Eggcellent Egg Buddies! Come and join us if you're IVFing in August, September or October!

[nobeer]

Share your experiences, worries, recipes, holiday recommendations. Swearing welcome.

[Llw2]

Brook I would resort to two special friends, Pinot and Grigio! Or is it just me?

[PramQueen1971]

Aha! bunfight makes sense

[BrookerC]

fabbie your afternoon sounds lovely. Sorry you had a tough time last night. Completely understand the need to bail-hope your friends & Oh gave you plenty of support. It's not the world I need to escape from-it needs saving from me! Honestly, I heard myself say to DH today 'can you just shut the fuck up and do whatever I say?' I mean, seriously he is so lovely that he did just that We're out tonight & I shall be having my last glass of wine for a while llw
pram the feminist debating society must be sooo proud

[Missmidden]

Unfortunatley I have to tell you all that yesterday was a mistake- it turns out all I was seeing was the tail end of the trigger shot. Got a negative on a FR this am and subsequently did the calculations and it would have been just on the sensitivity limit when I tested yesterday. Feel like such an idiot as I am a scientist and I really should have known this. AF has also started today and I am not going to take any more pessaries- I know the clinic will tell me off but I would rather just bleed quickly and get it over with.

Obviously I am not in a good place but am having to put a brave face on it for DD. I realise, and keep reminding myself, that a lot of people would be delighted just to have one and I am so sorry if I appear insensitive tobe so set at the prospect of not having another. Part of me does think we should just call it a day, but the other part feels that if we don't pull out all the stops I will always regret it and what if DD hates being an only?

Sorry, will stop rambling now. I will be back, but maybe not for a bit. Good luck to everyone and thank you for your support through all this.

[chocolocodowninacapulco]

miss so sorry to hear that, what an absolute head fuck, you poor thing. I can't remember how many dpt you were when you tested, but thought it was past the trigger still being in your system- maybe it was a chemical, sorry I hope I haven't said the wrong thing. No-one on here would feel you were insensitive for wanting another child when you have one already, you've every right to want another one and are no less entitled! Re whether to try again or not, if you have any doubt, I'd say go for it - you wouldn't want to look back and have regrets I'm sure. Thinking of you, I know how sad you must be feeling and I'm feeling sad for you xx

[eurochick]

brooker that sounds like quite a day!

Oh missm what a head fuck! I'm so sorry that it seems to have turned out this way. How many days after trigger were you? I've still had the trigger in my system at 9dpEC but not after that (and that was with double trigger).

I'm cream-crackered. I've been at work all day. Slobbing on the sofa, waiting for my dinner and watching Harry Potter now!

[starsandmoonandback]

Oh miss, I just want to give you a big hug. If its only just time for trigger shot to go then a bfp may not show up yet. Is it definitely a/f? Sorry just have to ask.

I completely understand your longing for another child. I feel the same. I didn't think I would feel so strongly and I know I didn't 'understand' this longing when I didn't know of I'd ever have any. I often fight with feeling guilty for wanting another when I should just be 'grateful' for having one. But it just doesn't work that way. Ivf makes our thinking so changed about all these things. It really is a head fuck.

Thinking of you lots Miss. If you can afford to carry on, I say do it. Wish you loads of luck. Xxx

[PramQueen1971]

Oh, MissM, I don't believe it. I am so, so sorry

[chocolocodowninacapulco]

Hello ladies,

Right, I'm going to see what I can remember from what I read on the other thread yesterday ...

brooker sorry to hear you're having such a crap time with PMT and the moods etc - I know what you mean about feeling badly when you're horrible to DH as he's so lovely, mine is very, very tolerant and only occasionally will shock me when he bites back. I hope AF shows up soon so that you can get going again, you deserve some good luck lovely. Enjoy that last glass of wine

fab that steak sounds lush! You always seem to have such lovely sounding food. Sorry that last night was tough with all the families, it really isn't easy and it sounds like you did well to last an hour.

wish great to have you back and ready to go with your FET, hope the consultation was helpful, I saw a sign for Yeovil the other day and thought of you!

euro glad you're back from work and slobbing. Day off tomorrow?

nobeer sorry you're having a bit of a wobble, it's only natural to analyse everything symptom-wise in the dreaded 2ww. Does Zita not just send you to sleep anyway?!

llw well done for getting started. The thought of the enormity of it all has always been worse than the reality for me. You will soon get into the swing of it and it will all become clear with the drugs etc.

Hellopram

hello to everyone else I've forgotten, I'm struggling to catch up!

AFM, we went away to Devon for a few days and it was good to get away and take a bit of a break from it all. It was great to get some sea air

[Pipbin]

Quick mark of my place and a sorry to Miss

[Fabuluce]

Oh Miss, how devastating that must have been for you . I feel for you as we all do. Cuddles.

Chocs, lovely to have you back and sounding positive, only a 17 day cycle though, no wonder you're feeling a bit all over the place.

Ll - if you have any questions about what you're doing just ask the group - one of us is bound to know something

[NoMaybeAboutIt]

Oh Miss I'm so sorry x

[nobeer]

Miss I'm really sorry. I don't think it matters that you already have DD, I think we all understand that need to be a mother and have that baby. Be kind to yourself and I hope you have a successful pregnancy soon. We'll be here for you.

[nobeer]

choco I'm feeling much better thanks. Zita does send me to sleep, but then I wake up when it finishes! I met some friends tonight and it was lovely catch up with them and to not talk or think about IVF ok it did silently cross my mind a few times. Good luck with the appointment, I think once you've got more information, you'll be able to make the right choice for you.

[BrookerC]

Oh missm I am so sorry to hear your news. Take care of yourself & come back to us when you're ready. Fwiw I would pursue your dream while you have the energy . No regrets. Big hugs x

[MotorcycleMama]

Really sorry to hear your news MissM - a BFN is upsetting, but even more after a false BFP. Take care.

choco it was good to read your news. It sounds like you have got your head around the whole DE process, but if you are interested in doing any further reading on the subject, I can recommend this book. It really helped me think about some of the trickier psychological aspects. Good luck with your appt on Thursday.

www.amazon.co.uk/Mommies-Daddies-Donors-Surrogates-Answering/dp/1593851332?tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21

Waves to everybody else.

[Llw2]

Thank you fab, they've given me norethisterone to take until the 3rd. Reading the blurb in the packet sounds like its breast cancer medication wtf!!! I'm taking it anyway but they were pretty rubbish at explaining why I have to take it tbf. Worst night sleep ever last night and now I have to go to a christening where DH and I will be surrounded by babies hurrumph! Anyway happy Sunday to you all, hope you have something scrummy on the menu x

[starsandmoonandback]

Llw, I took Norethisterone this time too. The idea behind taking it, is 1) it helps with their timing, but 2) mainly it's supposed to encourage the follicles to grow simultaneously, so you end up with a good number of follicles around the same size. X

[NoCupcakesOrCocktails]

Hello just popping in to say Fab I'm so sorry about your BFN. How are you doing now?

MissM really sorry about the BFN after your BFP, it's just so cruel. I'm really hoping its not AF and its just too early for your real BFP x

Sorry I'm really lost as to where everyone else is up to. My beta levels have dropped to under 25 yesterday and my bleeding has stopped so its finally all over. I'm a long way from having another cycle. I have to wait for my notes to go to the unit meeting to be discussed. I then wait for a letter to say if my treatment will be changed and when I can request my next cycle. They make you wait for at least 3 AFs and at my clinic they can (and most of the time do) turn you down 3 times before they have to fit you in. So I'm expecting to wait around 6 months before we can go again.

I'll stick around to see how you all get on but I'll be cheering from the side lines. Its meant to be a biscuit isn't it? It doesn't look anything like it though!

[starsandmoonandback]

Cups, I'm so sorry honey. You must be going through all sorts of emotions right now. Sending hugs. Are you in Aberdeen by any chance? That clinic turning you down a few times sounds familiar to other stories I've heard from Aberdeen fertility centre! Xx

[Pipbin]

Popping in for a quick question ladies.
I've been drinking loads of water as I had ohss. However I feel like I've got cystitis. Has anyone had cystitis following transfer?

[Fabuluce]

Cups lovely is that an nhs clinic? They sound horrible the bonus of going private (not that I have a choice) is that I've got my review appointment on Tuesday so there's no hanging around. AF is almost finished for me now, still feeling all over the place emotionally and very needy of my DH - just don't really want to hang out with anyone else at the moment.

Remind me again how old you are? I guess if you try to take the positive out if waiting for another six months is that it gives you time to forget about ivf and pregnancy and go out and live a little for a while before having to knuckle down and concentrate on having an ivf ready body again? Big hugs for you buddy xx

[eurochick]

cups that sounds pretty rubbish. I guess there is no alternative nearby for you to switch to?

pip with all the fiddling down there, it wouldn't be a surprise. I was stunned I didn't get it after the rough treatment my fanjo got. I've never had it after ET but did get it after one of my dildocam scans to confirm I was mcing. I feel for you - cystitis is nasty.

choc your Devon break sounds lovely. I'm glad you are starting to get your head around DE.

missm how are you feeling today?

[NoCupcakesOrCocktails]

Stars my clinic is in Manchester. From reading FF I think there are a lot of NHS clinics like that out there unfortunately. They do all your investigations before you see a doctor, it's really sneaky as it makes it look like they have no waiting lists. It's 10 months since my referral and I've just had one cycle but officially they have no waiting list!

Fab I'm 31 and I have 3 goes on the NHS so logically I know I have time to wait and use them up before we go private. But I'm finding the wait torture plus the success rates for my clinic are well below average. To be honest we don't have the money to go private at the moment as we have been doing a lot of work around the house. We are saving at the moment for a private 4th cycle if we need it. I'm feeling similar to you by the sound of things. I've been avoiding seeing friends as I can't face it. Plus I'm relying on my DH for everything, we are normally quite independent but I find I need him home more than usual and I'm very clingy. To be fair he has been brilliant. He has done everything for me and our dog for the past few weeks. I keep waking up in the night panicking and crying and he gets up with me every time and stays with me until I calm down. I know I'm really lucky to have such a supportive partner.