TRC 10+ months. Part 15...

[MuddyWellyNelly]

New thread for the lovely 10+ers. 14 was awesome so another like that please!

[CritterPants]

Hi everyone,

mrsd Oh I am so sorry honey. I hate the thought of you crying yourself to sleep. It is so crushing. Like everyone else, I hope you get a surprise at your blood test. But if this round didn't work, as others have said, there is hope - next time they can manage your stimming phase better, and make sure they don't do ER too early. You had embies, you know you can make them - there's every chance another round will be the lucky one. We've had a lot of ladies on this thread have failed rounds who've gone to get pregnant. This is not the end. Keep faith, you will get there - but for now wine sounds like an excellent idea. Wine, maybe some really stinky unpasteurised cheese, salami, and oysters. Massive squeeze.

nelly I am secretly grinning from ear to ear for you and crossing everything for a lovely confirmation on Friday. I bet the rest of the week is going to go slo-o-o-owly. My blood test isn't for 17 days! I think I will be much more of a cluster poster than you've been by the end. You've been positively restrained! I looked at egg donation at a couple of local clinics here and the cut off was 32... also they didn't like you to have PCOS, and they want you to have previously had a child so you have a 'track record'. Maybe it's different in the US? I can imagine if I was doing DE I'd want someone in their 20s, unless it was a family member. Sister Critter is still single, yes - she doesn't seem to have my drive to have a little ankle biter, but I think that's partly self-preservation as she doesn't have a nice bloke around.

buzzy at the arse bullets, am thinking of trying the back door myself, front door seems to leak all over the shop. Wow at how cheap Brno is. And yay for a spotless clinic. It sounds like it's going brilliantly so far.

doll the prenatal vits here in the US all seem to be stinky like that. If you get them wet it's even worse - they smell like the fish food we used to give our goldfish in the pond in my parents' house. And they turn your wee a lurid neon yellow. I actually buy them in bulk when I go home to the UK as the UK brands don't seem as smelly or as huge and sick-making. Sorry about the Thai situation... no fun at all.

joy so glad you had a nice weekend away, you deserve a lovely break! I am going to Florida for the weekend at the end of May - can't wait. We leave the morning of my blood test - so I will either be celebrating or diving head first into a giant pina colada when I arrive.

madness I agree that testing on a Monday morning would not be conducive to a focused start to the week... maybe that evening? Or Sunday? Oh I so hope you get good news... I'm only one day into this wait and it's already driving me crackers.

[CritterPants]

xpost princess you are a saint to have spent your entire pregnancy staying with your in-laws. A saint! I can't believe your little one is nearly here. Do you know the sex, or will it be a surprise?

[buzzybee123]

hello ladies

mrsd super big hugs I hate to think of you so upset, I too hope you get a big surprise tomorrow, what time is your test

nelly can you not get a blood test earlier to confirm * mini buzzybee I plan to test around the 20th as that is two weeks from EC which is technically ovulation

doll 6 a day although I was popping 22 things a day at one point

madness hope work has kept you occupied

doll and art lovely to have you ladies still around

princess not long to go, this house must be a palace that you are building, you need to tell Mr P that you need to nest in your own home not the inlaws

sar and gin hope all is well with you two

sea and lemon I hope things are good with you two

big paw squeeze for rabbit

sweet how are feeling

euro not long now for you

free a big hello to you too and anyone + might have forgotten

well today Barry fell down some stairs, I have to admit I did think at least his wanking arm wasn't imjured

we went up to some caves and were on a nice walk when I suddenly thought 'sugar' I need to call the clinic, so they got 10 eggs from my donor, 7 were mature and 7 have fertisised I didn't ask about numbers or cells, ET day is sat at 10.30, I have to say this is a great way to do ivf, I don't feel stressed at all accept when Barry annoys me, people kept telling me I would be more stressed going overseas but I think the likes of Create would have stressed me out

I shall keep at look out for the awsome foursome

[FormerlyKnownAsPrincessChick]

Critter Nope. No sex known here. It's going to be a surprise. We refer to the baby as him (and he has a name, think second syllable of Mr P's name and then second syllable of my name - something mum coined and has stuck) because his hands and feet were huge on the 12 week scan (obvs meant nothing at all) and I didn't like referring to him as "it". But I have an inkling it's a her. As my dad say's it's a 50/50 chance, so no-one's going to be that far out. Anyway, I way preferred what the little boy in the antenatal clinic said when an old lady asked him what his mummy was having and he shouted "TIGER" at the top of his voice.

As for whole pregnancy at the in laws, if I can do this, I can do anything. It has NOT been easy. But it's ok. If you are a Miranda fan, it would be my "what have you done today to make you feel proud moment" - answer - "not killed my in laws"

[buzzybee123]

x posts critter can't be dealing with mess, I have a tight arse so no problems up that end I have doing so long it feels quite normal now
I think if you are DE like on the NHS with another IVF couple the age is 35, here in Europe its 32 to donate your eggs, not sure about anything else

I have been chucking in money to fountains etc while over here for us all and made a wish on some stalagmite thing in a cave today, it has to work for someone

[CritterPants]

buzzy yippee for seven embies! That's got to be a lucky number. And yay for a lovely five day transfer. Exploring caves sounds interesting - glad you're getting to do a bit of sightseeing! I bet the beer there is delicious too - I hope you're both sampling it.

princess ah how lovely to have a surprise! I think art said she was waiting to find out too. And at the 'TIGER' comment... now that would be a shock!

Just heard back from the clinic - they froze five blastocysts. Am thrilled!

[buzzybee123]

well done critter 5 is a great number lots of siblings for this one

[rabbitonthemoon]

nelly hang on in there! It's sounding pretty good to me.

mrsden I want to scoop you up and take all of this away for you, I'm so sorry for how sad you feel right now. See what tomorrow brings, I'm hoping you just got a useless test x

critter woo hoo! Cheering you on over the water. Are you feeing less crappy now?

princess oh my god your due date is nearly here! I'm sure it has felt like nine months to you, especially at the in laws, but it feels likes it has flown by. You will be going back from the hospital to your house won't you? Keep us posted on how these last weeks go.

madness how goes the waiting?

I am a bit blue today as I feel very very far from shore. I am still awaiting my IUI referral and this is one of the most frustrated I've ever felt. I have now been spotting for 4 whole days and feel like my period might get its lazy arse on in a bit but this really is a pain. Even if I wasn't ttc I would find this a drag. It's enought that I have to use san pro and it makes my entire period phase last about 9-10 days. Grump fest. I can't imagine I will ever be pregnant today.

[rabbitonthemoon]

Oh buzzy I'm loving your tales of travelling ivf. If I end up going the donor egg route I would be tempted to follow your path. It all sounds as if its going really well

[CritterPants]

rabbit I am so sorry to hear you are so sad. Can you do some hassling on the IUI referral? Squeaky wheel gets the grease and all that? Maybe some phone calls? They really ought to be getting on with it, it's outrageous that you've had to wait for so long. Quick question - does your IUI referral mess with your IVF timeline at all? Only, if it does, I'd be tempted to go straight to IVF. I know you need to do this in stages but it's crazy that they are taking this long to sort you out.

[sarlat]

Wow busy here today

Critter - wonderful news about the blasts. id say you are destined to have 2 or 3 children with that many blasts.

Buzz - hoorah for 7 beautiful embryos. My goodness nearly on the home straight. You really really deserve this.

Den - oh sweetheart, I am so sorry for the sadness. Please dont feel this is the end. You had rotten bad luck with the premature egg retrieval. But in there lies the problem which can be tweaked and that means there is lots and lots of hope. tight tight squeezes. I know that horrible feeling you have right now.

Nelly - cautious congratulations from me too. Feelings of af are a good sign. I had that around this point too.

Princess - so lovely to hear from you. Can't believe you are starting mat leave and dd is so soon. Well done for coping with the in laws.

Rabbit - the waiting game is pants. I really feel for you. Someone told me last week that they struggled to conceive due to a short leutal phase. I dont know if she spotted or if full on af started early. She took one of the b vitamins ?? B12 not sure. But this did lengthen the cycle and she got pregnant. Sorry if i am offering old and stale ideas. Just occurred to me with your annoying spotting.

Hello to all

[GinSoaked]

Oh mrsd, I wish I lived near to you and could come over and give you a big hug. It is utterly shitty, particularly when in the in between time, not sure if it's worked or not, but thinking probably not. I am still hopeful for you - did you see the Fred about having done a test and there not being a line until after 10 mins?! But if it hasn't worked out, remember it's a numbers game and you will get there. You got 100% fertilisation rate, which is amazing and was a huge problem for us. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow.

Talking of 100% fertilisation, go buzz's embies! That's great news. It sounds like you're having a really good experience and I'm so impressed at how brave and calm you are. at Barry not hurting his wanking arm.

nellie I think things sound VERY hopeful for you lady! Surely there would be no hcg shot line by now?? Do a frer tomoz I reckon. Love the idea of your chart as modern art. I think Tracy Enim used pee sticks in some of her installations! Btw, I'd totally love to meet up, but aren't central enough to sneak out for coffee, boo.

mad and nellie I think you should post here as often as you need to, I know I did/do! It's such a stressful time and this is somewhere you can totally vent. mad hope you are doing ok. And remember pupo ladies, my symptoms were v much my normal pre period ones!

critter, 5 blastos is amazing! And yay for being pupo. 17 days after a blast transfer for otd?! Bloody hell! Mine was just 9 days after transfer. I too don't know how I'd feel about embryo donation. As you say, anonymous would be easier. We thought about all that when considering donor sperm. For me I guess the decision would be if I was happy for the frosties to be destroyed or if I would be happier for them to be donated. Not that I have anything frozen!

The cut off age for DE really pees me off. If this all works out, I'd really like to do it, but would be just too old (in uk rules). Nice really need to change their guidelines and base it on the individual not age.

35 weeks princess, blimey! It's soooo near. Are you excited or is it all a bit unreal? Can't believe you've managed not to loose it with the in laws. My uber pmt would've had me out on the streets! I need to ask about the spewing and when yours went...

Tight paw squeeze for rabbits. All the waiting is a total headfuck. Once you actually start treatment you will feel better, I promise. It's the hopeless waiting about, knowing the I didn't have a real chance until the ivf cycles that did my head in. Actually doing something feels so much better.

Oh joy, every time I think about what you went through, I feel so so sad for you. Interesting that you didn't get a +ive hpt, as the sensitive ones pick it up at levels of about 20! Shows we are all different. Are you still planning your big lovely holiday? Is it soon?

Hello sar! I had my first in public retch today. Luckily it was where I live, which is a bit of a shite hole so I got away with it

Waves to everyone else.

[sweetgrouch]

Critter - congrats on being PUPO! Holy cow on the 5 frozen blastos! That is just amazing news.

Buzz - 7 embryo's sounds fantastic! Brno also sounds like a great place for the IVF, I'm really happy this is working out so well for you.

Nelly - quiet congratulations from me. Like Sar, I also was sure AF was on the way. I felt pmt exactly like I always do.

Den - I'm so sorry you're feeling so sad. I really hope that things turn around with the blood test. Even if this cycle isn't the one, they should be able to better manage your stimming next time.

Rabbit - Your spotting sounds terrible. I feel your pain about waiting for referrals, the system here is so slow everything takes forever. Can you call the clinic?

I know I've missed a lot of people. So big waves and hellos to everyone I have missed.

I met with my gp yesterday, she sent me for a quantitative hcg and is trying to find an obstetrician for me. She was shocked that the fertility clinic did not bother to confirm pregnancy or refer me to anyone seeing as I am high risk because of my low hopefully not disastrous progesterone levels.

So right now I am just waiting...

[buzzybee123]

I think the bloody steriods are going to screw up my sleep I think they did ICSI so that is why we got 7

rabbit super big hugs, its shit that they are pissing you about, as if you haven't had enough crap to put up with, you'd think they'd be bbending over backward to please you

there is another ivf lady staying in my hotel, we might have to have a meet up

[ThatWayMadnessLies]

Evening all,

mrsd I'm so sorry you are feeling low. i am still hoping for good news but i am sure I'll feel the same if my hpt is negative Sunday.

nelly I'm feeling cautiously optimistic for you

gin sorry about the public retching. that doesn't sound nice. i hope this phase is short lived and you feel blooming soon.

Brilliant news buzzy. I am willing on your little embies to grow, grow, grow!

critter it is a long blooming wait indeed but you'll get through it and 5 frosties means you don't have all your eggs in one basket, so to speak

Hang in there rabbit the wait for treatment was really tough. you do end up feeling really in limbo. Big hugs xx

Afm i had a lovely walk this afternoon in a park near home with magnificent views. was soooo sunny! Unfortunately have had news tonight that MrM's mum has been taken in to hospital. Waiting to hear what has happened . Hoping it's nothing serious.

Big waves to all i've missed.

[seaviewasia]

Hello all 10 plussers... it's late and I am tired so I'm going to miss things..

Mrsd - I really hope you get a pleasant surprise tomorrow. Keeping fingers & toes crossed for you. As Joy and others have said. Even if it isn't a positive outcome this time, I am sure they will learn lots which will be useful for the next but it's not over yet and I really hope it's a surprise tomorrow.

Critters - Fantastic news on being PUPO and the frosties. Yippeee. I will ask the clinic about the hayfever but they are a bit unresponsive over the phone I find.

Nelly - It's looking promising... I am so nervous on your behalf. Really hope it's good news.

Madness - how are you bearing up with the wait?

Buzzy - Well done. Sounds like it's going swimmingly... Fingers crossed.

Princess - Lovely to read 10 plusser successes.

Rabbit - I really empathise with your situation. I waited a long time for IUI and it turned out my doctor had forgot to refer me. If in doubt always chase I say. Fertility limbo is horrid and I really feel for you. In the same place myself so I know just how you feel.... Lots of lovely stretching and deep breaths...

Gin - sorry about the retching... I hope it calms down very soon. Maybe some ginger tea will help? I have had the same for the last 6 months but not diffed related obviously. Hope you feel better soon.

Waves to Euro, Joy, Sweet, Ramona, Free, Art, Doll and anyone else I have missed.

[MuddyWellyNelly]

Buzz and Critter great news. Hooray for being PUPO Critter.

I thought the line was gone this morning. It's still there but only just, so I'm trying to be realistic. And wearing San pro in anticipation. Probably won't be able to check thread much today so general hellos and special waves for our preggos!

[EuroShaggleton]

Hello all!

I hope you all had good bank holiday weekends. We were at the in-laws' place in France (my burglary paranoia means I never mention online that we will be away - it's not entirely misplaced as we came back to a note through the door from the police saying that another house on the mews had been burgled, so that's 2 out of 6 in the past few weeks). It was lovely - even warm enough for the beach one day, and terribly preggo-unfriendly (stinky cheese, undercooked meat, way too much wine).

princess I can't believe you are almost there, and all of the other preggos seem to be zooming along too.

buzz I'm glad the foreign DE is going well and that you are enjoying a lovely break too.

mrsd I really feel for you. The waiting is always awful.

To all those, PUPO, I have everything crossed for you.

I am rather distracted from the fertility stuff today. I have my smear test shortly (my first NHS repeat since the abnormal one last year) and then I am getting a cyst on my face removed. I am funny about scars (they make me freak out - it's almost a phobic reaction), so knowing that is what I am going to see every time I look in the mirror for the rest of my life is hugely distressing me. I have been awake since 3.30am stressing about it (which has at least given me a chance to catch up on the thread!). However, it has to go, as it is just getting bigger and the longer I leave it the bigger the scar will end up being. I'm hugely upset about it though. Going away for the weekend was a good thing. I didn't think about the removal much until the journey home yesterday when it all suddenly seemed very real. And this morning I am just very tired and very sad. Infertility, a miscarriage and a growth on my face. I think I'm done with the bad stuff now, thanks.

[MuddyWellyNelly]

Euro my bestie is a great facial plastic surgeon down your way. Fear not . I am sure it won't scar. Thinking of you.

Tired, having been up for hours.

[buzzybee123]

mrsd thinking of you today my lovley

euro I hope it all goes smoothly at the smear, like I said bio oil is great and you'll still pretty as ever even if you did have a little scar, which no one would notice

I met one of the other ivfers at breakfast from the USA, they are lovely and its nice to meet other people who are in the same position

well Barry is waiting so will be back later

[joycep]

Euro ? glad you had a good time in France. I hope the op today goes ok. I also hope the scar is so small that you will wonder what you were worrying about. Please do let me know if your surgeon is any good because the nhs are being really  slow about my lump and i really want to get it out now and get a histology on the thing. As i said the other day, these things come in 3s and the good stuff for you is well overdue now. I must say i?m looking forward to the 2nd part of this year and hoping it?s better than the first half....even though the 2nd half brings yet another birthday.
 
Buzz ? i?m glad you have met some others who are going through the same thing. It really helped me talking to others who were going through the same thing.
 
Sweet ? how many weeks are you now? I can imagine it must be a nervewracking time and hope they can check everything is going as it should.
 
Gin ? i hope you are doing well. It?s lovely to have you pop back. We go on hols in a few weeks and i cannot wait. It?s only for a week but i?m hoping it?s going to be blissful.
 
Sar ? i hope all is going well with you too. Sorry about the vomiting but that surely is all a great sign.  
 
Nelly ? hope you have a good trip to big smoke. Sorry we can?t meet. I just want Friday to come for you so you know one way or another!!
 
Sea ? how are things , are you on the humira yet? I think I will definitely go back to A-M if we do another ivf round but it?s always good shopping around to find someone you are comfortable with.
 
Mad ? so sorry to hear about MrM?s mum. I hope she is ok. Hope you are coping ok with the 2ww.
 
Critter ? serious embie envy , 5 frosties is amazing!!
 
Rabbit ? i?m really sorry that you are having so long to wait. What is going on? It definitely sounds like it?s worth chasing them. it?s the waiting that just adds to the sheer frustration.
 
Mrsd ? thinking of you today. 

[CritterPants]

euro - how scary about the burglaries. I'm so pleased you had a nice time in France - wine and runny cheese sounds amazing! On the scar thing. I'm so sorry you're feeling anxious and upset. You have had a very rough ride. I don't remember seeing a cyst when I saw you, so it must be very small - and surgeons these days are amazing. A close family member had a very serious facial injury last spring (don't want to put details as it may out me) and got fixed up by surgeons - now you could barely tell what happened. For scarring, rosehip oil is amazing - the Trilogy brand. Or you can break open vitamin e capsules and use that. I have a scar on my philtrum from a drunken faceplant a few years ago which has almost vanished. Your body will heal really quickly.

buzzy lovely that you met another IVFer - that is always so nice! Hope it's all still going well.

nelly you're on the home stretch now... and a line is still a line, even if it's faint!

madness gosh, I hope your MIL is ok - poor MrM.

sea I hope the clinic get back to you... this whole experience has made me much less shy about hassling doctors. It's easy to get forgotten about and I've become much more assertive in pushing for information. Sorry you have this extra worry. And I do hope you leave fertility limbo land soon

joy big hug to you. Hope you're doing ok. Thanks again for all the OHSS advice last week - it seems to have gone down and I'm really grateful.

gin sorry about the public retching... poor you. The fun never stops does it?!

sweet I'm so glad your GP is sorting you out. Hope you're feeling ok - are they giving you progesterone suppositiories/pessaries? You must be nearly about to have your early scan... next week?

sar hope you're feeling ok. Is it feeling more real now?

Hugs and love to mrsd.

All ok here. I checked with my clinic and apparently they had dozily written down the wrong blood test date - it's actually next Thursday. So 9 days post transfer, not 17, thank goodness. I have been trying to meditate again every morning and it's amazing how much this is filling my head. I dream about it. Then when I wake up I'm just consumed by it. It will be a relief to be on the other side.

[EuroShaggleton]

Thanks to all of you for your kind and reassuring words. The deed is done. I had a quick look before he put the dressing on and the incision is quite small and high, although not quite as straight as I would like. I hope it will heal well. I get my stitches out in a week.

joy I was quite pleased with the treatment today, but I guess the real test will be in a week when the stitches come out. I will let you know what I think after that.

nelly how interesting that your friend is a plastic surgeon. I wish I had mentioned it on here before. I was looking for recommendations. I posted on health, but not on here.

Critter the obsessing is inevitable, I think. We have all wanted this for so long. Only just over a week to OTD - hurrah! How are you feeling now? No OHSS symptoms, I hope?

I feel like AF is on the way. So as soon as it comes, I can call the clinic and get cycle#2 underway.

[GinSoaked]

Sorry you are having a shitty time euro. You really don?t need anything else on top of everything you?ve been through. Pleased to hear the op is over ? I?m sure there won?t be a permanent scar. I can?t see any on friends and family who?ve had similar done! Do you just have to ring Create on CD1 and then the scans kick off? Wishing you lots of good luck with it and also with the smear of course. BTW, I need to find out whereabouts you were on hols. We?re going to that area at the end of June, wohoo! It?s a family member?s house too, so free holiday. I love it down there, although hopefully if everything goes well, it will be a different experience this time unless I go all French with the booze and cheese.

critter If you can, don?t worry about the worry! I think it?s perfectly normal to be completely consumed by it. I was even between cycles and still am. I have the odd moment when I forget it all and then remember. I find work is generally a good distraction. Not long to go until otd now.

joy yay for lush hols being soon! You totally deserve it.

buzz sounds nice to have met another ivfer. How did you find her?

[buzzybee123]

critter I did wonder if the date was wrong,

gin I did think back to pouts suggestion, I just told her I would be the red head at breakfast

pout my lovley when is your next appointment

euro glad it went well today

other ivfer is a pretty tall blonde American, using her own eggs

I totally forgot to call the clinic today so have set a reminder for tomorrow