Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs! TTC after MC

[alyant79]

Come one, come all and join our rollicking new thread with slightly updated brand new rules

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

I'm right there with you girl, thinking all the same things. I haven't told any family yet, I have very few symptoms and I'm convinced the bean has left the building already and I don't want to put them through the heartbreak again.

But the grads thread is very nice, you can vent at will, would be lovely to see you there and there are lots of familiar names from here!

Hi Camomile. Sorry you've had such a tough time but welcome back.

Totally understand the fear emki. Not sure what advice to offer other than to take it each days as it comes and not get too anxious about the future but I know that's a lot easier said than done.

AF has arrived so I'm out for this month. It sucks but new cycle, new hope!

Said all the above about hope and then just had a completely unprovoked sobbing session. I've got a cold so I am a really snotty mess now.

Hugs for you, Bezza. I think a good cry is needed sometimes.

Emki I can totally understand your anxiousness, hang around here as long as you need to.

Cam I remember you, I am still here too...plodding on.

My best friend is being induced tomorrow...so excited for her but cannot remove the unexplainable feelings in the pit of my stomach. I think I will get emotional when I meet the baby for the first time.

AF is preparing to leave the building...trying a few different things this month and trying to stay positive. Treated myself to an iPad today as I have been feeling very down, expensive pickmeup but hey ho...it has cheered me up!

Sending positive vibes and good luck to everybody else.

X

Really sorry Bezza, I was devastated when AF arrived this month too. Hope you are OK now after a good cry and feeling ready to get back on the rollercoaster.

My husband is working late to try to catch up on some things, but has reluctantly informed me that he will be home at 11:30 to DTD, if he really must. This baby making malarky is soooooo romantic!

xxx

Guys - hoping someone can help me. I've MC'd twice this year, sadly. I have two DCs so I know what it feels like to be pregnant. My AF was due yesterday - I've had big sore breasts for days and have been feeling nauseous and tired for about 3 or 4 days. Basically, I feel pregnant. However have just done a test (POAS'd?) and it came up negative. How likely is it that this would happen if I really were pregnant...? Unlikely? Honestly? I can't believe it. I was totally convinced. It's 3pm here so I know I'm supposed to pee in the morning but it still would come up positive If I were pregnant wouldn't it? feel a bit gutted. very, to be exact.

MabelMay with my third pregnancy I didn't get a BFP until I was 5 weeks. What brand of test are you using? ClearBlue seem much more reliable than the cheaper ones.

Well today has been a rubbish day.

My dad got taken to hospital and has been diagnosed as having a TIA - a mini stroke. We were all terribly worried but he is back home and seemingly ok. There is a risk of a full stroke occurring though, so not out of the woods yet.

With that and my MMC it hasn't been the best 6 months! Keep your fingers crossed for a BFP for me this time, I could do with some good news for our family.

misschord it's an own brand here in the US (am living here for a bit) from Rite Aid. Will try Clear Blue in a couple of days. Good to hear there may still be hope. I don't understand where this nausea and boob soreness is coming from otherwise... feel a bit in limbo.

nerdybird sorry for what you're going through

Since my mc I've had sore boobs and nausea most months and then stupid af arrives. Hate it. Trying to ignore the fact I want to throw up in the 2 ww is hideous (and sometimes have thrown up). This did not happen to me before mc. Sucks. I've had two pregnancies as well but I think the hormones confusion is what's making me feel like this. Currently in the 2 ww and feeling hideous again..

Try again in a couple of days mabel

Sorry to hear that nerdy and hope things get better for you soon

Ah bless you nerdy, hope you have some good luck soon.

It's dtd time for us over the next few days... OH is starting to worry about performance; he's 26! I forget sometimes that he is under pressure too.

oh dear nerdy that must have been very scary. hope your Dad keeps being OK.

high mabel i hope you are pg - but i've also had crazy hormones and for at least the first 3 cycle post mc I felt very nauseous with sore boobs just before AF came. That seems to have passed now. Although today i have backache and sore boobs and i haven't even ov'd yet this cycle (i think)!

fedup and alyant it looks like you're right about the post MC symptoms then. My AF came this morning (two days late) and I'm just devastated. I really convinced myself was preggers. This is the first time I've had such bad nausea, fatigue and sore boobs in lead up to AF - which is why I was so certain. Don't think I can bear this every month. It also made me realise how much I needed this to be a pregnancy to help me get over my last MC (an MMC in July at 9 weeks). Oh bollocks I've been in tears all morning I'm so so disappointed. Sorry to bring a downer onto the posifrickintivity thread...

...it's just brought all those early post-MC feelings back... ugh.

It's crap isn't it Mabel ? You will feel better in a couple of days though, I promise. We all get it every month when AF appears and it's another cycle down the swanny! But you will pick yourself up again and the desperate feelings will fade and you'll be filled with hope again for the next few weeks. Fingers crossed you won't be here long! X

Got bloody tonsillitis here in the West Country! Thank god it's not quite time to DTD yet as I'm a sweaty blob who keeps shining a torch in my gob to marvel at the white spots on my tonsils....not the most attractive prospect for DH!

We're off on our belated honeymoon next Thursday for a cheap week in the sun. Booked especially as my due date for MC #1 will be on the Saturday and I wanted to be away for it. It also happens that I'm likely to OV on the same day, so who knows, it could be a good one after all!?!

Sorry to hear about your dad nerdy. Not what you need on top of everything else.

I've picked myself up from my AF despair now. Ready for the next month! We all know how you feel mabel. It really is crap.

All ready for the great British bake off here and....my tv appears to have stopped working!! I am not impressed.

Another one here who doesn't want a stats thread. I don't know what cycle it is post 2nd MC anymore. But I know it is 6 months.

nerdy hope your dad is ok.

I have pregnancy symptoms every month. Sore boobs, tiredness. I am sure I imagine them. It is so hard to tell when the early pregnancy and pre AF symptoms are so similar though.

I'm not having a good month atm. DH came back from a work trip on Friday night. The CBFM shows peak for Saturday and Sunday. It should mean yesterday is 1dpo. I forgot to poas for the CBFM this morning. And there isn't as sharp a rise in BBT like previous cycles. So I'm not sure what is happening. I guess I just have to continue to dtd just in case.

Thanks for your kind words everyone, needed somewhere to let it out!
Dad is much better now and was out of hospital after a few hours. Hopefully when they follow up in the clinic they can find out the cause and give treatment.

I have noticed that my periods are different since MC. Shorter and lighter than I remember them being, and I've had some boob soreness too. But maybe being on the pill for so long just suppressed my 'normal' cycle. Because I got pregnant so quickly I didn't have any proper post-pill periods, and the rest have been post-MC.
Seems like a change in cycle and symptoms might be something that happens a lot.

So sorry Mabel :(

Nerdy my post mc periods are exactly like you describe, and for exactly the same reasons I wonder if I'm just misremembering.
Oltt good luck for dtd tonight too, should just be one for good luck most likely.
Bugger about the tv bezza, hope you got it sorted. P

I did thanks alyant. Would have been gutted if I'd missed my weekly fix!

Horrible morning. My little sister just told me she's pregnant - unwanted, unplanned, she's in total shock. Her boyfriend doesn't want it, his ex-wife had an accidental baby when they were only 19 (they're 25 now), and he just doesn't think he can go through it again. She won't abort, though has considered it - she wants it, and she also has pretty bad pcos so doesn't want to do anything she'll regret later. We're really close, I'm her main support in this, and I am desperately trying to compartmentalise things - she's in a right state, our situations are totally different, but I had a proper shaky, crying breakdown at work after we spoke. Fortunately I work with a close friend who's been great. I'm actually feeling much better now, but it's going to be so hard for both of us, and I'm so worried about her. I really hope she's ok, and her relationship survives it - they've just bought a house together, but were no way ready for this.

God, the universe has a pretty freaky sense of humour. FFS.

seaside that must be so hard for you and your sister. For you to be so close and then be thrown into such opposite situations re-babies.

I just saw yet another baby announcement on fb but this is nothing in comparison. Didn't stop me feeling down though ofc.

Having thought about it, I'm going to look at it from another angle - it's a lovely thing, because I'm going to get pg in the next couple of months (!) and we can go though this together. It would be amazing if that did happen, I'd love to share it with her. Come on body!!

yeah seaside! you and your sis are going to be pg at similar times, and then your kids will grow up together and be as thick as thieves. it's going to be wonderful.

And she will be slightly ahead of you so can pass on all her wisdom and baby clothes to you. Perfect.