so much going on in the world of ten plussers! Where to start...
Nelly, I'm so sorry about the two keen sperm and egg situation. We just can't call these things and it goes to show just how complex ttc is every month. You so didn't need another knock. I don't know, for me, I feel like I started at 100 on the snakes and ladders board and was magnetised towards the snakes and am now on 10! We both have to roll a 6 and hit a ladder soon. I felt a hot rage that you had a cons that made you feel upset doing the ec. But now you have another option that has made itself known and that is an amazing thing. In the past year I have thought about egg donor a lot because I like to ponder on my options. But now, this has turned from abstract weighing up to a quite possible reality. I hope it is Ok for me to get out some thoughts about this.
My first concern is that this might not work either. This should not be your concern but I feel so fecking barren I can't imagine any kind of life in me. But, should it work, I think I would feel so grateful that I will experience pregnancy and a newborn that it would outweigh any of the negative feelings that I could work through. That said, in my recent shock, I had a horrible feeling of H's sperm literally having an affair in the petri dish with a young nubile and that his son/daughter would be with another lady! Agh! Next up, I thought of them finding their mum at 18 and liking them better than me. Ouch.
I have no friends I could ask to do this. If a friend offered, that would be a lovely thing but I think sar and cos offer good advice about thrashing it all out upfront. It would be amazing to feel confident about your donor in terms of knowing lots about them, I'm sure you have so many questions in your head. I would do it for a friend, I feel sure of that but then, I wanted to be an egg donor when I was 24 and was strongly persuaded out of it by my then partner. Wow, I could talk about this for hours. The epigenetics stuff is fascinating.
A big day tomorrow for cos and joy and I am willing with every cell that you will be on here with good news.Hope you are both doing OK tonight and that sleep comes. Joy I can't believe that woman. I cheered for Roy with his retort. I know you aren't feeling confident that this could have worked but last time you couldn't have called it so I will be hopeful for you.
Den, glad things are moving for you.
Lemon, may your 22 sleeps speed by.
Sea, hello. I'm glad you got some respite from ttc.
Doll, wow to you being full term and yay for you being in the right place with mini doll looked after. You are ready to go! I love hearing about your tales, do come and let us know how it goes.
Rum, did you have your scan?
Waves to everyone else, I'm sure I've missed folks. Pout - if you are reading, I miss you and hope you are doing OK. You are always welcome here for talks of spiderbites and dogs and crafty exploits, you can boycott talk of ttc - who needs that anyway when there are wasps in pubes stories?!
As for me. Well, I've had ten days to digest that have evolved from sheer shock and grief to a more low level feeling of doom. I have had my big cry and now just feel flat and energy less for the ivf road ahead. I have had no protocol sent to me yet and really want this to happen in November or it will be January. I think I will ring tomorrow to check that I can be ready for next CD1. Do you think there is time for protocol arrival/drugs/injection training in 3 weeks? I am clinging on to the hope that my left ovary isn't really dead. She said there was too much gas in the way to be totally sure. I also read that a large corpus luteum can obscure follies so maybe there will be another one hiding.
Without this thread and the people on it, I would have been LOST in the past two weeks. I am so thankful to you all and a huge love to those who are now diffed but who take the time and care to fluff up tail feathers and cheer on encouragingly.