The Elderberry Pavlovas who occasionally sausage wang – a fabulous thread for 30+ ladies TTC #1 (Thread 8)

[Bunnygirlie]

Newbies very welcome provided they meet the strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 3+months, must have a special pot, NO instadiffers) and bring a bouquet of sausages when they join!

[barkingtreefrog]

Hello mulberry sounds like you'll fit right in . Come get comfy on the sofa. And bring sausage .

[happylass]

Lol at Barking "I shall be that berry"
Welcome Mulberry make yourself at home!
Ladies we have made it on to the Most Active list! No wonder I'm still in my PJs and not getting anything done

[happylass]

Oh but before I go I can indeed confirm that we did have at least 6 berries get upduffed in one go back in October/November! Tis not an urban myth- honestly!!

[barkingtreefrog]

smoothas sorry, forgot to answer your question. I have a short LP but only realised the significance of this a couple of months ago, which is when I started to despair and jumped on the sausage shuffle to join the berries on the sofa of pity. Until that point (14 cycles in) I'd naively thought I was lucky to only have an 8 dw rather than 2ww! Made perfect sense when I realised it was a problem though, how can an egg stick on the wall of a womb that has already started shedding its lining?! Trouble was I was convinced I was pg as I was 2 days late, but at only 10 dpo I decided that was the reason I was getting BFNs despite clearly being pg. I found out about luteal phase defect when googling for evidence to add to my I'm definitely upduffed stance.

At this point I had already done the tests at the gp and DP had done the SA and we were waiting for our FC appointment, so I didn't bother looking into anything else as I'm hoping the FC will be nice and helpful. Less than 2 weeks to wait for that now!

So the short answer is `no, I haven't tried B6'.

Wow, I really can go on .

[barkingtreefrog]

happy Six?!?! So which 5 berries would like to come with me then? Seems the BFPs only come in 6's round here .

Oh, if we take the helpful advice of the instadiffer we should just have loads of sex .

[Mulberry123]

Don't worry Barking I've tried that approach - every day, every other day, every three days and zilch... I also experimented a bit with morning action v night time action... Maybe I just need to find out if it's the LP thing that's the problem. Like you I assumed having shorter cycles was a helpful thing because you get another "go" quicker. Xx

[Thundercatsarego]

Did I miss this instadiffa who clearly pissed some berries off?! Must have been during one of those times I took my eye off the ball.

barking thank you for selflessly putting yourself forward. I'll come with you

[happylass]

At ^least^ 6, maybe a few more . Count me in Barking!!

[Bunnygirlie]

Me me me barking but not yet though, I obviously don't want a Christmas baby

[Smoothas]

Count me in Barking

Mulberry and Barking I also thought I was lucky with the short cycle and shorter 2ww, but following research it would appear I am not as fortunate as I thought.

Thanks Pip for the recommendation

I am wondering if I should maybe look to have a chat with my GP about it? I am sure they will send on my way until we reach the +12 month mark but it might be worth a try. Having a short LP does seem to be a common problem with people struggling to conceive.

I felt really positive last month after I clearly Ov last month (lots of EWCM, +opk and ov pain), DTD at the right time and then obviously AF came 9 days later. However, I have felt nothing this month and no + opk yet

[Pipbin]

No it wasn't me who was in touch with Gail, it was 2Cats, where did she go?

And the instadiffer didn't piss anyone off, not purposefully anyway.

Bunny not odd being friends with DH's ex. They were together when they were in their early 20s and although it was a couple of years it wasn't like they lived together or anything.
She's had the baby now, he's about 6 months I think. I keep showing DH pictures she posts of the baby of Facebook (he doesn't Facebook) just to remind him what he needs to do.

No we haven't had many BFPs really have we. Need to get that seen to.

[haycorn]

Ooh, pick me, pick me barking! I'll be one of your six!

[Pipbin]

Oh, and welcome Mulberry

Smoothas it can't hurt going to the GP, especially if your cycles are irregular, but from what I hear if you are under 30 and you've been TTCing for less that a year then they tell you to knob off.

[happylass]

Didn't 2cats become Merkin?

[Thundercatsarego]

Yeah I was about to say that happy!

merks?

[Pipbin]

Ah, I get confused with name changes. That's why I've never done it.

I've found the original thread where we named ourselves Elderberry Pavlovas: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/a1565234-TTC-first-child-anybody-else-in-the-same-boat-Thread-2

[Pipbin]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/a1565234-TTC-first-child-anybody-else-in-the-same-boat-Thread-2 even

[Bunnygirlie]

Such a long long time ago

[barkingtreefrog]

Mulberry I don't have shorter cycles, just the short LP. I'm very irregular and although I've had a 24 day cycle it's more recently been somewhere between 31 and 36 days.

Thunder she didn't piss everyone off, just made everyone a bit . It was difficult to be really happy for someone who'd not even experienced one heartbreaking AF before getting upduffed! I think that's when the ttc for 3 months + rule came in!!

I've put a photo up of my wedding mice - if I'd not been in such a rush yesterday the bride would have had a veil and a bouquet.....

[Cate555]

Barking I'll be one of your 6 (well if freakin' AF would show up and I could get a chance at TTC) moan over. Oh and thanks everyone for the temping tips. I've had DH order me the BBT one from Amazon comes with the charts can't wait to get charting now.

[barkingtreefrog]

cate555 don't bother with paper charts, use the FF one (Fertility friend) - you can download the app/use the website and enter your info each morning, it does all your predictions and tracking for you. You don't need the paid one, the free app is fine, although I think you get a 3 month trial or something of the paid one.
There are other apps out there as well but I think it's the most widely used among the berries

[Bunnygirlie]

barking those mice are awesome!!!

Just been to pub for lunch, packed full of families and babies!

[Pipbin]

I agree with Barking use Fertility Friend. Much easier, I don't temp anymore but I do still use it: www.fertilityfriend.com/home/pipbin

[Bajas]

Hi all. Just back from a lovely weekend away but absolutely exhausted for going back to work tomorrow.

cate I have just ordered the thermometer too so we'll be starting temping together.

barking I think we'll all want to be one of your 6! Love the mice. What a brilliant wedding gift.

[Frogcatcher]

Thanks for all the kind words everyone. I really thought temping would reassure me that there was nothing wrong & I was just being too impatient but its just worried me more! The fact that DP already has a son (albeit conceived 9 yrs ago when he was younger & in better health probably) makes it less likely to be a problem with him.

happy I got some darker lines on the OPK but never one I thought was the one. Next month I'll keep them for comparison. I've never noticed pain at O & whilst I know I've had EWCM in the past I didn't notice any this month. Might go to the drs if no AF this week just to see how sympathetic they are. Might look into my health insurance too.