Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs! TTC after MC

[alyant79]

Come one, come all and join our rollicking new thread with slightly updated brand new rules

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

:( fedup xxx

Hi, I hope you don't mind me intruding. I was on this thread between October and December last year - this time last year I was pregnant with the baby I lost. People coming back and telling us they'd had a successful pregnancy afterwards kept me going through the fear of repeated mc, so here I am, in the hope it will help someone...

My twins were born at the end of August, and are six weeks on Thursday. My one piece of advice for when you get pregnant again is to enjoy your pregnancy and try to relax. I spent every day knicker checking and woke up every morning expecting that it would all go wrong that day. I didn't unpack anything we'd bought until after they were born, and we were massively disorganised when we came home from hospital as a result.

I know everyone's different but I got pg after a one cycle break (and an awful post-mc period) using conceive plus and the CB digital OPKs.

Good luck ladies, you've got a great support network, and a fantastic graduates thread full of people as neurotic as I was - look forward to seeing you on there soon.

I'm never going to get off this thread :( mc was in feb and tried pretty much all aspects of project desperate and nothing. Nada. Throughly down and every ounce of positivity disappeared. I'm on to cycle 8 now :(

Congrats on your twin arrival! So pleased you had your happy ending. Even if a bit chaotic!!

Your advice falls on deaf ears with me though sadly. as Month after month I'm finding it very hard to think it will ever see that double pink line again, never mind holding my new born. Sorry to bring negativity but am so heartbroken again.

Fedup sorry you're having a rubbish time at the moment! I've been here since December and like you find it hard to think it'll ever happen, all I've ever wanted was to be a mum :(

Andadietcoke congrats on your babies I think you graduated just as I joined.

I don't know what's going on this cycle I'm on clomid so normally regular but got lines getting darker on opk about the right time but no positive. Then sat no line at all and now practically a positive so hoping I get positive today even though its late!

Hope others are feeling a bit more positive today!

Oh meant to say cd30 today!

fedup I feel pretty much the same - mine was a mc at 12 weeks in Jan that followed straight on from a mc last year in Sept. It's been nothing but bfns ever since, apart from one where I got a faint line 4 days before AF was due but then AF showed up anyway, so I'm not sure if that was a CP or just an evap (although evaps aren't pink and this was, so maybe it was just a faulty stick).

AF hasn't actually shown up this morning so (yes, prepared for fish slaps) I did poas this morning. And... well. I don't know if that's a very faint line, or if it's a combination of wishful thinking and squinting too hard. I don't know if I dare hope it's a positive or just resign myself to another month of no and just my cycles being screwy. I'm 15dpo, CD26 and last month my cycle was 25 days. Last night I found myself seriously wondering if I should just give up and be thankful for the blessings I already have.

Fingers crossed arkady!!

Crossing fingers and toes crossed for you Arkady. I'm resisting the urge to POAS. AF due on Monday and the suspense is killing me.

arkady I wave a fish in your general direction! You are more than 14dpo, so that lets you off a proper slap IMHO.

Fingers crossed that next time you test it will be a clear line!

fedup i know how you feel. It's 6 months since my MC and nothing doing here either. I don't even know if I'm ovulating. So hard to keep going with the positivity at times. I don't have anyone to talk to in RL so I'm glad I can come here and know people will understand!

Not got AF yet. Took my temp this morning though, so I'd have a figure for starting over if she does come. I think it would be later today or this evening. Going to have to distract myself from constant knicker watch though - quite hard as it's only me in work today so no-one to notice loo trips every 5 mins!

welcome suzy.
you'll fit right in - I also had my mmc at 12 weeks in feb, and since then nothing, despite getting pg instantly on two previous occasions (am lucky enough to have one DD). I'm also terrified that something is wrong.
BUT i keep telling myself that there are quite a few of us in the same boat (nerdy, flower, ark, fedup just to name a few) so surely it's just bad luck. We can't all have something wrong with us!

yesterday I was feeling very, very down - bumped into someone i know who had a big preggo belly yesterday . And she called me the wrong name .
But i've picked myself up today and am determined to be cheerful. So ladies - chins up . We can do this. In no time at all we'll be looking back just like andadietcoke. It feels like a long time at the moment, but 6-12 months is nothing in the scheme of things. In fact it's average for getting pregnant so we shouldn't worry.

exciting ark!!! fingers crossed

exciting ark hope its your month !

nerdy no AF sounds promising, alongside the symptoms you have been having. Fx for you.

boo to the AFs. I am feeling down as well and hence have been lurking rather than posting. Feel exactly the same way as you fedup. Had MC in June so has not been that long, but certainly seems like eternity.

Quick question - currently on CD 17 and has positive opk on CD15, 16 and negative opk today. Do you think I may have / may be ovulating today or is it possible to have negative opk before ovulation. I guess to be safe its best that we DTD again tonight or tomorrow - in case ovulation day is tomorrow. I have been temping but been a bit sleep deprived so not expecting to see clear ovulation pattern on that.

Thank you for the light at the end of the tunnel, andadietcoke - I feel like the rest of you - ectopic was in Dec, and it seems it is simply never going to happen, and I'm just living in some deluded limbo-world. Except this month I'm really trying to tell myself it will - I don't know if it'll just get my hopes up and be worse when AF arrives, but I need to try a new tack. I am doing my positive affirmations all the time, and though I feel like a prat, its nice to have a way of pushing out the darker thoughts. I've even started worrying about my flight to Australia next month - my acupuncturist told me I absolutely can't go if I'm pg, which I'm going to ignore, but it will be a good dilemma to have.

FX ark, I so hope this is your month.

triple - I think a positive on opk means you'll OV 12 - 36 hours afterwards. So you probably OVd yesterday or today? Probs best to dtd tonight, which will tide you over for tomorrow too.

Been having a few twinges. Not sure if that means she's on her way or not. After feeling a bit pants for more than a week i really hope there is something to show for it, if it's just a pre-menstrual symptom i'll be really miffed!

Anyhoo. Today i've eaten prawns and about to have a second cup of coffee. Trying to carry on as if AF is happening. Kept fairly busy at work so far, and busy tonight with driving practice.

Thanks for rallying the troops aly and I know I'm not alone in these thoughts of hopelessness and fedupness. ark and nerdy I so hope she stays away. We are due a bfp from this weeks POASers!
I think you are right and we are just unlucky each month. Although we speculate month after month (I'm the biggest culprit and biggest visitor at dr google) about what's wrong with us. We are probably all functioning just fine. Somehow it's just not our turn to luck out each month. But our turn will come. But I know that doesn't make it an easier. I'm impatient and broody beyond belief and so so so sad that I'm not holding my new baby in my arms and so so so fed up with my body to not doing what it's meant to.

My cramps were so different this month. That's what really got me. Led me to believe they were implantation as were nothing I'd really felt before. Clearly not and just a new form of sodding painful cramping to tell me the witch is coming to get me. Bitch.

I've had four coffees and a hot chocolate in rebellion today. And hitting the wine tonight. Sod it!

flower I hope the opks sort themselves out but in any case I would dtd regularly in absence of the positive, just in case you are missing it cos your surge is short?

triple I would get dtd tonight as well JIC although its likely you have already ovulated

Thanks Alyant

I'm hoping October is month. The first time I got pregnant was in October and the second was December so I'm hoping my body is about to go into reverse hibernation!!!

Good thinking alyant we can't all have something wrong with us!!

Thanks fedup we've been dtd every other day pretty much although we did ATP around cd24 for a few days cos it was getting a bit much but back on it now! Had another dark line today but not quite positive unless I missed positive and these aren't ov lines but bfp lines

Sorry to all those feeling rubbish. If you need a laugh, have a read of this:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_classics/1875847-Do-you-dunk-your-penis

I actually snorted out loud when I read it.

On a more serious note, I do understand how you feel as it took us 8 months to conceive first time round. I am almost expecting it to take the same this time so no idea why I sobbed my heart out after getting AF after first month of trying post MC. I try and remind myself that it's really just luck and there is no reason to worry if you've been trying for under a year. Easier said than done I know.

Hmmm link fail.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_classics/1875847-Do-you-dunk-your-penis

New member alert. Just had mmc at 12 weeks. ERPC at 15 :s

Ready to get back to ttc. I'm here for support. We had not actively been ttc but was very pleased i fell pregnant first time round. I thought everything was going so well until my scan...

Anyway looking to the future now. I have a very long cycle of over 50 days so not feeling too positive. I'm waiting for af to return following ERPC now. I really didn't want to go down the route of Ov sticks and just let it happen, but I want to take ttc more seriously now. I'm sure now I want it so much it won't be so easy again.

suzy same for me! That's why i'm feeling hopeful for the next few months - this time of year is obv when my body gets pg, so it will happen again this time. It WILL!

flower that's exactly what happened to kata......

welcome lighthouse. sorry you're here. Hopefully you'll be leaving again soon . I also didn't want to go down the whole ov sticks route. In the end i did for a couple of months just to check that everything was working. Now I just temp - although every month i say that i won't do it again, it is very heartening to see the temp jump to signify ovulation plus i'm a nerd and love graphs and stats

bezza that's the funniest link EVER. hahahahahahah thanks for making my morning

Haha that link is hilarious!!

alyant don't encourage me :)

Oh and welcome lighthouse sorry you're here hope its not for long!

thanks - we didn't end up DTD yesterday. No EWCM today either - so I think I must have ovulated yesterday. The odd thing is FF thinks I ovulated on CD 15 - when I had positive opk on CD15 and CD16. So the earliest I think I could have ov would be CD16 rather than CD15. Bizarre ! Anyway the good news is that we are over this week - I am so glad. I find this more stressful than the 2ww. Will be away for part of the 2 ww on holiday, so hopefully will not be secretly poasing every day. I am holding very low expectations again that anything will happen this month and already thinking of stocking up on opks for next month.

welcome lighthouse - sorry you are hear. You will find great support from all the ladies on this forum.

nerdy have you poas yet? you have nerves of steel to not have tested yet !

Hello

New here!

I had a mmc at 11 weeks (baby was less than 6 weeks as no fetal pole was visible) on 29th July. First AF was after 35 days, after 5 days of unusual spotting. Second AF was 30 days after that, and 1 day of unusual spotting. Mid cycle though, I had strong cramps and very strong metallic taste, and I was convinced I was pregnant, but I tested right up until AF and always negative, whereas when I was pregnant for sure I got by first BFP on day 27 of my cycle (which is usually 34-36 days long).
So I'm now TTC and very confused as to when I ovulate. It's not something I ever thought about before, because I wasn't actively trying....but not trying not to (if you see what I mean).
I guess if I ovulate 14-16 days before AF then that equates to around day 20 of my usual cycle, but I wouldn't have then tested strong positive (as soon as pee hit the stick) on day 27, would I? Is it possible that I have a very long luteal phase?
I mean, is it possible that I ovulate on day 10/11/12 and AF doesn't show up until day 35? Luteal phase >20 days?

I'm also confused as to why I had such strong pregnancy symptoms mid last cycle, followed by slightly early AF. If it was a very early miscarriage I must have ovulated really very early on, as the pregnancy symptoms started around day 13/14. We dtd day 8,12,14 and a bit later on. There was a very definite day when these symptoms (cramps and taste) stopped, and AF showed up 3 days later.

So, this month we are definitely TTC, and we dtd day 8, and will try every couple of days for the rest of the month (or at least try)....and see what happens....

Does anyone else get cramps, metallic taste, spotting, that they never had pre MC, but don't attribute to new pregnancy? Maybe it's ovulation-related? Or left over hormones. I've no idea...It's all so confusing.

Sorry for the long long message!