Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs! TTC after MC

[alyant79]

Come one, come all and join our rollicking new thread with slightly updated brand new rules

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

aly I've only had a couple of periods the first was super heavy and the second very light. So not really enough to make a judgement.

I'm guessing that Ashmerman's syndrome turned up from dr google. I got very worried post erpc after a google session when that came up. I'm sure you've nothing to worry about but if continues maybe get it checked to put your mind to rest.

Mine were too aly and freaked out about ashermans too but have gradually got heavier again..
Mine were also way more painful... And still are.

Aly I've only had one AF post MC but it was lighter than usual (although way more painful!)

Congratulations Kat. Great news!

Thanks guys. Will try not to worry.

Great news kata!! Woohoo :)

Mine too Aly. It's normally 3-4 days with 1-2 fairly heavy days. Now it's fairly light and goes on for like 8-9 days!! I feel like I've been bleeding and spotting all year!!!

Brilliant news kat

kat great news. So lovely to hear news that all is going well! If you are still around I wanted to ask you about Chinese herbs as I remember you we're taking them. I went to see someone this week and was told that I should wait another 3 months before we start trying and I should take the herbs in the meantime. I was surprised to hear that and obviously we don't want to wait another 3 months and I was wondering if you were advised something similar?

triple are you seeing an accupuncturist by any chance? Mine has advised me to wait three months before trying again and I really don't want to either.

bezza this was a traditional Chinese medicine (TCM) practitioner. Incidentally I also saw an accupuncturist separately few wks ago but he did not mention anything about 3 month wait (haven't gone back to him as he basically saidthat there wasn't anything about my cycle apart from mc that indicated a problem - as of now ).

The old advice from doctors used to be to wait at least 3 months too. I think it's more mental than anything else. And they used to think that waiting might help prevent another mc but that's been shown to be rubbish.

Interesting how so many of us now have screwy periods. It's obviously normal to be abnormal.
I've started taking a cocktail of supplements instead of just a generic ttc supplement. It's an attempt to thicken my womb lining. Nothing special, but I felt like I need more iron and b6 in addition to folic acid. This month's project desperate

Morning. Just caught up with the news in the last few pages. I'm so sorry for the lost badhair. Nothing I can say can make it right. All the best in finding a good fertility clinic and best of luck with IVF.

katatonic that's great news with the 8 week scan.

On my side, I have the BBT rise yesterday. So the BD week is over. Because the silly CBFM declared day 8 to be high this cycle, we started on the day, every other day. Now 10 days later DH is exhausted. I'm thinking I should still BD another time just in case, but will wait 3 days instead. Advice is 3 days a week isn't it? So sometimes it could be 3 days instead of 2 surely?

I craved a bag of crisps yesterday. Is that an early pregnancy symptom?

Hi all, may I join you? I had my MC at 9 weeks on 12 August (after nearly two years of TTC - grrr). Have been very fortunate that it was a complete MC so after the initial couple if days of hideousness, bleeding thereafter was just like a period and over in a week.

Was going to follow advice and have a break until after my next period, but clearly missed POAS and started with the OPKs mid cycle - just to check that I was returning to normal and ovulating when I should! Also had an unexpected surge of horniness a couple of days pre ovulation which is very uncharacteristic, So it looks like we are now straight back to TTC.

Has anyone else started TTC without waiting for your first post MC period? Are there any real risks ( apart from not being able to date accurately, which I don't think is a risk at all).

Hi yorkshire sorry you find yourself here, particularly after 2 years ttc.

I don't think there are any real risks as I asked the doctor at my erpc if there was any medical reason why we couldn't try before next period and she said no.
So I don't think it's risky but it might just not happen if the body isn't ready. I guess it's clever (although v annoying for us) like that as wont carry a baby unless its ready. If you can hack the emotional side of not getting preggers straight away then go for it. Starting to wish I had waited a bit now 6 months down the line... But there is always the chance it would happen straight away so I quite impressed with anyone who can wait!!

Morning all

AF for me today. At least she's punctual. I think I am fairly settled on a 35 day cycle, now just need to know if I am ovulating. I thought I had a surge this month, but it may not have been enough. So I have decided to start temping and took it this morning - 36.6. Not sure if that's normal!

This period feels light, and my last one was too. I think the one before that was 'normal' though.

Just to make today even more fun, I have a touch of cystitis and a bit of constipation too. Delightful!

Have appointment with acupunturist this evening though.

Kat I went to london accu on harley street - but probably they were basing this on my history i.e. fell pregnant on cycle #1 and cycle #2 respectively last two times. My herbs are arriving today in the post, but its good to know that you were able to concieve in the meantime anyway. I was worried that if I take the herbs, they may even stop me from conceiving in those three months (when I am not supposed to be trying !).

OLTT good you are through ! We are still in the midst of it - CD 13 and still a negative on OPK - am hoping all is done and dusted by the weekend so I can start the horrendous 2ww, but at least there is no pressure to DTD !

nerdy boo to AF arriving.

Re your question - the absolute level of your BBT is not relevant - as this can vary from individual to individual and what time of the day you took the tempature. It is more the pattern (or relative change you observe) that can be used to track ovulation that you should look out for.

Thanks triple
I really need to read about it again. I looked at it a few months ago but decided not to do it then so it's all gone out of my head!

Struggling a bit to stay positive, just feels like I will never get pregnant at this rate :(

aww nerdy I understand what you mean. How many months TTC are you post MC? I am only 2 months on and already feel its never going to happen. Treat yourself to something nice today - that's what I always do when AF arrives :)

I'm feeling it will never happen to me too. This is my last cycle before one year anniversary to TTC. I will also be 39 in October. Funny a year ago, I thought I would give it a try for a year and give up when the EDD will take me to 40yo. Now I don't feel like I want to give up yet!

welcome yorkshire, sorry that you find yourself here :(
I don't think that there's any medical reason to wait for your first AF, so if you feel mentally prepared then go for it.
We didn't bother waiting. didn't get pg though (and still haven't, 6 months down the track).

Boo to AF nerdy. Regularity is a good thing though. Temping sounds like a good plan - that's why I started too, just to check that I really was ovulating. It was very satisfying to see the temp jump.
As triple said it's the pattern that's important. I tend to see a gradual decrease in temp until just before ov when it's hits a low. Then it jumps up overnight but doesn't hit a peak high for a few days. Then it stays high until just before AF arrives.

OLTT i'm almost on the same timeline as you. After this cycle (and i'm away from DH when i ov) i've only got 1 more before my 1 year ttc anniversary. BOO) HISSSS!!!!! If you turn 39 in October you've still got a few months up your sleeve before your EDD would be when you're 40. Be positive :)

DDMF i'm sorry that AF arrived for you too. She's such a bitch.

Welcome Yorkshire. Sorry for your loss, especially after 2 years TTC. i don't think there's any harm in trying again once you have stopped bleeding. That's what I was told after my ERPC.

Sorry AF had arrived Nerdy.

I have one month until my 1 year anniversary of TTC too. It's took 8 months to conceive the first time and then MC at 12 weeks so that has taken a good few months out of the equation. This is the first month TTC after MC though so trying not to think about the one year thing as that is just more pressure!

Mu acupuncturist told me to wait 3 months too - I bargained her down to 2 months, and was happy to do that because my periods and emotions were all over the place.

My mum also keeps urging me to check my other tube, but the hospital told me that it can cause more harm than good? I.e. it can block an otherwise healthy tube, so they only do it in extreme cases. I don't know how more extreme it needs to get...What did they advise you OLTT?

Sorry AF arrived nerdy. Just coming to the end of mine. They're normal for me, but annoying - heavy for a day, then pathetically light and refuse to go away. My acupunturist says my energy flow isn't right...

Thanks all for the info about temping. I will look out for a pattern.

This cycle (september) will be cycle 4 i think. MC was early april, and first AF arrived mid/late may so we started again after that. When i started in january i thought i'd be fine if it took a year to get pregnant, but miscarriage changed that. Now i really want to be pregnant by EDD which was early Nov. I know i'm putting the pressure on myself but it's hard not to.

I'm just off to my first acupuncture appt now, so i'll let you how i get on.