and I need to learn all the abbreviations as some of these posts have left me thoroughly confused

Hi pink

I'm not a mum either, but there are quite a lot of people on the ttc pages that are trying for number 1. So don't feel like you're in the wrong place!

I couldn't understand these threads at first til I read the abbreviation page, now I talk in code in real life too! Hubby is always saying what on earth you on about when I ask him if he wants to do the deed, dtd! Lol!

Thanks for the welcome :)

I just checked it out and keeping it open on a separate tab so I can refer back to it whilst I read!

Haven't been doing temperature checking yet so may have a go at that this month and maybe get some more ovulation tests, but they are so expensive!! Just wish my period would hurry up and start so that I can start again. Feels like such a tease these months when my cycle is really long...

Welcome Pink! Def don't need to be a mum already that's what we are here for to support eachother to get to be a mum! :) re the opks, don't be shelling out on the expensive ones, amazon do onestep ovulation tests for a couple of quid...and they work just fine!

Speaking of those opks....i just got a very clear positive on cd11! Yay!!!! I'm with you Lindsay celebrating my pos opk :) the reason being that since starting the AC last month I ov 1 day sooner and this month it's 2 days soon so it is definately working, so great to know :) I'm so hoping it helps my spotting....that would be just wonderful :)

Having a lovely day today it's nice a sunny, have my pos opk and of course my "no plan" dtd has gone out the window as DH has just got a txt saying we need to dtd tonight due to pos opk! Lol don't want to miss the boat!!!!!!

Thanks mama, just made my purchase on Amazon, way cheaper than Boots, that's for sure.

Have fun tonight

Pink amazon should be called Amazing! It so is!

Thanks Pink...to be honest it's probably gona be a bit of a chore tonight (which I have avoided so far). I have plans with friends so won't get home until way later...I'll be tired....DH will be up for it anytime of day/night but I'm rubbish after 9pm! lol I will be like a sack of spuds (tmi) lol but too afraid to miss it with the pos opk today!

Wish my DH was always up for it mama! Practically got to force him kicking and screaming! Sent him a text at lunch saying I wanted to get frisky later, he'll know why and he's avoided replying! Lol. We are going out for dinner though to cheer ourselves up after the crap week we've had. Hopefully get him in the mood...

By the way doc called back and I've been referred for a pelvic ultrasound.

fed up seeing new babies on fb, i so badly want it to be me

I know the feeling Martie, plus we have a few maternity/paternity situations at work at the moment so the talk is all baby baby baby and oooo I wonder who will be next...

ARRR there is literally babies or buggies or pregnant women everywhere! I know they say you notice them more when you want a baby, but this is just ridiculous, I only live in a small town and they are absolutely everywhere I turn.....
Just wanted to get that off my chest, just about to have dinner so will catch up and reply to you all properly later!
Hello to all the newbies !

Evening ladies another day of over analysing everything happening in my body , don't u just wish it could b easier?!
Victoria, def get your tests underway we both cycle 16 , hubby and I went doc last august as I couldn't keep wondering and hubby has been on medication so we were worried it was effecting his spermies. Anyway his SA is fine My tests all fine pelvic scan good so we just keep trying ... I'm now waiting for next 12 days to pass to get preg tests out again!

Martie, Lindsay and Vic, the twinges are also only one sided I think if they are prolonged its worth getting this checked out.

Mama31 thanks for tip of opks on amazon ...I've spent a fortune over last yr! Much rather be putting that money towards baby grows

Ginger, totally with you on the feeling that everyone around u is getting pregnant sometimes at work I just have to lock myself in the loo and have a little cry after congratulating another friend on pregnancy.... am happy for them though. our days will come ! It's really nice to have you all there and read your stories, feel less alone going through this stressful time.