The hot new TTC after MC thread - all welcome, bring a fish and all the posifrickentivity you can muster! Prepare to overshare.

[Seasides]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Thanks justone, it's at University Hospital in Coventry.
I'm writing down questions at the moment.
I had bloods done after the last CP but obviously hormones etc would have still been present so they were probably pretty pointless really. I was also taking baby aspirin so that would've affected my clotting screen.

Waves at Doctor

They did mention last time about perhaps giving me pesseries etc, or cream. I've also read about injections that can be taken on a daily basis (claxane?)
My friend who is going through ov'd has also mentioned an endometrial scratch which I'd never heard of before.

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Hi Choccy! Good luck tomorrow. Hope you get some answers.

Re clots - pretty sure I always had a few clots pre mc.
My af is so light, im worried. Normally a day of spotting, a day of medium flow and then a couple of light. Is that normal?? I at least want a couple of days full/medium flow. Pretty sure pre-pill my af's lasted a good 5/6 days. Now its 3/4.

Hi choccy. So sorry you are here as well. Everyone is do lovely but we never want new members

Well it looks as though I might indeed be ovulating in the next two days. I obviously have been getting EWCM as my CBFM had me reading low yesterday and high today and there is a clear shift on the test stick readings. We have definitely done enough BDing. Just got to hope my body actually manages to OV as opposed to show all the signs and then do bugger all.

Then it's the joy of the 2ww I suppose.

Thanks for all the reassurance ladies. No more clot obsessing for me!

sundance how frustrating! but at least you've caught it and just once could be enough so try not to stress out too much!

choccy welcome on board, I hope you don't have to stay too long! I know there's a recurrent MC thread over on the Pregnancy Loss board, you might find that useful for question compiling. I hope your appointment goes well and you get answers!

sarnie sending your little finger sarnie heaps of posifrickentivity and telling it to stay put!

After feeling so proud for enduring ikea yesterday, I have abandoned MrP to flat pack hell and am roasting a chicken instead. I got angry before I'd even finished one cupboard! Their bloody diagrams are so annoying!

Choccy, Prof Quenby works at Coventry - she offers NK testing for 360 pounds and part of that involves the 'scratch' which apparently boosts the lining for 3 months and therefore boosts chances of conception - so I am told. I don't think that is part of the routine RMC tests, but I expect they can advise you on whether it's worth paying for. I am actually coming up for this test in March (hopefully). I have had all the other tests at St Mary's where I got all clear except for a heart shaped uterus with a septum which they fixed.
I'm not sure what other RMC Coventry offer, but with Prof Q on the team, I expect they'll be good.
There seems to be differing opinions on progesterone, claxene (the brand name for herapin) and various doses of aspirin. Best to wait and see what they thing will help you in your specific case. I hope they get you sorted.

I'll check that other thread out thanks parsley.

Waves at English and sebsmummy.

It's prof Quenby I'm seeing tomorrow I believe justone Glad I'm in good hands.

Cool. :) I'll see you on there (I'm also a recurrent MMC er). I know that some of the ladies have seen Prof Q for the NK tests, if not for the RMC.

Hi can I join you all? I'm struggling on my own in the rw. My brief history mmc Feb 09 and June 09 dd July 2010. Mmc June 13. Been trying for two months with no joy. We've always fallen first time before so can't help worrying. It is all so hard I long for the innocence of making a baby and assuming it will all be OK. Would be really nice to be on thus difficult journey with you all.

Pull up a pew pickle you're in good (jaded) company here! Sorry to hear of your losses, we can all relate to the feelings you describe.

After waiting 18 months for a BFP and then losing it to a MMC at 11 weeks. As such I've never had any innocent enjoyment of ttc or being pg. It's pretty saddening to contemplate, but I know I'll get there in the end and in the meantime, the ladies on this thread are seriously the best tonic and so supportive.
We will look after you pickle but hopefully you'll be moving on before too long!

Thanks parsley, so sorry to hear of your loss. I'm just going to have a read through now I'm officially on the bus.

Can I please say brag that I have hidden the sausage 11 times in 14 days.

That is dedication, yes indeedy very fucking sore now

That is all.

Go sebsmummy. AF turned up for me tonight roll on more sexy time in march lol.

High fives Sebs! That's some serious dedication! I'm hoping I can muster some enthusiasm, I'm aiming for a marathon too!!

Sorry you're having to join us pickle, wishing you a short but sweet journey.

Hi choccy and Pickle welcome aboard. I'm sorry for both your losses. Like others have said I hope your stays will be short and sweet. Sorry the witch showed up Pickle but well done on the posifrickentivity.

Sarnie it's impossible not to worry with our histories but today you are pregnant. Hold on that.

Well done sebs passes chafing cream. Sterling effort. Hope it pays off for you!

Back to work after a week off and sat on a freezing cold train. Definitely not going to spend my day looking up stories of people who had zero symptoms but still got their BFP interspersed with scoffing the bon maman biscuits I bought for my colleagues. ...

Hi Choccy - have you been on one of these threads before? I feel like I remember your name. I've been here since God was a small boy, I'm sorry you're still struggling too. And pickle, hi.

Shagger of the month award to sebs! Rutting season has started here too, a little later than the SMEP we'd planned as DH had to do the sperm run on Friday and was then too hungover on sat.

Just opened a book and my original temp chart fell out. I only did one before the ectopic, the month I got my BFP - I've marked a little exclamation mark on the day. It's reassuring to see it matches the charts I've been doing for the last two months, I suppose it means my hormones are more sensible. It's a bit [confusing] and though.

Also - an odd thing. DH has been complaining recently that my smell has changed. It sounds ridiculous, but I'm actually worried about it, he doesn't like it! I once had to break up with a boyfriend when I went on the pill - my hormones changed and I could no longer bear his smell, I stopped being attracted to him completely. I'm worried that by sorting out my hormones with agnus castus etc I've changed them and DH will fancy me less!

Good morning and happy new week everyone. Welcome choccy and Pickle, come join the madness

I'm impressed with all the tith recently, especially you sebs! We made a sterling effort this month but now ov has passed I really can't be bothered. I'm a terrible person

8dpo for me today and trying so hard not to SS. Distracting myself with wedding planning work to try to keep my mind from it.

Ooooh 8dpo Otters!! . Go awn, what symptoms have you?

Oh alright then you bad enabler you! Slightly tender boobs (side area), wee bit queasy, really tired, slightly achy back. All of these could be attributed to straining myself doing DIY this weekend and drinking some wine last night though! Or to impending AF. It would be soooooooooo much easier if upduffed and AF symptoms were actually different to each other

Yep. I can remember each month researching other peoples symptoms and when my month came around I had absolutely none lol.

So I now know I am one of those creatures who has no symptoms bar increased cm in the 2ww which actually makes sense as in my successful pregnancy I didn't really have any symptoms in the first trimester!!

Fingers crossed for you chick, any exciting wedding plans yet? Did you tell you mum and dad over the weekend or did I dream that post?

DP and I told our parents and some friends yes It's funny, we've been together for quite soon time now so for us it didn't really seem like news iyswim? Just an inevitable thing. But oh my goodness, were our parents thrilled!

I'd love to get married this year but we've just bought a new kitchen, we're getting major roofing works carried out and we're trying to decorate most of the house so money is ridiculously tight. So I think we will have to wait until the Spring. We did choose an engagement ring on Saturday though which was very exciting

Spring next year I mean!

Ha ha awwwww I love that your parents were over the moon, that's so cool. I would like a proposal one day and know if it happens my Mum will be so excited. We have ideas (when we talked about it years ago) of disappearing abroad and getting it done. Maybe Florence or Vienna, don't really fancy doing the Caribbean thing but maybe for a honeymoon (I don't want much of I lol, no wonder DP won't ask me!!!)

Ah, I look back very fondly on planning my wedding - even though at the time it gave me panic attacks! Hope you got a nice ring Otters.

And like sebs I also had far fewer "symptoms" when I actually was pregnant than in any other cycle, so I think less is often more. (All I had in December was mild cramping from around 10 dpo and possibly some more cm than usual).

Seasides I'm sure your DH still fancies you! Could it be something simple like you changed your shower gel or washing powder recently...?

Ring shopping! That must have been a fun weekend Well, if you get married next spring you could have a tiny adorable page boy/flower girl in your pics !

DIY central around here too, only we've got men in. A drain around the back of our house has been blocked for a fortnight apparently, but it's tucked down a side we don't see so our neighbour only got hold of us yesterday. Turns out one of our bloody friends flushed baby wipes down it - people are so dim sometimes! Also going to have to re-paint our friend's house we stay in during the week because another friend managed to explode a cafetiere of coffee all over the wall and ceiling - coffee stains, apparently...I'll be doing that one myself, but it's such a bummer.