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RedRobin1 · 06/12/2012 09:12

Hopefully this is the last thread we start and all our dreams and wishes come true.

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MrsBri · 15/01/2013 07:28

Good luck, winkle :-)

Nice image I've got now...mmm, full of sperm!

LittleMissSnowShine · 15/01/2013 07:29

Good luck at clinic today winkle - 8 times in 14 days is pretty amazeballs!

resipsa · 15/01/2013 08:39

Hope today goes well winkle. Don't let the GP fob you off (and I am sure you won't). Sounds a bit weird but I was actually relieved when we finally bit the bullet and went to the clinic last week albeit that what I learned there drove me a bit crazy until Sunday Blush. At worst you find out if there's something with which they can help you, at best you find out that there's nothing wrong and it gives you renewed hope that all will (eventually) be OK.
Despite my madness of a few days ago, I am feeling oddly optimistic about the whole TTC thing today and I suspect in part that's because all of the test results were normal. Oh, and it helps to be full of sperm!

Hope you are feeling OK wee.
red I agree with the others, you're definitely covered for this month!

RedRobin1 · 15/01/2013 08:40

Good luck winkle hope the doc's appt goes well. haha you are def full of sperm -thats a pretty amazing dtd record.

I had a bad day yesterday. One of those ttc-breakdowns. Just felt so exhausted with everything to do with ttc. I am actually tired of trying. DH and I talked for hours about how draining it can be on some days. He kept blaming himself over his SA results and I kept telling him its not a blame-game. Just one of those things that has been so difficult for us and something we want so bad.

I maybe 2dpo today - so here's to another 2 weeks of madness...

how is everyone else doing today? anyone POAS this week?

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resipsa · 15/01/2013 08:44

Feeling Sad for my friend today, though, who lost her second at 12 weeks on New Year's Day. Would have been due same time as Kate and William's baby so July will be really, really hard for her as the UK will no doubt go baby mad. God, I really want to be upduffed by then!

resipsa · 15/01/2013 08:57

Aah, red - it's such a rollercoaster. This time next week you might be up and I'll be down. It sucks. Have a Wine. Oh, it's a bit early, maybe...

twinklestar2 · 15/01/2013 09:30

Thx girls. Today we tell the docs which hospital we want to be referred to for the next stage. I'm ok about it, just want it to happen quickly so we get our baby.

Res - really sorry to hear about your friend, it's bad enough for us still waiting having to hear about it, let alone having lost a baby that would have been due around the same time. That's really hard.

Red - agree with res that its such a roller coaster. Why can't it be easy? All I know is that you will feel better. I swing from despair to hope on a daily basis.

Has the doc said there's anything the can do about OH's ASA?

RedRobin1 · 15/01/2013 11:31

oh no res sorry about your friend. I think if i am not pregnant by then, I am getting a flight out of the country in July. I can't stand all the ga ga goo goo about the royal baby.

And yes I will be having some vino tonight. We have our next appt at the fertility clinic in March winkle. DH is doing another SA in Feb so will have to see if the supplements have had any effect on the ASAs.

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WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful · 15/01/2013 12:22

res your poor friend.

I might go a bit bonkers myself if I'm not pregnant by then. red sorry you were feeling Sad. I am feeling quite pissed off myself but that is more work related than ttc.

twinklestar2 · 15/01/2013 12:50

Ill be bonkers too. We can all be bonkers together.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful · 15/01/2013 12:51

My minds playing tricks on me. When I wasn't ttc for the last two months I had no symptoms at all during the 2ww. The months prior to that I felt sick and had an aching back (no BFP obviously inspite of symptoms).

This month I am on 9dpo and am ttc so the symptoms are back again. It's too soon for symptoms, why is my body messing with me like this. Stupid body / stupid mind with wishful thinking. [sulking]

Thingymajigs · 15/01/2013 12:59

Good luck with the dr today twinkle.
I honestly think I'd give up completely if it hasn't happened by July. I guess you never know until you get to that point though. At the beginning I couldn't imagine trying for 8 months and yet here I am.
AF has finally arrived and it arrived with a vengeance. I'm wistfully recalling my periods on BC when I was also less spotty and I couldn't even guess about what CM, BFN or even AF stood for.
Good luck to everyone dtd and in their 2ww.

resipsa · 15/01/2013 13:50

Ah, thingy and when; great minds. I think back to when we decided to TTC and just DTD one month on CD12 assuming I'd be P as a result. Nice to be naive, isn't it? Glad I figured out that I ovulate on days 18-20, though or it could have been a very fruitless few years! And the symptoms thing - my God, before I had DD, I never noticed any pre-menstrual symptoms hence not testing until I was 6 weeks+ gone! After DD when trying for DC2, I noticed them a little but it was in the context of BFP-spotting. Since the MMC, I convince myself every month (with exceptions being in Oct/Nov when DH was ill and it wasn't on then I noticed nothing!). Bet I'll do it next month too despite knowing this to be the case Hmm.

RedRobin1 · 15/01/2013 17:36

I would like to join the "naive-to-start-with" ttc gang too. We dtd 7-8 times the first month and I was actually gobsmacked to discover AF still arrived. Actually devastated might be better word. I cried for 3 days, refused to believe it was AF and kept telling myself it might be implantation bleed.

I then thought surely it'll happen next month. In the second month I thought it's got to happen in the third month. Never in my wildest dreams would I have thought I'd still be on the conception boards after 8 months of ttc. I really believed we would be one of those annoying couples who'd fall pregnant in the first month of trying.

Looking on the brighter side, the long wait has made me realise how much.....how very very very much, I want my baby. It's going to be a very much wanted and loved baby.

I don't think any part of pregnancy: morning sickness, labour, breastfeeding, nappy changing, sleepless nights (all of my phobias about raising a child!) can be as bad as ttc torture.

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Kittenkatzen · 15/01/2013 18:00

Just delurking to say hope it went ok at the docs winkle

Sorry some of the rest of you are feeling down :( sending Wine and chocs your way

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful · 15/01/2013 18:19

You are right red labour is beyond painful but at least it only lasts a day 38 hours ttc is a less intense pain but an emotional ache is worse in so many ways.

twinklestar2 · 15/01/2013 18:49

I wish I was one of those naive ones! I hate knowing so much about ttc. I hate being one of those women who gets sad watching OBEM, gets sad looking at baby clothes and cries in front of the doctor.

Yes you read right. I cried in front of the doctor Blush.

He was really nice and has referred us to the hospital. Should have an appt within 4 weeks.

Came home and sobbed. Why is life so unfair? I'm not a bad person, I don't want to take having children from anyone else, I just want my baby.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful · 15/01/2013 18:54

Oh bless you winkle don't feel [shame] he will have seen people cry over much less.

Four weeks referral time sounds great. Fx for you.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful · 15/01/2013 18:59

Ah just realised you will get an appointment date in four weeks time not the appointment is in four weeks.

My darling daughter has just cracked me over the head with a toy mop. Holy fuck it really hurt (no more mn for the time being then).

RedRobin1 · 15/01/2013 19:08

Awwinkle ttc reduces us to emotional wrecks. Big hug.

My opk has just turned up with a dark positive! Sat Sun I had faint positives-all negative on Monday and now suddenly just as I was expecting to stop dtd my opk has just turned a darker than control line positive Grin

Must jump DH now.

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RedRobin1 · 15/01/2013 19:08

Lol owww when hope heads okay!

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LittleMissSnowShine · 15/01/2013 19:43

Good luck jumping dh red! Maybe earlier opk was a false positive or something

when - ouch sorry about your head :(

res - aww really feel for your friend. I've been so.nervous and horribly sick for last 3 or 4 weeks i've literally just started thinking about this pg as being a baby if you know what i mean? And i'm still only 10+3 so until booking scan next Fri i really dont feel like i can relax or get excited yet Confused

winkle - not surprised you're feeling emotional but your referral will be along in no time and hopefully as soon as it arrives so will your bfp!

I wasnt exactly naive when we were ttc DS, i knew i had pcos and I'd had irregular cycles since my teens that only really had a pattern when I was on the pill. So i'd come off the pill in Dec 08, saw pcos consultant in jan 09 and following his advice dropped a stone and a half on weight watchers over 6 months coming up to my wedding. I had started taking agnus castus but GP and consultant had both told me that even with weight loss and supplements with my v irregular cycles i was going to find getting pg without treatment v difficult. So i had a referral to fertility clinic for Jan 2010, i got my period at the beginning of oct 2009 and i discovered at the end of dec 09 that i was 5 weeks pg Shock tho with my.messed up cycles i had no idea how far along i was. Consultant literally wouldnt believe me and when i phoned clunic to cancel my appt they told me to come in anyway and made me poas and even gave me an early scan so disbelieving were they that off the wall cycles girl could actually be pg!! Cycles have been a bit more regular since DS was born but the pattern almost makes it more frustrating, desperately trying to guess when ov is happening, having to dtd eod for the whole month. All i can say is hang in there - even supposedly hopeless cases like me can surprise drs!!

twinklestar2 · 15/01/2013 21:00

Brilliant red! Go get him :)

Ouch when!

Thx girls. My doc was lovely. He said that whatever it was they could fix and to come back and talk to him about it at any time. Not much else I can really ask for, is there? apart from a BFP

twinklestar2 · 15/01/2013 21:01

Brilliant red! Go get him :)

Ouch when!

Thx girls. My doc was lovely. He said that whatever it was they could fix and to come back and talk to him about it at any time. Not much else I can really ask for, is there? apart from a BFP

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful · 15/01/2013 21:59

Are you full of sperm yet red? I think the faint positives must have been your body getting ready to ov.