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TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting Eachother & Staying Positive :)

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mama31 · 04/03/2014 17:45

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive for a lengthy period of time who may be considering/attending further tests/scans or is about to begin fertility treatment. I hope this thread can provide information and support, alleviate fears and can help one another to remain positive during this difficult journey that can only be understood by those experiencing it.

Please join and share your story, knowledge, support, laughter and tears.

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onelifeonechance · 19/03/2014 15:34

IMMENSE!!!!! Exactly Grin

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mama31 · 19/03/2014 15:37

Onelife, can I just say what a fabulous detailed post about what happens/what to expect! This is the reason I created this thread, I have no doubt that the others feel as I do. More informed, prepared, supported and less anxious knowing what lies ahead and also how positive you are feeling after your appointment despite being on cd2!!!! Wonderful!!!!! :) this is such a worthwhile place to be and I just know we can all continue learning from eachother, supporting eachother and at times laughing at eachother until that very day we finally get our long awaited, well deserved bfp's! I so look forward to the 1st one on this thread it will be such a celebration and a hopeful moment and I have no doubt they will be rolling in....just that we must be patient and it will happen when the time is perfectly right and when it is meant to be.

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onelifeonechance · 19/03/2014 15:46

Aw mama, stop it Blush you're getting me all choked (and I've really tried not to cry this cycle!!!) Grin What lovely words and yes I too can't wait for our first BFP, we can do it ladies, all of us

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mama31 · 19/03/2014 16:30

Group hug?? Lol

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victoria401 · 19/03/2014 16:59

Hug!

onelifeonechance · 19/03/2014 17:17

Hug!!!!! Grin

victoria401 · 19/03/2014 17:24

Cd17 today and I've got some spotting today. I have no idea what it could mean :-( Had ov type pinches on cd11 and 12 making me think I ovd early but had same pinches yesterday and this morning. Also had dull af type aches a bit yesterday and more today. Don't know what's happening to my body! Don't know whether to be worried! Roll on ultrasound on the weekend.....

ImaginaryHat · 19/03/2014 17:44

Hey ladies, not been around for a while so just popping in to catch up.

onelife so glad you got your appt through, it came round in no time. Sounds like it went really well, and v positive that he thinks you might well conceive naturally, I'm sure that will make you much more relaxed,and if then you know that tou have options. Sounds like the scan went well too. As mama said, fabulously informative post, thanks for sharing Smile

Ginger sorry you're feeling down, I can v much identify with that. I hope you're being kind to yourself.

Victoria I would love to give you an answer but spotting confuses the hell outta me! Hopwfullybits just a random day and you're back to normal tomorrow. Hope the ultrasound goes well.

I'm about cd3. Spotted for 7 days then af kicked in properly on Monday, so right in the midst of it now. I also have a rotton cold so currently feeling v sorry for myself! I rang and made an appointment with my doctor to discuss the spotting and why its got so much worse since my chemicals, but I couldn't get in for a month (she only works 3 days a week and I specifically want to see her). So that's not til mid April.

Sorry to all af got, hope you're all doing ok x

ImaginaryHat · 19/03/2014 17:45

Hey ladies, not been around for a while so just popping in to catch up.

onelife so glad you got your appt through, it came round in no time. Sounds like it went really well, and v positive that he thinks you might well conceive naturally, I'm sure that will make you much more relaxed,and if then you know that tou have options. Sounds like the scan went well too. As mama said, fabulously informative post, thanks for sharing Smile

Ginger sorry you're feeling down, I can v much identify with that. I hope you're being kind to yourself.

Victoria I would love to give you an answer but spotting confuses the hell outta me! Hopwfullybits just a random day and you're back to normal tomorrow. Hope the ultrasound goes well.

I'm about cd3. Spotted for 7 days then af kicked in properly on Monday, so right in the midst of it now. I also have a rotton cold so currently feeling v sorry for myself! I rang and made an appointment with my doctor to discuss the spotting and why its got so much worse since my chemicals, but I couldn't get in for a month (she only works 3 days a week and I specifically want to see her). So that's not til mid April.

Sorry to all af got, hope you're all doing ok x

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mama31 · 19/03/2014 18:08

Victoria remind me do you usually spot?? Could it be ovulation spotting? Or have you started taking vitamins ie Agnus Castus? Because they can cause spotting in first few months when settling hormones apparently. I spotted at 5dpo last month on my first cycle of AC, but seems settled so far this month only on 6dpo but nothing today and hoping no spotting at all! It's so annoying though really!

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mama31 · 19/03/2014 18:08

Imaginary are you trying anything for the spotting?

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m33r · 19/03/2014 18:26

one amazing update. Thank you so much. I kinda hope to get the same experience as I am very worried that we turn up, answer questions and are sent home. I hope they prod and push everything so I get some answers. So so pleased for you and for your DH! Hope my DH gets the same.

ginger we're not 'trying' this month but like you, I can't let go. I'm not doing opks but I know my cycle so well that even though we wouldn't dtd for fun tonight usually I'm on cd 10/11 so we're doing it. Just can't let go.

Try to keep your chin up. I had a terrible time around months 10-12 but i came out the other side and am on month 15 now and it's ok... And one day I'll be a good news story for somebody and so will you. Hang in there. Try to take time to positive think (so hard!)

Jumps in for group hug.

Thanks again one x

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mama31 · 19/03/2014 18:46

Hugs all round!!! Try to stay positive ladies! I'm certain that's half the battle :)

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ImaginaryHat · 19/03/2014 19:24

No mama not taking anything for the spotting. Never really had it (maybe one or two days) before the chemicals, but the last 3 months have been 5 days 6 days and now 7 days, starting at 5dpo. Always had a short lp at 9-10 days but spotting from 5dpo is ridiculous and i doubt i could get preg with that! To be honest I dont wanna mess with anything before I see the doc, but I might try ac afterwards if she doesn't have any answers for me. Can you post a link to what you're taking please? Cheers chuck.

M33r you do sound wonderfully positive at the moment, which can only be a good thing I reckon. It's a lovely thought that our journeys could all help someone down the line when theyre feeling like we do now. Now we just need the bfps to make it happen!

Jessewalt · 19/03/2014 19:41

Did I miss the hugs? (*major fear of missing out)
Amazing post one life. Thank you for taking the time. The consultant sounds decisive which is what we are looking for!
Ginger, you need to let yourself have the crappy, blue days when you wonder why life is being so rotten to you, and then you need to treat yourself and think of the things that make you happy.
Look away now if you want to avoid emotional tale!
I mentioned a while ago that I told my mum. This is mainly because I was avoiding her a little in case she asked me about it. It suddenly dawned on me that she is not going to be around for ever, so why am I wishing my life away, and avoiding her. It brings tears to my eyes just thinking about it, but I am determined not to let this ruin our lives.
I also feel determined, rather than defeated.
We are all here to give you a little hug, or pep talk when you are feeling down! And I am sure in 2 days I will be crying again and picking up my phone to find out the latest chat!
Thanks again mama for this thread. I used to see other threads where there seemed to be a real bond, and I think we have that now. I will be delighted for whoever gets their bfp first!
Xx

victoria401 · 19/03/2014 20:07

Yes thanks for this thread mama, really feel like I fit in more than any other thread on here. Its exactly for where I am in my life and I'm glad to talk to others who have similar stories.

Ive never had spotting mid cycle before, that's why I'm concerned. Not taking any new vits apart from some iron supplements as recommended by GP "if planning pregnancy". Think I've been taking them 4 weeks tho.

Talking of telling mum's things... Thought I'd update my mum earlier and she said "well if you can't you can't, nothing you can do about it". Nice to have the support huh? She said she conceived month 2 with both me and my sister, and my sisters too were both unplanned! Both me and DH are from huge fertile families, I don't know what went wrong with us!?

m33r · 19/03/2014 20:10

jesse I've told my mum - who would LOVE to be a granny - that we're going to enjoy the time before baby and be 'ladies what lunch' and I'm going to treat her and dad (and DH) and do grown up things like theatre etc. one day we'll have a baby (and they'll have a grandchild) and we're going to look back and love think how good this time was.

If we don't get a baby - we will, but if we don't - then we won't have wasted 4 years just 'waiting'. Since I'm not a mummy yet, I'm going to enjoy being the best wife, daughter, grand-daughter, friend in the world. And hopefully one day I can add 'mum' to that list.

So, this weekend: DH and I having parents for a slap-up meal ... Because we can!

Hang in there jesse x

m33r · 19/03/2014 20:13

victoria my mum was like that initially too. Maybe just trying to keep you calm? They sometimes just don't know what to say especially if they conceived easy: if they haven't been through it they can have no idea. Bless them x

ImaginaryHat · 19/03/2014 20:26

Totally agree about this thread, I dont post every day because I dont think being on mumsnet all the time like I was 6 months was helping control my stressing about it. But to be going through this with lovely people who understand how you're feeling and can offer advice and sometimes just a hand to hold is the best. So yes, thanks mama!

We've not told any family or friends that were ttc, but I would guess they probably know as we've talked in general terms before about having a baby and were totally settled now so I wouldn't be surprised if people have realised. The only person who knows is my boss, who I had to tell when I had the chemical pregnancies as I had to go to the hospital every 2 days for blood tests. I'm always thinking she's waiting for an announcement now that she knows were trying!

onelifeonechance · 19/03/2014 21:03

Just got back from a lovely meal out with dh and reading this thread has warmed my cockles Smile We are a lovely bunch of ladies who are all here to support each other. Three cheers to mama for bringing the gang together!! Hip hip...... Grin

ImaginaryHat · 19/03/2014 21:10

Hooray!

Glad you had a nice meal with hubby, as m33r said, embrace your pre baby time!

onelifeonechance · 19/03/2014 21:21

Yes I think that was very eloquently put by M33r and I am going to try my hardest to abide by it Smile

Imaginary, sorry about your spotting and glad you've got a dr appt booked in, fx they can shed some light for you.

m33r · 19/03/2014 22:08

Hooray !

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mama31 · 20/03/2014 08:47

Haha! Ladies stop! I'm blushing! I only started the thread but the info/guidance/support on it is from all of you wonderful ladies who completely understand where the others are at. It's common ground. Makes sense to have a thread where we all have a similar journey, same fears but most importantly never ending hope and belief that we will get our bfps!!!!!!!

we will!!!!! And when we do, it's gona be.......IMMENSE!!!!!!!!! :)

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mama31 · 20/03/2014 08:51

And I completely agree to enjoy your life now and do lots of things you won't be able to do with a small baby: have long lie ins, lazy days, a few drinks, date nights with DH, stay up late and watch crap tv, enjoy long hot soaks in the bath, lunches with friends often, holidays/short breaks......AND DTD!!!!!!!!!!!!! (of course you won't get too much time for this with a little one)

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