TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting Eachother & Staying Positive :)

[mama31]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive for a lengthy period of time who may be considering/attending further tests/scans or is about to begin fertility treatment. I hope this thread can provide information and support, alleviate fears and can help one another to remain positive during this difficult journey that can only be understood by those experiencing it.

Please join and share your story, knowledge, support, laughter and tears.

Someone slap me, 7dpo and can feel myself falling in to the symptom spotting trap!!! Agggghh! Was trying so hard not to! The no spotting and creamy cm is forcing me to think about it...grrrr...someone stop me now before I set myself up for another huge fall!!!!!!!

Sit ups, now!!! Do it!!!!! Hundreds of them. Go, go go!!!!

Meanwhile I've got my feet up, have just devoured practically a whole box of Lindor round balls of yumminess and am wondering when to crack open the birthday bubbles

Thanks onelife! That helped! ;) probably because I'm so green that your eating yummy chocs with feet up and thinking of drinking bubbles!!!! You have pre occupied my mind with your amazing activities.....yummers!!!!! Your birthday isn't today?!?x

I really really really want to wait until Sunday to test, which would only be 10dpo but usually I have loads of IC's in the house and test from stupidly early so 10dpo on my one and only superdrug test in my house would be amazing progress! I need to get in the zone and do this!!!!!

I went away for like a day, and look what happened! So much info on here! onelife great post, full of info and such positive feedback from doc, mama im sorry i disappeared, and im glad onelife stepped in to give you a good ole slap. Im there for the second one if you need it!! You should have achy sore stomach now from all your sit ups! but well done mama on starting this thread, so many ladies indebted to you! m33r your attitude is totally right, life is for living and we shouldn't let it pass us by while we're still waiting in the queue for our babies. We're woman after all, we can multitask, ttc and life! ginger i know how you are feeling, i was there 2 weeks ago. Some months it really gets bad. You will pull through and as all the rest of the lovelies on here said, look after yourself until you do. Confiscate the remote control, get yourself some wine and some tasty chocolates. And a happy birthday to onelife, bubbles are good any time of the day!

m33r I love your attitude about enjoying the time before you have a small person to look after, and doing lots of "grown up" things without restrictions of a littley. Much as we will just adore it when we have them, there will be some parts of life that aren't so easy to do with them in tow! My friend gave me similar advice when I was stressing about why my boyfriend (now husband) wasn't desperately begging me to marry him! She was totally right of course, and it really helped me to get some perspective back then, and I think your advice will help me too. Thank you :)

hi all, i'm back again and enjoyed catching up on all your news :)

mama, I know what you mean I did the same this month, said there would be no symptom spotting and early testing but couldn't help myself this morning at 9/10 dpo, and set myself up for a big fall again :( I really had a positive feeling about it this month. it was an IC. I have more IC's & a FR one left at home to try again over weekend but I already know it will be pointless. so onto cycle #17 I go , (mistakenly believed I was on #16 til today!)

its so depressing. tempted to see GP again as I have yet to receive day 2 blood results and hospital have messed up my return apt . I see others getting all the tests from 1st appt, yet mine just do bloods & TV scan and told me come back for review in 6 months (but they forgot to book me appt so its a 10 month wait instead.. do they care??!)

onelife, your appt at hospital sounded very positive and informative! I wish mine had suggested the dye in the tubes thing & IUI , they made me feel like the referral was a waste of time and money tbh, but I guess they see so many people every day they get hardened to our anxiety and our long wait... i've leant more since my last appt & on internet & MN thanks to u all , so at the next one I will have a list of things to go through with the consultant! even if I can talk things through with GP before then I might feel better so I will get on and book that at least.

oh well, onwards we go.... sad face... sorry for the rant xx

Shelly, that's awful about the wait for your appt! So sorry you've had to deal with that. I think the NHS is fabulous but sadly is bursting at the seams so mistakes can happen. Even just from my experience, which I am in no way complaining about because we were seen v quickly, but I waited and waited for the appointment, got fed up and rang, no answer so left a message asking them to ring me, they didn't so I rang again the next day and when the lady checked the system she said my appointment had been made and a letter sent out the day before....so that would be the day I rang then? Coincidence? I don't think so. I think they thought oh balls we've forgotten to do it and sorted it ASAP. So sometimes it is a case of keep checking and chasing. And yes definitely ask your consultant for more tests at next appt and if they don't want to do them their reasons for not doing them. Good luck!

Yes it really is my birthday!!! Thanks for the wishes x And in the spirit of living I am fully embracing my bubbles

I didn't realise it was your Birthday TODAY!!!! You kept that quiet onelife (sneaky!) have the happiest, most lovely day/evening I hope you have some fab plans????? Enjoy it because next Birthday you will be a mum! And it will be lovely and amazing! But this could be your last free one to get sloshed!!! Cheers hon! :) xx

Happy birthday onelife, hope you've had a smashing day, the choc and bubbles sound great!

Yes mumsnet is great for learning, so much so that when I saw my go I felt like I knew more than her about conception! I imagine it helps you feel more prepared when you go to see a specialist as you can ask questions to put your mind at ease about certain things. Are you abandoning nudp now after your appt onelife?!

Happy Birthday onelife!!!! Hope you have had a fantastic day and thoroughly spoilt yourself, as mama says enjoy getting sloshed!
Gosh you are all so lovely, and such an invaluable source of loveliness and information.
I feel a bit awful about moaning earlier on, I hope you don't think I am being terribly selfish and insensitive - I think it got a bit lost amidst all of the introductions when I mentioned it; I do have a DD who is nearly 2 and a half. Before I was a mum I would have told myself to eff off for complaining at not being able to get pregnant when I already have a child, but as all you ladies will see one day, the longing to have a baby does not disappear when you already have children, and everyone expects that because you have done it once it will just happen again and again easily for you, and when it doesn't, it just makes no sense. mama I hope you can understand what I mean?
So sorry if I offend anyone, I understand if you don't want to hear from me again!

HUGS ginger :-))))))

Oh my gosh I have missed so much! Can't reply to all individually but it's so nice to see that we can all be happy, sad, frustrated, supportive and bat-sh!t-crazy and it is all welcome and listened to. So glad I found this thread!

One direct reply has to go to onelife though! Happy birthday!!! Hope you are well into the bubbles by now!

Still no AF here! I want to go to bed now so I'll wake up at 10dpo! LOL! It's like Christmas!

Thank you Lindsay
Ooh are you 10dpo tomorrow? Remember your mantra though, no peeing til 12dpo, so no Christmas for you tomorrow!

Hugs ginger

Happy birthday one!

mama step away from the symptom spotting!!! I am on cd 12 - yes cd 12; not 12 dpo -so cannot possibly be pg and I am recording symptoms so that next month I know that they are NOT signs of pg. Obviously hoping you are but step away...!!

Ooh I feel to harsh. I've changed my mind. Sunroom spot if you want!!! Tell us all about them! :-)

'Symptom' not 'sunroom' obvs!

And lindsay no poas! Wait til at least Sunday!!! X

Ginger don't be silly, no one is offended! We all have our good and bad days. We are here to support regardless of what is happening. And yes I also have a DS (12yrold from a previous r'ship) but this thread is not just for those who do not have children yet, it is for EVERYONE ttc who is looking for some support/guidance. So if you have ten children or no children the support is here.

Lindsay happy 10dpo to you!!! Lucky thing you! I'm 8dpo today. When will you test? Do you usually get to 10dpo? When is af due? Sorry so many questions but I'm excited!!!

I must confess I'm kind of happy with my progress getting to 8dpo without testing (yes I have poas before 8dpo! Crazy!) but I also have no Internet cheap tests in the house when I usually have loads and test constantly until af arrives. I'm not doing that this time. I have one single superdrug test and I need to hold off as long as possible. Really hoping the spotting doesn't start also.

M33R you are a bad influence telling me to symptom spot!!! Nooooooooooo! Your supposed to be slapping me with a wet fish right in the face! Haha! How are you doing lovely?

Hope everyone else is ok and looking forward to the weekend! Yay! It's Friday! :)

M33R I'm happy to sunroom spot though.... lol

Morning all, welcome to the first day of spring hope it's as sunny where you are as where I am

Birthday bubbles went down a treat thanks all!

Ginger, hugs hugs hugs! You def have to stay! Totally get it, no need to explain any further. And as much as this thread is all about positivity and support it doesn't mean we also can't have a good old moan and share our fears when we're feeling blue.... it just means that there's usually someone else who's at a different point in their cycle who completely understands but can cheer us up and pull through!

Imaginary - yes that's right, no more NUDP for me (think dh is mightily relieved!!) No pillows, no jiggling sperm in the right direction, just normal, relaxed dtd Although just realised I meant to ask the doc what his thoughts were on how long to stay lying down for afterwards....next time! Or m33r, if you get chance and it feels appropriate, maybe you could pick your consultants brains about this at your appt?!

Lindsay, no POASing! Mama no symptom spotting!!

Onelife glad you had a fab day! And yes no symptom spotting for me!!!! I'm glad you got that advice as this cycle everything was so natural for us, and very enjoyable actually! No NUDP/pillows or anything- just plain old relaxed dtd when we wanted to.

Can't remember who asked, imaginary was it you?? Re the Agnus Castus, I take the Nature's Aid one it's on Amazon. So far so good.

m33r mama I'm sure I've probably symptom spotted at cd12 before! Haha! In our cray-cray months I'm sure we all have. Oh look- there's a sunroom! (Sunroom spotting with you guys).

And ginger and one I promise no POAS til Sunday which is 12dpo. I just meant it's like Christmas because it's like someone has gifted me a 10 day LP out of nowhere! So mama let's be strong together!

The sun is shining here! But I'm stuck in work with the blindI closed (!) as I have samples I have to keep on ice and if I open them my ice melts! Stupid lab design!

Not long into my 2ww I think. This month has been as messed up as last as I'm not sure when I ovd. Side cramps cd12 so thought that was it, then more side cramps cd16 with random spotting cd17. More likely ovd then I guess? So only 2dpo. Another week before I can start symptom spotting!

Glad you had nice bday one, its mine in a few weeks so maybe i can celebrate with a bfp?!

Good luck Lindsay and mama and anyone else nearing their poas dates! I've prob said before but there is no way I poas until a missed af! In 16 months I've only poas twice coz af was about 2 days after I'd calculated. Keeps me on my toes! Don't have any in my drawer and prob won't buy any til I need one, the last lot nearly went out of date!

Aw thank you ladies, hugs back to you all round

Onto the important stuff - I did catch myself one month symptom spotting before we had even DTD!! m33r I have also tried to SS so I know they're not signs of pg, but my body likes to play tricks on me every month, hence the AF totally out of the blue 3 days early

Lindsay that is a pretty awesome Christmas present, hope it's Christmas for you every month! The results from using VitB and AC seem really positive so far on MN, so here's hoping they lead to our BFPs soon!

one I remember reading somewhere (on MN) that if you lie down for 20-30 minutes after getting jiggy that should be enough time for the little guys to get on their journey, but would be good to hear a professionals opinion.

mama sunroom spotting sounds lovely! You best be on the floor doing those sit ups though if you even vaguely think about symptoms...

victoria your job sounds really interesting! I think not testing til AF is due is a good idea, my first bulk pack has almost run out and don't think I'll be buying anymore until AF is late! I can't decide if it's worse to find out with AFs arrival, or with a BFN though, with BFNs there is always that glimmer of hope still, but then everytime AF arrives I wonder if its IB for the first day!!

Sorry for the rambling post...!

Has anyone got any nice plans for the weekend? (obviously Lindsay has plans for sunday!)