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Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs! TTC after MC

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alyant79 · 22/08/2013 09:02

Come one, come all and join our rollicking new thread with slightly updated brand new rules

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

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DearlyDepartedMrsFinch · 01/09/2013 22:46

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cosmickitten · 01/09/2013 22:55

You guys are great! thank you for putting up with my mini breakdown. It turns out a baby shower, big family do and birth announcement all in one day is my tipping point!

I thought I was more ok with it all than it turns out I am. I m still sad re misscarriage and scared of never having a baby. Having a safe place to vent those feelings is amazing,so than you all xxxxx

Feeling much less morbid and starting to feel a flicker of hope for the future. It may take time, it may not be how we'd hoped but we will make a family.

I'm a bit ashamed that my pity party meant I missed bad hair's exciting news. So a late but heartfelt congratulations :-)

Badhairday76 · 02/09/2013 08:26

Hi ladies

Am afraid I have devastating news to share. Unfortunately my pregnancy was another ectopic so had emergency surgery to remove the 6 week old foetus and my remaining tube on Saturday night. Am now infertile with no tubes left so will be leaving this thread but didn't want to just disappear from this thread without saying goodbye. You are a lovely bunch of ladies and I've really appreciated the support of this thread throughout the last 8 months. Thank you. Luckily my tube didn't rupture this time so am hoping I'll physically recover from surgery a bit quicker this time but obviously the mental healing will take time. I've been told we can try for IVF because I still seem able to conceive so we will pin all our hopes on that for now. And get saving up our cash, obviously. Seaside and Over - it is relatively rare to lose both tubes to ectopic pregnancy but somebody needs to make up the shitty end of the statistics so am sure you guys will go on to have healthy pregnancies.

I want to wish all of you all the luck in the world that you go on to have your much wanted babies and to thank you again for your kindness.

Sarah xxx

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alyant79 · 02/09/2013 08:51

oh badhair i'm so so so so sorry Sad
what awful news.

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NerdyBird · 02/09/2013 08:53

Oh Sarah, so sorry to hear that. I hope you are taking care of yourself, lots of big hugs to you. Xxx

ArkadyRose · 02/09/2013 08:59

So very sorry for you, Sarah. Sad I really hope IVF does the trick for you - no chance of the NHS funding it where you are? I know NHS IVF is a real postcode lottery. Hmm Sorry we're losing you in such a way. Sad

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DearlyDepartedMrsFinch · 02/09/2013 10:00

Oh Sarah Sad. You must be heartbroken. I am so very sorry and I wish you all the luck in the world with IVF.

triplespin · 02/09/2013 10:37

Sarah so sorry to hear that. Good luck with IVF. I hope you have good support in RL.

Misspositivity · 02/09/2013 11:10

badhair. What gutting news. I am truly so sorry to hear this. Please take care of yourself and I wish you so much luck with IVF. Xx

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 02/09/2013 11:24

That's IVF is still a glimmer of hope. Take care. xxxx

Bezza2508 · 02/09/2013 12:37

Oh badhair, I am so sorry to hear your news. I hope you are being well looked after and I wish you all the luck in the world with your IVF. Take care xxx

Tomkat79 · 02/09/2013 13:10

So so sorry Sarah to read your news. Wishing you a speedy recovery. Good luck with the IVF xxx

SeasideLily · 02/09/2013 14:24

Sarah I'm so sorry, that's just awful. I was told if I lose my other tube we're an ivf dream because we're fertile other than the tubes, so I dearly wish you a speedy recovery and a quick and successful round of ivf. My friend lost both tubes and now has a 3 year old and twins, so this is most definitely not the end of the road for you, nor for me if it happens again. It's a heartbreaking speedbump. Take care of yourself, xxx

OveranxiousUnderated · 02/09/2013 14:42

badhair I am so sorry to hear your sad news, actually brought tears to my eyes reading it. How utterly heartbreaking for you to have to go through something so horrendous all over again. Sad

I really, really, really hope that IVF does go ahead for you and works out for you.

I am so grateful for all the messages and advice you gave me when I was going through my ectopic/tube removal - you were so lovely and supportive. Flowers Thank you so much. xxx

Wishing you all the luck and happiness in the future.

x

JBrd · 02/09/2013 15:38

BadHair So sorry to hear your devastating news, how heartbreaking. Wishing you a quick recovery, be kind to yourself. And every possible luck for the future, whatever path you decide to take! Thanks

Badhairday76 · 02/09/2013 15:45

Thank you everybody. I'm all cried out now and feel
strangely calm about it at this moment. Over and Seaside, although what happened to me is rare, I would urge you both to get your remaining tube checked out just in case. The EPU doctor told me that secondary ectopics are more common if the other tube ruptured before it was removed and that they are seeing more and more of them, particularly in ladies over 35. i think you are both younger than me and am not sure if you ruptured but i now really regret not insisting on having my tube looked at after my first one. lMy doctor told me to check mine out back in Feb but I wanted to 'try' first of all. My surgeon said she couldn't see any damage in the tube she took out on Sat but that my March miscarriage was probably another early ectopic which blocked it. We are devastated but have just been reading about IVF. I can't yet accept that this is the end. Thanks again everybody for your kindness xxx

fod27 · 02/09/2013 17:28

Oh Sarah this is just horrific! My thoughts are with you and my heart goes out to you. Xxx wishing you all the luck in the worlds and more than anything u hope you have supprt in RL xxxx

cosmickitten · 02/09/2013 18:12

Sarah, I'm so sorry to hear your awful news. You and your dp are very mich in my thoughts.

When you are ready, Fertility friends is a wonderful supportive forum for all the steps involved with assisted conception. The ladies there can offer lots of first hand information about local clinics, great Doctors and how to handle the costs. Mumsnet is all kinds of wonderful but earlier this year the large amount of local information on fertility friends helped us choose a fertility clinic that felt right for us.

Penguinita · 02/09/2013 18:16

So very sorry to hear that Sarah. Don't accept that this is the end - it really isn't, you have several options left that mean you can still have a lovely happy family. Just make sure you take time for yourself to readjust and recover.

And thanks for sharing such great advice with us - hopefully someone now or in the future will read this thread and something positive can come out of your sad experience. Thanks

fedupofrainydays · 02/09/2013 19:26

Oh Sarah that's such sad news. But like the others say... I'm glad you are exploring ivf options and I'm sure you will grow your family very soon.
And thank you for sharing your advice with us all. It can't be easy doing that but current and future readers of this thread are so appreciative of it. Thank you.
Take care of yourself xxxx

Wickedwiggle86 · 02/09/2013 22:32

Sarah, I am so sorry to hear your sad news. I hope you and your OH are as well as can be under the circumstances. I've only just joined so didn't get a chance to get to know you, but I want to thank you for sharing what happened... I only had my tube removed last week and to be honest I don't recall them telling me anything about the state of my remaining tube. I have been worrying about it ever since and your advice has encouraged me to get it looked into properly. Good luck with the IVF and best wishes for the future, I have my fx for you xxx

Sundance2007 · 03/09/2013 09:32

Oh Sarah, you have been through so much already you poor thing, I can't even begin to imagine how you must be feeling but please know that I/we are thinking if you, and that I'm sure everyone is wishing you get your IVF baby soon.
When your baby finally gets to you, just think how much more special it will be knowing how bloody hard you fought to get there.
Big hugs x

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alyant79 · 03/09/2013 16:55

two days without taking my bbt.... i miss my stats graph!

HAs anyone else had really light periods since their mc?? I misused Dr Google yesterday and am now freaking myself out about what's wrong with me. Presumably i'm fine, but.... but.....

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triplespin · 03/09/2013 17:50

aly same here. AF is a lot lighter but more painful than before mc.