TTC after recent MC

[posypoo]

Here we go everyone - a place for the recent MCers to chat and share all our NOT waiting stories!

[posypoo]

Hello Closh, glad you found us! How did your scan go?

Hello Kat so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. That really sucks, especially not knowing you were even pregnant. We are all hoping for that post-miscarriage super fertility here, so you're in the right place!

Well, we dtd proper for the first time since mc last night, and definitely felt ready again. Though I am not expecting any kind of result this month it feels nice to be back in the game :)

How is everyone else today?

[posypoo]

Ooh symptom spotting already Jessi - that's quite exciting. I know what you mean about AF though. It will be quite nice to know what's going on next month!

[Carikube]

Hi...just sticking my head in...
posy and woody I was with you on the March 2013 thread but like so many others on there, it wasn't to be this time. Started to MC about 10 days ago and it now all appears to be over. Had a blood test on Mon which showed HCG levels of 640 so haven't bothered with a home pg test as I know it will still show +ve even levels are coming down.
Haven't really talked through with DH whether we're going to try again (so not entirely sure why I'm on this thread!) and we've had a bad week as it is so can't see that we'll be jumping each other any time soon but I guess I'm still vaguely hopeful that we might have DC3 at some point. Should probably talk to him to see what he's thinking but keep hearing stories of how fertile I should be after my MC so don't want to miss this window iyswim.
Good luck to all ...

[posypoo]

Hi Carikube so sorry you have had to come to this thread, but good to see you, if that makes sense. Hope you're OK. I have only just started to properly think about ttc again too, but it's a good place to hide out in the meantime anyway!

[Carikube]

Thanks posy...it does feel as though I am back amongst friends here! Having seen DC2's behaviour the past couple of days, am wondering if I'm mad even thinking of another...

[posypoo]

Ha ha, I know what you mean. I can barely look after one sometimes! How old are your DCs?

[Carikube]

DD1 is 3 and DD2 is 2 and she is the real troublemaker (found her throwing my eggs on the kitchen floor one by one yesterday after we came back from shopping - that'll teach me to not put the shopping away straight away!). They share a room and DH and I went in to watch them sleeping when I first started to MC just to remind ourselves that we are still really lucky.

Been churning over in my head whether to try again and told DH that I thought as we are both getting on a bit we should keep trying til Christmas and then give up if it hasn't happened; he's now saying that's too much pressure so I have no idea what we're going to do. I was getting all carried away thinking that I could now try again and be super-fertile but I have suddenly started spotting again and looking at the pregnancy loss website it sounds as though I'm mad thinking about it yet as it's not even sure that the MC really is complete. I think my head might explode soon, so I'm off to enjoy a coffee after having gone off it for the past few weeks

[posypoo]

10 days does sound quite soon, though everyone is different. It's almost three weeks now since I started miscarrying (I also had on and off spotting for quite a bit) and I have only just felt ready to think about it. I wouldn't make any decisions, or put any pressure on yourself to decide anything yet. x

[woody17]

Hi everyone

Hope you are all ok.

I am feeling a lot more positive today ? finally got my BFN since mc. It feels like it has taken so so so long to finally get this! And I don?t even want to think about how much I?ve spent on pg tests over the last few weeks. I think perhaps this is partly because the bleeding stopped so long ago and as I?ve said before, when I went for the final scan, everything had gone.

So, I am hoping that I am going to ov soon! We have been DTD EOD so we will be continuing with that and hoping to get it right. Quite a few people have recommended ov sticks/fertility monitors and I think if I haven?t got pg in a few months then I will start using these. I was looking on the cb website and it says that you can?t really use them after a mc until you?ve had 2 cycles anyway.

Hi kat ? sorry to hear about what you are going through and the fact that there is so much uncertainty. Hopefully we will all have some luck on this thread and it helps to hear that previously you fell so quickly after a mc.

Hi carikube sorry to see you on here. It?s rubbish, isn?t it? I keep hearing about the fact that you are meant to be super fertile after a mc ? I don't know if this is true or not though! And the stuff the hospital gave me to read says that recent studies have shown that getting pg again in first 6 months after mc supposedly reduces your risk of having a mc, although how true this is, I don?t know?

[posypoo]

Hi Woody, am really pleased for you that you got a bfn. Must have been so confusing before. I haven't dared test, as I think I would have found it quite upsetting to get a +ve. (I dread to think how much I've spent on pg tests over the years too!). It is weird how long it's taken when everything 'finished' ages ago.

Fx for ovulation soon - have you had any signs? I think I ovulated this week. We have only dtd twice though, so I am not holding out much hope. Plus I am not entirely certain I have, just a feeling. I am also not going to bother with opks or anything for at least two months, might try them on month 3 if no success.

Hope you've all had a nice day. I was really tired today (after staying up to dtd last night - rock n roll!) so went to a very dull park this morning and made some fairy cakes this afternoon. DD at one point said 'lovely day doing nothing'. I don't think I've given her the most exciting day of her life!

[Lolcbcb]

Hey woody good news on bfn! It does make it easier to move on I think!
I also bought an opk- just a cheap one from amazon- and it seems to be a bit of a faff to use it!
Can't start till af so will wait!
Feel a lot better now and ready to move on!

[woody17]

Hi everyone

Hope you've all had good weekends. I've spend quite a lot of it watching the Olympics and crying at most of the medal ceremonies ! I do think that some of the press aren't celebrating the bronze and silver medals enough though.

Well I think that I might have ov this weekend - had pains and twinges on Saturday and there was some ewcm when I went to toilet. Then today I've had a tiny bit of pink tinged cm - sorry if this is TMI but there is no one that I can talk to about this in RL. So I think that I might be on the 2ww.

We are off on holiday for about 3 weeks in about 2 weeks time so I will test before I go (unless I've had AF) and if it's -ve, I'm just going to enjoy the holiday and wait until I get home to test (unless I get AF).

[Lolcbcb]

Good plan woody! Where u off to!?
I got of while I was in Bali so if u get bfn go for it on hols too!
I too think I ov'd this weekend as had twinge and cm. DTD this morning for first time since mc so not hopeful for bfp this month. Once I get af I will know where I am.
Agree re medals. Should celebrate all not just gold x

[woody17]

We are going to Australia - I'm so excited! I think it will take my mind off things, which is probably what I need. We are travelling round a bit and have some exciting things planned. I'm really exciting about seeing a platypus for some reason! And cuddling a koala!

I bought some ov sticks from tescos -couldn't resist when I was doing the online shop last night! Did one today and it was +ve so this would fit in with "symptoms" I've been having. Can't be totally sure that it's not got something to do with recent mc though. Think we'll just keep dtd regularly which dh is definitely not complaining about

[Lolcbcb]

How amazing!!!
I was in Bali last June (actually got pg there) and spent time in Borneo with orang tangs as well. It was the most amazing part of the holiday so I can see where u coming from.
U using ov sticks???

[woody17]

Well, I ended up buying some cheap tesco own brand ones. Thought I'd try one and it came up +ve. I thought I might have ov over the wkend but from what I can work out, if the test is +ve it means that ov hasn't happened yet but is due to happen. TBH I have no idea.

I would love to go to Borneo and see the Orangutans!

My only slight worry about holiday is that we were planning to go scuba diving on great barrier reef. When we found out I was pg, I was going to snorkel instead. However, if there is a possibility that I could be pg, I don't know if I should scuba dive or not as you aren't meant to. Not sure what to do.

[posypoo]

Wow Woody, Australia sounds amazing! I would put money on you finding a chemist when you're out there (well if you're anything like me!) so maybe see how it goes with the scuba diving.

I've just done some googling and this site looks quite useful: scubadiverlife.com/2010/12/12/diving-pregnancy/

Extract:
While pregnant women should not scuba dive, there has been evidence that it is perfectly safe to dive during the first two to four weeks of pregnancy. During this time many women do not even know they are pregnant yet, so if you happened to go scuba diving during the very early stages of pregnancy then you can rest easy knowing that your baby is probably not in any harm.

I can understand your worry though. It's a tough one isn't it? On the one hand you want to enjoy a holiday of a lifetime and on the other you have this elephant in the room travelling in your suitcase!

[woody17]

Ah thanks posy

It has been crossing my mind to pack a few tests with me but DH may think I am getting a bit obsessed!

AF may arrive and I won't have to worry about this at all...but I just don't know what to do. I won't have to make my mind up until we are on the boat so if nothing's happened, I will probably test then and if it is -ve assume that it's fine to scuba dive. And if it's +ve, I will.

I was so relaxed about getting pg before the mc because we had this booked (and a few other things arranged) but now I just feel desperate to become a mum.

I think I have ov (or am about to in next 24-36 hours) so am going to continue to dtd lots (every day if possible!) and hope for the best. So my 2ww will start on Thursday!

How are you feeling posy?

[posypoo]

I would probably pack some tests. It is really tempting to leave it all behind and have a lovely holiday, but with the scuba diving element you are likely to have it on your mind anyway, so better to have a few in your bag (that you can always ignore because you are having such a fab time that you have forgotten all about ttc!) than to be worrying and have to find a chemist in a remote australian beach town (god I am jealous!)

I am feeling really fuzzy today - felt great over the weekend but pretty sure I ovulated this morning (woke up with sharp pains on RH side) and since then have felt terrible - bloated and tired, as though my body doesn't see the point in attracting the opposite sex anymore! We dtd on Sunday, so 36 hours before - now regretting my dvd instead of dtd last night! Onto the lovely 2ww...

[woody17]

Yes I think I will take a couple just in case, although if af comes I won't need them. I just wouldn't want to do anything that could be detrimental to a baby. I've always wanted to go to Australia and we are going to a few different places while we are there. In some ways, I wish we'd ended up booking to go a bit earlier so we were there now. I think that it would help me take my mind off ttc! I bought a book from amazon called The Baby-Making Bible, so I'm going to read this and see if I can get any tips. It's funny though because when I did get pg, I seem to have been doing quite a few things that are supposed to be detrimental to fertility. I have made a few changes though - we don't use ky jelly anymore and I've stopped taking ibuprofen.

Sorry that you aren't feeling great. I've read that it is best to have dtd before ovulation so fx. It's horrible all the uncertainty and waiting, isn't it?

[Lolcbcb]

Hi wpody I would do what post says and take a few tests with you just in case. But try to enjoy hols and forget about ttc for a few days. Australia ain't cheap and the last thing u want to do is not enjoy it.
I'm in a similar dilemma. I always have 2 long haul hols a year and was planning caribbean or south America early in the year but when I got pg I thought I should wait. Now I'm thinking I'll wait till late in the year to book it in case it does happen for me again. We never think of these other implications do we?
I now think I ovd today. Also only DTD on sun so may not be enough. I'm not hopeful this month as my pg plans are totally secret to DH as he has read the nhs thing about waiting for 3 months or at least one af so I can't make it obvious! Man I feel so devious.
Well a girls's gotta do what a girl's gotta do

[Lolcbcb]

Stupid phone meant woody and posy not post!

[woody17]

lolcbcb we went to South America last year - it was amazing. What are you planning on doing when you go?

I know it's hard getting the balance right between thinking about what might happen and not letting it all take over. We booked this holiday since we started ttc and knew we might have to make some adjustments but we also knew that nothing might have happened.

Well fx for a bfp in 2w time!

[posypoo]

Am laughing at post!! I must admit I feel a bit like one today. I have been assured today that 1-2 days is optimal lol so Sunday might be OK for both of us - fingers crossed!

You're right Woody,the uncertainty is rubbish, but then the possibility is quite nice too I suppose. I wonder how long we'll all last before testing, ha ha.

[Lolcbcb]

So if I call you post u know it's my phone!
Oh so we seem to be at same place in cycle!? When will you poas?
I'm planning to resist till 25th as I have not had af since mc and dont want the heartache of bfn
Maybe we can do ur together?
Woody I was actually born in Brazil so south America is not that exotic for me. However DH would love to go. The plan is to go to Peru & inca trail type stuff. Let's see.
I'd rather wait a few years till baby is older cause I'm not scared of not getting pg again