TTC after recent mc - thread 3. Handholding, naff jokes and the infamous Laura Ashley skirt.

[JamesAndTheGiantBanana]

Happy new thread! Here's hoping for lots of Christmas and new year bfp's, and long healthy pregnancies for everyone.

booze those sound like promising symptoms! How exciting! NYE , definitely poas. I wouldn't be able to hold back. Imagine the happy new year if it is good news! And if it isn't, you don't have to worry about celebrating a bit too much :)

I poas on Xmas day. 4 days before af due. Bfn. I know everyone will say there is still time, but it was a cb digi, so should have shown up if I was. I am moving on to january. And will be celebrating new year drowning my sorrows with lots of prosecco.

Hello everyone, recovering from another hangover today (celebrating a little too much I think).
IBIP - I don't think CB digi's are that sensitive - I didn't get a BFP until 14DPO last time, and read on here that was common. So will be the first annoying git to say it's not too late

Booze very excited for your NYE POAS, I am not sure if I have ovulated since natural MC 15 days ago but have been forcing DH to DTD every other night since I stopped bleeding (he's not known what has hit him lol) not gong to use any OPKs this time and just see what happens. Which means I have no idea when my DPO days will start and therefore no idea when to POaS

We are still at in laws, they have gone out for the day and I can't find anything in the house for DS to eat except toast and chocolate. We've run out of milk too. And we are in the middle of no where, no shops for at least 10 miles. Waiting for DH to come back from errands so we will have some freedom this afternoon. Neeeeeeed a latte and got to the point that Tesco is looking exciting

Hey everyone, dropped of the radar for a while.

Booze they sound like encouraging signs. I had achng legs last pregnancy which was bizarre.

Rubbish Christmas all round this year. If my 2nd miscarriage wasn't enough to ruin 2012 to top things off my parents are splitting up and my dad has also fallen out with my sister and her stupid husband. So had to deal with my weeping mother on Christmas eve (sounds insensitive but I have had to deal with this for far too long and am fed up with it now). And had just my dad just round on Christmas morning as well as on boxing day, round at inlaws in evening - felt guilty about leaving him in the house on his own but it would all have been a bit awkward if we brought him. Am hoping for a better 2012.

Me and hubby have got the house to ourselves finally this afternoon and after a long wait DTD. But (sorry if TMI) used the withdrawl method - not the safest I know. I am starting to get impatient already waiting for AF. I said I was gonna wait but already weakening. What are peoples opinions on TTC straight after D&C?

Hi everyone, and happy Christmas to all.

Sorry to see you here, not... We are a lovely bunch though so you're in a good place for support.

booze, looks promising! Keep us posted.

ibelieve there is still hope but I understand you getting yourself mentally prepared to get pissed for new year and move on to next cycle.

choc hope you managed to get some food and your

bodice, that sounds shite miserable, you poor thing. Bloody families. In ref to your other question, we just cracked on straight after erpc - I just thought I'd let nature sort it out. As it turns out that wasn't af for me as I've had bleeding and other wtf things since I had no chance anyway! But yeah I was pretty chilled about it and felt better to be back in the game.

Have just bought cheap opks off amazon. Anyone got experience of using? I understand it can be a bit complicated?

Hi everyone and hope you had good Xmas. Or as good as possible under the circumstances. I'm probably not in the right place as I'm not TTC yet (hopefully soon) but had ERPC on Dec 6th (1st pg, 1st try, 32) after a mmc around 12 weeks.

It all happened so quickly and I though that I've been doing so well since. I've been keeping a straight face in front of everybody; my DH, my family, his family, our friends... but when I'm left alone it all comes back and hits me in the face.

DH is determined to TTC asap but I'm terrified, what if it happens again!?! I don't know if I could go through it, I already feel like a massive failure. And I'm terrified to DTD again, it's been almost a month! I know that I have to get myself sorted but I don't know how.

Does the fear of it happening again ever go away?

Love to all of you and I'm sorry you had to go through it xx

Hi longbath - you are in the right place! We are all at different stages - I've had a natural (wtf) MC 2 weeks ago and just want to get back on the horse. Others are waiting for AF or to POAS or are up duffed already.

Once you've had one MC I don't think the fear goes away, but shouldn't put you off as you are now part of a very non exclusive club, so many women have had at least one MC. Weird that we don't talk more openly about them.

If you are struggling to come to terms, do ask your GP to refer you to a counsellor, it could really help you to talk through how you are feeling.

And do post on here, ESP if you've had a bad day - here is where you can rant away and everyone understands why

blundercat I got some of those kits and didn't get a single +ve when I tried. I think you need to do them at least twice a day to catch a +VE which is a right faf. Thought is was pointless as we ignored them and DTD anyway. Next month I left them at home while on holiday and got pregnant. If there isn't much time for sex DTD I can see their benefits. Got some left so might try them again but don't think I will buy anymore.

longbath I am sorry for your loss. To be honest after first MC I wanted to try straight away and I do this time too. But I am an impatient soul and I guess my urgent need to start a family is my strongest feeling. I don't know how the hell I will cope if it happens a third time. But not getting pregnant at all seems a worse fate to me so I think its worth the risk. I don't think the fear does go away but you just have to picture what you will get at the end of it all. If you don't feel ready to try yet give yourself a break. A few months doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things.

Bodice - I'm cracking on before first AF - was advised to wait to recover "emotionally" and was told that physically would be fine. I just want to get on with things though

Blunder - I found cheay opks really hard to use when ttc for DS1, never got my ov right. But I think you have to follow the instructions on time of day quite closely which I was crap at

chocolate - lol - we posted at the same time! glad to hear you are getting on with it xxx

Hmm maybe I've done the wrong thing then! Thanks for the replies girls. I mostly ordered them to try to figure out what the hell's going on with me, but perhaps these will make the mystery worse. Damnit!

hi girlies, just checking in after being off the radar sorry to hear everyone's crap times, but also delighted that some of you are doing really well. hope you all had a nice as xmas as possible, i got a bit weepy on xmas night when we got back from my parent's house. i was thinking i should have had a nice wee bump. but maybe the many glasses of vino helped me along!

regarding getting back on the DTD horse (for want of a better word!!) it's just recommended to wait until bleeding stops after d&c to avoid infection so if you feel like it then go for it :)

i bought some of the ovulation test kits on ebay here: www.ebay.co.uk/itm/30-Ovulation-Tests-3-FREE-Pregnancy-Strip-BARGAIN-New-/200643782448?pt=UK_Health_HealthCare_RL&hash=item2eb74d2730

they worked last time but no sign of a ovulating yet for me...got my first cycle since d&c on 12/12/12 but before my pg i had 50 day cycles so looks like i could be heading that way again (grrrrr) can't stand the thought of having to wait that long :(

in the meantime i'm going to make the most of the mouldy cheeseboard and red wine cos hopefully i will have to avoid them in 2013

thank you all for all your support and advice over the past few months. i would have totally cracked otherwise xxx

THANK YOU chocolate, bodice and bling! It's selfish but it feels good to know that I'm not on my own. I'll start popping on here and hopefully I'll get positive vibes off you, I need some motivation and encouragement. I'm going to read the thread back and try to catch up. Thanks again, I feel better already xx

PS. I've always used to have pretty regular cycles (26-32); actually, it doesn't look too regular when I think about it now. So I'm expecting AF in a week or so? But then again I know that it can all get messed up now; hopefully not.

Hi to ella spartacus and longbath.

I'm back home after family-frenzy for the last few days. mostly managed to enjoy it all, apart from a bit of cross questioning from SIL about if we want another child. She doesn't know about recent MC, should prob just have told her as she was great after MC1, but why spoil Christmas?
DS1 suddenly started talking about us having another baby this evening (maybe he overheard? big ears) and said he'd like a sister and worked out which year he'd be in when he started school and all sorts. Had to tell him I'd like that too but it's not always as easy as getting what you want He'd be a great big brother...
Trying not to SS but it's difficult. Wish I had a crystal ball to see if there's a tiny baby for us next Christmas. PIL have already announced they are off to the Caribbean for December (not quite as glam as it sounds, FIL is a ship's doctor) so we are free to stay home for once. It would be nice to think there were 3 stockings under the tree in 2013 not counting DH's who still expects one

longbath this will become your favourite webpage. these girls are great :) some people get their AF from 4 weeks after the D&C - i was waiting 10 weeks i was beginning to panic but there's no set time unfortunately. hope yours comes soon. i've had a few friends (not close close friends) who we've met up with over xmas - they're back for the holidays from living away - and they asked were we not thinking of starting a family (we got married in april). i felt like screaming in their faces DONT YOU KNOW HOW DIFFICULT IT IS AAARRRGGHH but i just it my lip and smiled. they aren't good enough friends that i would want to tell them.

back to work tomorrow boo hoo. eaten so much this last week i think i might actually pop so might start a new healthy regime and get some new healthy recipes to give me a boost

Hi longbath I was almost exactly the same. First pg, first cycle trying, 31. I waited for AF, which came about 4 weeks after my mc, and I'm glad I did - it was a horrendous experience, with bleeding nearly as heavy as the actual mc and big clots. Lots of people crack on straight away and are absolutely fine.

I don't think we had sex until just before AF. I couldn't bear to. I associated 'down there' with the mc and I couldn't bear to be touched. Something clicked around AF and I've been fine since (and currently in the 2ww and waiting to POAS).

To reiterate what the others have said, I'm sorry for your loss, but this is a wonderful place to find yourself, and I can't tell you how much everyone has helped me. You will get through this, and you will come out the other side. You're not a failure (I felt/feel very much the same). You/we are lucky that we got pg so quickly, and hopefully will do so again equally quickly. And everything will be okay.

longbath, I was also the same. Waited for af at 5 weeks, then even after that panicked when we dtd as was scared! Honestly cannot predict how you are going to feel, just take every day as you can and one day will just click an you will be ready again.

So, chocolate and blunder I stand corrected. It was too early. Poas this morning, and BFP! 1-2 weeks on a digi, and cramping like a mofo, so hoping this is just happy stretchy cramps but we shall wait and see :)

booze hurry up and poas! I'm scared now!!! Would be nice to have some company!!

hello again, having mentally prepared myself for weeks of waiting for first AF after ERPC I think it has started but exactly 2 weeks after the post-ERPC bleeding stopped (and 3 weeks after the ERPC itself). The ERPC bleeding was pretty light, and felt definitely over, so I am quite confident this is AF (again quite light and nothing scary or painful so far)...but it does seem quite a quick turn around. Has anyone experienced/heard about this rather than a longer wait? Over-analysing...

Woweeee pink!! Hooray!! Congratulations. Now where's the smiley face...?! Fingers and toes crossed its a good sticky one for you!

bling, 50 day cycles?! My goodness you poor thing. Really hope af comes for you soon. Thanks for the link- those are the same sensitivity as the ones I've ordered so I'll give them a go.

longbath, welcome and sorry you're here. I think the fear doesn't go away but equally you'll know when you're ready to ttc again so why not take the pressure off for a bit and give yourself a bit of time? Much better to heal yourself mentally as well as physically before getting back into it.

Hi ella, looking back at the notes I've made I've had on/off bleeding since the erpc (6 weeks ago now). Had what I thought was af exactly 4 weeks after op. then had another one ?! 11 days later. Now still getting occasional cramps followed by passing a little bit of blood/tissue or having colour in cm. sorry if tmi! I dunno - maybe I need to go to docs as everyone else seems to have had it a bit more simple.

Ooo on app the envy face is a green heart. Like it!

ibelieveinpink squeeeeeeee! How very exciting! I'm so so pleased for you. I was lying in bed thinking about you and all your 2ww symptoms and telling myself not to get my hopes up, and i get up to find this!!

It's just before 6am in Biloxi, Mississippi, and I've been lying in bed wondering when it wouldn't be too early to POAS. I went to check out my HPT options in Wal Mart yesterday and was slightly disappointed to discover they were all the same as at home (but $7 for two FRERs, so a bit cheaper). I'm crampy too, but hoping they're good cramps (don't feel like AF and it would be early). Nipples are slightly less sore but still look like a fembot/80s Madonna. For info, a road trip is not the best idea when you need to wee all time to the extent that yesterday I googled bladder infection symptoms masquerading as 2ww ones

So, when to POAS? Smiley on the OPK was last Thursday but I had a really painful 5 min cramp on the Thursday morning which might have been ov, so am probably 7/8dpo. According to chart AF should be due on 1/1 but that had me ov'ing on the 18th, and I was 2-3 days after that. I think NYE still seems sensible, if a little early if anything. We have a table booked at a place for lunch that day that serves 25c martinis, so at least I can drown my sorrows if needs be.

Oh Pink, I'm so excited for you. Yay!!!

booze it is looking positive eh? I reckon try to wait it out til nye as you say - that's just two days away and it would be better than getting a really early false negative wouldn't it?

Thank you ladies. Is so scary I can hardly believe it. I keep thinking it is going to go wrong again, don't think that feeling is going to go away for a while!

Booze, definitely wait. I upset myself by poas too early. It is much nicer just getting a happy yay. NYE should do it :).

that's so fab ibelieveinpink congrats!! just think positive thoughts!! sending lots your way :) :) :)

and booze i would try to wait if you can - may as well as it would maybe make you feel down if you got a negative from testing too early... although i know i probably wouldn't be taking my advice at all and would have done it already haha!!

Congratulations Pink!

Big congrats pink!! Hope it all goes smoothly. Hope you're all ok and had a nice christmas, I feel a bit out of place posting here now, everything's ok here, 7 weeks today.

Brie how are you doing? Has the bleeding stopped now?