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Just started to feel period pains ;(

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johnandkymberley · 11/05/2013 19:10

Hi all, title says it really!!
I'm f*#%!?g gutted!! I really don't think I can deal with it, we have been trying for a month and I know it's stupid to feel like this but I can't help it! I feel like I'm a failure...AND I have no chocolate in the house!!!!
Sorry just needed to let off some upsetness!
Baby dust to all TTC xxxxxxx

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lyndsey90 · 11/05/2013 19:51

Sweetie I got my af today, I'm 23 and on cycle 11, your not a failure xx

OrangeLily · 11/05/2013 19:54

If it helps it means that you get anther try!

There's lots of people on here with issues.
I'm on month seven but only about five cycles due to irregular and long cycles.

Day 41 and no sign of AF.

80% of couples will conceive in the first year!!

lyndsey90 · 11/05/2013 19:56

Guess I'm gonna be one of the 20% wash!

lyndsey90 · 11/05/2013 19:57

Waah* damn phone....

OrangeLily · 11/05/2013 20:00

Sorry lyndsey Hmm I was trying to make the OP feel better.

I will probably be too. Doesn't look like Im ovulating Confused having a few Wine this weekend because I can because Im not pregnant.

lyndsey90 · 11/05/2013 20:03

I'm at work tomorrow so cannot indulge in the drowning of sorrows lol! Just need to hold my head up! I did have a chemical preg in Jan, least I know I'm kinda fertile! :)

OrangeLily · 11/05/2013 20:05

Work - shit
Chem preg - shit
Fertility - yaaaaay!

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johnandkymberley · 11/05/2013 20:27

Thankyou both for your posts. I'm glad I'm not alone, although wishing you both loads of baby dust!!
I think I feel so bad because all my friends have caught in the 1st or 2nd month of trying and I suppose because I knew that I thought that would happen to me?!

We will see if there is any blood this week! AF due on Saturday

I have been out and bought a four pack of flake and caramel - couldn't choose so bought both!! A multi pack if haribos and a double pack of Jaffa cakes!!
It's out first year wedding anniversary tmoz so trying to keep happy for that :)

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OrangeLily · 11/05/2013 20:30

Fingers crossed for you. Our anniversary is fairly soon too.

RaspberrySnowCone · 11/05/2013 20:51

A month is really nothing to get overly anxious about. Do you mean a month or is that a typo?

Less baby dust, more shagging.

JethroTull · 11/05/2013 20:54

In a month there's only about a 72 hour window when you can actually get pregnant.

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johnandkymberley · 11/05/2013 22:20

No I do mean a month!!! That's why I say I know it seems stupid but that's just how I feel!! I have been checking my CM - (not for the faint hearted!!) and I know when I ovulated etc and we had sex within that window etc

I know this seems a funny question but can you fake yourself into thinking your havin period pains?? I think I might of?? Xxxx

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FriendofDorothy · 11/05/2013 22:29

You might HAVE you mean.

Maybe you are pregnant. Maybe you're not. You'll have to wait and see, and if you are then you are bloody lucky to get pregnant so fast. However, the likelihood is that you isn't so I suggest you ease up for a few months, don't get too stressed just yet and enjoy shagging in an uncomplicated fashion.

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johnandkymberley · 12/05/2013 10:09

Okay, we'll I'm hoping I am obviously. It's not impossible to get pregnant in one/two months, 3 of my friends have all done that!! That's why I think I expect it to happen quickly, if that makes sense? Xxx

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FriendofDorothy · 12/05/2013 11:08

My sister got pregnant fast too - it seemed like she just took her knickers off and got pregnant - as did most if my friends.

It took us nearly 2 years and the expectation it was going to happen quickly made the length of time we had to wait even more painful.

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johnandkymberley · 12/05/2013 18:42

Hiya, sorry to hear that Dorothy, I think I am too impatient!!! Patient is better said that done!!!

Earliest I can do a HPT is Wednesday but might wait if I can!!!

AF is due on sat/sun

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brettgirl2 · 12/05/2013 18:58

for future reference you get af pains of you are preg ime. Both of my pregnancies started with the feeling af was arriving slightly earlier than usual.

FingersCrossedLegsNot · 12/05/2013 19:18

I think you need to calm down a bit! When your trying for over two years like me then you will have something to complain about! I know I probably seem insensitive but I think coming on and complaining after one month when people on here have been trying for years in slightly insensitive!

Liquoriceallsort · 12/05/2013 19:35

I agree, if 80% of 'healthy' couples conceive within a year you could potentially put yourself through this another 10 times which isn't healthy! Try to enjoy ttc and don't put so much pressure on yourself.

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johnandkymberley · 12/05/2013 19:46

And I didn't realise I could have pains if I'm pregnant?!?

I know this sounds tmi but I have been keeping an eye out for AF but I am totally dry 'down there!'

I have some back ache too??

I never have painful periods really, maybe a couple of times but not usually??? Xxx

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johnandkymberley · 12/05/2013 19:48

I don't mean to be insensitive and if I have sounded it I don't mean to. I (and loads of other people) have hang ups and this is one of mine. I do put pressure on myself but u can't help it :s

Just one of those things I suppose but I'm a control freak!

And hubby and I we have wanted a baby for 7 years - when I was 17!! But have only started trying basically because we knew we were too young etc so this is really wanted. It's always the case though the more you want it.....

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EuroShaggleton · 12/05/2013 19:54

Well you can't control this, so you need to get into a more relaxed mindset. You don't even know the outcome yet of your very first month ttc and you have got yourself into a state!

If "the more you want it...." was in anyway true, I would have a litter by now rather than 2 and a half miserable years behind me with one IVF miscarriage to show for my efforts.

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johnandkymberley · 12/05/2013 20:06

Okay I need to relax then!!! I meant the more you want it the longer it takes xxx

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OrangeLily · 12/05/2013 21:25

OP have you had a look at net mums? Might be able to get some good advice there. Most folks here have been on the TTC bandwagon for too long to understand where you are coming from.

1Catherine1 · 12/05/2013 21:40

When I got pregnant with my DD, I remember feeling like my period was coming on. I'd had 1 cycle where we didn't conceive and I was so disappointed that I was getting my second period. Only it didn't come and I was pregnant. I had the typical pains, migraine and short tempter that the time of the month usually brings - enhanced by my disappointment.

So although getting pregnant first month is unlikely - you don't know for sure yet.