It is so quiet on here these days. I am implicit in this as I'm not posting half as often as I used to. I'm hoping that the new thread might bring some new 10 plussers on board. I read the grads thread and miss them ever such a lot, just hearing about their general goings on and how things panned out. I really wish we could all live on the same thread but understand how it ends up the way it is. I don't feel like I can post there in case there is then a sensitivity about what can be written. Does that make sense?
I have been thinking of both sea and pout and hope that things are as OK as they can be in the sea and pout households. These things take so long to stop feeling raw but grief does slowly get a little gentler. I suppose it is like a scar healing in a lot of ways.
euro I am thinking third time lucky for you. For now it is time for holidays and rests. I am so sorry you had the head messing around - it is a total bastard. I have had some of that myself this week, but more of that later.
lemon an enviable egg harvest looks imminent! That sounds like you have responded brilliantly and I have a good feeling about this for you.
buzzy is it nearly another scan time?
nelly what is happening next with you?
critter I can't believe that someone tried with no sperm for so long. Agreed pout about how futile it all must have felt. I am glad you feel able to be open about ivf. I really hope I could be (if it bloody works) and suspect I will given that I blab about things relatively freely. But, in recent months/years (!) I have not been remotely as forthcoming. I am not telling anyone I am having ivf except my parents, though some friends know it will be on the cards at some point. I think I live in constant regret that so many people know as I often feel defined by my infertility. I am sure that isn't entirely how other people see me, but it is how I inhabit other people's perceptions. It suddenly feels intensely private.
gin jealous of holidays! When is your 20 week scan?
sar the bump will come! I hope I get to see it
cosmos bestest luck with the fet. No reason to think this might not be the lucky one. I know I couldn't take 2-3 months off work unless I was signed off sick, which after last year wouldn't be my preference. However, if I could and I had the finances, I would do it.
OUTPOURING ALERT.
Also - there is no good ending to the following story!
Things have gone to shit for me. I was feeling top banana as recently my cycles have been clockwork, minimal spotting and ov cd14. My cycles are a bit hit and miss and can range from 27-31 days with ov cd15-18 and pre period spotting which at worst can last 5 days. In october I had a 35 day cycle and faint positive test which felt crap. Well this month I ovd day 14 with pos opk cd13, all good signs, ewcm etc, temp shot up the next day and I stopped temping. My period was maybe a day later than I thought but arrived and was heavy for me and required re-thinking of tampon colour! It stopped nicely on cd5. Yay me, I thought, what good cycles I'm having. Cue cd8 in my floaty pale blue skirt, me having a random bright red bleed. I foolishly thought it was ewcm which starts around then for me but then realised to my horror that it wasn't. Thank god for thick skirt linings and always carrying a spare pare of pants (don't ask). I was a bit as this is a new one for me. I had also been having ovary pains but again, I do get that sometimes a week before I ov. So I did an opk - dark positive. I then stupidly poas and lo and behold a very pale pink line came up quite quickly. I stood in the bathroom with a green stick and a blue stick and thought wtf? I had had a heavy period and another bleed and had not remotely felt different At All. Perhaps very tired which I put down to antihistamines and I had been napping after work which is unheard of. I've also been very headachy which is not usual. But nothing to alert me that there might have been a bfp in the pipeline. I have pissed on 8 sticks since. They have got rapidly lighter and today there is nothing there at all (and Hare said he couldn't see anything yesterday but there was a grey line when held up to the window).
How has this happened? I should never have poas. But I will admit that I have spent a lot of time in the bathroom staring at sticks and PRAYING that there will be a stronger pink line. How was it still pink on what should have been cd8? And how didn't I know what was going on? I am still spotting and still getting quite strong lines on opks and I still have a headache. I do not feel like I should for cd11. Irritatingly I haven't temped and whilst my morning temps are in the high zone for me, only just and it has been bloody hot.
So now I feel as if my cycle is shot to crap and I am supposed be having tests in the next few weeks. I am also mentalling that is was just a crappy test and this is some kind of peri menopausal hormonal blip. Google will confirm this if I look in the right places. If it was a cp it does not feel positive it just feels like a reminder that we make bobbins embryos or I reject them. In which case IVF feels like a fat waste of time. Cheerings up much appreciated, sorry for length of this post!