Fab Forty-Plus! Where are the BFPs...

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To keep this thread going, proving support to all of those of a 'riper vintage' wishing for a baby...

I have received so much help, advice and support here, so although I technically have graduated, I thought I'd get the next thread going to keep the momentum.

He is super cute, Gum, looks like a proper cheeky chappy!! Enjoy your special family day xx

Hello Ladies - you may remember I was on this thread a few months ago - I had to take time out for various reasons but have hovered occasionally! I am also in the Prednisolone thread.

I did a frer yesterday morning and there was a line albeit very faint but its there!! Period not due till Monday so very early days and of course I am extremely nervous but can't help being excited too! I've done a second test this am and the line is darker. i just wanted to share my news before I burst and also to give hope to you all. I really was wondering if it would happen - so many months of hope dashed by af arriving is soul destroying so I can hardly believe it really - just dare not get my hopes too high yet but I have to tell someone!!

GUM. Your little boy is gorgeous! x

Mattsmama, that is wonderful and exciting news. Did you suspect you might be pregnant? have you had symptoms? Remind me what you have been doing, how long you,ve been ttc? Anyway, a big congratulations. I hope all goes very smoothly for you. Please keep us updated.

Thanks, I think DS is gorgeous too. I can't help feel a pang of melancholy when I look at his baby pictures. He was a really beautiful little thing. I soo wish I could do it all again.

Feeling a bit sorry for myself, have taken to my bed with a hot water bottle after awful bloating and tummy cramps, which I don't often get with AF but am today. It is frustrating because DS wants me to do stuff with him, and it is his birthday, and I can't do much. Bloody DH has had to go out to his parents, so hasn't spent any time with DS bar a half hour this morning. I know his ailing parents can't help it but they have become so dependent on DH, it is really taking up a lot of time.

At least I have managed to make DS's cakes for his party tomorrow. A small affair with another two families(rather than a bunch of six year olds), but still plenty for me to organise. Feeling a bit annoyed that DH couldn't be around to help out more today, sigh...

That's great news mattsmama, congratulations. How long have you been trying?
I've just been for 'ovulation acupuncture.' Not entirely sure what it all means but I love my peaceful hour & the positive feeling it gives me.
Trying & failing to persuade dh to give the cycling a rest for a while but he is in denial that it makes any difference. Much as I hate to say it a few weeks of rain is what I need as that might go some way to dissuade him from going out!
Hope you're feeling better Gum.

Congratulations mattsmama, that's fantastic news!

Cloud Grizzer and Gum - thank you.

I have high NKC and high thyroid antibodies and was under DR S and then I decided I would keep taking all the usual vit D, omega, folic acid etc but take the pred if and when I got a positive test. I was on the hydroxy too but I stopped that as I didnt have it in my last pregnancy which thankfully was successful and also i didnt feel right on it and something just was not feeling right with me personally about taking it - if that makes sense?! I've been trying since January this year with one or two month off in between as DH works away but also my mum has been ill so various reasons really.

AF due tomorrow and I took the first frer on Friday morning so it's still early days yet and as usual I am analysing every bloody twitch and prodding boobies constantly which seem to hurt more sometimes and then not much at all which is worrying me!!! I took a clearblue digi this am and it showed the pregnant 1-2 weeks which pleased me!!! I am still very worried though - its hard not to be - all us ladies know exactly what can happen. We have all been through it sadly so I am trying to remain optimistic but realistically so.

Hope you feel better today GUM and the party goes well.

Grizzer - I like the sound of the ovulation acupuncture - anything that makes you feel peaceful and positive can only be a good thing!

Hi Lovely ladies,
Would luv to join you board. I am 43 (eckkkk!!!) had a mc in Sept and a TFMR (T18) in April so hopefully 3 rd time lucky!

Im 4dpo today, I chart using FF which I have found very interesting as I don´t always ovulate on the same dates.
We have been TTC for 2 months and this month apart from charting I am refusing to symptom spot for my own sanity ;).

Here´s to a BFP for this cycle ladies. FC for us all!!

Hiladies I am in need of advice,I posted a week ago so here is update,I dont even know how late my period is but around 5 weeks or 6, anyway decided I wouldn,t test during week as ds first week at school and didnt want to have this on my mind, then thursday just past, i had brown discharge so thought mc,, so wasnt going to test,now 3 days later no discharge since,sore boobs, so usedclearblue test and itsays 3 weeks +, so confused should I wait see if ther is moredischarge/bleeding or could I bepregnant, why would it just say 3+ it should be more, best bit at my age I cant read the clearblue small print,lol, is that as far as it estimates? I dont want to get myhopes up with the discharge last week, should I wait another week let nature decide or book to see gp, havent told anyone not sure what to do, taking folic acid in case but not vomiting and with my succesful preg I was as sick as a dog with mc had nothing, so confused this is all out of the blue

Hi Kiwi. The clearblue don't go higher than 3+, which means if you are 5, 6, 7 weeks, it will say 3+. The 3+ is after ovulation, so it means 5 weeks or more pregnant.

So I think Congratulations are in order! This is wonderful. Your brown discharge is old blood, probably due to implantation, and the fact that you aren't vomiting means nothing: every pregnancy is different.

If you're concerned, go and see your Dr for beta blood tests to see if the HCG is doubling over 48 hours. That's one way to determine if the pregnancy will progress.

Welcome Luka71, I hope you are able to get pregnant quickly and remain sane. Some of us have been doing this for a long time, and we seem to be relatively sane

Thank you Gumblossom! and congrats to Kiwi!!!

Congratulations Kiwi, definitely sounds all good to me. A bit of spotting or even blood is very common. Don't be put off by lack of sickness, as Gum says, every pregnancy is different but there is also plenty of time for it to start!
Welcome Luca, you've joined in a good week with 2 pregnancies already. Hope you are lucky soon. I'm only about 2dpo but will also not symptom spot.... I never have symptoms when I'm pregnant anyway so don't know why I think I do.
Had a lovely night out last night with old friends who I haven't seen for ages. Dh has taken dd away for a couple of days so I am still in bed - bliss. Enjoy your rainy bank holiday for those of you who have one x

welcome Luca, and congrats to Mattsmama and kiwi. if you think you are 5-6!weeks and CB digi said 3+, everything is looking promising. It says from ov, so to get proper pg week count you need to add two, so it is in fact saying you are 5w or more. Some blood is common, 20 % of pg women spot ar even bleed slightly. If you want quick answers I guess you need to organise yourself a privte scan, they can date your pregnancy pretty accurately from week 7.

Hi jass, how are you feeling?

No news from me. I am in a happy place - always am in that reprieve time between AF and Ovulation. When my head is not scrambled thinking about timing sex, or symptom spotting or waiting for AF.

I hope all is well for everyone else. xx

Morning ladies - bit of advice really - I have been worrying myself silly because I did a frer again yesterday as a). I am paranoid! And b). My boobies seem to be up and down with the soreness which is unnerving me. Bit of a wreck really. Anyway the line seemed to take longer to show and looked fainter until about half an hour after when it looked more or less the same as the other four tests I have lined up!

A clear blue non digital ( with the cross symbol) . Was practically invisible which freaked me!

I took the plunge and did another digital this am and it was ok! So that relieved me a bit but I am worrying this could be a chemical.

When would you do another digital test if you were me? Sorry to sound neurotic but I can't help worrying. I thought the first response lines would be darker by now : /

KIWI - I'm with GUM on her advice to you - it does sound like congratulations are in order : ). I can sympathise totally with the worrying though!! Every pregnancy is indeed different GUM. - think that should be my mantra for the next week or so - as I am continually comparing symptoms such as sore breast etc.

Welcome Luca! Hello everyone else x

Hi thanks for support and advice, still in numb mode here, took your advice and going to see if i can get a private scan next week as think that could be 5,6,7 weeks, was going to try gp but that would probably take longer and as someone said bloods etc, a scan would be more confirmative wouldn,t it, still told no one, no bleeding, thought i felt sick but that may be nerves and stress!! Hope everyone else doing well

Hi everyone, very quiet on here last few days. Hope you're all ok. I'm about 5dpo, obviously I'm not thinking about it at all.....
I'm back to work on Monday after the lovely long summer holiday. Already the feeling of dread has started but once I'm actually there it'll be fine. DD starting school too. Tried on her uniform yesterday - so cute! I can't believe my baby is starting school! Definitely time for another......

Hi all,

Well Im 6dpo and normally have all symptoms going.... but this month nothing!!! Not sure I like this... :(.
I know I said that I was not going to get myself worked up this month but it´s as if my body has also decided " you know what this month Im having a break".
I chart so know I ovulated. should get AF either Tues or Weds.
I had also promised DH I wouldnt say the word pregnant this month which is difficult ;( . This morning. I had a DR appointment and he prescribed medication for a month, well I had to ask, didnt I! Well DH gave me the LOOK!!!

He did agree with me afterwards though. Hope everyone is ok

xxx

Evening all. Thought I'd drop in and say a quick 'hi'. Been reading intermitently so I see we have some newbies. Welcome Hope your stay is a short one. And lots of good news and bad too...

Have sent DH an email with projected fertile day (baby making doesn't get much more romantic than that now, does it??!!), so hopefully he will put them in his diary... Hope this month is better - don't seem to have ovulated last cycle. Must have been very pre-menstrual yest though as splashed out on x2 FRERs just to stop agonising over symptoms. Wonder if Clomid would be a good idea.

Better go. DS went to sleep earlier than normal tonight so I need to make the most of a bit of extra energy to do some stuff before bed. Night all, and sweet dreams.

MattsMama, no advice on when should you test again is going to keep you from testing every day. So, chose a nice cheap brand and stick to them. I would say if your tests stay really weak for more than a week, you are in trouble. A hcg level of barely 10 gives you a weak positive FRER. Every dumb piss stick will have some line at around 200, and you should get there within 8-10 days from first hint of a pos. Also, CB digi moves to 2-3 w around 200hcg (in urine, around 300 in blood). So. if your first frer was less than a week ago, not to worry yet. And you should get two more or less equal lines on every stick when beta reaches 1000.

Gum you asked how am I feeling. I am oast the physical part now, healing nicely I think, some very wesk light red bleeding remains. have not bothered to test yet to get a neg hpt.
Mentally, I have a different prob to all my previous mcs - this time I actually had a baby inside, a tiny 3mm thing only, but not an empty egg. and I feel like I have lost her. For some reason I am sure it was her. I try to convince me i am stupid and illogical and there never was heartbeat - but it does not help really. Docs were very supportive about trying again - not at all reminding me about my age. and I will try again, but I am more scared about loss than I used to be. Also because I am more and more sure I do not miscarry on my own when I lose a pregnancy where beta exceeded 1000, so every try means surgical removsl afterwards..... Beurk.

Hi I am new, I have lurked a bit while I've been TTC but now found out I am pregnant and feel like I need support and advice etc.

I am 39 years old, 40 next weekend and found out I was pregnant on Sunday. This is my first pregnancy, I was married for a long time to a guy who did not want children, eventually left him (not just for that reason) and met my current partner. He has already a 3 year old daughter who stays with us every other weekend and I love her to bits. Been talking about wanting a baby together since we first got together but started trying seriously 6 months ago. I was really starting to lose hope and thinking I left it too late. I was fertile just before we went on holiday for 2 weeks. Whilst on holiday I had an upset stomach. That was my only symptom until now, started with breast pain. On Sunday I tested positive with a cheapo test strip. I was crying and shaking but neither me or my partner was sure it was correct.... tested positive again on the Monday morning. Bought a clear blue digital test the same day and that said pregnant 2-3 weeks. At that point it started sinking in but on Tuesday I made my doctor test me again and it still said I was pregnant. I am 5 weeks and 4 days now. Wow!! But I kind of feel abandoned, apart from my doctor saying don't drink, don't smoke, eat a balanced diet and was I taking folic acid (yes for last 6 months!) that's all the advice I get. Midwife doesn't see me until week 9. I am new to this and didn't realise I was just left alone for another 4 weeks! I thought as I am older I am supposed to get more care? Am I just naïve?

I have more questions and of course I worry that everything will be ok with the baby because of my age. Hopefully I can chat to some of you about it all.

Congratulations, JaneLouise! Of course it is Ok to be left for 4 weeks on tour own,medically. mentally, it is a different story, of course. But in fact you need nothing but remain happy about your pregnancy and just avoid alcohol and overdoing things. Do not change cat sandbox in case you have a cat, do not eat raw milk cheese or raw fish and thats about it. You have no history about any probelms with pregnancy, so it is natural to assume by the doctor that there is nothing that needs cheking out immidiately. if you can spend on this pregnancy, go get a private scan, as suggested to kiwi up the thread. There is nothing else what needs to be done and 39 is not old at all nowadays, many of us here have had a baby around 40 and are still trying for one more in mid-40ties. My last baby was born when I was 39. Good luck, and I think there is an antenatal thread for 40 plus mums, i guess you can join them even if you lack a year from full 40!

Thank you jassS. I will be 40 on Sept 6th so I only just conceived in my 30s. I was just looking at private scans but may wait until I see midwife and when is my dating scan. I would love a 4d one later on I think.

Congratulations Janelouise, that's lovely news. There is always worry in every pregnancy but there is nothing we can do to control the outcome so try to relax & enjoy it (before the sickness, stretch marks & piles come along..... - only joking!!)
I'm sure your midwife will talk to you about any concerns you have but I don't think there's any point in a scan for a few weeks yet. Please keep popping back to let us know how you're doing.
What makes you think you didn't ovulate this month FF? This TTC malarkey is so romantic isn't it? Love the fertile emails!!
Hope you're ok Jass, we put our bodies through so much but you will cope with whatever happens because there is always that little bit of hope & belief that next time will be ok.
I'm early dpo, (trying not to count). No symptoms though, although possibly have a mild dose of thrush which I'm sure must be a symptom.....I'm obviously not thinking about it at all xx