BFP wishes will come true

[RedRobin1]

Hopefully this is the last thread we start and all our dreams and wishes come true.

:( feeling those familiar cramps

Fx winkle they are early pregnancy cramps and not AF ones. Please god let it be the pregnancy ones! So want you to get that bfp

Marking spot to keep winkle positive, cramps can mean both fx!!
Feel the same as little, there's more bfps in the air!
Sorry it wasn't your month when we did dtd about 5 times in the last few months when TTC and seemed to catch it much easier then in the past when it had dwindled down to 2! ( in fairness after a year it seemed a lot ) I think a month trying it and fx you'll strike it lucky
Heard the news today a friends 6 wks pregnant, she has been trying for close to 2 years so sometimes for no reason your luck can just change

Sorry girls but its pink when I wipe :(

Means its a 30 day cycle again and the CBFM was lying grrrr

red - i know in some ways it does feel good to be doing stuff to feel in control when we're ttc but the flip side of that is that we tend to blame ourselves and be very hard on ourselves all the time. As we've all said so many times before, so many women get pg without planning it or without even wanting it, while stressed, drinking, smoking, standing up, all the things we strenuously avoid. It's very unfair but the bottom line is fertility issues aren't our fault!!

twinkle oh that's so unfair!! Particularly the monitor getting it wrong it's supposed to make things easier not harder :(

Thanks little and kitty I do need to dtd more. I didn't want to pressure dh but he made it sound like he would really quite like to have more sex.

Hope you are right about the BFPs, twinkle first, then red, then me and everyone knocked up by March

really hoping those cramps amount to nothing winkle

Ugh. So sorry twinkle
I thought those monitors were supposed to be accurate. They should be considering the price.
little I love reading your posts. They always give me a boost when I feel like this process seems impossible.

Oh no, sorry winkle (I missed your update).

Pissed off for you and

Hi girls
I hope you are all well. I've come here for two reasons and hope I'm welcome!

• had my scan today and all is well. I can't tell you how relieved I am!
• just had a quick read at your cb discussion and thought I would share this: according to my smiley I thought I'd ovulated on 11-12 nov (smiley on 10th) but now it turns out I prob ovd on 6/7nov!!! Don't know how this is possible but its what I have been told. So do take them with a pinch of salt as I could swear my dates were accurate and had a massive shock to find out I was so wrong!

Anyway hope you are well and can't wait to see you all on the other side! Lol x

awww winkle so sorry. Really don't know what to say.

Good news on your scan going well lol

Really sorry winkle
Glad everything went well lol, tbh I'm not sure you should take the dates they give you at scans to much bearing as I know people who have been told they've ovd while having af or at times they couldn't have got pregnant ie not dtd, babies seem to vary in size of measurement only has to be out half a mm to make a difference but I see what you mean about maybe not just focusing on specific Ov time

Congrats on scan lol! I have my proper one on Friday - excited but bit nervous too

Yeah I never have any idea when I ov cos of dodgy cycles, pcos and ewcm which seems to show up a couple of days in advance of actual ov happening. I know that's why NHS tells you to dtd every 2-3 days throughout whole cycle, tho we all know that's not exactly realistic, 14 times in a cycle?! But we are racking up some impressive stats, 9 times a cycle etc. which does work out as roughly every 3 days.

Don't beat yourself up tho winkle, you are doing everything absolutely right, if there's an underlying issue that needs to be addressed there's nothing you can do about that except get yourself to the fertility clinic and that's what you are doing and and also

Congrats on the scan lol and good luck again for Friday littlemiss

I've been crying this morning :( Feeling very scared that we are doing everything right but it's still not working. Am worried that something is wrong.

Arrrrggghhhh I just want to scream! Life's so unfair! I don't want to be this person. I want to be the person that naively gets pregnant first month of trying. 19 months I've been here. I should be thinking about number 2 now not still trying for number 1.

I'm so angry! And in so much pain :(

lol glad the scan went well

winkle I'm just so so sorry. You are obviously having a completely shit time of it. Is there any chance you have bupa membership through work. A friend of mine went for fertility counselling through bupa when she was struggling to conceive (she ended up depressed and the counselling really helped).

Either way if you are ending up in tears a lot maybe speak to your GP if it is really getting you down. I've cried a few times myself but I always feel better afterwards.

Hope this is just a bad day for you and you feel better soon. and

Thx when. I'm sure ill be ok - I have to be. It's always like this the first day of a new cycle.

winkle - Just to echo what when said, just so sorry you are having such a totally shit time of it. I'm sure 19 months feels like forever to have been trying for your baby and if you do need to talk to someone about it, you def should look into having some counselling just to get it all out of your head. Just try not to be scared that it's not working, maybe something like clomid will end up being a wonder drug for you. Medicine can do so much and the only thing that really matters is getting the family you want, not whether it happens naturally or how long it takes, the end result is the main thing. Sending you some ((hugs)) and some more cd1

Thx littlemiss. There's not really much left to say is there? Everyone has run out of positive anecdotes. Now I'm just left with the shit to deal with!

It's not that I don't still feel positive for you winkle, it's just from my own situation of having very out of balance pcos and very irregular cycles and knowing about that and all that that means before ttc ever really entered my head, I've had a long time to just accept that sometimes our bodies don't work exactly as we'd hope they would but that there is a lot of great science out there to help us that wasn't there 30 or 40 years ago. You will get your baby!! All I want to say is that it's very important that you don't start being down on yourself or blaming yourself if the way to getting the baby is potentially through using fertility drugs. We're all cheering each other on with pom poms no matter whether we conceive au natural or with a little assistance xx

It's awful for anyone to go through what you are winkle. theres always hope and wishing that it happens for you soon.very big hug to you.

I understand what you are saying littlemiss and you have said it very well. I am mentally preparing myself for clomid every month that I fail. I hope I don't have to go there but like you say what matters most is having a family no matter what route you have to take. I don't think I can remain sane for much longer. If I don't conceive this year I think I will be so heartbroken - this month has felt close to depression. And come summer if I have to take the drugs then so be it.

Thx littleness and red and sorry for bringing the thread down!

We'll get there in the end somehow hey?! :)

*littlemiss

Been mad busy at work (and you lot don't want to know just how many BAD doctors there are out there!) so missed a bit but...
winkle all I can say is that when (and it will be when as we are pre-disposed to reproduce) you are expecting your baby, all of this pain will disappear. There will be new worries to face, of course, but it will not be with you forever, please believe me. And there's always the virtual party that we'll be holding for you to look forward to, as well.
I'd definitely be chucking out (or trying to get a refund on) that CBFM and switch to temerature charting instead.
lol I take dating at scans with a bit of salt too as I was told with DD that she was small for dates and my EDD kept being changed. I knew when I had conceived and, surprise, she arrived (at 7lb 10ozs so not small by any means) on the day after the EDD by my calculation.
thingy you and me both. So "relaxed" at the moment but I won't be next week when expecting O any day!

Thx res for your kind words :)

What is it about Ovulation that stresses us out so much?! I am always relaxed at the beginning but the minute the opk turns +ve or temps start rising I become a ttc lunatic. Then comes anxiety and weeping in the 2ww and finally disappointment and anger when A shows up. Argh! Have to do it all over again. There will be one cycle which will be our last time to go through these emotions. One day res thingy when and winkle we will all just be happy

P.S res count me down for that virtual party for winkle!