Hi Ruby welcome and I'm so sorry to hear about H, we would love to hear more about her if you feel comfortable sharing. I lost my little boy (first baby) last September at 27+2, like your H, he just stopped wriggling around one day during an otherwise problem free pregnancy. I understand the feeling that your luck will run out, but at the moment you don't know that and you can only focus on one day at a time (easier said than done I know).
Buggerlugs I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriages and your ttc struggles, that must be really tough. Also v v sorry to hear about your friend. I was lucky with my little boy and didn't need assistance, so that might add extra complications into how your friend is feeling (sorry to state the obvious). The most important thing for me was to be allowed to cry and talk about him without people feeling uncomfortable or thinking that I should be "over it" by now (I am almost 14mths down the line and still have the odd teary moment, I won't ever be "over it"). It is also nice when people mention his name and remember important dates (Christmas, her due date, her own birthday, Mother's Day etc). I read something on one of the support groups available about how parents want to say to people they know "don't think you have upset me if you mention my baby and I cry, you haven't, I'm upset that my baby isn't here and you haven't reminded me about my baby, I couldn't ever forget, but I am grateful that you remember" or something like that....... One other thing... This is different for everyone, but I found dealing with other people's pregnancies and birth announcements VERY hard and nobody has really "got that", not even my DH. It sounds like you are a wonderful friend and will do all you can to support her. If she hasn't already found the SANDs website then that is useful, and the local groups can be good. Although it says stillbirth and I think "officially" stillbirth is 24 weeks+, Sands support anyone who has lost a baby, so she shouldn't let that put her off if she thinks the support would be useful. Wow, that turned into an essay, sorry (and sorry for typos, on iPad and it has no idea how to spell).