Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs! TTC after MC

[alyant79]

Come one, come all and join our rollicking new thread with slightly updated brand new rules

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Anyone POAS?

aly what is going on? Has af turned up properly or are you POAS today??

Congrats badhair great news for the single tubers. Although I have both and no joy. Perhaps this month!

af turned up properly today so no POAS for me today. any other takers?

ark that's exciting about the professional mead making. I hope it works out. How exciting.

fancies my AF turned up 3 weeks after my erpc, but that was an erpc 4 weeks after a failed medical management so not quite the same situation.

what's FE fod?

hmm bezza i haven't noticed my temp go up after drinking - obviously i'm not drinking enough! I'll have to increase my consumption if i want to get pg this cycle

sundance is there any way that you could get the gp to refer you for an early scan? (mine told me to come straight to them when if i ever get upduffed again). OR could you self refer to the EPU?

:( to af aly

Sorry FE is Further Education (colleges)

Aahhhh fod it all becomes clear. i should know, but i'm not british so that's my excuse

Boo for AF aly really sorry - let's drink loads and only dtd once!!! ( ahhhhhh) it will be our month ladies!! Get the wine in! X

I haven't drunk all week so better get back on it...

alright you ladies who got pg after one drunken shag session - when was it in relation to ov day? do you know?

As you asked .... With dd we dtd twice: once the morning I got positive on OV stick and once the following morning or night. No alcohol - maybe a glass of wine the night before - 2nd pregnancy (mc1) dtd once when got positive on OV stick. Third pregnancy (mc2) Christmas time so lots of alcohol and dtd twice after getting positive on OV stick! ...... Therefore why am I now insisting we do it everyday??? Project desperate and I've gone very slightly nutty!

Ahhh I see aly apparently when you ov it makes you incredibly horny so everytime I got knocked up it was when I instigated sex... Hope that helps

Congrats badhair awesome news.

Ok aly this all according to my period tracker app...day 1 fertile was cd11. I was a little annoyed at always having to tell DH when fertile so I didn't bother this month. I worked on the assumption that he knew when AF was and could bloody well take some responsibility for our fertility! Anyway, we didn't DTD until cd16 which is when a little ovulation flower appeared on the calendar and i got v drunk at a wedding reception lol. Of course the app could be totally wrong but I fell preg the same way in March. It bases all the timings from my AF cycles over the last year.

What is odd though is I tested on cd 26 as got symptoms and cbhpt said BFP 2-3 weeks?

What I do know though is that I had to relax more as was getting silly. Girly goo monitoring and temping was in full swing back in June and the pressure was t

Too much xx

Oh and I dyed my hair from dark brown to white blonde!! Maybe that helped (hmm)

Apparently ov makes you more attractive to men too.... Not sure that works with my DH! Possibly because he is too knackered from dtd before that point!

According to period tracker I should be getting jiggy with it now... Cd 6!

i need to trust my body more. i like that friskiness = ov and it did work for me in the past, both time i got pg.
But my two months of ov sticks led me to believe that actually i ov a few days after friskiness has passed, which in turn got me all worried.
perhaps that was my body being all screwy post-mc or ov sticks are a lying waste of money

Right, this month is chilled month. i'm not even going to temp.

feeling very sad, tomorrow is my Dad's 60th. I've spents ages planning a party and making a fancy cake. But like all important events, I know how pregnant I should be..........it hurts.

I never thought 18 months ago when we were so excited to start a family, it would lead here. Sometimes hope is very very hard to hold on to. I think I need some positivity sending my way (though looking at the recent flush of BFP some booze might be better :-P).

Sorry to whine but one other bugger really understands!

one? no............ no one in my life gets it, not even DH sometimes. I'm meant to be 'over' it and hopeful!

cosmic I def get it. Certain 'milestones' keep passing for me. I should be on mat leave and due a baby on two weeks :(

aly I'm the same, my friskiness is before ov too according to my sticks but sometimes they do say peak fertility is actually pre ov!!

Hi, I've been lurking reading your posts since my MC in June. It's been a massive help seeing what other ladies going through the same thing have to say and sharing the same madness (I POAS once after my period had started because I had slightly sore boobs, how's that for desperate). So thank you all for sharing what you've been through.

I really need some advice today because I'm driving myself insane. I've been symptom spotting this week so decided to POAS this morning (AF due Monday I think) and saw nothing. Decided to crack it open out of curiosity (I think I saw someone mention it on a site) and still saw nothing so bunged it in the bin. Came back later and fished it out (sad but true) and there was a faint pink line. Two more tests looked negative but when cracked open had very definite faint lines. Has anyone had this? Can they be the dreaded evap lines? Or are these tests just not meant to be broken open so they're being affected by the air??

I'm so terrified to get my hopes up after what happened last time so please tell me if I should just ignore these.

cosmic I had tears in my eyes today when I had to explain about my mcs my first one was last July!! - this is not easy and people don't understand unless they've been there too.

facebook sorry you find yourself here and glad you're finding the chat on here helpful - I'm afraid I can't help re cracking open sticks ... If you can somehow wait till Monday to test again younger get a clearer answer ... Sorry probably not what you want to hear xx

Facebook I'm really really sorry that life has brought you here.

Re tests, I think waiting a trying in a day or 2 is the only way to get an answer. Which test are u using? Trying a more sensitive test is an option as waiting is so hard. Personally I suspect its more likely to be an evaporation line. But that doesn't mean a bfp won't show up soon xxx

Emki and Cosmic thanks! I needed to hear some sensible thinking, you're absolutely right of course (I'm starting to see through the crazy hopeful fog), using ICs so should be pretty sensitive. Going away for a long weekend so I figure if I pack tons of tampons I can keep AF away until Tuesday (well she always turns up when I forget them so that's my logic)

Cosmic the big events are so hard, no one else understands the feeling that someone/a much wanted bump is missing. Have as much fun as you can though, booze definitely sounds like a plan and a big slice of that fancy cake you've been working on!

We understand how hard it is Cosmic. I can't go to an bug 'events' at the moment without thinking about where I would have been in my pregnancy. My family is just full of babies as well which makes me want to avoid them but I know I can't do that forever.

Welcome facebook. Sorry you find yourself here. Fingers crossed you get your BFP soon. Is this your first month TTC after your MC?

cosmic I completely understand how you feel. I'm even dreading Christmas slightly because I could so clearly picture it with a nice bump, looking forward to my baby in March.

Thanks all for your help.