The Elderberry Pavlovas who occasionally sausage wang – a fabulous thread for 30+ ladies TTC #1 (Thread 8)

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Newbies very welcome provided they meet the strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 3+months, must have a special pot, NO instadiffers) and bring a bouquet of sausages when they join!

Bunny, 33, married, 10 months TTC, just getting basic blood tests/jizz test for hubby, AF coming 23rd April
Happy 35, cycle 8. AF due 12th April. Rapidly running out of time to have a baby before my wedding next year!!
Sidney, 38, married, cycle 9, AF/BFP due 8th April. IC OPK newbie, will start temping next month if necessary bc I buckle under peer pressure & don't like feeling left out
Tally 33, TTC since 2009, 3 mmc and possibly 1cp. waiting for mc specialist appointment still so not allowed TTC at the mo.
barking, 33, cycle 16, co duchess of short LP. Varying cycle length. AF due somewhere around 11th-21st April. Long awaited fc appointment 17th April.
Pip, 38 (next week), cycle 19, blocked tubes, waiting for IVF but hoping for a miracle, AF due 28th April
Cherrycoconut 33, married, TTC August 2012. Somewhere on spectrum of prem ovarian failure; awaiting diagnosis and FC apt, looking for permission to hope.
Frogcatcher36 TTC since Oct 2012, 1st cycle charting, BFP/AF due 3-5 April i.e. NOW so just put me out of my misery AF FFS
BombasticPeanut, 31, married, TTC since May 2012, MMC in Aug, cycle anywhere between 1 week and 3 months gaaaaah AF you tricky cow. Waiting for FC appt in Aug.
Haycorn 30, married. TTC since August 2012 but efforts severely hampered by loss of AF. Has anyone seen it?
Bajas age 38 (39 in July eek!). Got married July 2012 and have been trying ever since. Dreadfully irregular cycles so on cycle 7- last one was 17 days, one before was 38 so no idea when bfp could appear.
BookTart 37, 15 cycles in, CP in October, blood test on 8th April, HSP and USS with follicular tracking the week after, AF turning up any second now.
Cate 38 married, cycle 3 TTC #1 thought I had all the time in the world then woke up one morning aged 38 and thought oops I'd better get my skates on
Boodle, 30, married, cycle 20, co duchess of short LP (tips hat to Barking), fertility appointment 10/04/13
CharmingCats, 32 , month 8, cycle 4. Possible PCOS/irregular cycles.
Smoothas 30, married, cycle 6, possible short LP problem, AF due 19th April, not temping....yet

Woohoo! New thread! I had a very eventful day. Was getting on with my knitted bride and groom mice when I got a call from the groom. All the lads had gone out on a bike ride but his chain had broken and he needed a lift. That lift was me. Picked up him and his bike, drove to the cafe where the others were waiting and picked up best man (my DP) and his bike and brought the two of them home. Hour and a half round trip, no sewing up done. Just got in the bath and phone goes. They've left the ties at our house. Ended up finishing the bride but taking all the knitted bits of groom with me to the wedding and sitting in the bar on my own finishing up! Even did a little bit during the wedding service!! Got them done in time to leave on the top table for the wedding breakfast though .

Was a goose night despite the two pg women. Friend who we'd heard was pg with twins was indeed. Due in September and already showing. They were going for all the tests a month before us but got pg naturally with twins before they got as far as their fertility appointment . I should be for them but I was definitely feeling more and .

And just to make me feel better DP told me that we were now 'competing' with the newly weds as they were going to start trying straight away. If they get instadiffed I really don't know how I'm going to cope .

Ah well, bedtime now and I'm sure it'll all look more positive in the morning....

goose night?!?! That should have been good...

Hurrah, shiny new thread! Thanks bunny. Hope you've got a bigger sofa of pity in this one

barking goose night sounds more exotic though... I'm thinking Top Gun.. People are so inconsiderate going around being pregnant publicly, this should be banned until we're all diffed . Glad you got your mice to the church on time though!

Hello to the newbies!

The boob is a breastfeeding aid btw in case anyone thinks I've just got weird taste in dog toys. Cos I'm a student midwife when I'm not being infertile bumps and babies everywhere aargh just to make sure I know what I'm missing

Morning berries. We won't be needing a sofa of pity on this thread as we'll all be getting the sausage express out of here. Puts on positive pants.
Barking what an eventful day you had! Glad you enjoyed though.
Peanut ^love^ the knitted boob! That should've gone in the new thread title! What an absolute nightmare for you being around pg ladies all day though - poor you!
Think Merk asked to be added to the list at the end of the last thread so I'll just scoot back and sort that out now seen as I'm still in bed and just looking for things to keep me from having to get up!

Bunny, 33, married, 10 months TTC, just getting basic blood tests/jizz test for hubby, AF coming 23rd April
Happy 35, cycle 8. AF due 12th April. Rapidly running out of time to have a baby before my wedding next year!!
Sidney, 38, married, cycle 9, AF/BFP due 8th April. IC OPK newbie, will start temping next month if necessary bc I buckle under peer pressure & don't like feeling left out
Tally 33, TTC since 2009, 3 mmc and possibly 1cp. waiting for mc specialist appointment still so not allowed TTC at the mo.
barking, 33, cycle 16, co duchess of short LP. Varying cycle length. AF due somewhere around 11th-21st April. Long awaited fc appointment 17th April.
Pip, 38 (next week), cycle 19, blocked tubes, waiting for IVF but hoping for a miracle, AF due 28th April
Cherrycoconut 33, married, TTC August 2012. Somewhere on spectrum of prem ovarian failure; awaiting diagnosis and FC apt, looking for permission to hope.
Frogcatcher 36 TTC since Oct 2012, 1st cycle charting, BFP/AF due 3-5 April i.e. NOW so just put me out of my misery AF FFS
BombasticPeanut, 31, married, TTC since May 2012, MMC in Aug, cycle anywhere between 1 week and 3 months gaaaaah AF you tricky cow. Waiting for FC appt in Aug.
Haycorn 30, married. TTC since August 2012 but efforts severely hampered by loss of AF. Has anyone seen it?
Bajas age 38 (39 in July eek!). Got married July 2012 and have been trying ever since. Dreadfully irregular cycles so on cycle 7- last one was 17 days, one before was 38 so no idea when bfp could appear.
BookTart 37, 15 cycles in, CP in October, blood test on 8th April, HSP and USS with follicular tracking the week after, AF turning up any second now.
Cate 38 married, cycle 3 TTC #1 thought I had all the time in the world then woke up one morning aged 38 and thought oops I'd better get my skates on
Boodle, 30, married, cycle 20, co duchess of short LP (tips hat to Barking), fertility appointment 10/04/13
CharmingCats, 32 , month 8, cycle 4. Possible PCOS/irregular cycles.
Smoothas 30, married, cycle 6, possible short LP problem, AF due 19th April, not temping....yet
Merkin, 31, married, cycle 10 (stupidly long cycles)

Morning! Whassup?

CD14 here and we DTD so I guess we have a teeny weeny chance in this month we're not trying in lol

Morning all

Thanks for the welcome. I like to think I meet your very strict criteria , although currently POAS and can't quite bring myself to PIMP. Have this fear that DH will find the 'pot' and also like to think that I have mastered the art of POAS.

Barking glad you had a good time at your wedding but understand how you feel about hearing pregnancy news. I like to think of myself as quite a nice person, so I really dislike myself when I get privately upset on hearing friend's pregnancy announcements. I am genuinely really pleased for them but also just want it to happen to me too. I don't think it helps that so far all of my friends have all fallen very quickly (first two months of trying).

Wow Bombastic it is great that you are training to be a midwife, but don't envy you being surrounded by bumps and babies. I had an appointment this week which was in the maternity ward not TTC related and I almost found that harder than the actual treatment I received.

Sorry frog that you have had a tough morning. As someone who is not sure they ovulate regularly I know frustrating it can get - you just want your body to play ball. Hopefully next month will be your month or you can visit your GP to start investigations.

I was just wondering if anyone else takes B6? Whilst I haven't been actively TTC this month, I have still been monitoring my cycle for O and LP purposes. I have heard that B6 can extend your LP so been taking 50mg this past month but all it seems to have done is either delay my ovulation or stop me from ovulating. Has this happened to anyone else? I know I did have an anovulatory cycle a few months back so also wondering if this might be happening again?

Have not been so good on the exercise front since I have been TTC so have decided that this is the month to get my fitness back. Heading out for a run now..urgh!!

Hi all, thanks for the Fred bunny

Arse frog that's so bloody annoying. One thing getting a bfn but quite another when the app that's supposed to be helping you starts dicking messing about and making things worse.

barking what an epic day you had! Did you get a pic of the mice? I totally feel your pain about other pg folk but in a way wish my DP felt like he was in competition with others. Might motivate him to get on board with it all a bit more.

bunny good work with the dtd! Was it you saying about the fb 'friend'? Ouch- that is such an insensitive thing to say to anyone! Makes me . Want me to send her a strongly worded letter on your behalf?

Smoothas Welcome, in the nicest way I hope we don't see much more of you. I was taking a B vitamin 100mg complex to try and stop spotting, which can start as early as 5 DPO, I found it made a small difference, but not much. From the research I did B6 on it's own won't do the job, it needs to be in a complex with other B vitamins. You can get a 100mg complex from Holland and Barratt for not a lot of money.

Bunny and Happy, are we the only original Pavlovas left?

House move not postponed until the 19th of April, maybe. Good thing is though it means that shag week will be more relaxed. That said it means I might have to postpone my first two IVF appointments.

Updated list to change my details.

Bunny, 33, married, 10 months TTC, just getting basic blood tests/jizz test for hubby, AF coming 23rd April
Happy 35, cycle 8. AF due 12th April. Rapidly running out of time to have a baby before my wedding next year!!
Sidney, 38, married, cycle 9, AF/BFP due 8th April. IC OPK newbie, will start temping next month if necessary bc I buckle under peer pressure & don't like feeling left out
Tally 33, TTC since 2009, 3 mmc and possibly 1cp. waiting for mc specialist appointment still so not allowed TTC at the mo.
barking, 33, cycle 16, co duchess of short LP. Varying cycle length. AF due somewhere around 11th-21st April. Long awaited fc appointment 17th April.
Pipbin, 38, married 11 years, cycle 19, blocked tubes, first IVF appointment 9th April hoping for a miracle, AF due 28th April
Cherrycoconut 33, married, TTC August 2012. Somewhere on spectrum of prem ovarian failure; awaiting diagnosis and FC apt, looking for permission to hope.
Frogcatcher 36 TTC since Oct 2012, 1st cycle charting, BFP/AF due 3-5 April i.e. NOW so just put me out of my misery AF FFS
BombasticPeanut, 31, married, TTC since May 2012, MMC in Aug, cycle anywhere between 1 week and 3 months gaaaaah AF you tricky cow. Waiting for FC appt in Aug.
Haycorn 30, married. TTC since August 2012 but efforts severely hampered by loss of AF. Has anyone seen it?
Bajas age 38 (39 in July eek!). Got married July 2012 and have been trying ever since. Dreadfully irregular cycles so on cycle 7- last one was 17 days, one before was 38 so no idea when bfp could appear.
BookTart 37, 15 cycles in, CP in October, blood test on 8th April, HSP and USS with follicular tracking the week after, AF turning up any second now.
Cate 38 married, cycle 3 TTC #1 thought I had all the time in the world then woke up one morning aged 38 and thought oops I'd better get my skates on
Boodle, 30, married, cycle 20, co duchess of short LP (tips hat to Barking), fertility appointment 10/04/13
CharmingCats, 32 , month 8, cycle 4. Possible PCOS/irregular cycles.
Smoothas 30, married, cycle 6, possible short LP problem, AF due 19th April, not temping....yet
Merkin, 31, married, cycle 10 (stupidly long cycles)

Frog if its any consolation I had a totally wtf chart last month, my temps were up and down like a yo-yo. FF moved my crosshairs daily and only ever gave me dashed ones. This month is far more textbook(although for some reason it's still insisting that AF is due tomorrow when i know she wont be here til Friday at the earliest!) so keep on with the temping. Have you had any other OV signs? Positive OPK? EWCM? OV pain?

Oh and Barking and Thunder, my DP was all laissez-faire about TTCing until we met up with his old girlfriend (who I am really good friends with) and she announced she was pg. I think the fact that a Frenchman had got his old girlfriend pg (on her second month of trying!! thats not even bloody trying is it) made him take it more seriously.

Yes Pip I think we may be the only ones left . Oh God you're both going to get upduffed and leave me as the last woman berry standing aren't you?!?

I din't think so Happy despite DH's prize winning balls I have rubbish tubes and no amount of vitamins and lube is going to solve that.

Hi guys. I went away yesterday to walk the dog excessively only to find the sausage shuttle in place when I got back. Where did that come from??
Fantastically, dog with sore paw managed to make it even more sore and I'm now going to spend my day trying to stop him licking it.

happy don't worry, I have the last berry standing position well covered.
When you've all grad-ed I am going to fill the place with cats, wear onsies everyday and watch crap films. I will also start talking to myself and sell tickets to cage wanging battles between instadiffers...

I need a more competitive DP. Not that it makes any difference anyway with my 'condition' atm, so I might as well let that go.

I am used to being left behind too- so many bfps on the mc thread I'm on now. peanut do you still check it?

at cage fighting instadiffs

Phew, made it. That sure was some ride hanging on to the back of the shuttle while you lot all chatted away inside! Pip if you, happy and bunny are the only original berries left, does that mean all the others managed to get themselves diffed successfully? Because I've been spying lurking on these threads for a while now and we haven't had any luck since mother, which seems aeons ago. We must be due some big fat bellies soon eh?

Really sorry about your stupid cycle frog. I know how excited I got when AF was late last time. I told myself not to get hopes up etc. etc. but couldn't stop crazy brain imagining the what ifs. Which then made it so effing hard when it turned out that AF wasn't late because I was pg, she's just decided she's had enough of this TTC lark and has buggered off never to be seen again. Like you I have no evidence that I have ever OVd, and it's the not knowing that is the killer. I was planning on going the whole temping, fertility friend hog when AF finally decides to show her face again, but it seems even that can pose more questions than it answers. Grrrr....why is it so fricking easy for stupid people who don't even seem to want kids?

thunder yes it was my friend with the thoughtless comment, she is pg with her 4th so I shall blame baby brain, but when baby arrives next month I am going to find it very difficult to be happy for her or even want to visit!

pip and happy fancy us being the last founders of berrydom still standing, or should that be lying down on our backs with pillows under our arses!

pip doesn't being friends with your OHs ex makes things weird? And now she is pg, yuck!

haycorn we had quite a few BFPs at once and then none for ages and ages, correct me if I am wrong but mother was under 30 so was only an honourary berry anyway if you know what I mean. And I think we scared a few other berries away with our sausage wanging or they got pg without telling us

......and not forgetting the berry who got banned - several times!!!

Pssshhh 'baby brain'. Just an excuse to be insensitive? I think not!

Anyone heard from Gail? I thought someone was in email contact with her- pip was it you?

Hello all - please can I join you? I definitely pass the entrance test - age 35, trying for 10 cycles, engaged, AF due 10 April, oh and I just had a Cumberland sausage baguette for breakfast! Have shortish cycles (24-26 days), get smiley faces on clearblue digital OPKs but think I have a short LP (spotting 2 or 3 days before AF as well). Tried B6 but it didn't really seem to have any affect. Haven't been to the doctors yet but think we might soon.... Also have lots of friends who seemingly get upduffed with ease. Xxx

Haycorn don't get me started on stupid people who accidentally get pg and don't even want their kids. Even before ttc I got wound up as a teacher when I had kids in my class whose parents didn't seem to be interested. Seen the extreme as well as my parents are foster carers. Makes me so when you see a poor baby withdrawing from heroin as the mother kept injecting all the way through pg. Such screams, not normal baby crying at all. Really to hear.
And here are all of us ready to protect and support a child from the moment of conception and nada!! No justice in the world!

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I've not seen any upduffment on this thread other than mother, who wasn't actually 30+, and the instadiffer who shall remain nameless who floated in to tell us all she was ttc then floated straight out again having become diffed immediately 1st month of tying . So not a berry anyway.

Other berries have drifted off, paddling away on their sausage boats, but they've not announced any BFP's before leaving so I think they're still paddling around and may come back to land at some point.

It's quite depressing really . It's one thing to join a thread and everyone else gets BFPs all over the place which is highly annoying good for them. It's another when there are no successful bfps so you can get but also a little hopeful for yourself!!

So, I've decided, selflessly, that I will go forward on the sausage shuttle and be that Berry. The one that gets upduffed and leads the way . Just give me a few more cycles, let DP recover from his willy op, and the FC give me some clomid. I'll be right with you.....