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Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs! TTC after MC

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alyant79 · 22/08/2013 09:02

Come one, come all and join our rollicking new thread with slightly updated brand new rules

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

OP posts:
Bezza2508 · 30/08/2013 17:19

Big event not bug event! I don't fancy the sound of a bug event :/

FacebookStoleMyLife · 30/08/2013 17:42

Thanks Bezza, it's my first proper month after the extended WTF cycle

Fancies I know exactly what you mean, that was a strong picture in my head too

fod27 · 30/08/2013 18:58

cosmic I completely understand, when I talk about our loss people might as well roll their eyes! It makes me so angry because they will never get it! They can't understand how long and drawn out the healing process is both emotionally and physically and everytime you see a bump or a newborn you want to punch the mother in the face!

At least here we all understand... We stand together and help each other through all the shit and when BFPs do arrive I don't think that there will ever be a group of people so genuinely happy and supportive due to all that shared pain and agony xxxx

cosmickitten · 30/08/2013 19:55

fod For me the kicker is the lack of understanding. The just get over it attitude, please paper over being sad 24/7 its easier for us vibe......from friends and family.

I love bfp's on here, your so right, the sharing the downs makes sharing the ups so much sweeter x

ArkadyRose · 30/08/2013 20:37

I don't think I've ever wanted to punch a mother in the face just because they had a child and I'd lost mine. Frequently wanted to run away and hide, and perhaps punch in the face the people who couldn't understand that or make allowances for it.

Bezza2508 · 31/08/2013 08:31

You're completely right Cosmic. I've had lots of support but I already feel like people wish I wasn't sad because it would be easier for them. I miscarried just over a month ago for gods sake- the sadness doesn't go away overnight!

fod27 · 31/08/2013 16:59

For me it's the anger, my sister drank and smoked throughout her entire pregnancy and went full term.. That injustice makes me want to lash out! But I'm only human at the end of day

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alyant79 · 31/08/2013 21:10

I get angry too fod. but not so much any more - it was worse a few months ago

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fod27 · 31/08/2013 21:52

For me it's the anger, my sister drank and smoked throughout her entire pregnancy and went full term.. That injustice makes me want to lash out! But I'm only human at the end of day

ArkadyRose · 31/08/2013 22:22

I'm reminded of something said by Marcus in Babylon 5, about how he used to get angey over how unfair the universe was. And then he thought how much worse it would be if the universe were fair, and all the bad things happened to us because we deserved them, and he was actually rather comforted that the universe was unfair. I think I feel the same way; yes, it's unfair we've all been through this loss while other seemingly undeserving women got to keep their babies. But we know our losses were not our fault; we did not deserve them. There's a comfort of a sort in that.

Then again, considering my family history, I guess I'll take comfort where I can find it.

Sal1977 · 31/08/2013 22:43

I don't get angry, I just worry that I'll never get to be a mum. Sad

fedupofrainydays · 31/08/2013 22:55

bezza I think that too. They want me to be over it so its easier for them. They miss me, the happy, funny one who instigated and led their social activity. And now I'm sad and don't really want to hang out with a bunch of pregnant people they are a little lost without their chief organiser and someone to rally the troops so to speak. I feel selfish but then. I think they are selfish for there reasons for wanting me to be my usual self again for their sake.

fedupofrainydays · 31/08/2013 22:56

Terrible grammar. Sorry. Tired, must sleep!!

Misspositivity · 31/08/2013 23:49

fod. I hear you. If babies were given out ranking by who deserved them first then oh what a better world this would be. Sadly not the case.
sal. I have a good feeling for you. Your time will come. Your just waiting for a special one xx

I met one of my Dd friends mum at nursery. Due same day as I was 15 sep. I wished her good luck but as I turned the sadness was over whelming, why me ? Why twice? I felt guilty for being jealous but do you know what I don't know her story maybe she was on this thread at a time......

misschord · 01/09/2013 00:36

Arkady, when my baby girl died, one of my favourite comments left by a friend on FB was that when tragedy strikes, he tries to remember that life is often wonderful, sometimes shit, but always, always unfair.

cosmickitten · 01/09/2013 00:42

sal yes the fear, of never ever being a mum :-( it is soul crushing at times.

fedupofrainydays · 01/09/2013 08:36

You know how we were talking about ov and body symptoms? Well I had loads of ewcm and felt like dtd on Friday (cd6) and was still bleeding a bit from period too. Didnt dtd as DH was out but did on sat morn. Forgot to opk but did this morn cd 8 and was smiley. This so too early surely? Too early for eggs to have matured and lining built up??? FFS means will get af half way through holiday too instead of just a bit at the end :(

Bezza2508 · 01/09/2013 08:45

I think we are allowed to be selfish at times fedup, although I don't think we are actually bring selfish! I am just trying to look after myself and not be such a people pleaser all the time. I'm not sure about the positive opk. Do you temp as well so you can see if you actually do ovulate or if is just a rise in LH and you will actually ovulate later in the month?

sal I am sure you will be a mum, we all will. Where are you with your referral for tests now?

fedupofrainydays · 01/09/2013 09:21

That's true bezza. Nope, don't temp as always forgot and am a crap sleeper which isn't great. So I guess I might not ov til later but think I do ov around day of opk as signs show it..

I'm going to get drunk today and lure DH to drunken sex somewhere inappropriate. Might be a challenge as he's out with friends but will try!!

Misspositivity · 01/09/2013 09:37

fedup. Keep up the BD until you are sure. I often get two lh surges and just one temp rise to show I have ovulated.

fedupofrainydays · 01/09/2013 09:57

Ok... Thanks miss p. didnt realise two surges was possible!

Misspositivity · 01/09/2013 10:10

Apparantly your body gears up to ovulate and then for some reason dosen't and does it later. Also consultant told me never to use FMU for opk as can give false poss for opk. Clearblue digital tell you to use FMU so not sure about whether ok for those ones.

Wickedwiggle86 · 01/09/2013 10:12

Hello, I was wondering if I can join in? I had a laparoscopy last week for an ectopic pregnancy at 5w4d and lost my left tube. For obvious reasons had to leave the due date thread as I didn't want to bum everyone out and have been feeling a little lost ever since; it's difficult trying to find a thread I can fit into but you ladies seem very friendly so I'm hoping you'll have me!

fod27 · 01/09/2013 10:26

wicked please do join in and share, moan etc etc sorry that your brought here under such difficult circumstances. everyone is very supportive, I wasn't sure I could face people, work or anything after my loss but being and to share my worries and pain with people that understand and everyone in RL had "moved on" really helped

DearlyDepartedMrsFinch · 01/09/2013 21:36

Hello everyone

Back from our holiday and as expected AF arrived. So blood and misery instead of a 30-week bump. We came home to the news of another family pregnancy and it has hit me really hard TBH. The EDD is looming large on the horizon (late Oct/early Nov) and I am most definitely having a bad day today. There were even tears in Next when I attempted to buy a gift for DB?s baby, due December. Crying a lot today. DH told me to ?let it go?. If only it were that easy Sad

Oh, aly, what an awful way to spend your EDD. You poor thing, So sorry your AF arrived. However, I do think the GP saying that you are due some bad luck as you had fell pregnant easily in the past is bullshit. Now I am no statistician, but that sounds like utter nonsense to me...surely the fact that you have fallen pregnant quickly in the past makes you MORE likely to conceive easily again. Bad luck isn?t handed out fairly by some omnipotent being. Daft GP.

The rollercoasterness of TTC rang a bell with me. It?s amazing how a single number in the morning can completely foretell the day?s mood. Huge amounts of posifrickinivity due to a high temperature, followed by a crushing negativity caused by a faint PMS-type twinge. And even the first day of AF, there is a niggling ?is this an IB?? even though you KNOW in your heart it isn?t.

cosmic, the whole events things gets to me too. This is when I should be x weeks etc. And I have a constant reminder with poor DSIL?s pregnancy as I always know I should be x weeks ahead. And although I am thrilled for them, it breaks my heart a little every time, too.

Fod, great news from your scan! And fantastic news from sundance and tomcat Grin Oh, and badhair too! So many BFPs, about bloody time!