Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs! TTC after MC

[alyant79]

Come one, come all and join our rollicking new thread with slightly updated brand new rules

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

And besides bezza it's only a BFN and not AF yet. You never know

I've just joined the one year club too...I never would have thought, back when we were so excited about starting TTC - hey ho. Happy Friday, at least!

I agree, it's not over till AF arrives. Hope she doesn't.
Far too early for any POASing here, AF isn't even due for another 11 days.

I'm so sorry for all the AFs that arrived yesterday, and for your BFN bezza.
I'm about to join the 1 year TTC club too - this is my last cycle.

Any other POASers?
For everyone else - welcome to friday!

oh and sal i hope you're feeling a little less miserable today. It's such a rough journey. Big hugs

Hi all - I just wanted to pop my head around the door to say hello.

So sorry for anyone who has had a BFN today - I hope you will all take that as a great big green light to have some vino over the weekend and eat pâté with some sort of soft cheese too. Just cos you can.

Also, just wanted to give a virtual hug to Sal - your post yesterday made me cry. I remember feeling the exact same desperation and the physical pain of being so heartbroken that at times I could hardly breathe. It's horrible, cruel and exhausting.

I must sound like a smug old cowbag now that I'm pg again; but I will never forget that heartache so long as I live. I truly hope that you all get the news you want soon, and I will be keeping fingers crossed for you. Good luck ladies

Sorry to everyone got by AF and BFNs. I'm now 3 do (I think!) & definitely up for a game of imaginary symptom spotting bingo.
Today has been one of those days where everywhere I look there are babies - books about babies, pictures of babies, actual babies... Does anyone have any ideas about how not to let it get to them? Mostly I can stay vaguely positive but some days not so much.

LivinIt I'm 3dpo today as well, and happy to join you for symptom spotting bingo. Today I have had sore boobs, mild cramping and frequent urination. All probably explained by ill-fitting bra, a firm foundation garment and several . Doesn't stop me hoping though.

Sorry to everyone who's joined the one year club. It really does suck. It took us 16 months TTC DD and it was just horrible watching people start TTC after us and produce babies whilst we were still at the relentless shagging to order stage. This time around I did brace myself for a wait, so sort of wrote off the first year of TTC as only to be expected. But we chalked up our 2 year anniversary this month and it's getting a bit excessive now. I am trying so hard to focus on DD and how v v fortunate we are to have her, but we wanted a sibling, we were going to have another baby, and I should be sat here now contemplating my developing bump and complaining about heartburn. Not right back at square one, trying to get a BFP.

Anyway, enough of the moaning, Bezza I echo what these other wise ladies have said about it not being over till AF arrives. How many dpo are you?

Yorkshire In return I shall offer you slight cramping and a slightly sick feeling (almost definitely caused by tiredness!)
The one year mark really does suck. I had my first miscarriage in 2008 after a year of TTC then took another year to get pregnant with DD. This time took no time at all for the baby I just lost so I reckon I'm in for a long wait now... I think it's the relentless hope/disappointment cycle that really gets to you.

livingit I will match your slight cramping and offer you fatigue. Enough to make me crawl back into bed at 10am for a couple of hours (after getting up with DD at 5 am and then 7am).

I keep telling myself that there is no point speculating. We are so very unlikely to be successful on the first proper cycle post MC, but it is impossible not to hope.

I'm 11dpo now Yorkshire. Starting to feel quite crampy now though so think I'm out for this month. I often wonder how early I should test. Rather frustratingly, the month I got my BFP last time, I tested the day after AF was due (because is been away, not because I'd acquired some sort of willpower!) so will never know how early I would have got a BFP. Every other month I was POAS way before AF was due.

Hope everyone is enjoying the weekend!

Yorkshire in addition I will also offer crazy dreams - last night I dreamed my DD was pregnant. She's 4!!
I agree, you can't help hoping. I know full well I'm being slightly ridiculous with the imaginary symptoms but you never know...
Bezza - they could be the good kind of cramps. It's not over til AF shows her face...

I'm on CD14 but I don't think I've ovulated yet. Looking forward to joining in the bingo though. Just wondered if anyone has VIP membership on FertilityFriend.com, and if it is worth the cost?
Sorry for all the AF's - for everyone. xx

Quote of the day from DH:
"Think you've crossed the line between a lie in and a coma"

That's brilliant sal.

We've loads to do today, but in typical fashion have not made a good start, lie-in, lazy breakfast and strictly catch up so far...

I think I am on about 4DPO. My thermometer seems to have broken cos it's not displaying properly. A new battery made no difference so I haven't been able to take my temperature. Strangely, CM dried up completely the day after prospective ovulation day, but returned looking a bit EWCM the last couple of days. Not sure what that's about. We have DTD, but that was just for fun

Hey folks,

Not sure if you remember me - I was on the thread earlier in the year following MC1 in February. Conceived for a second time in June while on honeymoon only to have MC2. I was completely devastated and therefore we opted for a bit of a TTC break as the notion of going through it again at that time was unbearable.

We have since spent a couple of months licking our wounds and recovering, and decided today to get back on the TTC saddle next month. I feel better for the break I have to say, though still have my low moments. We're currently in the middle of recurrent MC tests and originally we were going to wait until after those were finished but have decided to just go ahead and have a little faith. I'm somewhere in between O and CD1, but have been doing no monitoring, unprotected shagging, or stick peeing so am now just looking forward to AF so I can get started again.

I'll have a read back through the thread now and try and catch up with who everyone is and where you're all at. Do we have a stats thread?

Hi camomile glad your feeling back to it, hope the tests go well and fingers crossed in the meantime. Unfortunately I'm still here!

I think we've stopped with the stats list actually but maybe we should restart one!

I wouldn't be too keen on a stats list reappearing; repeated cycles of BFNs are depressing enough as it is without keeping conscious track of just what failed cycle number I'm up to now.

Hi cam, welcome back - if you know what I mean. Glad you're feeling more positive, I was so sorry to hear your news a few months ago. Still here! Just finished cycle 4 after we took some time out. My acupuncturist says her clients generally take 3 - 10 months to get pg, so I reckon I'm in the zone from now on!

Hope everyone had a lovely weekend. Went riding on Sat and literally cannot walk now I'm so stiff. Lucky AF's here and it's not DTD time!

Hi cam and welcome back. I'm still here too... >
i'm glad to hear that you feel mentally a bit better now and are ready to get back on the horse.

Went for a longish run yesterday and can hardly move today. both times i've gotten pregnant before i've been training quite hard with my running, so i'm adding that to project desperate for this month too.

Hi everyone

Doing stupid symptom spotting this morning. Feel sick but hungry too. Also have a headache I can't shift but too scared to take ibuprofen as I normally would (paracetamol rarely shifts headaches for me). I'm sure it's way too early for any sickness, so it probably means I'm coming down with something. Can't help wondering though!

Hello all

I'm still lurking if that's okay. Sorry for all the AFs that arrived and BFNs. Welcome back cam and glad you're feeling able to get back on TTC rollercoaster.

aly well done on your run! exercise is so good for getting your head straight - I've taken up swimming and find it so good for sorting my head out. My sister did a half marathon yesterday - not sure it sorted her head out though ... but I was very impressed! When I've got pregnant in the past its been when I've been doing lots of exercise, fingers crossed for you this month!

I hope you ladies don't mind ... don't know who to speak to really - too scared to go on the graduates thread - tried reaching out to family over the weekend, but they said, just pretend you're not pregnant and don't worry ....(errrr, so how do I do that??) but I'm now starting to stress - I really don't think I could cope with a 3rd mc - even though I know I will - don't want to go for an early scan as I'm scared of the sonographer going quiet ... but then don't want to wait because if its not viable then I want to get that sorted straight away.

Also I don't want to stress as that's not going to be good for the little bean either!! After saying last week that I didn't feel that stressed, I've now started to ...

Don't worry about replying... I'm on the other side of the TTC but now have the anxious is it there still or not drama!!! I need lots of things thrown at me - there is no reason why this one won't work - last 2 miscarriages where totally unconnected and lost for different reasons.

Sorry to vent - but weirdly feel a bit better now!!!

Good luck to anyone in the fertile week, and sending lots of positive vibes to those who symptom spotting and generally picking themselves up to start again this month.

emki if I were you I'd try and get an early scan - even though it can't tell you for certain whether or not everything will be OK, at least it gives you some hope. OR as you point out if it isn't viable you can get it all sorted much earlier and it saves you 4 weeks of stress/hopefulness/attachment

trying to pretend that you're not pregnant?!?!? that is the most ridiculous advice ever, how the bloody hell are you meant to do that? sure, it'd be nice, but....

misschord i don't think that the VIP fertility friend membership is worth the money, but that's just my personal opinion. I don't have it.

nerdy try and keep a lid on that symptom spotting! 5dpo is FAR too early, you'll drive yourself mental.

emki one of my best friends had a mc earlier this year and went for an early scan at 7.5 weeks. She was absolutely bricking it as had no symptoms at all. There was a heart beat and she just cried with relief. She's not out the horrid 12 week but yet but has calmed her a bit. I reckon you should go for a scan too as aly said. I am going to go if and when I ever get pregnant again. The not knowing is just so stressful particularly when I got to 12 weeks totally in the dark. It will be scary but you will be glad you have done it.

Thank you Aly and fedup I'm off to the doctor today so will talk it through with her. I think you're right... scary, but hopefully everything will be ok - if not then I can get the ball rolling for sorting it out .

Thank you - this thread is soooo good! Can't thank you enough for all the support.

Here's to a very fertile October for all