TTC after recent mc - thread 3. Handholding, naff jokes and the infamous Laura Ashley skirt.

[JamesAndTheGiantBanana]

Happy new thread! Here's hoping for lots of Christmas and new year bfp's, and long healthy pregnancies for everyone.

Oh dear booze, I know this kicked in the stomach feeling entirely. It's horrible and it really hurts and then feeling like you shouldn't feel like it hurts too and altogether it's just shitty. Do you think you'll get back in contact?

Dr google just takes me to a lot of other discussion boards, many of which are women with a few days of mid cycle bleeding, particularly after mc do I hope it's just one of those things. Not sure if I'm back to cd 2 now or 12, I guess I'll just see how long it lasts for.

Hugs for fizz and booze it's really hard to be confronted with what you feel should rightfully be yours.
Two of my colleagues had babies the week I MC, and one brought her lovely daughter along to our Christmas do - cue everyone talking about babies all night Totally blameless in it all as none of them know, but had to endure quite a lot of "so would you like another?" "ah, makes me broody" etc

tins as well.

Anyone poas in the near future? Could do with some more heartening news on here eh?!

Meh.

blunder I've tried for the last few months to put it behind us. I don't think we'd ever have gone back to how we were, but for the sake of a lot of mutual friends it would have been easier, but she hasn't reciprocated. I've congratulated her by text and she replied asking me to keep it quiet as they haven't had the scan yet. Yep. Because I want to shout this news from the rooftops!! I replied not sure why but hope she might bear it in mind when she does her big announcement saying I understood, and that that day was supposed to be my scan day too. As I said, not sure what I wanted to achieve, maybe thought it would appeal to the friend in her, but just got a terse 'we didn't know you were pg and so don't know what's gone on' text. Oh well. I do need a new girlfriend maybe I'll find one at an antenatal class

Youch. That is defensive and not friendly at all when you offered an olive branch and some sad news of your own. I see what you mean about not reciprocating, but it's more than that, it's just plain unfriendly. Poor you hun

Have a ? x

Thanks for the blunder bloody hell, I'm high maintenance at the moment aren't I? Thanks for being there, and for the moral support - really is very very much appreciated xx

How's the weird AF?

Booze not high maintenance in the slightest. It's tough to hear other peoples happiness when you've been through a shitty time and you are trying to be as nice as you possibly can.

I had my first night out with my mates last night and it was tough. My mate who was very drunk kept on asking me if I was pg and checking my drinks to see if they had alcohol in it...then just said to me 'well why aren't you pg yet then?'. I said I didn't want to talk about it and then felt guilty because she is going through a rough time as has recently lost her mum. My other mate started questioning me until he gave up and then started showing me all the pics on his phone and video clips of his little boy! I then decided to stop people from asking me by buying sambuccas for everyone including me!!! Needless to say my head hurts today!!

God aren't we all having a shit time :( maybe the universe will balance out by giving us all lovely cuddly babies in 2013 - it better bloody had do!

Since my mum has been really ill she keeps winning on the premium bonds, only £25 a time but roughly twice a week and my dad has had a few too. If the universe wants to mitigate for terminal illness its going to take a lot more than a few wins on ernie. It is funny though as after my granddad died he kept winning on the premium bonds too for ages afterwards.

Booze when I read your first post I was in the mindset of why not just put it all behind you and be friends again but her text was just heartless, I wouldn't waste another moment of your time thinking about her (I realise this is easier said than done) and anyway your baby will be much prettier

yorkie what a weird thing to say! (the why aren't you pg yet) people really are odd. I think you did very well to not tell them all to fuck off with their insensitive questions. Sambucas not envy!

bakingtins I really know where you're coming from, I get the 'would you like another one?' question too from colleagues who also know nothing of the mc - It's such a normal and innocent question but makes me feel a little sick each time :( hopefully we'll soon be pg again and exchange these questions for all the impertinent ones you get when expecting!

and hi to blunders too, sorry you're still having a WTF time xx

I'm off to MIL's tomorrow so will be off the radar for a bit. Just wanted to wish you all a very merry (for those not pg) / happy Christmas. Thanks for being there - you've helped me through a couple of crappy months.
Onwards and upwards - here's to lovely healthy babies for us all in 2013! Brooking no arguments (to quote mumsnet) you all have 4 months to get a 2013 bus....

Hi all. Am at the inlaws at the moment so hard to check in. But so sorry to see everyone is having a sucky time at the moment.

Booze, please don't even waste another txt on that so called friend. Not worth your time.

Bump, am loving your karma theory! Yay 2013!

Yorkie, I also did my first night out, and unfortunately had a few too many Vinos. To those discussing it I am also of the opinion don't change your life in the 2ww! Hence a bit of a head hurt yesterday! Oops.

Baking, merry Christmas to you too!

And hi to everyone else I have missed. (sorry, on phone!) To whoever asked about poas, af is due for me on 29th. So am now on countdown to poas. Eeek.

Hi all, hope everyone's ok today.

Hey booze, yep i agree with the others, sadly it seems like its time to draw a line under that friendship if you can The wtf af continues here. No idea what it's all about.

yorkie that's such a strange comment- why aren't you pg yet?! Good work with the sambucca distraction though!

bump that is so strange about the premium bonds isn't it. Like you say that's a crap if it's supposed to be some sort of karma though. Your cuddly babies comment made me smile, I'll to that.

pink eep! Not long then! Any SS?

baking four months?! That's frightened me now, it doesn't seem long enough, otherwise it'll be a 2014 one?! Oh god.

Blunder no, not long, and I already have a cb digi at the ready. Just trying to think about when to do it, can anyone remember how sensitive the cb digis are?
Some ss. Not loads, as to be fair the first time round I had NO symptoms at all, which was what made me think it wasn't that month! But have had some cramping, but feels a bit different... Like... Stretching perhaps. Like last time. And need to pee constantly. Had to get up in the night last night for the first time in ages.
In a way I kinda hope it is not though. Have been very bad and not acting like a TTC person at all (hello prosecco, ooh pate, yes please) do would be worried I broke it if I am!!!!

Oo pink that does sound promising

Basically I'm sure we're all going to worry whatever we've been up to beforehand so I'm still voting on a bfp for you! Not sure about sensitivity of the digis though...

Hi there ladies, I hope you don't mind me joining in late in the day. It was just a relief to read the thread as I've been going through a MC too and am feeling very sad as christmas plays out so differently to how I had imagined.

My DS is 2 and a bit, and I was expecting a second so we went along to our 12 week scan pretty reassured by the morning sickness etc only to be told it was an anembryonic pregnancy, and I went back 2 days later for an ERPC (6 Dec). I feel so bad as all DS's little friends now have younger siblings and he has said he would like one too. I was going to wait a cycle but felt physically back to normal so we've started DTD again just over 2 weeks on from the ERPC. Good luck and happy christmas to you all.

Welcome Ella

Struggling to read previous comments on my phone as travelling from one end of the country to the other. Hope you all have a lovely relaxing Xmas as free as possible from any awkward comments and weird questions about pg! Good luck to all those ttc and to those waiting for their AF. Here's to some 2013 babies/BFP's for us all! Congrats to those already pg. Happy Christmas all!

Four months for cuddly 2013 babies?! Bring it on...

Thanks for all being so lovely. Yes, this has been the final straw. I'm actually thankful that DH told me when he did. I'm calmer today, and want to get as much shit into 2012 as I can. New start next week! bump I love you for saying my baby will be prettier than hers. It may be petty but it made me smile yesterday when not many other things did!

ibelieveinpink exciting stuff! I'm trying not to think about it. I'm 4 days post +OPK today, so maybe 3 dpo. We DtD the morning of the +, and that night, so hopefully that's enough - on Friday I was so tired I went to bed at 8! I'm doing my normal SS even though implantation wouldn't even have happened yet. Argh.

Hi Ella [waves]

Happy Christmas to everyone and happy new year if I'm not on much over the next week. Not sure how many of our hotels have wifi. Will be thinking of you all though (and making notes for yorkie)

Happy Christmas (almost) Everyone!
And hi Ella
Am at the outlaws now - possible indefinitely if we don't get boiler sorted - so although they have wifi, limited MN opportunities unless I develop a dicky tummy
So hope you all have a lovely time and will be back soon to catch up properly

Thank you all for being there for me so far- has been a huge help over past couple of weeks xx

Just wanted to wish you all a happy Christmas. To all the mum to be a healthy and happy pg. To all ttcers hope that elusive bfp is only around the corner in 2013.

Popping in to wish everyone much love and peace and comfort this Christmas season. I blubbed last night during the service when the priest talked about the little child being a symbol of hope of renewal. And prayed for all of you and for happiness in the next year.

xoxox

Hope u all have a lovely day. Let Xmas wash away the sadness and bring hope of healthy happy pregnancies to all of us!

Hello, can I join? Bakingtins told me about this thread.
I had an erpc 10 days ago after discovering our baby no longer had a heartbeat at around 8 weeks. I was very upset but it is starting to seem as though it happened ages ago already - perhaps that is the effect of being so busy over christmas.
I'm 37, have 2 dcs. Dh and I wanted one more. I had two ectopics and a cp before my DD2 and I have one fallopian tube so getting pg = a bit lucky really. I was always scared of another ectopic- it never occured to me I would miscarry, especially not once I had seen a heartbeat. But something about the scan I had at 6 weeks made me worried (not sure what) so I booked another. I had been feeling really sick that day and very very bloated so thought it would be ok. Funny how those symptoms went away very soon after I found out about the mc.
It does feel as though the universe it telling me to give up, but I always saw my 39th birthday as the cut off so will try until 9 months before then.

It's nice to meet the rest of you. Good luck to everyone in the 2ww. Let's hope for a last quarter of 2013 filled with stunningly lovely babies

Hello notspartacus I'm sorry for your loss, and sorry you find yourself here.

I can't tell you how lovely and supportive a little thread this is. I am very very grateful to everyone here for getting me through the tough days, and listening to the various rants and raves, and just well, getting 'it'. I hope we can do the same for you.

Hello all, just popping by to say merry belated Christmas! Out at the family ranch in deepest darkest Yorkshire, not a lot of signal to speak of. Hope you've all had a good festive season, I can't read most of what's gone on recently but will catch up at some point!

Lots of slightly late Christmas cheer - BFP'ers, fret not - I drank all your booze

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Hello from Texas. I've had a lovely 10.5 hour flight during which I largely entertained myself by poking my nipples to check they were still sore

I hate the 2ww. Bloody everything is a symptom. Considering POAS on NYE so as to contain any more bad news in 2012. AF should have been due the 1st but I ov'ed 2 days later than I should have done, so maybe due about the 3rd. Still, if I can find some American hyper sensitive HPTs then I should be okay for NYE?

So far the symptoms I have from last time are achey legs at night, nausea in the evening, and very little CM. This time though I also have very sore, erect and bumpy (sorry, TMI) nipples. I'm taking this to be a good sign.