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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

Eggcellent Egg Buddies! Come and join us if you're IVFing in August, September or October!

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nobeer · 24/08/2013 11:43

Share your experiences, worries, recipes, holiday recommendations. Swearing welcome.

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IWantOneNow · 24/09/2013 12:25

wannabe I'm so sorry that u feel disappointed. It's so crap isn't it. I don't have any experience so I can't give much advice, but sending hugs and Cake Spoil yourself with something nice to cheer you up, sure some good advice will be along shortly x

nobeer · 24/09/2013 14:02

Pip just started a bit of spotting myself, so I'm feeling the same. I'm sure it's because my period is due on Friday but would love it to be implantation spotting through the old fashioned way of conceiving. But no chance so don't know why I'm kidding myself!

MaryP Sorry the review didn't go so well. Are you going to go for a 2 embryo FET? In Spain they'll do 3 if you're old (like me). I'm still waiting for the Dr Beer book to arrive and so I can read up a bit before I go back and ask more questions about the PGD. I think the review can be a tricky meeting because we want concrete answers NOW and it's not always that simple. Good luck lovely lady, I'm thinking of you.

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resipsa · 24/09/2013 16:57

Wannabe no reason you shouldn't be one of the 10 to 15 in 100 that gets a baby from your FET. Go for it!

Missmidden · 24/09/2013 17:36

Hello all. Sorry for radio silence- too much going on at work and home to allow much time for mums netting.

Congrats to the newly PUPO ladies Lemon and Llw, hope you are both coping as well as possible.

Fab, Nobeer and Pip I hope those AFs are tolerable (or preferably don't show up at all!). I think I am close to ovulation following m/c but feel all at sea this cycle as it's way later than normal. We will try the old fashioned way although it's hard when you feel it's a bit pointless!

Marypops sorry to hear about your review, that does sound depressing. I had mine this afternoon and have mixed views on how it went. I had to drive it entirely but the doctor is happy to go with whatever I want despite thinking it premature to investigate any further. She did suggest a hysteroscopy due to previous thin lining concerns to look for scarring and take samples in case of hidden infections. So I think I will try and get the GP to refer me for that (may even get it on medical insurance!). And while we do that get the immune tests done (have to wait til 6 wks post m/c). By the time all that is done and results are in it would be FET in Dec at best, which feels an age away. I still need to discuss all this with DP but am much happier with this plan than just going straight to FET which would be such a gamble, I believe.

Unless I see anything that I feel I must comment on I will probably take a seat on the lurking bench for a while rather than actively contribute to the thread until things kick off again. But I will be with you all in spirit and rooting for some good results. Hello and good luck to Stars, Brooker, Tame, Res, Still, Cups, Choco and all the other lovely ladies.

wishwash · 24/09/2013 21:17

Oh god wannabe.... I'm going for my FET and terrified. I don't think I want to do it now. I don't feel strong enough to take the failure Confused

wishwash · 24/09/2013 21:48

tame are you around? You ok? x

nobeer · 24/09/2013 22:21

C'mon now wish (and everyone), let's have some positive thinking. We've had a run of bad luck on this thread and it has just got to turn round soon. So why can't it start with you? We have to think positively about the next steps, or there's just no point in doing it. I know it's hard after a massive set back, but you've got to look forward to the end result. I'm sure I'm sounding like a bossy old bag who doesn't understand, but I don't care Wink. I just want everyone on this thread to feel like they're doing the right thing, and I desperately want all of us to get some good news this year!

We're actually all really fortunate that either we can access this treatment on the NHS, or we've managed to some how rustle up the money to pay for it privately. Infertile women of my mum's generation never even had this option.

Rant over, and you can all get your own back when I'm next whinging on here Grin.

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nobeer · 24/09/2013 22:46

wish I've just reread my post. You weren't whinging. Poor choice of word. You're naturally worried, and I do understand. You've got to think about what you really want, and do what's right for you and your DH. Hugs xx

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wishwash · 24/09/2013 22:59

It's ok nobeer I need a good talking to sometimes. I have a wobble, run around in circles then slap myself and tell myself to get a grip. Which now... Thanks to you I have done.
I'm gonna do this, I want to bring good news to the thread pumps fist in the air

Pipbin · 24/09/2013 23:32

Well AF didn't show today. Does that count as good news? Yes this will be my first natural post IVF cycle. Still spotting but only brown spotting, which is good isn't it? We do have a chance of natural conception and did what what required this month.

nobeer · 25/09/2013 07:09

pip I don't know which is the good or the not good kind of spotting. I think we need some kind of dulux colour chart of spotting. a handy pull out guide which you can refer to, to see if you should be celebrating or making sure you've got ibuprofen and enough tampons in.

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lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 25/09/2013 11:12

No idea, pip! For me spotting has meant implantaion, the imminent arrival of af and the beginning of mc. Hope it's the first option!

As to positivity, I find it easier to be realist or pessimist. Of course, I hope and pray this will work, but I don't count on it. IVF is a numbers game. If you respond well, if you keep at it, you might win your baby. But each cycle itself only has a low chance. Even w blasts! But it us the only way sadly, so we keep going... That is my 5p :)

Thinking of you all, still ill and busy so quick waves!

WannabeMaryPoppins · 25/09/2013 11:41

Thank you nobeer wish and res for giving me the wake up call that I needed. You are absolutely right. Wallowing is not going to get me anywhere. So I have decided to fuck all the statistics (they aren't relevant to individuals anyway) and just go for it. If no one got pregnant with c embies they wouldn't implant them. And as you say res there is nothing to say that I am not one of the lucky ones. So wish lets get those fists pumping ooh er misses
Thank you to everyone else for your Support. You are all great.

WannabeMaryPoppins · 25/09/2013 11:43

pip have no idea what the spotting means, but no news (or in this case AF) might just be good News Wink

starsandmoonandback · 25/09/2013 19:50

Just marking my place... Xx

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twinklestar2 · 25/09/2013 21:38

Hi bugger, I recognise you :)

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lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 26/09/2013 06:56

Waves at bugsy! Welcome here!

Not much news, been working like a demonj, only two sleeps til Af die day...

BrookerC · 26/09/2013 07:21

Welcome Bugs Smile

resipsa · 26/09/2013 07:24

MaryP - got any of that new found positivity going spare? I was having an OK week on the TTC/IVF front until yesterday when my mum sent to me (at work!) some pics of a cousin's new arrival then a colleague sent pics of hers then a client announced that his wife is 12 weeks pregnant. All this within 5 mins = Hmm.

How is everyone? I'm still waiting to get THE call from my "no wait" clinic about DEs. Into week 10 now...

resipsa · 26/09/2013 07:33

Hi you Bugger (sorry couldn't resist).

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talulahbelle · 26/09/2013 08:06

Hey all. I take my last contraceptive pill today, then start estrogen patches when my period arrives Mon/Tues. Donor egg FET should be around the 14th-18th dependent on how my lining grows. I really hope it works, but if not we will attempt another donor fresh transfer in the new year.
I am doing lots of positive visualisation - this transfer will work, and we will announce our pregnancy at 12 weeks on Xmas day.

nobeer · 26/09/2013 09:00

Morning res. What impeccable timing they all have [sceptical]. It's as if they bloody know! I'm trying hard to ignore pregnant women and new babies, and it's working so far! And I don't think I've offended anyone yet Grin. I must say you're being very patient on the waiting front. Are you doing anything to distract your mind? If it's any consolation, a friend of mine has been on adoption waiting lists for much longer and has only just recently found out they've (hopefully) found a little person for her and her DH.

Hi stars

Welcome bugger! Sounds like you've been here before. Lots of luck for this time round.

Talulah the sound of your visualisation sounds just lovely! Think I'll have to try some of that myself. Not long now for you!

As for me, I'm pretty sure my spotting is AF not some kind of miracle. But have a house move and FET to look forward to in November.

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