The hot new TTC after MC thread - all welcome, bring a fish and all the posifrickentivity you can muster! Prepare to overshare.

[Seasides]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

[DoctorDonnaNoble]

Fingers crossed Triple. Well DH is a little better today but I need him to get fully well in the next 3 days I reckon we'll have missed our window this month. Seriously, 2014 is really conspiring against us at the minute.
I hate this. I know it's rubbish but I keep thinking about how I've missed the window to go on mat leave in the Summer Holidays now. My original EDD would have turned up during the study leave period so would have been relatively convenient and wouldn't have felt like I let my students down. But now (with some luck) I'll be letting down exam classes :(

[Parsley2506]

Ooooh triple!! I can imagine how scared you must be but you're pregnant right now. Have you made an appt to see your GP?

[EnglishGirlAbroad]

Oh Triple!! Lovely news, although I totally get that you're worried. I think I'd be inclined to wait a couple of days. Everything's crossed for you.

Doctor, I think we all have certain dates when things would be more convenient but sometimes you have to just say screw it. You are more important. You won't have let your class down, you'll have done everything you are capable of to make sure that when the time comes they're ready so sit the exams and do well regardless of wether you're actually there. And we're only 2months into 2014 - it WILL be a good year!!

[Triplespin]

Thank you ladies.

parsley I plan to test again on Thursday when I officially due and if its two lines then I will make the call to my GP. My GP service is the same, call at 8:30 on the day. Very annoying as some people need to go to work too!

pickles any news from you?

doctor I hope your oh recovers soon. I know how incredibly frustrating it can be. Just when you are entering the fertile period and partners become unavailable. We have this issue every cycle due to DH's busy work schedule and when I spring on him (according to him random times) that its Tith time, he is not a happy bunny.

I hope you all don't mind me hanging around here for a while. Don't think I am ready to graduate just yet.

[Metalhead]

Congrats on all the BFPs, I hope they stick!

[HollyBen]

Congratulations triple and everything crossed for you (including legs as in the tww and who can be bothered ) Keep us posted.

[HollyBen]

Any news pickle?

Dpo 9. No real symptoms to speak off - post ov sore nipples might be slightly less sore (or I am imaginibg it) and a bit crampy feeling perhaps. not feeling overly confident. Spotting normally starts dpo11. Hoping to get to friday to poas...

[Penguin13]

What a lot of naughty POASers we gave this week. Eee congratulations Triple. Really hoping for the dullest pregnancy ever for you.

I have officially gone crazy. I realised this morning whilst waiting for the tube that I was absent mindedly prodding my boobs in public trying to work out if it was actually my boobs or my pectoral muscles that were sore (turned out to be the pecs alas) Can't wait for Friday so I can get my inevitable BFN stop stressing and start ramping up for another feast of TITH.

[Seasides]

Yay triple! Pom poms in the air! Of course hang around, but I hope you're off to that heavenly grads thread soon for nine, blissfully dull months.

Sorry for your unavailable DH doctor, what bad timing. I would ask if he could grin and bear it in a day or so, but being prone to the damn things myself I know how painful a UTI is. I used to think big thoughts about timings too - more that I wanted a baby before DH was 40 (not going to happen any more); I felt like every month that passed was a month less that my parents would know him or her - dark thoughts. I don't think like that now, you just can't. It's too much pressure. Although I have just realised I'm not thinking like that any more - that's progress, I suppose!

Yes, pickle - any news? And Sal - are you out there? Getting worried we've not heard from you in a few days, hope you're just off having too much fun for TTC worries.

[Seasides]

Ha ha penguin, you must have made some male commuters' mornings! There were probably some knowing women around you thinking, 'ah, she's one of us...'

[OttersPocket]

Wooooooo Triple! That's very exciting and a very strong line. Sending all the posifrickentivity your way

Sal where are yoooooou?

9DPO and I poas no symptoms whatsoever here. Cue the blues and feelings of doom and gloom etc.

Chin up doctor, it's totally shit and not fair for you that DP is ill. I get irrationally upset and angry with my DP when he doesn't want tith during the fertile days. The whole thing is a complete head fuck.

[sebsmummy1]

Congratulations Triple. Delighted for you totally understand your concerns. Really really pray for a sticky and a H&H pregnancy darling xxx

Ok I'm really bored of the shagging now. So I think I OVed yesterday so we DTD yesterday night. Can I stop now? I can't remember if SMEP says to then do one more for luck the day after ov or wait and DTD the following day? I'm not even sore just sick of willies lol

[OttersPocket]

sebs SMEP says to dtd the day after ov then skip a day, then dtd again. If you're totally sure that you ov'ed yesterday then the chance that you would conceive from today's efforts is miniscule. The TTC madness we all experience will probably drive you to thinking that not dtd today will completely ruin your chances of course

I can hear a bloody baby crying somewhere in my corridor at work wtf. I feel grumpy and want to yell expletives!

[Penguin13]

Otters! Step away from the sticks. Now you know it is too early to test at 99dpo. Chin up, tits out lady.

[Penguin13]

Er 9DPO think 99dpo may be a little late! Auto-correct ftw.

[OttersPocket]

Dude, there's no way I could wait until 99DPO! I know, I'm an idiot!

[sebsmummy1]

Argh. Ok girls, I am going to hide the toad in the baguette one more time. I am doing this just for you lot though.

Otters you will not see a line on 9dpo so don't get despondent. I have pissed on a lot of sticks over the last 9 months and it was always 11 dpo that any line could be seen. Good luck lovely lady xxx

[Sundance2007]

Good luck triple, keeping fx for you. Maybe just try to hd out until Thursday / Friday before testing again?

Some hopeful posts here, hope we have some Christmas babies in the way.

Re: endometriosis - she said it can be treated with a laparoscopy and hormone tablets, but opting for that will mean I can't ttc for at least 6 months and given that is our priority, she said its best to just try to manage the pain instead.

DTD on Sunday when got first positive opk, and was still showing 2 lines yesterday afternoon so we DTD again last night but don't think we've done enough this month sadly, and I'm only in cd14...hate hate hate the 2ww.

Moving house in 3 weeks so trying to see that as a sort of fresh start.

[Seasides]

That should be enough o~ sundance? Wish MN had a little sperm emoticon, would have been fab to see him with his little wee Jimmy hat on ! Sounds like perfect timing to me?

Is it very painful, endometriosis? Poor you. Does if affect TTC chances? x

Well done sebs!

[mini28]

oooo, congrats triple! Fab news. Keeping fingers and toes crossed for you.

just so sorry to have made you sad with my story It's bad enough me feeling upset, I didn't want to pass the crappiness on to anyone else! I'm really glad (if that's the right word...?) that you're trying out some counselling. I have really struggled with the whole mmc situation but I have found that counselling has helped me no end. I would thoroughly recommend it to anyone. Don't get me wrong it's not a magic cure, and it's probably not for everyone, but I have found it really helpful to talk things through each week without fear of being judged. Will be thinking of you this evening and hoping that you find it as useful as I have xx

Any news pickle?

Sounds like great timing sundance fx for you in 2 weeks' time!

[Sundance2007]

I have to admit that I regretted not having counselling after my first mc. I was a total wreck as it was such a shock - the 2nd mc wasn't as bad in comparison as I was half anticipating it, but also had the experience to know how to pull myself back up. Good luck to anyone trying it, I know people who swear by it.

Endometriosis is frickin' awful. It took me 15 years to find a contraceptive pill that helped, previously my af's meant passing out on the bathroom floor in agony, sometimes at work, vomiting and general pain that lasted for 2 solid days. On the plus side, it meant i was well trained for mc pain! Obviously now I'm off the contraceptives, it's creeping back up on me, but luckily I work from home most days.

Bad cases can affect ttc - they usually give you an op where they cut out all the scar tissue that causes the pain but the recovery time can put your ttc plans on hold, and the scar tissue grows back in about a year! Bloody lady bits!!!
The doctor recommended evening primrose oil capsules so I've just started taking those.

Hoping we've done enough this month then timing wise at least. I got a few tsps of guaifenesin in prior to ov, and I took a baby aspirin today....just for the shits and giggles.

[CorporeSarnie]

Hi all, I had some counselling as I wasn't getting over the MC, and I was ending up in tears if anyone who knew the situation asked how I was. I'm by no means in a perfect state now but I have dealt with a lot more of it.
We were talking about commemorative things to remember our lost babies when I joined last week (a long time ago), and I meant to post that following that discussion I bought one of these www.notonthehighstreet.com/hurleyburley/product/silver-angel-wing-necklace
I went for a version with no bead and a long chain, it is lovely, and I do think of my baby looking after us all when I wear it (am not at all religious or woo, but there is a comfort in it). It arrived in just two days and I have been wearing it ever since. The only thing I don't like is that I don't usually wear much jewellery so I have had a couple of questions about it already, which I don't much want to answer - as I didn't talk to loads of people about the MC.
Great news on the BFPs from triple and the maybe from pickle, fingers crossed for you.
No news here - which is ultimately good news. Feeling a little sick, less of the pink cm the last day or two, but very nervous and tentative about it all. Still haven't decided what to do about the US at the hospital next week - will decide nearer the time. But feel guilty that if I cancel at the last min the appt might not get used, which would be bad from an NHS resources perspective.

[EnglishGirlAbroad]

The necklace sounds like a lovely idea sarnie, if it makes you feel better wear it and just tell people you saw it in a shop and just loved it. You don't need to give a reason.

I'm on cd7... i hate this bit more than the tww. Just want to get to the bit where I feel like i'm doing something!! Lots of tith planned for the next 2 weeks. Gonna cover all bases and just crack on. Told dh to just do whats needed... dont care how quick long it takes and to not get performance anxiety. Pressure much!! haha!

[Parsley2506]

sarnie I'd use the appt, I know it's too early to be very reassuring but I think I'd want to see everything looked as it should anyway!

Gosh this thread is flying - time for a new one very soon. Happy to sort it out so we can place mark - anyone got any title ideas? Definitely need to get TITH in there and maybe the semi automatic fish gun and, of course, chin up tits out!

[Parsley2506]

sarnie I'd use the appt, I know it's too early to be very reassuring but I think I'd want to see everything looked as it should anyway!

Gosh this thread is flying - time for a new one very soon. Happy to sort it out so we can place mark - anyone got any title ideas? Definitely need to get TITH in there and maybe the semi automatic fish gun and, of course, chin up tits out!