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Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs! TTC after MC

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alyant79 · 22/08/2013 09:02

Come one, come all and join our rollicking new thread with slightly updated brand new rules

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

OP posts:
NerdyBird · 25/09/2013 17:44

Thanks aly that makes me feel a bit better.
I went and bought some double strength cream today and that's really helped. Reckon I might take a chance and do it...

Penguinita · 25/09/2013 19:42

Hi emki, I'm doing alright thanks. Like you, I'm a bit more relaxed than last time, I think it is because I've been through it before and I know there isn't much I can do apart from look after myself. I am wearing white knickers and checking them lots though Smile

Hopefully some more lucky ladies will join us on Friday!

misschord · 26/09/2013 00:05

Hi ladies, please can somebody tell me about pineapple? I'd never heard of it as a fertility aid before coming on this thread, although of course I know it's supposed to encourage labour, if you eat about 10 of them!

YorkshireTeaDrinker · 26/09/2013 07:14

Apparently pineapple can help thicken the lining of your womb, therefore encouraging implantation. This is because pineapple contains a higher than average concentration of bromelain. So the best time to start eating pineapple is the day after ovulation. There is no clinical evidence to support this, but plenty of anecdotal accounts. And it can't do any harm and it doesn't cost much, so why not?

Original poster
alyant79 · 26/09/2013 09:04

i didn't know pineapple thickened the uterine lining. I'm adding that to project desperate this month for sure. Yummy.

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Wickedwiggle86 · 26/09/2013 10:29

I am learning so much from you girls; just added pineapple to the shopping list!

SeasideLily · 26/09/2013 11:10

Didn't help me this month, as anticipated-if AF has to arrive, why does she also have to make it so bloody painful?! Not to down about it though, had already written this month off tbh.

NerdyBird · 26/09/2013 11:52

Hello all

So we managed to DTD last night, am hoping for again tonight but my boyfriend is going out so it will depend on how much beer and curry he's had! Had acupuncture last night which was quite relaxing. Feeling ok about things at the moment. Signs for ovulation have been encouraging which is good, we've managed to DTD and I've got a new tip to try - I'm going to get some pineapple at lunchtime!

Even if it doesn't happen this month I do feel it's a step in the right direction.

Hope AF isn't too bad for you seaside.

Bezza2508 · 26/09/2013 12:33

Ooh, I don't know that about pineapple! Will be off to buy some :)

Sorry AF has arrived seaside. The pain is just kicking you when you're down really isn't it! My first one post MC was horrific, hoping the second one will be better.

Debating whether or not to POAS tomorrow. Will only be 10 dpo and I don't feel very hopeful this month so not sure there's much point probably won't be able to stop myself though

Bezza2508 · 26/09/2013 12:36

Also, haven't seen cosmic for a little while. Hope you're ok if you're reading x

Penguinita · 26/09/2013 18:22

I think it is the pineapple core that you are supposed to eat. Don't ask me why.

Go for it bezza! You'll never hold out til next Friday.

A friend at work showed me her 12 week scan picture today. I'm so happy for her, they have been trying for ages and had an MC earlier this year. But I've been feeling really tearful since she told me, trying to work out why. I think I'm just imagining how it would feel to be in that situation, I'd be crying my eyes out with happiness! It seems a long way away right now though.

Sal1977 · 26/09/2013 20:10

When my good friend told me she was PG with the same due date as me, it made me feel a massive pressure for mine to work out and be ok. She didn't know I was Pg at the time and as far as I was concerned my baby was snuggled in perfectly. Fast forward 6 weeks and my worst fears came true. On bad days, like today, I feel like I must have caused it or deserved it for thinking about miscarrying. Like a self fulfilling prophecy. Then I spiral into thinking that cos I often feel that I'll never be a mum, that that will come true as well. Almost like I must want the attention in a sick way. Does that make sense?

DH just asked me if I was alright and all I could say was that today I feel heartbroken and had a good snotty wail. I swore back in April that I wouldn't be one of those people still banging on about MC 6 months down the line and here I am with another one under my belt and down the toilet still having bad days. I've wanted it so much for so long that I can't remember normal life. I tried with my XH for a year and have now been trying with DHno.2 new balls please! for 14 months and still no baby. All in 5 years of wanting something I can't even begin to imagine ever getting. It's a long time.

AF arrived on time bastid shitsticks so hence why i guess it's my go for a meltdown. Sorry lovelies, I know you all have your battles that you're fighting and however much I wish I wasn't here, I'm glad it's with you lot! Xx

Bezza2508 · 26/09/2013 20:38

Oh Sal, it is heartbreaking and such a difficult thing to go through. I worried obsessively about a MC during my pregnancy and then my fears came true so I do know how you feel with almost feeling like me being pessimistic somehow caused my MC, even though I know it didn't. When is DH going for his next test? Sometimes getting things done and forming a plan can help.

We will all have bad days so don't beat yourself up.

YorkshireTeaDrinker · 26/09/2013 20:49

penguin I think it's because the pineapple core contains the highest concentration of bromelain. I'm not sure what bromelain is and how much you need for it to actually have an impact on your uterine lining. I suspect it's one of those situations where you'd need to eat your own body weight in pineapple before it had an impact, but it's pretty harmless and quite tasty, so worth a try. Although personally I think impractical shoes are likely to be more effective Wink.

I am now on the TWW, much to the relief of DH, who I think was a bit worn out by the scheduled sex this month. I'm already symptom spotting, which, at 2 dpo, is frankly ridiculous, but I just can't help myself!

Sorry to hear AF is here seaside, even when you know this cycle is a write off you always hope a little bit (or at least I do). Have Cake and Wine.

YorkshireTeaDrinker · 26/09/2013 20:55

Sal, huge sympathies. Thanks

Endless TTC and Miscarrying is cruel and hideous. There is no time limit on "getting over it". It's a horrible form of loss.

NerdyBird · 26/09/2013 21:22

Evening all.

Think I am going count myself as on the 2ww. The last few days I had a definite increase in CM, plus I had the positive OPK. Today the CM has dried up so I think the fertile window has closed! Here's hoping that I did ovulate and that DTD once was enough.

Sorry you've had a rubbish day sal. I nearly cried randomly on the tube thinking about my miscarriage the other week. Sometimes I'm fine, like just now when I was telling a friend about it on the phone, and other times I feel awful. Don't pressure yourself to be 'over it'.

X

OneLittleToddleTerror · 26/09/2013 21:34

Sal I don't think I would be one of those still banging on about MC 6 months later either. I think many of us are in the same boat, and I don't think I can really get over it until I have a baby. (I don't want to say pregnant because of my record. I'm scared if I get pregnant it'll be yet another MC).

OveranxiousUnderated · 26/09/2013 21:59

Seaside and Sal We are all in sync as AF arrived for me today too. Sad and Angry Although she ALWAYS arrives at 6am when I get up for a wee, and today she appeared at 2pm which got me stressing. I've not had my usual awful period pains that I get yet either so I think they will kick in tomorrow when she goes into full flow. Maybe we can stick together and this will be our lucky month.

Sorry you're feeling shit Sal. Flowers Me and my DH have also been trying for 14+ months and like you, I have forgotten what 'normal life' feels like. My whole life revolves around my cycle, every decision I make, every thing I plan and I just can't stop.

x

SeasideLily · 26/09/2013 22:25

over, you're cycle is military if you're worried about a 12 hour change! Over the last few months mine has been two days late,two days early...today was a day early. I wouldn't worry about it. (Christ, I'm one to talk about not worrying about things!)

I'm so sorry you're feeling awful sal, I'd find it impossible to stay positive all the time after five years - I do now. Don't make it feel bad about yourself though, of course it's absolutely not your fault in any way.

It's definitely going to happen for us, ladies. It just really sucks that it's taking so long. TTC is not fun.

ArkadyRose · 27/09/2013 00:07

My last period was 4 days early. That wasn't fun.

Into the 2ww now and trying not to symptom-spot. Been feeling rather down over the whole thing this month (hence being rather quiet recently). Sad

Floweroct · 27/09/2013 07:43

Good luck to any poasers today!

Bezza2508 · 27/09/2013 07:49

BFN for me Sad. Full up with a cold as well so feeling sorry for myself. Hey ho, at least it's Friday!

Bezza2508 · 27/09/2013 07:50

Oh and I've now reached the one year anniversary of TTC!

Sal1977 · 27/09/2013 08:27

Ahh ballbags bezza !

OneLittleToddleTerror · 27/09/2013 08:58

Bezza welcome to the one year club. I just joined 2 weeks ago too Sad. This will be a good year for us Wine