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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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How many times did it take you to get pregnant?

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jaykay987 · 27/08/2013 14:00

Just wondered - those with +ve tests, how many times did you dtd the month you conceived?

I know dtd every other day is the best way to get results, but that is just not practical for us.

I am temping and using opks so hopefully we will time it right and catch the fertile window a couple of times.

I see many people who are dtd every day or every other day or "only 5 times over the weekend"! Even with the best intentions, we will not manage this even in my fertile window.

Anyone got any good news stories to share? I'm worried keeping my fingers crossed isn't going to be enough! I'm really hoping this isn't going to put back our HPT date many many months!

This time last week I was feeling so positive. I need to get my positive vibes back!

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PeriodMath · 27/08/2013 14:08

I'm afraid I ignored the usual advice to just have a lot of sex through the month and targeted it around ovulation. I find ttc sex really...unsexy! We used opks as a guide.

VJONES1985 · 27/08/2013 14:09

Not that it helped but we dtd every two days all month except over the fertile period, when it was every day for four days.

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jaykay987 · 27/08/2013 14:10

Agree! So how many times did you dtd in the days leading up to ovulation?

My "target" is twice in the 5 days running up to ov. Though not sure if we'll manage that this month. If my fertile window doesn't align to a weekend, it's a tough target!

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RaRaZ · 27/08/2013 14:13

Me and DP are sex-every-day kinda people anyway, so we don't really have this 'problem' - but remember, it only takes one sperm! Having frequent sex should increase your chances, but it's still only one sperm that is required to penetrate the egg. You could have sex twice a day over your fertile period and still not be successful, whereas someone else could have sex once four days before ovulation and conceive. It's a game of chance really.

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jaykay987 · 27/08/2013 14:14

Vjones - that is a lot!

We've been ttc just over two months already, there is no way we could commit to every other day for the next however many months! Hence why Im trying to see whether the majority of those with +ve test results dtd the every day running up to ov, or whether a couple of times is enough!

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jaykay987 · 27/08/2013 14:15

Thanks Razraz. I know - Im just trying to find some success stories where the couple weren't dtd three times a day every dayM. Just to give me a little hope!Grin

I need to turn my negative mind around!

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VJONES1985 · 27/08/2013 14:19

Yeah, it's a lot and it didn't bloody work

Trinpy · 27/08/2013 14:25

Both times I got pregnant were months when I had no idea when I ovulated, just had sex as normal. And that was only about 2-3 times a week. The first bfp took 14mnths of sex ed or eod around fertile period before I gave up one month and got lucky. Second bfp I never got a positive opk so dtd as usual and conceived first month.
If we ever decide to TTC again I will be using the have sex as normal method. So much less stressful. Sorry if this isn't much help.

Isean · 27/08/2013 14:26

I got my first BFP last week and over this month we DTD 13 times (CD 4, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 16, 19, 21, 25, 28). We were away on holiday CD 7-13 which explains DTD every day, I think I ovulated on CD16/17 and only DTD once from CD 14-18! I didn't use OPKs or temp or really check CM or anything this month, so I think it was a fluke that we timed it right.

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jaykay987 · 27/08/2013 14:57

Thanks.

I just read on FF that of 119k charts, 94% of women getting a +ve HPT dtd at least once in the two days before ov or the day of ov.

Guess that answers my question! So I guess, for people that are monitoring and are trying to target ovulation a little bit, it depends how good you are at guessing when two days before ov is!

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Writerwannabe83 · 27/08/2013 18:36

We only had sex 3 times and still got pregnant our first month of trying Grin

Debsv · 27/08/2013 18:49

Once both times! Trying for baby number 3 now and have been DTD every 2-3 days so let's see if I'm still as fertile as I was in my 20's!

Sparrowlegs248 · 27/08/2013 19:08

Bloody hell Isean !!!! You deserved your bfp!! Is that a normal month or better than usual due to the holiday??

writer i like the sound of your 'schedule' a bit more! Actually i like the sound of Iseans too but that is MUCH less likely in this house!! Not that we don't want to but blimey how do you fit it all in?

FrickingFracking · 27/08/2013 19:13

We did the SMEP plan, this was after years of trying though.

spermmeetseggplan.com/smep-step-by-step/

Writerwannabe83 · 27/08/2013 19:15

My sex life seems very inferior to some other people's on here, haha Grin

I guessed that I would be ovulating on the 8th of July so we had TTC sex on the 3rd, the 6th and the 8th.

I have had already had a scan due to early bleeding and based on the measurements they predicted I had conceived on the 7th.

VJONES1985 · 27/08/2013 19:16

nottalotta we dtd every two days and every day over my fertile period. So that's serious dedication. And it didn't work! Ha ha!

RaRaZ · 27/08/2013 21:26

OP: I think often you're best to try and have sex because you want to, for the fun of it. Apparently, a lot of babies are conceived to women in the first throes of an affair even when they've failed for years to conceive with their long-term partner (steady on and keep reading, I'm not telling you to cheat on your partner!!!) because their hormones react to the excitement and enjoyment of it - fun sex as opposed to baby-sex I suppose.

Sparrowlegs248 · 27/08/2013 21:33

VJONES will you do the same next time or try to be more relaxed? Is that your usual amount of dtd?

RaRaz My sister fell pregnant on a weekend away with a new fella. After years of trying with the old one she thought she couldn't have children. Wrong!!

FrankelInFoal · 27/08/2013 21:35

I lost count - it took us 3 years to conceive.

FrankelInFoal · 27/08/2013 21:38

Sorry, I realise now you were asking about the actual month you conceived.

I was on fertility treatment so we were having sex at the order of the nurses! We had sex on CD 13, 14, 15 & 17 and I ovulated on CD 16.

Katekate77 · 27/08/2013 21:39

We DTD every other day and every day during ovulation...didn't get pregnant. Next month just did it a couple of times a week and got a positive test the day after my period was due. The first month was disheartening, especially as it became a chore some nights, but I know people try for months/years. Don't get too stressed about it, it happened for us when we relaxed and enjoyed trying! It'll happen when it's meant to happen. Good luck x

hettienne · 27/08/2013 21:44

First time, once. Second time 3 or 4 times.

VJONES1985 · 27/08/2013 21:44

Katekate Your words have filled me with so much joy :) This month (our first month) we did the same as you did in the first month and today I got af (a week early, I might add). Have been through so many emotions but I think next cycle we will be more relaxed.

Nottalotta No way, we usually do it a couple of times a week! Have enjoyed doing it more often but it deffo felt more strained sometimes so wanna be more relaxed this time :)

Writerwannabe83 · 27/08/2013 22:07

I found it really weird having TTC sex - me and DH just kept laughing whilst trying to do it. It just seemed so awkward! Grin

VJONES1985 · 27/08/2013 22:16

Oh, we didn't, we just did it and it felt normal. I mean,it's all ttc sex, it's just that sometimes it's necessary and sometimes it isn't. Despite the more relaxed approach I want this cycle, sex during my fertile period is gonna have to be prescribed to an extent otherwise it could be missed conpletely!