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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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How many times did it take you to get pregnant?

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jaykay987 · 27/08/2013 14:00

Just wondered - those with +ve tests, how many times did you dtd the month you conceived?

I know dtd every other day is the best way to get results, but that is just not practical for us.

I am temping and using opks so hopefully we will time it right and catch the fertile window a couple of times.

I see many people who are dtd every day or every other day or "only 5 times over the weekend"! Even with the best intentions, we will not manage this even in my fertile window.

Anyone got any good news stories to share? I'm worried keeping my fingers crossed isn't going to be enough! I'm really hoping this isn't going to put back our HPT date many many months!

This time last week I was feeling so positive. I need to get my positive vibes back!

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FrankelInFoal · 28/08/2013 16:34

Just be careful saying things about compatibility of partners = conceiving faster. It took my husband and I 3 years to conceive the baby I am currently carrying and I'd be extremely upset and angry with anyone suggesting we are not compatible simply because we did not conceive as easily as some other people.

Twit · 28/08/2013 16:51

I've never tried, went off pill, got ds1 went off pill again got ds2 stopped using condoms, got dd, DH used to work away so very limited opportunities - seemed to be straight away with all of them Smile.
However; ds3 was conceived whilst on the pill, none missed etc, ds4 was conceived with me having come off the pill, monitoring my cycles (spot on regular every month for 3 odd years), using condoms AND refraining day 13 onwards, with my robotic ovulation at day 15. Every. Month. The only time with did it that fateful month (dh away the rest and then too 'dangerous') was the evening after I finished my period. And we still used a condom.

CharLiz · 28/08/2013 16:58

We tried for 18months following all the usual advice, then we tried just doing it loads over the days the ovulation tests said. No luck at all. Then I said no more, I can't deal with the heartache. So we stopped thinking about it and I was ill the other month and we only did it once and pregnant. Can't believe it, honestly think it's cos we stopped thinking and worrying about it. All my friends who have kids kept saying stop thinking about it which is impossible at the time but it worked for us xx

eurochick · 28/08/2013 17:04

frank I understand, but I have often wondered about this and I've seen it discussed before on here. I just have a gut feeling that I would get knocked up more easily with another partner. Mr euro and I are great together and is absolutely lovely, but he was very much a head choice rather than a pheromones choice, iyswim. The relationship was a slow burn rather than one where we had to tear one another's clothes off every 5 minutes. In my younger days I went out with a couple of absolute twonks but the smell of them drove me crazy and there was some kind of chemical connection. I dumped them and didn't want them as long term partners because, frankly, they were idiots, but I do wonder if they would have knocked me up if we had been less than careful. I think there are different meanings to compatible - compatible as life partners in 2013 and compatible in an earthier caveman/cavewoman way.

On the subject of the thread, we have generally gone with every other day from the end of my period until I am sure I have ovulated. Which should have done the trick but hasn't (and we have been ttc for 34 cycles now, although some of those have been IUI/IVF so how often we dtd was irrelevant).

BoffinMum · 28/08/2013 17:25

Once or twice each time Blush Including when we were dead old BlushBlush. But everyone in our families finds it easy.

Writerwannabe83 · 28/08/2013 17:29

How old is 'dead old' ??

I have just watched a Midwifery programme and there was a couple featured where the woman was 48 and the guy was 50, having their first baby Shock

Fair play to them, but blimey!!

MrsB2013 · 28/08/2013 17:42

writer I just watched that youtube video - very interesting!

I think the whole ttc thing is very confusing, some dtd once and get a bfp and others dtd everyday and bfn. It is hard not to think about it, and just try and relax, but then there are only those few days where you can actually conceive

Writerwannabe83 · 28/08/2013 17:45

Seeing all the dead, mangled sperm in the video made me feel quite sad Hmm Grin

Wibblypiglikesbananas · 28/08/2013 17:52

Well, I wanted a baby when I was 30. First month we tried, PG with DC1.

Roll on two years and just finishing BF DC1, thought we'd go for another and straight away again. So there'll be a two year gap between the littlies.

I am aware how lucky we have been - though we did make sure we DTD a fair few times during the time I was most likely to be ovulating.

CoffeeChocolateWine · 28/08/2013 17:55

DC1 was unplanned and I was on the pill.

DC2 was planned and took 15 months to conceive. Go figure.

But when were ttc DC2 we were having sex every day in the fertile window and nothing. Friends kept saying "maybe you're trying too hard" (whatever that means...imo, you're either trying or you're not!), so we started having sex every other day in the fertile window. The first month nothing. Second month we conceived but I miscarried. Third month we conceived our beautiful DD.

bigbuttons · 28/08/2013 17:55

The longest it took was 4 months mostly 1-2 tries, usually on the first go, with 6 dc and 6 m/c

elQuintoConyo · 28/08/2013 18:08

We dtd four times in February, out popped DS in December. We were very lucky and count our blessings every day.

FrankelInFoal · 28/08/2013 18:40

I get what you are saying on a biological level euro, I just think people need to be careful about the way they phrase things IYSWIM.

eurochick · 28/08/2013 18:46

I do see what you mean frank. Fertility is such an emotive issue that there is always a need to be sensitive. I just find the biology interesting. I know someone who had fertility investigations when she was with one partner but got pregnant first month of trying with a new one.

Swannykazoo · 28/08/2013 18:46

Vaguely tried for about 4 months ie got a phone app to work out when I might be fertile + stopped pill but never made much of an effort to have more than usual weekend sexytime. Went on holiday over fertile period with lots of sex so decided I was infertile. (work vaguely in this sort of area so should know better before anyone points out my foolishnessBlush)

Met my newly born nephew post-holiday. Got home and said "I'm quite relieved actually, they look like bloody hard work, will spend my adult life going to exotic places and drinking wine" Never thought about going back on pill due to self-diagnosed infertility.
BFP next month. Wink
So I'm with CharLiz + Yoda on this - no try

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jaykay987 · 28/08/2013 19:13

Hehe Puggle! That made me laugh!

Congratulations!

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VJONES1985 · 28/08/2013 19:25

This thread is fascinating reading and I've learnt that, whether it's taken one try or 500 tries, the key is to relax and stop stressing about it. So that is what I shall do :)

amothersplaceisinthewrong · 28/08/2013 19:28

Every day for a month, both times, pregnant in that first month of trying both times.

crazyhead · 28/08/2013 19:34

First month both times, first sex about 10 times, second time once. It is so random. I am in my mid late 30s and see so many people that I could have been, having a hell of a time with it. You just don't know till you try, this time round I was really stressing about hundreds of things and eating and drinking badly. I daresay many factors influence ttc, but it is unfair if people having trouble are made to feel not healthy/relaxed enough - people get pregnant all the time doing all the wrong things too.

MamaBear17 · 28/08/2013 19:39

I conceived on the first month of trying. We dtd every day; I only have one ovary so was terrified that it wouldnt happen or would take ages! Good luck x

neontetra · 28/08/2013 19:42

According to my digital test and my dating scan I must have concieved three weeks into a cycle - yet I always had a regular four week cycle, so didn't think I'd be fertile then. Strange. Was on holiday - am sure it makes a difference!

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jaykay987 · 28/08/2013 19:44

We'll hold you to that vjones! Grin

The more I learn, the more it seems so random!

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VJONES1985 · 28/08/2013 19:48

Oh yeah, it is certainly random and often unfair. I agree that people are often made to feel too unhealthy or uptight to conceive, when millions of people manage to do it when they're doing all sorts of 'wrong' things!

VileWoman · 28/08/2013 19:51

DC1, sex every second day from end of period to next period, took 2 months to get pregnant (like a PP I found it difficult to believe I didn't get pregnant that first month). DC2 (born 18 months later), not preventing pregnancy for 3 months, but very little sex due to having small baby (admittedly one that STTN). We had sex once, on the day my period ended, the month DC2 was conceived. DC3, one month of sex at least every second day. DH was quite upset that conception happened so early, our usual sex rate isn't that high. I also had a miscarriage that happened after one drunken and unprotected shag. I'm obviously very fertile, my Mum had a late menopause and I suspect that I will too considering I've had no problem conceiving in my late thirties and early 40s.

FatPenguin · 28/08/2013 19:54

We were using clear blue monitor and DTD on the 2 peak days. So it was Sunday night and Monday morning = bfp on 6th month of trying.

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