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lovesLemonDrizzleCake ·
27/09/2013 11:08
Pff, right the stress does not end ever, does it...
So sorry about the scan cos. It ain't over, and I am willing little cosfoetus on with all my might. But it is more worry. I agree it is time FertilityFuckers to give us here a break.
Sorry about the worry gin. I am sure they'll care well for you and ginestas and you'll soon be home with the perfect baby bundle.
Only 18 weeks to go, buzz. Other people's pregnancies fly by!
Well done on switching off joy! I am hoping for a lovely surprise for you.
As for me, the positive tests were preceded by no spotting, the last 3 years worth of cycles mostly with spotting. So no, I don't think I have a chance. But til AF is here, I am not drinking etc just in case. She'll be here tomorrow though, more spotting after rather a "tricky poo" to borrow euro's expression or was that on a another thread?
But after flapping, menkulling and crying last night and this morning I am moving towards pulling myself together. After breakfast I got my (healing, hurrah) injury treated, met my sister and nephew (and a baby born on my due date plus his mum) for coffee. I held the little person for ages and it felt good. I was happy about that. The heart-wrenging pain will not keep me from enjoying other people's children.
I went home, it's a nice autumnal sunny day, town looked lovely, I had a chat with my neighbour about his garden and little jobs that always need doing. Since being at home I came up with a plan for the next few months. I am allowed to start running again, but have to take it easy. So running one day, core stability exercise the other, and horrid ankle strengtheners every day...
I'll try and do something fun twice every week (or more) for the next month or so, think cinema, meeting people for drinks or dinner. I am going to write my diary again to give the whole IVF-adventure a place. We'll escape for another mini-break to regroup and then do the next FET in November/December.
In my appraisal there was a bit more talk than I liked about sick-leave, so I might have to have a word with occ health. There are big decisions being made and I am on a short contract so I would like to keep the whole fertility business out of their attention. Of course crying like a baby when confronted with my absences which include a mc, a chem pg, and EC won't help my case. Oh well. They thought my performance was excellent despite it, so... And they'll reduce my work load a little, as it's a bit heavy, as you've noticed 
So that's enough mememe. I needed to write it down, apparently!
Handholds, loves and crossed fingers to you lot!
rumisyum ·
27/09/2013 11:22
Thanks, nelly, I'll add my chocolate cherry brownies to the tent's selection, and make myself comfortable. 
cos, I'm hoping with all I've got that this is just an artefact of the very early scan. Hang on in there.
buzzy over half way! How wonderful.
gin, I'm sorry to hear about the strep, but am certain everything will be just fine for your little one. At least it's been found so it can be dealt with, yes? Hugs to you, though, extra worries are the last thing any of us need!
I just lied outright to a colleague who asked me about why I've been a bit up & down & unwell at work recently. "Are you trying to get pregnant?" "Not really." 
But seriously, how are you supposed to respond to that?!
Tenmonthsandcounting ·
27/09/2013 19:27
Wow, evening ladies so much has happened in the past week or so. Another apology that I have disappeared but we yet more family deaths (for fear of outing myself I will skip the details) but suffice to say thingsa re a bit hectic. I have been trying to keep reading but in the end admitted defeat and have just had to go back to the last thread to remember what has happened. I cant remember who it was who mentioned they have been here for a while, I for one remember reading thread 6 and 7, that seems like a long time ago.
Thank you for your kind words about MIL, MrT seems to be handling it remarkably well, and I am just trying to be as supportive as possible.
Pout I am not sure if you will ever read this but I want to add my voice to the chorus of those to say I am so so sorry that this was the outcome for you. I imagine it will take some time to recover from this.
Cos I am sorry to hear the news about the heartbeat, I really hope that it isnt a bad sign. Big hand hold.
Rabbit Your appointment sounds like a horrible shock, I think no matter what it is hard to hear the tough messages from the horses mouth. I am sorry that you feel so low as a result. The ladies here speak so much sense in terms of giving IVF a go, you really dont know what the outcome will be. Taking things one step at a time and not fast forwarding mentally to the worst outcome (a fault I have) may be helpful? I hope that you start to feel a bit less low soon, infertility is like bereavement, the five stages definately apply to how I have felt over the last few months.
Joy I am sorry that your run up to ET was so stressful for you and you felt that the clinic didnt listen to you. I am very impressed with your bravery about the injections, I am terrified about them and I dont think I have any scary ones coming. I also like Sarlats fuck them rant, I agree and second it!
Mrs Den Your colleague sounds like a right cow. I am so glad that someone told her that her behaviour was unacceptable, what a totally rude thing to say, even if you notice something like that you NEVER mention it rude rude rude.
Rumi Sorry about cyst news, but yay to lots of wine, that sounds like a good plan! WHy do people continue to ask inappropriate questions like that!!!! Drives me mad. I do feel bad about lying to friends though.
Lemon I am hoping that your test tomorrow is a positive, but your list of all of the good aspects of your day is a fantastic mindset. Also having a plan of nice things to do that are non ttc related is great. I understand the issues with work, I cant tell my firm that we are doing IVF, equal opportunities etc have not been heard of, I work with all men in a very corporate world, at least they think your performance if fantastic! That is great.
Gin I am sorry about the new thing to menkall about, it doesn't get any easier does it.... at least they know, this is treatable (I know these platatudes wont make a blind bit of difference!)
Coco I am sorry AF arrived again, have you spoken about why he doesnt want to consider IVF? I dont think MrT had considered that we would do it until a consultant explained how low our chances of conceiving naturally to him. Until then he thought that it would happen at some point. Is there anyway of getting him infront of a doctor? Or is it an ethical thing?
Buzzy 22 weeks, great news!
Hello to everyone else I have missed Euro Nelly et al...
AFM we had out initial consultation at Create today, ICSI antagonist protocol agreed on and will be starting this cycle. I have no idea how I am going to manage this with work, I am terrified of needles, and generally feeling a bit cr@p that we have finally reached this point. BUT I am lucky that we are able to give this a go, I am lucky that Create are fairly local and can use as few drugs as possible, I am lucky that I have a wonderful husband who I wouldnt change for the world despite his quite frankly shite offerings.....I am also hoping that I have run out of bad luck given all the recent deaths and that we might just have an easy ride for once (pleeeeessseee fertility gods) 
CocoAndNuts ·
27/09/2013 22:31
ten so sorry you've had another bereavement. Life certainly knows how to dish out the crap doesn't it.... Hope you and MrT are doing ok.
Unfortunately MrC has already been put in front of the Drs and give some facts. But the Drs didn't seem too "concerned" about our chances. Sighting the two miscarriages in two years as evidence of working tubes and juices.
He's said, what will be will be, and although he'd prefer to have children. "If it didn't happen for us then so be it" .....
It's not an ethical thing, more to do with not wanting to spend all our time in Drs waiting rooms.
I don't know if he'll change his mind later but at 38 there doesn't feel like there's much "later" left.
I had a crap day today. Very weepy for no apparent reason. Almost hormonal but that makes no sense. Guess it's all just getting to me. Plus my father is unwell. Then work is very uncertain, with the company I work for having lost three quarters of its staff in the last six months. It's all piling on.
Then as I was leaving for the day, I bumped in to my boss in the loos. I was looking red eyed after blubbing due to a work colleagues last day. And she said "oh no have had another one?" (Meaning mc) 
. Guess there's no secrets in this office then.
Have to go. Sleep time. Night lovelies
ThatWayMadnessLies ·
30/09/2013 08:19
Oh lemon that must be so nervewracking!! I understand getting SB to take the calls but i really couldn't wait. I am hoping for very good news. You so deserve it.
Thanks for the good wishes. At work now and leaving at ten to meet MrM at the hospital. Had to buy a new bra yesterday as have already gone from a 30F to a GG . I will look like I'm after a career in glamour modelling.....
Here's to a good Monday for us all xx
Ginestas ·
30/09/2013 08:29
Good luck lemons!! I'd be pissing on sticks like a mad woman if I were you
And good luck mad. Additional boobage sounds like a v good sign
CocoAndNuts ·
30/09/2013 09:07
Good lemon So damn excited for you! I'd have cracked way before now if I were in your shoes.
Good luck with the scan today mad GG That's a fine pair of snuggle bumps you have there.
Feeling happier today. Me and MrC had a chat and decided to focus on our future rather than constantly stressing about my Dad and trying to sort his life out. (Long story but in a nut shell his ex-wife has taken him to the cleaners, he's had a stroke, gone blind and is now in massive debt)
We starting talking about our plans for the next 5-10 years. With or without children, there are going to be changes.
Monday morning awaits.
Catch you later lovely ladies.
Buzzybee123 ·
30/09/2013 09:32
lemon you are like superwoman with your iron will, I would have cracked a few days ago, its looking promising
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joycep ·
30/09/2013 10:02
Best of luck to mad and lemon.
at Mad's big norks! Roy has been admiring the size of mine too but that's gestone injections and not pregnancy sadly!
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