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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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How many times did it take you to get pregnant?

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jaykay987 · 27/08/2013 14:00

Just wondered - those with +ve tests, how many times did you dtd the month you conceived?

I know dtd every other day is the best way to get results, but that is just not practical for us.

I am temping and using opks so hopefully we will time it right and catch the fertile window a couple of times.

I see many people who are dtd every day or every other day or "only 5 times over the weekend"! Even with the best intentions, we will not manage this even in my fertile window.

Anyone got any good news stories to share? I'm worried keeping my fingers crossed isn't going to be enough! I'm really hoping this isn't going to put back our HPT date many many months!

This time last week I was feeling so positive. I need to get my positive vibes back!

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internationallove985 · 30/08/2013 09:24

Hi Writer. I Hope you're well and please believe me when I say. I'm not getting at you here and yes it's none of my business but I can't help feeling you're a bit do I dare say old to be laughing about sex aren't you. It's the most natural thing in the world. Why did you find TTC sex awkward. Also I know it was said in a very light hearted way and I'd hate my comment to come over as though I have no sense of humor but the comment where you said about your sex life feeling inferior, no-one's sex life is inferior. It's not a competition. I don't feel any less of a women than someone whose circumstances allow them to D.T.D everyday. It is what it is. I can't change my circumstances. I'm not sure I'd want to now as I'm used to things the way they are Also only D.T.D 3 times in your cycle still worked for you didn't it.
I Hope my busy week of D.T.D has helped things for me. It's the moment of truth very soon. A.F is due tommorow. xx

eeky · 30/08/2013 09:58

Yes, depo usually stops periods completely (and ovulation) and can continue to do so for months after stopping it. Longest I've seen is 2 years, but that's unusual. Again, every woman is different - some can be late with their injection by 3-4 weeks and conceive.

Writerwannabe83 · 30/08/2013 10:08

international I do wonder how your brain works at times

UnicornsNotRiddenByGrownUps · 30/08/2013 10:08

Thanks. I knew about the effects whilst you are actually taking it but I'm still worried about long term affects!

internationallove985 · 30/08/2013 10:11

Ha ha. You're meaning, writer.
Mind you you're not the only one trying to work out how my brain works. They really broke the mold when they made me. To say I'm unique would be an understatement. xx

Writerwannabe83 · 30/08/2013 10:13

Yeah, you say that a lot.....

internationallove985 · 30/08/2013 10:16

Well the world wouldn't go around if we were all the same, would it. x

Writerwannabe83 · 30/08/2013 10:17

Just out of interest, how old do you think I am if I'm too old to find sex amusing??

internationallove985 · 30/08/2013 10:26

Well I could be wildly wrong but I'd guess from your user name that you were born in 83 making you 30 or almost 30. However going by my user name that would make me 985 years old I feel it sometimes mind you.
Perhaps I've missed the point (well it wouldn't be the first time, nor will it be the last) yes sex is enjoyable but what's so amusing about it. xx

Writerwannabe83 · 30/08/2013 10:31

And almost 30 is too old to find sex amusing? Blimey.

When you and a partner are purposefully having sex to TTC (and by that, I mean he knows about it too) then feel free to come and pass judgement about mine and my husband's experiences of purposeful sex

Until then, we'll agree that you wouldn't see it from my point of view

internationallove985 · 30/08/2013 10:41

I'll have to tread carefully here due to your position. However I have not passed judgement on you, I simply stated a fact which I believe in and I am sticking to.
However you have passed a lot of judgement on me and you can't deny it. Also how do you know he doesn't know about my hopes of getting pregnant. We could have talked about having children couldn't we. and incidently I do know about purposeful sex, all my last two pregnancies were planned this one will be too, as you know. x

internationallove985 · 30/08/2013 10:44

Also sex always has a purpose even if it is just for enjoyment. x

Writerwannabe83 · 30/08/2013 10:48

You have said on other threads that both your previous pregnancies were from one night stands?? How is that you and a guy planning on having a baby? And I may be wrong, but based on many comments you have said on threads you have participated in, I doubt very much you've told your FWB about your plans for your next baby too. In my eyes, a 'planned baby' is when both parents are in the know about it!!

However - I'm not going to argue with you about it.

But anyway - I apologise if I came across as rude, but I found your comments very rude too.

internationallove985 · 30/08/2013 11:05

I apologise to you as well, However I don't think my comments are rude at all in any way. I haven't really found your comments rude judgemental yes but this is an open forum where opinions will differ and discussions will be heated. Yes you are right I haven't told him about my plans. He could run a mile and then where would honesty have got me. I want this baby desperately and if being decietful gets me what I want then so be it.

In your eyes a planned baby is where both parents know and that's fine and I'm sure infact I'm certain more will agree with you than me, but I wanted my children so to me they were planned. Also does it really matter if a child is the result of an unplanned pregnancy. I bet their parent/s would not be without them once they have them. I had a friend who fell pregnant at 18 yes she was scared shocked and very apprehensive as any young girl would be, but he (her son) was the making of her.
In a nutshell what I'm trying to say is every child is a beautiful planned or not. xx

marzipanned · 30/08/2013 11:25

This conversation is hilarious! I don't think writer ever said that an unplanned child was an unwanted one - but she seems to have rightfully made the point, international, that you've never been in a situation in which both partners have been having sex with the express purpose of making a child.

For me and DH, knowing we were having sex to conceive, at first, made the sex so much more meaningful (when we'd been trying for months and months it was another story.. :) ) Maybe for writer the added pressure of TTC made it awkward/funny.

Btw I do find it a bit alarming that you haven't told your partner you're TTC. He does have rights as a father, you know...

RaRaZ · 30/08/2013 12:29

Here we go again.... This conversation has been had so many times over and so many threads have been changed and ended up being all about International and her sex life. Sometimes, International, I think you're just after the attention. I hope I'm wrong. Incidentally, didn't you declare on a recent thread that you're in your thirties? If so, how would Writer being around 30 make her too old for finding sex amusing? Not like she's older than you.

marzipanned · 30/08/2013 12:41

Sorry, I hadn't come across her before.

RaRaZ · 30/08/2013 13:25

Oh, sorry Marzipanned, that really wasn't meant to come across as a pop at you! - Just that it seems like International always manages to monopolise threads, intentionally or otherwise. Sorry.

DaleyBump · 30/08/2013 13:25

Bloody hell.

marzipanned · 30/08/2013 13:29

No, don't worry :) I just didn't want to add fuel to the fire as it were!

emilymadison62 · 17/08/2014 19:02

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