The hot new TTC after MC thread - all welcome, bring a fish and all the posifrickentivity you can muster! Prepare to overshare.

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Fingers crossed metal - I was using body oil, but I've changed that now and he says the smell is stronger on my back where I can't reach with moisturising cream . Eek!

Hi everyone! I've been a bit quiet this weekend because I've been studying hard and painting the bathroom (at last - I've been meaning to do it for months!)

Hello choccy and pickle sorry that you're here and hope you don't need to stay long, iykwim

Well done sebs that is truly a sterling effort!

How's the first day back at work penguin? I find that biscuits always make the day go quicker! I've just stuffed my face with a cherry bakewell, nomnom.

otters that list of symptoms looks promising! Lovely to hear about the engagement ring too.

I am 8dpo today but have had absolutely zero symptoms. Every cycle since mmc I've had odd cramps and pains from about 6dpo to af - some cycles worse than others. I think this is the first proper cycle where I haven't had anything at all yet. So, am really hoping this means I'm upduffed that whatever was causing the odd pains has now resolved itself.

Happy new ttc week everyone!

So just got back from my appt with a gynae consultant at the hospital...

She confirmed that I have endometriosis - and the best thing I can do is, umm, get myself pregnant! I was a bit annoyed that it wasn't very thorough, but she said my af's are odd but not abnormal under the circumstances, and she said no treatment is the best option if ttc. She also said I was putting myself under too much stress to get pg, and to stop taking opk tests (as if!!).

Relieved that there's no genetic issues, and they've done another thyroid test but otherwise we are in tip top shape to carry on.

The best news is that she gave me a sort of 'free pass' to get as many early scans at the EPU when I do get pg again, and she will be cinfirming this on records with gp - a relief really as it costs £150 where I am to do it privately.
So some good news, and some 'no news'. Not quite sure what to make if it. But I'm ovulating today so need to crack in tonight too !!

Glad that your appointment went relatively well Sundance. At least its nothing genetically wrong as you said, but i can imagine it must have been frustrating been told getting pg is the best plan! Well Duh!! Hopefully you get that bfp soon!! And at least you'll got free reign on scans!! That'll help to put your mind at ease when you do get pg!

Good that there were some positives from your appointment Sundance. Great news about lots of early scans and that there are no genetic issues. Pretty standard advice on the not stressing front, would be great if someone could tell you how to actually achieve that though.

I am in need of a huuuuuuuuge massive fishslap today ladies. Roughly 9 DPO, literally no symptoms, and have discovered a little pinky cm which has started my busy little mind hoping when there is no reason to. Just hit me upside the head with a massive tuna already Otters on the other hand.... it's looking good.

Well done on crossing that bathroom painting off your list mini. What are you studying,

Stop it you two (I'm looking at you sebs and Penguin)! I very much doubt that it's happened this month. I can't actually visualise a time when it will happen again which sounds very doom and gloom but I'm sure you understand. Penguin, I'm not going to fishslap you so there! Time sloooows right down in the tww, it's a friggin' nightmare waiting it out.

I had to let out a snort when your consultant told you to stop with the opk's Sundance, as if us lot could ever do that. I'm feeling the need to pee on something today, you get quite used to it!

I love my new ring metalhead, I don't have it yet but when I do I'll post a picture

So mini, do you think you can hold off poasing until Friday? I have a social event which, if I'm not upduffed, I'd like to have a few drinks at on Thursday so I may need special permission to poas a day early this week....

So my surge is over and I think I felt the egg ping from my left ovary about three hours ago! My clearblue still has me on High but I can tell from the sticks (it looked peak yesterday) and from the one I did today that i can carry on pissing on sticks for the next two weeks and the monitor will just leave me on High. I usually get EWCM for about 4 days then the day i get none is the day I OV, today I have none.

So I am charting today as OV day, my 2WW begins and I know its going to be total torture.

I have to admit I think it is handy to be able to POAS pre-Friday if, and I do mean IF, you have a special occasion - though I suspect there may be some abusers if that rule on here...mentioning in names!!! :)

Sounds like me might have some good news coming up in the next week or so for some people, keeping fx for you all.

The consultant also said that we should only need to DTD twice a week if ttc....sounds ideal but not going to happen!

I was in the waiting room with a woman who was crying, and from eavesdropping I could tell she had had a miscarriage - I really wanted to go and hug her but thought people might find it weird being a stranger. Poor thing.

Oh Sundance that is so sad, that poor woman. I was all happy and naive before the mc and didn't really notice the other women waiting for scans. Until, of course, my own scan of doom.

I found out today that a friend of mine with whom I used to be close also experienced a mmc at her 12 week scan recently. I had no idea, nor did she have any idea about mine. We've had a chat about it today and it just feels so very sad. And also, so very common. It's a shitty thing to happen but I think it will bring us closer together again. Silver linings and all that.

I'm off home now to paint a couple of radiators in a vain attempt to take my mind off things. It's all go round the Otters household donchaknow!

So, got home from school and it looks this month will be a right off for us as well . DH has a UTI just as I'm becoming fertile. He's on antibiotics so with a bit of luck it'll clear up quickly. Knowing our luck it won't. Looks like we won't get to have any TITH at the appropriate time at all this month. Getting frustrated now as he was ill for most of my fertile period last month as well. It's just not fair!!!

Argh Donna what rotten timing. You're right, it's not fair. Crossing my fingers for your DH to make a miraculous recovery.

Thanks for making me feel welcome. Happy Monday. Ah sorry Donna, fingers crossed you will be back to TTC v.soon. Ah Sundance I love how medical people say such unhelpful things, they make it sound so reasonable too don't always think they appreciate our emotions and the roller coaster rides we have been on sometimes though.
Well I've got a bit of a muddly one... Af was due today/tom. I've been telling myself all month that I'm not going to be pg as I had such a kick in the teeth last month and was so heartbroken. I had convinced myself I was and symptom spotting so much that I really had convinced myself I was pg. Anyway this mth I have been trying to not analyse anything. Anyway hubbie and I DTD last night and after I had a pinky red watery bleed, I immediately thought the witch had come and then joined here. Well I've had nothing since! I did a tescos own pg test and there's a feint line, you really have to look. So I brought the boots try 4 days before u are due ones and nothing!! I'm going crazy here!! Just can not bear to get my hopes up only to have them dashed. I've got one of each test left to test tom so hopefully more answers then. But just so stressy having them be DSO different. What does anyone think.. Am I foolish to have as glimmer of hope. Don't want to stress too much and then make AF late as of stress.
Sorry for long boring post. Have loved reading everyone's stories you all have positivity and strength. I'm up to page seven now so more bedtime reading for me later.

Ooh sebs, I think we've synched up! I got strong line on opk yesterday evening, and pains today. With my dodgy cycles though I will probably have 3 af's before the end of your 2ww!

pickle, it sounds like you may have had some success, a line is a line, faint or not. Good luck

How long does your oh have to recover donna? Just don't fall into the trap of him getting used to being waited on, my DH has been known to abuse my kind nature when he knows I need him to perform!

sundance on balance that sounds like a productive appointment. Good you've been guaranteed early scans next time too. Fx you'll be using them before long!

penguin that sounds promising, bring on Friday!

Has anyone seen the lovely sal?

pickle fingers tightly crossed that the first test is the charm - however, did the line stay there? Did it show up before the 3 mins were up? If it disappeared you might have what happened to me the month before last, I got a false positive which faded. It was gutting. I really hope that FMU brings you some more lines, but if not, there's a possibility that's what it is. On the other hand, seeing as AF is a no show it sounds more likely that this is your month

Glad you got at least some confirmation of hunches and some certainty sundance. Such a sad story of the crying woman , I hope she wasn't on her own? We should have business cards with the thread url for such situations...

Pickle! You must be going mental right now. Keeping my fingers firmly crossed for you.

In other news.....is it Friday yet?

H is away in Barcelona for work and I have a bad habit of treating myself to a properly 'naughty' meal when he is away because if no one saw you eat it it didn't happen right? Just ate soooooo much accompanied by two helpings of My Mad Fat Diary. Now feeling a bit blorpy.

Thanks seasides, having lots if crampy pains and back ache start so expecting full blown AF any min. Will do a test in the morning if not. Sundance just read your second post how awful to see the other lady crying. So sad.

The line is still there but in a blink and you will miss it kind of way. I've never been able to test early in any of my pregnancies must ov late. If AF is on her way then I will need any help I can get, not sure howbyiu track temps and how u tell if you are ovulating. I brought a bundle of eBay this mth but the line never seemed to be that bright and I never had any ov pain.
Penguin you are making me hungry and no only booming Tues tom.

Fx for tomorrow pickle!

Can I ask a question for any of you ladies who've had an erpc: how long did you bleed/spot afterwards? It's a week tomorrow that I had mine done (and 11 days since I started to miscarry), and every time I think the spotting has finally stopped I get a mini gush of blood again. It's really starting to p**s me off!! The blood is getting more browny-red so I guess it's moving in the right direction, but I'd just like it to stop now so I can get back to normal (and start exercising again as I'm turning into a big fat blob!).

Metal, 2 weeks is about normal. If its still going after a month, see your GP. Good luck.

Sorry for the confusing test tests pickle sending lots of positive thoughts your way.

sundance glad you got some answers, but a bit annoying that their advice was to get preggo! Fantastic news on the early scans though, that must be really reassuring.

penguin I'm studying for my MA in Ancient Religions. I kept putting it off because we were ttc, but a couple of months ago I just thought to myself crap it I can't keep putting stuff off in the vague hope that I miraculously get upduffed at some point. I was also hoping that I would invoke sod's law a bit, but it hasn't worked yet! pinky cm = very good sign!

otters I'm sure a sneaky Thursday poas is allowed under special circumstances every once a while
I'm not sure whether I'll poas on Friday...I'll see how I feel later in the week (not feeling too hopeful we dtd at the right time this cycle)

DH's uncle came round for an impromptu lunch visit today armed with dh's cousin's 12-week scan pictures. We knew she was pregnant beforehand (she told the whole world as soon as she got her bfp ) but it didn't make it any easier. It wasn't his fault, he doesn't know about the mmc, but it was pretty difficult him cooing over the scan photos and telling us how relieved cousin is that the scan went well. I feel awful that I'm not more happy for them, but it's just so hard to be.

Anyway, must be more posifrickintive! We will all get our bfps! Chin up and all that...

sundance so happy to hear that it all went well, with the exception of the get pregnant comment. Is there nothing they can do to treat the endometriosis? The option of early scans is great, hopefully you will be booking one in soon !!

pickles fx for tomorrow. Hope the suspense clears up. FMU is imp up to AF due date, so hopefully you will see those two lines tomorrow.

otters your symptoms sound promising. When is AF due and then will you yield to poas!

Some fish slaps here ladies. Unfortunately I caved in today at 12dpo. I had slight sore boobs but nothing out of ordinary (same feeling pre AF). Anyway I got two lines. Just can't blv it as I never expected after such a long time and especially this cycle as we didn't even dtd much. Here is the link, please check it out.

www.countdowntopregnancy.com/pregnancy-test-gallery/image.php?galleryid=236269

I now can't sleep as I really think it will be a chemical and when I test again it will no longer be there. Not quite sure whether it makes sense to test again tomorrow or should I just wait till Thursday when AF would be due. Argh. Wish I hadn't tested -it must be a chemical. .......

Also forgot to say I no longer have sore boobs since I poas which is another reason for thinking chemical.

Triplespin good luck, wishing you an uneventful and boring pg.

Mini your story about the scan photo made me . That's why I am totally open with people, to avoid that sort of situation. I have my first counselling session tonight (because I am aware that reading that someone else who I don't know had a scan and feeling sad is not normal).
I want to go back and finish my MA one of these days... maybe next year (of course something will have happened by then...?)